Klass99:
[s]Someone should kindly enlighten me and please note I am not being funny or sarcastic with my question.

What exactly is or are the blessings of motherhood? When people say motherhood is a blessing what do they mean? Can someone attempt to describe this blessing for me or is it something that can only be experienced through pregnancy, child birth and actually becoming a mother?

I know scripture says children are a gift from God. I truly don't know about them being a blessing though, considering the way some children wreck havoc or turn out, in spite of a parent's best efforts.

As for motherhood being a blessing I honestly can't see it. What I mostly see is women being stressed out as hell with it, making sacrifices upon sacrifices, putting the needs of others ahead of theirs, while some personal goals, hopes and dreams may also be shelved (temporarily or permanently) for the sake of kids.

Some say the stress is worth it when a baby/child smiles at you and I am like is that all? I've had countless babies smile at me and I make them smile too, but that doesn't mean I yearn for motherhood for the sake of a smile.

I am fascinated by babies and little children, my fascination comes from the awesome wonder of God's creative abilities, how their tiny feet and hands fit into my palm, their innocence, vulnerability helplessness and sweetness, but I am not crazy about having kids.

In fact when I hear things like motherhood is a blessing, in my mind I am like, that is self induced and unnecessary suffer head you can very well do without Klass.


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Klass99:
Someone should kindly enlighten me and please note I am not being funny or sarcastic with my question.

What exactly is or are the blessings of motherhood? When people say motherhood is a blessing what do they mean? Can someone attempt to describe this blessing for me or is it something that can only be experienced through pregnancy, child birth and actually becoming a mother?

I know scripture says children are a gift from God. I truly don't know about them being a blessing though, considering the way some children wreck havoc or turn out, in spite of a parent's best efforts.

As for motherhood being a blessing I honestly can't see it. What I mostly see is women being stressed out as hell with it, making sacrifices upon sacrifices, putting the needs of others ahead of theirs, while some personal goals, hopes and dreams may also be shelved (temporarily or permanently) for the sake of kids.

Some say the stress is worth it when a baby/child smiles at you and I am like is that all? I've had countless babies smile at me and I make them smile too, but that doesn't mean I yearn for motherhood for the sake of a smile.

I am fascinated by babies and little children, my fascination comes from the awesome wonder of God's creative abilities, how their tiny feet and hands fit into my palm, their innocence, vulnerability helplessness and sweetness, but I am not crazy about having kids.

In fact when I hear things like motherhood is a blessing, in my mind I am like, that is self induced and unnecessary suffer head you can very well do without Klass.

Klass99:


I wasn't asking anyone to succumb to my my mentality or musings, it's not my fault you lack comprehension. Stick to your beliefs and I will stick to mine.

Klass99:

I wasn't asking anyone to succumb to my my mentality or musings, it's not my fault you lack comprehension. Stick to your beliefs and I will stick to mine.

KidDarkness:
To all mothers and intending mothers out there; for partaking in this special mission from God called motherhood, y'all shall forever remain blessed and reap the fruits of your labour.
DECLARED!
SHALL BE SO!!
AMEN!!!
God bless my mom

Klass99:
Someone should kindly enlighten me and please note I am not being funny or sarcastic with my question.

What exactly is or are the blessings of motherhood? When people say motherhood is a blessing what do they mean? Can someone attempt to describe this blessing for me or is it something that can only be experienced through pregnancy, child birth and actually becoming a mother?

I know scripture says children are a gift from God. I truly don't know about them being a blessing though, considering the way some children wreck havoc or turn out, in spite of a parent's best efforts.

As for motherhood being a blessing I honestly can't see it. What I mostly see is women being stressed out as hell with it, making sacrifices upon sacrifices, putting the needs of others ahead of theirs, while some personal goals, hopes and dreams may also be shelved (temporarily or permanently) for the sake of kids.

Some say the stress is worth it when a baby/child smiles at you and I am like is that all? I've had countless babies smile at me and I make them smile too, but that doesn't mean I yearn for motherhood for the sake of a smile.

I am fascinated by babies and little children, my fascination comes from the awesome wonder of God's creative abilities, how their tiny feet and hands fit into my palm, their innocence, vulnerability helplessness and sweetness, but I am not crazy about having kids.

In fact when I hear things like motherhood is a blessing, in my mind I am like, that is self induced and unnecessary suffer head you can very well do without Klass.

mutter:
Motherhood can be overwhelming indeed especially when n you think about the future and also when some other factors are aggravaitng the situation... Like lack of finances or having a special needs child or a child with hyperactivity.
I have 11 children and so I have had to deal with quite a few situations that aggravate.
Despite all the pain, they have filled my life with so much love even though I must admit there are phases of feeling unappreciated

The few tips I can give are
Start early! Start early enough with the rules and discipline!
I start from day one with my rules. Only use a dim light in the night, no singing or standing up to carry the child at night. Just nreastfeeding, changing and back to sleep, beside me so I don't start jumping around like a kangaroo the next 2 years.
Also teach the too clear up their mess and do house chores. To be independent, to learn how to take responsibility. Little steps at a time.
Get used to expressing praise, love and motivate. It works wonders.
Try to tickle out the best but keep your expectations realistic.
Not everyone can become a doctor, lawyer or Engineer.
Speak to you children and most importantly listen to them!
Be humble! They could sometimes be right and apologise when you have wronged them.
Most adults don't know how to apologize because they never saw their parents do so.
Above all lay it at the feet of the Almighty, the omnipotent.... All things are possible through him.

mariahAngel:

You are a very selfish person, plus you sound like a broken record already.

Klass99:
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Lol , whatever Mariah. But, what you call selfishness I call self love. I love myself too much to put myself through the many stresses of motherhood.

And the good thing about my self love and awareness, is the fact that I am able to genuinely care for others who are not my blood. I live not only for myself and family, but for a wider audience of people, doing the good I can, as best as I know how.

I will continue to share my thoughts/views on topics that catch my interest here o! If you and Bingo, don't like it, just go and hug a transformer already.[/s]

Squillaci:


11 children

mutter:
Motherhood can be overwhelming indeed especially when n you think about the future and also when some other factors are aggravaitng the situation... Like lack of finances or having a special needs child or a child with hyperactivity.
I have 11 children and so I have had to deal with quite a few situations that aggravate.
Despite all the pain, they have filled my life with so much love even though I must admit there are phases of feeling unappreciated

The few tips I can give are
Start early! Start early enough with the rules and discipline!
I start from day one with my rules. Only use a dim light in the night, no singing or standing up to carry the child at night. Just nreastfeeding, changing and back to sleep, beside me so I don't start jumping around like a kangaroo the next 2 years.
Also teach the too clear up their mess and do house chores. To be independent, to learn how to take responsibility. Little steps at a time.
Get used to expressing praise, love and motivate. It works wonders.
Try to tickle out the best but keep your expectations realistic.
Not everyone can become a doctor, lawyer or Engineer.
Speak to you children and most importantly listen to them!
Be humble! They could sometimes be right and apologise when you have wronged them.
Most adults don't know how to apologize because they never saw their parents do so.
Above all lay it at the feet of the Almighty, the omnipotent.... All things are possible through him.

mutter:


Too few... sorry I couldn't have any more.