This topic came up on one show i was listening to yesterday and i was surprised at the callers of the show opinions most of them said ''No its not a must that they dont want a man to marry them cos of they got pregnant for him'' some even said they were in the situation and that they didnt not marry the father of their baby! To me if am a father and my daughter gets pregnant she don marry be that weda she like am or not!!!!

I mean first of all i cannot phantom how 2 ppl who call themselves adult will engage in pre marital sex and not use protection

abeg women wetin una think for the matter if u were in a situation like that will u force the guy to marry u!!!!!

Nope,it is not a must,that is why it is advisable to ALWAYS use condom.

for what?

Is not a must to marry her.
It is a must to grant the education and health of the baby will born.

Its not a must but its a must 4 d guy 2 shoulder all responsibility as it pertains d baby

marriage is a thing of choice and not a do or die affair.the guy must take care of the pregnant girl and the baby till she delivers,nd takes care of the baby till he / she is of age. and must not neccessarily marry her.

But this is nt a criteria for our guys to keep on endangering the lives of our young and beatiful girlssssssssssss

UR, FATHER:

This topic came up on one show i was listening to yesterday and i was surprised at the callers of the show opinions   most of them said ''No its not a must that they dont want a man to marry them cos of they got pregnant for him'' some even said they were in the situation and that they didnt not marry the father of their baby! To me if am a father and my daughter gets pregnant she don marry be that weda she like am or not!!!!

I mean first of all i cannot phantom how 2 ppl who call themselves adult will engage in pre marital sex and not use protection

abeg women wetin una think for the matter if u were in a situation like that will u force the guy to marry u!!!!!

Its better you send your daughter out on the street than force her to a home or family where she is not welcomed. As long as its not RAP.E, any outcome of consented intimacy between 'of-aged' pairs is not a crime (eg. pregnancy, heartbreak, HIV, etc. ). If parents likes it or not, it is their responsibility as a parent to take care of her as you would do if she gets into any other form of trouble.
Forget the "he/she is an adult" thing; In Nigeria, being >=18yrs does not make you an adult. However **NOTE** In the Nigerian contest (you can prove me wrong), an adult is a person (male or female) who is over 30yrs or a person that can take care of him/herself financially.

turboman:

Forget the "he/she is an adult" thing; In Nigeria, being >=18yrs does not make you an adult. However **NOTE** In the Nigerian contest (you can prove me wrong), an adult is a person (male or female) who is over 30yrs or a person that can take care of him/herself financially.

What you saying here is very interesting but is it really true. Is thirty only considered to be legal age? Does that then mean the father woul dhave no say, that used to happen in my culture with any child, especially first born, who is born out of wedlock, the father had no say because that child would belong to the girls parents, not her but that was loooong ago.

if you must go without, then you must be ready to go the miles. . . . .

X_factor:

What you saying here is very interesting but is it really true. Is thirty only considered to be legal age? Does that then mean the father woul dhave no say, that used to happen in my culture with any child, especially first born, who is born out of wedlock, the father had no say because that child would belong to the girls parents, not her[b] but that was loooong ago. [/b]

It still happens. Parents still covet kids born by their daughters out of wedlock. The only exceptions are in cases when
1) the real father of the child agrees to marry the mother(daughter) or
2) the mother(daughter) is capable (financially, etc, ) of taking care of the child on her own

For me, yeah (at least, assuming she wants to get married.)

I'm sort of old fashioned.

turboman:

Its better you send your daughter out on the street than force her to a home or family where she is not welcomed. As long as its not RAP.E, any outcome of consented intimacy between 'of-aged' pairs is not a crime (eg. pregnancy, heartbreak, HIV, etc. ). If parents likes it or not, it is their responsibility as a parent to take care of her as you would do if she gets into any other form of trouble.
Forget the "he/she is an adult" thing; In Nigeria, being >=18yrs does not make you an adult. However **NOTE** In the Nigerian contest (you can prove me wrong), an adult is a person (male or female) who is over 30yrs or a person that can take care of him/herself financially.

True talk, brov!

My once X-gf's immidiate elder sister refused marryin a guy that pregnanted her, and I was present when her father called the guy and told him that her daughter refused him as her husband despite him being the father of her baby. And the boy accepted what the father said with clean & clear conscience, and moved on. Being a kind person that the guy was, he stil buys baby items and send money to the girl to take care of the baby!

After that, it's a shame that the girl later had THREE more babies from THREE different guys, what a shame!

oh pls, see question sef, Ethics, darling Ethics!!, yes it is a must!, U dont go around doing wat u wanna do, without expecting consequences, plus why would u even impregnate her before u get married, jst be causing wahala for urself,

I was in this situation and I did not want to marry the father. I didn't want to correct one act of ignorance with another. Turns out the 'father' turned out to be irresponsible anyways, after talking love and future, bla blah blah, for a few weeks, he pulled a disappearing act. I'm glad I saw his true colors.
How many women married because of suprise pregnancy turned out to later find out the guy was uncaring, not ready for family life, had anger issues, can't handle stress well, or worse?

It depends on how you look at it! There are many sides to it!

Godly: its a must
UN-Godly: its not a must
Worldly: anything can happen
Mutually: its understandable
Factually: its UN-predictable
Hereditary: there might be a side-effect
Concurrently: aggravation is inevitable
Constantly: lust to worst
Similarly: No pain, No gain.
Alternately: parents could play a calming role.
Distortedly: atmosphere may be tense
Proportionally: both sexes exhibit equal rights
Realistically: feedom and equal rights for everyone. . . Starting from the speech

It's not compulsory; but sometimes it myt be the best decision U make in the interest of the home U will have.

If it's not Ur's don't stick it.

says who!

no

no

No, you must not marry a man who impregnated you.

It depends on individuals and culture. The yoruba tribe hardly avoid pregnancy and they get married to who is responsible for it. Even though the guy dey drink garri with his parent in a room apartment.

Its not a must but its a must 4 d guy 2 shoulder all responsibility as it pertains d baby

true talk  bruv!

oh pls, see question sef, Ethics, darling Ethics!!, yes it  is a must!, U dont go around doing wat u wanna do, without expecting consequences, plus why would u even impregnate her before u get married, jst be causing wahala for urself,

remember this is just an accident and must b treated as one

It isn't a must to marry the girl but it is a must to take care of the baby

xynerise:

It depends on individuals and culture. The yoruba tribe hardly avoid pregnancy and they get married to who is responsible for it. Even though the guy dey drink garri with his parent in a room apartment.

which yoruba tribe that o,

not the one Most of us comes from,

UR, FATHER:

This topic came up on one show i was listening to yesterday and i was surprised at the callers of the show opinions most of them said ''No its not a must that they dont want a man to marry them cos of they got pregnant for him'' some even said they were in the situation and that they didnt not marry the father of their baby! To me if am a father and my daughter gets pregnant she don marry be that weda she like am or not!!!!

I mean first of all i cannot phantom how 2 ppl who call themselves adult will engage in pre marital sex and not use protection

abeg women wetin una think for the matter if u were in a situation like that will u force the guy to marry u!!!!!

there is difference between marrying for love and marrying becoz she is carrying your baby or you are carrying his baby

dont do it becoz you are carrying his baby or she is carrying your baby they wont be love between the two of you, you would be doing it for the child only

gentlevick:

remember this is just an accident and must b treated as one

na okada hit am or molue?, lol, which one?, accident my foot, but its ok if u wanna treat it like an accident, go ahead! its a "free world" BUT just keep it in mind that u will be adding to the growing population of BabY DAddies, asif we don't have enough already,

Omolola1:

It isn't a must to marry the girl but it is a must to take care of the baby

Word!

ZIM DRILL:

there is difference between marrying for love and marrying becoz she is carrying your baby or you are carrying his baby

dont do it becoz you are carrying his baby or she is carrying your baby they wont be love between the two of you, you would be doing it for the child only

What is surprising me is that they both know that if they sleep with each other without condom that she would get pregnant. And the funny thing is that when they asked the question a lady said she would just let him go!!!! and am like without even small trouble to make him feel he did something bad

No. Marry her and you two are not inlove and see if either of you
or the child will survive the [inevitable] broken home/divorce. 

true talk dear.