Since you are staying in the same house, what you should have done is to allow her leave to the Agege then follow her to confirm or clear your doubt, this is cos from your post it's obvious you are already rattled and the lack of trust will definitely destroy your marriage. Pls dnt mind those who say you should let it go, oga only a compound fool don't knw that a cheating wife can attract misfortune to the man and his family. Clear every doubt or gather enough evidence to confront her. If you did without evidence she go Scott free.
But if na Street way ọ, na to arrange guys to eff am up for Lagos or investigate his location and address m, work place, dial him up and tell him you ve all his info, and if he doesn't desist, then whatever he sees he should be ready to carry with his head.

There is this song that goes thus:-

O le te obirin lorun, wa ba e do.

The guy gave his opinion,give yours and move!!

flyingpig:
Just imagine, you're very wicked. So he should be sharing his wife with a man from her past? You're very wicked.

Since you have been suspecting her moves love in that relationship reduced. And I will advise you call her ask for the reasons for changes in her ways. From there you will get vital info to move on instead of getting heart attack over woman issue.

You guys should stop this, you are making us scared. Take your marriage personal , our parents endure alot, let's learn from them

[quote author=lilyheaven post=93619904]
He might be right or wrong.
But I want him to be wrong because I don’t want him to have issues with his wife, that’s why I want him to be positive and not negative. I don’t want their love story to end in bitterness .[/quote

Its not about what you want babes but about whats happening and his wife doesn't seem to care about having issues with her husband. keeping in contact and secretly meeting up with ex lover is wrong as a married woman.

Mariangeles:


Married men nko?

why will a married man be claiming single
single ladies wey dey date married men prefer married men prefer these married men cos dem dey very generous compared to single guys
so e no go make sense say a married man go dey lie about im status wen im say say single girls will be all over him due to his married status

Prof0fficial:
what do you expect when you marry a pretty woman. I can't see myself getting jealous for my woman when I'm 100% more cute..

correct my person. My old man used to say that 80% of beautiful wives are other men's girl friends. This is cos they are always on men's eyes that even when the woman is not even interested, some (men) can still go Xtra mile to get them. Back to the topic. The op is actually trying cos as for me, I can't cope. God gave me a virgin who is very religious especially that area. Is a divine gift to marry a faithful wife my people.

owo8184:


If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly

Can you swear that you don't have a girlfriend in the town where you're based?

donMIG:
Beetches!

U no dei fvck her well

And so?

NobleSeed:
you mean th EFCC chairman (magu)

LOL nooooooooo

Man,you're not wise!!
Be the man!!
Be in charge!!
She don see you finish na the reason why!
Me like this no fit stay with such wife for a week because I fit killing am one night!

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

There is one call recorder app of Google PlayStore (can't remember. But they are many. Use google to search for call recorder that can be hidden). Download that app on her phone. Hide it with a password. The owner of the phone will not know that anything is on her phone. Then you can un-hide it, use the password to unlock and check her voice calls.

Alternatively, you can install location tracker on her phone. You will be able to know all the places she visited. Including hotels, offices etc.

owo8184:
Thanks to everyone who has given advice. Your comments and suggestions are noted.

Hit me up in the PM, you will be happy you did.

I don't even bother about women ,my wife included and I don't have strength for that but the sure thing is if you know what awaits you when you Bleep up then you will be the one to kill yourself by yourself before it even get to my knowledge.

owo8184:


I think the first option is what I will choose. I don't think she can even listen. Magun is a no no. I am not that desperate. . Thanks all the same

When you got the clues, you would have used option one already on her earlier yesterday when she went to that Agege. There is a possibilty straffing happened that yesterday.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Get solid evidence before confronting her. Believe me, you don't wanna accuse her wrongly because it can ruin your marriage.

For the fact that she's still in communication with her ex. after you quarrelled with her severally about him, is very suspicious! But you still need a solid evident of her cheating.

This evidence may be one or more of the following;
- Her after sex conversation with a man.
- Caught her in a compromised position with a man.
- Caught her kissing a man.
- Caught her leaving a man's home.
- Caught her leaving a hotel with a man or visiting a hotel to meet a man.
- Caught her expressing her feelings for a man.
etc.

Secretly install an spy app to record her conversations with men. I'm not gonna mention the app, do some research.

Good luck

KristaPretty:
Find a way to catch her red handed, let her know that she has been caught in the act.

Secondly this needs a deep conversation between you both. During your discussion questions like what you are not doing right should be asked from you to her or what you are lacking that she needs you to work on in order to be better. Remember women are easily fooled by words they are told, try to complement her often give her enough nacks that she will be cripple. In general just converse with her heart to heart when there is a good mood in the house or at night.

Finally, please use magun on her so that she and any man she straffs will gum together
This is not a joking matter and infidelity should never be tolerated in Marriage. This is to save you from unnecessary heartaches and diseases!
If she is tired it's better for her to leave so she can do whatever ahe wants without hiding or giving you emotional
torture. she cannot eat her cake and have it!

I gave you options, chose one. Option 3 is fastest. no time.

You better act fast before she is brainwashed like baby fish and conive with her lover to kill you or take your money and render you useless.

Too much Nollywood kill u there

Don't kill yourself.

owo8184:


If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly

Na wa o. Dem say marry ur friend that if love comot friendship remains be like sai all na wash.

May God bless one with his or her own mate o.

flyingpig:
Just imagine, you're very wicked. So he should be sharing his wife with a man from her past? You're very wicked.

But she can share another woman with him right

She’s your wife not your gf so damn right you need to confront her

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

if you are keen to catch her red handed inbox me lemme guide you on how to do so... the computer age got lots of power.

annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.

Bro... You nailed it...

This life as e be now ehnnn... You dont have to involve yourself in any confrontation with anybody, everything just be like timebomb... Small torch like this, you go hear gbuaa, e don explode, @Op, abeg no fight her on this ooo...

Anytime conji hold you, use condom.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Ehhmmm excuse me sir, over here sir, yes me, I got a question..
Ehnn please sir do you have a penis or a vagina? I'm just asking cos you stoopid ohhh.
A real man will boss this shiiid, now git your asss up and quit whining like a lil biaachh.
GADDAYUM !!

JerryLekki:
Uncle sir, You are in an open marriage. There is nothing wrong with it. Except your notion that you must not accept it. Probably programmed into you.


Oya, come and swear that since you married, you have not had something with another person. Especially in that university environment that you claim to hustle. Bros, come off it. There are things bigger than your ego

Are you minding him,you can cheat but hell is let loose when she cheat.guy enjoy the ride two can play the game wella

annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.

pretty matured advise. I second this

[quote author=owo8184 post=93548028]

You have analysed me perfectly bro. I think I am too weak a man. She can easily predict me. She noticed my countenance tonight and started trying to play around me. I have decided I am going back to my work station this weekend without informing her. My present financial situation also doesn't help. [/quote]

The bolded is the genesis of this shit

Magnum is the answer!

To be honest if you’re suspecting something then it’s probably because there is something but never underestimate the power of feminine manipulation... Won ma yiii mo é lowo

Moz22:
pretty matured advise. I second this

Reasonable but how is he supposed to pretend like nothing is happening or that he doesn’t have worries... it’s his wife not a girlfriend

MAGUN