I broke up with my ex 2 years ago because he disrespects me a lot even in public.. I remembered we went out one evening to a bar and we were about leaving when he met his guy friends. They were exchanging greetings and and I waited outside..however a guy came out from the bar making call beside me when my guy came out he started raining insults at me calling me a prostitute and a bastard..at first I didn't understand what was happening but then he said he saw me giving my contact to the guy beside me..I was embarrassed cuz people were watching...

I left there and the next day he called me..I told him it was over cuz it wasn't the first time...he didn't leave me alone and comes to my hostel(am a student and he is working class) almost everyday telling me trash about how he can't do without me...I stood my ground though I still love him then .I had to change my sim and left hostel to stay with my friend outside school..I also blocked him on all social media...it wasn't easy to get over him but eventually I did after a year...

Then I met my new guy last year,we are engaged now getting married soon...my finance has made a big impact in my life spiritually and morally..
My spiritual life has changed alot better..he enrolled me in a fashion school during the pandemic and I now have a handwork..he has done a lot for me which I would be forever grateful for specially my spirituality...
I lost my dad two months ago and I received a condolence msg from a strange number. The number chat me up on WhatsApp and I discovered he is my ex ,I was shocked and asked him where he got my contact. He told me to forget it and since then he started with his I love u bla bla..

I told him I have no feelings for him anymore and he told me I dare not..
I blocked him and a week later he came over to where I was staying.I didn't know how he got the place but I didn't let him in..he has changed a lot with tattoo all over him..I told him to leave me alone that I have a fiance and getting married soon...he got angry and wanted to slap me i was lucky that my friend's guy was around... He held back when he saw him coming out...he told me he would kill me if I try getting married to someone else...I got really scared ..
he chat me up with another number and told me he was only joking and said we should be just friends..
My fiance traveled for work during this time but I didn't tell him anything about it...when he came back I still didn't tell him ...I went through his phone Facebook and I saw a news feed pictures of my ex...I found out they are friends on Facebook... Then last week he told me he saw my pictures with a guy on his fb...he was really angry and when I saw the picture I told him he was my ex and told him what happened when he traveled ,he was mad I didn't tell him at first but he told me he has a lawyer friend and he is going to get a protective order against him..
I logged into my WhatsApp again this time and I saw that my ex sent me a picture of a gun...I asked him what he meant and he said it was a mistake... I planned to show it to my fiancee the next day but he deleted it..I blocked him again this time and yesterday he sent me an SMS that I should meet him at his place if I want him to leave me alone that he just want to discuss with me and if I refuse I should deal with the consequences and I shouldn't mention it to my fiancee...and again my ex is 30 while my new guy is just 27...am 23 yrs going 24 soon

This has been bothering me and he has been calling me non stop...my guy's lawyer friend told me if there is no form of abuse I can't get the protective order..
I didn't tell my guy about it and am really confused right now..it seems my ex just doesn't want me to be happy...I love my guy a lot and all I feel towards my ex is just resentment..Am really sad right now.
Pls advice.. Thanks

sit + popcorn

You are doing yourself more harm by hiding all this critical information from your partner. You need to tell him. and I wonder why at this technology era, you can't screenshots all the treats and wrongful messages he has been sending to you as evidence.

You need to be very careful. pray and stop hiding all this things from your partner.

Your fiance should know about anything going on in your life. That's my 2 cents.. Both of you can come up with a solution to your ex

David1017:
Your fiance should know about anything going on in your life. That's my 2 cents.. Both of you can come up with a solution to your ex

Women are experts at keeping secrets. That's why they should never be trusted.

I don't know what the problem of some guys is.

We claim ladies are too plenty & some would keep forcing themselves on a lady,,, finding means to destroy their EX's current r/shp,,,, all bcoz they miss her toto (as some would say).

On top say my gf & I had no serious fight before we parted, I never mistakenly dialled her contact on my phone (do I even have it sef) or send hi to her on Fbk. Who first love help Even when she got married & gave birth, na only her relatives (who can't do away with me) I owe greetings.

All to avoid causing avoidable mess in her r/shp & I'm sure she understands better than anyone.

We should learn to say GOODBYE (it may be hard though) in real life,,,, & not coming on faceless forum to form alpha males

I dey even salute those wey dey do chop, make I chop with others,,,, una dey try ooo

You think this matter is a joke,,huh,,,,,,


Report to the a mature soul dat is nearer to you just in case the thing go the other way,,,,,,,,,


Unclothe all what dat is happening to yaaa current boyfriend,,,,,,,,,,,


Report to the police if there's a need to,,,,,


God will help you,,,,

If you go to his house, he will try to rape you, if you refuse, he will use that gun he showed you to kill you, be wise.

REAH4012:
I broke up with my ex 2 years ago because he disrespects me a lot even in public.. I remembered we went out one evening to a bar and we were about leaving when he met his guy friends. They were exchanging greetings and and I waited outside..however a guy came out from the bar making call beside me when my guy came out he started raining insults at me calling me a prostitute and a bastard..at first I didn't understand what was happening but then he said he saw me giving my contact to the guy beside me...
Pls advice.. Thanks

You need to go and make an official report at a police station

thesicilian:

Women are experts at keeping secrets. That's why they should never be trusted.

NEVER!!!

This issue that's festering between you and your ex will in time destroy everything your relationship with your present guy stands for. I would advice you to come clean with your man. Get a phone recording app to record every communication that ensues between you and your ex. Allure your ex to make threats so you can have a case against him that he has to answer. Screenshot every chat. No point blocking him. Build a case against him so you can keep him at Bay.


Needless to say, your ex is a disaster three feet from happening. He has anger issues and he obviously hasn't been a positive effect while you both dated. So here is my piece of advice. Unburden all that transpired between the both of you to your ex. That gun issue should not be swept under the rug. Your ex subtly threatened you by showing you that gun. Believe me. He intends to use that gun should a situation present it.


Lastly, I am going to reiterate that you build evidences against him so you can get a restraining order on him. Get him arrested. Find a a competent lawyer. Push the matter to court with the evidences at hand. Your life is at worst in danger while that fiend slithers around you. That lawyer your finance got has nothing in between his ears. You are certainly not safe as far as that mr short fuse is in the fringe of things.

Are you trying to narrate the movie "Fatal Affair" ?