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Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Chigemezu10: 3:29pm On Nov 05, 2020

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 3:42pm On Nov 05, 2020
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Chigemezu10: 3:47pm On Nov 05, 2020
thanks nnam Oma
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Coneheadyutes(m): 5:22pm On Nov 05, 2020
We support u smiley

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by mariahAngel(f): 7:15pm On Nov 05, 2020
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

Where in particular in Igbo land was that culture practiced?
For what purpose?
If that had continued, would there still be Ndigbo today?
Please answer the questions...

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by yvelchstores(f): 7:19pm On Nov 05, 2020
mariahAngel:


Where in particular in Igbo land was that culture practiced?
For what purpose?
If that had continued, would there still be Ndigbo today?
Please answer the questions...
don't mind anyone who claims to know but knows nothing!
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Franktom247(m): 7:46pm On Nov 05, 2020
[quote author=Chigemezu10 post=95720764]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiQ4K7ilpF8
are u the lady on blue saying u are now a lesbian
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by anthonyuncle(m): 11:14pm On Nov 05, 2020
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

the ancient act of women marrying women wasn't for lesbian reasons.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by LadySarah: 8:11am On Nov 06, 2020
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

You are been mischevious right? Their only purpose was to birth to continue the family's lineage.

Did the ladies ever tell you that their wives ever slept or romanced them?

They had menfriends who got them preggy and serviced them too. most times they left to remarry after.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Ayotemide(f): 8:53am On Nov 06, 2020
mariahAngel:


Where in particular in Igbo land was that culture practiced?
For what purpose?
If that had continued, would there still be Ndigbo today?
Please answer the questions...

Rich powerful women got married to young girls, the young girls could take lovers and birth children but the woman was the head of the home and also very respected. It was highlighted in the books of some famous Igbo authors, Buchi Emecheta. It is also still practiced in some parts of rural East Africa. I love this part of history.

Poster, I love you.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 9:13am On Nov 06, 2020
LadySarah:


You are been mischevious right? Their only purpose was to birth to continue the family's lineage.

Did the ladies ever tell you that their wives ever slept or romanced them?

They had menfriends who got them preggy and serviced them too. most times they left to remarry after.
LOL, you are talking with your tongue in your cheek.
First question, Are women allowed to marry in ancient Igbo customs?
Ans, Yes.
Women marrying women in Igbo customs is the only scenario where a separate house won't be built for the other party unlike Man to woman. Allowing both to cohabit.
Now tell me what the two would be doing in the same bedroom at night?
Don't look at this beautiful custom with your Christian perspective

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 9:16am On Nov 06, 2020
mariahAngel:


Where in particular in Igbo land was that culture practiced?
For what purpose?
If that had continued, would there still be Ndigbo today?
Please answer the questions...
The practice is a matter of choice which is most times practiced by extremely wealthy ladies. Some even go to the extent of marrying more than one.
The custom was practiced in the entire Igboland
Thank you

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 9:26am On Nov 06, 2020
anthonyuncle:


the ancient act of women marrying women wasn't for lesbian reasons.
Who is feeding you with lies?
What is the essence of marriage if you exclude sex? Or do you want to dictate to married couples what they do in the other room?

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by shantti(m): 6:46pm On Nov 06, 2020
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by shantti(m): 6:48pm On Nov 06, 2020
Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:14pm On Nov 06, 2020
There are so many shades of wrong in the Igbo culture, I bet the forefathers who sat down to formulate so many nonsense in their culture were highly drunk or intoxicated with something else undecided

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SOFTDRINK: 12:19am On Nov 07, 2020
Fountainofyouth:
There are so many shades of wrong in the Igbo culture, I bet the forefathers who sat down to formulate so many nonsense in their culture were highly drunk or intoxicated with something else undecided
I only blame the stinky gays that gave you the effrontery to badmouth the Igbo culture and forefathers.



For the smelly gays, please keep your stinky fingers and assholes away from Igbo culture while looking for support to continue debasing yourselves.



Faggotz.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Karleb(m): 3:32am On Nov 07, 2020
This is nonsense.

It is an open secret that lesbianism is widely accepted in Nigeria. In some Igbo culture, a woman can legitimately marry another woman under some circumstances.
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by cococandy(f): 4:17am On Nov 07, 2020
mariahAngel:


Where in particular in Igbo land was that culture practiced?
For what purpose?
If that had continued, would there still be Ndigbo today?
Please answer the questions...

Well look at it this way. If the practice continued, not everyone will be involved in it.
People will still marry other genders and Ndigbo will still be here today, thriving.

Everyone can’t live the same lifestyle

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SirVintageCock: 7:19am On Nov 07, 2020
Ayotemide:


Rich powerful women got married to young girls, they could take lovers and birth children but the woman was the head of the home and also very respected. It was highlighted in the books of some famous Igbo authors, Buchi Emecheta. It is also still practiced in some parts of rural East Africa. I love this part of history.

Poster, I love you.
Lol. See a Yoruba woman telling Igbos about their culture.

Igbos are saying what is obtainable but see how you garnish and laced it with obvious obfuscation to make it appetizing to your gullible readers.

Readers note::
The aforementioned union is based solely on procreation not romance between a woman and another woman.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SirVintageCock: 7:44am On Nov 07, 2020
Bkayyy:

Who is feeding you with lies?
What is the essence of marriage if you exclude sex? Or do you want to dictate to married couples what they do in the other room?

Your submissions are just mere hearsays as it is obvious you have no idea what you are talking about.

You obviously have never seen "where a woman married a woman in Igbo land" because such never existed. What you are observing is a well known facts of a woman being married for a man (dead or alive) or even family for the sole purpose of procreation. The reason it might seems as if it was a woman that's marrying them is because of the pressure childlessness placed on a woman in the society. The wife or widow spearheads the quests for solution but the woman bears the name of the man.

These women are often sought by the elderly widows who birthed female children, couples suffering from infertility, families without male heirs and most times families looking out to have someone at home while they resides in the cities.
This is an advanced form of surrogacy but peeps with warped minds won't get an enlightenment, and will not also, stop looking for reasons to delve into their closeted absurdities.
Note thàt no woman is having marital relations with another woman according to this Igbo land tradition. It is an absurdity.


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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 12:01pm On Nov 07, 2020
SirVintageCock:


Your submissions are just mere hearsays as it is obvious you have no idea what you are talking about.

You obviously have never seen "where a woman married a woman in Igbo land" because such never existed. What you are observing is a well known facts of a woman being married for a man (dead or alive) or even family for the sole purpose of procreation. The reason it might seems as if it was a woman that's marrying them is because of the pressure childlessness placed on a woman in the society. The wife or widow spearheads the quests for solution but the woman bears the name of the man.

These women are often sought by the elderly widows who birthed female children, couples suffering from infertility, families without male heirs and most times families looking out to have someone at home while they resides in the cities.
This is an advanced form of surrogacy but peeps with warped minds won't get an enlightenment, and will not also, stop looking for reasons to delve into their closeted absurdities.
Note thàt no woman is having marital relations with another woman according to this Igbo land tradition. It is an absurdity.


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LOL, you are just using modern day Christian based reasoning to view the matter.
Woman-woman marriage in Igboland was never based on procreation for a Man or family because in the marriage, any issue birthed by the bride bears the surname of the lady groom (for easier understanding grin).This shows that the lady groom has full control of her marriage. Tough some barren women do take advantage of this custom to cuckold their husband because if she is the one that married the lady and when the lady gives birth, she has undiluted custody and control over the identity of the child and tends to withdraw her husbands access to it if the husband messes up.

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SAMBARRY: 1:56pm On Nov 07, 2020
grin
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SirVintageCock: 7:55pm On Nov 07, 2020
Bkayyy:

LOL, you are just using modern day Christian based reasoning to view the matter.
Woman-woman marriage in Igboland was never based on procreation for a Man or family because in the marriage, any issue birthed by the bride bears the surname of the lady groom (for easier understanding grin).This shows that the lady groom has full control of her marriage. Tough some barren women do take advantage of this custom to cuckold their husband because if she is the one that married the lady and when the lady gives birth, she has undiluted custody and control over the identity of the child and tends to withdraw her husbands access to it if the husband messes up.

You know that the above is an utter crap, right?
A figment of your imagination. It is obvious that you are projecting it to be the above based on some unfathomable motives.

There is no 'lady-groom' as the co-wife is not even present during the ime-ego nwanyi.

Do some research please

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Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Bkayyy: 8:25pm On Nov 07, 2020
SirVintageCock:


You know that the above is an utter crap, right?
A figment of your imagination. It is obvious that you are projecting it to be the above based on some unfathomable motives.

There is no 'lady-groom' as the co-wife is not even present during the ime-ego nwanyi.

Do some research please
You think I'm one of those "my mama say I be Igbo from Lagos?" I am talking about what happened around us and you are here thinking you can wish it away or cover it with a basket. The last part is a proverb though, decode it if you are Igbo
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by anthonyuncle(m): 5:03pm On Nov 08, 2020
Bkayyy:

Who is feeding you with lies?
What is the essence of marriage if you exclude sex? Or do you want to dictate to married couples what they do in the other room?

go and get ur facts right
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Ayotemide(f): 6:22pm On Nov 08, 2020
SirVintageCock:
Lol. See a Yoruba woman telling Igbos about their culture.

Igbos are saying what is obtainable but see how you garnish and laced it with obvious obfuscation to make it appetizing to your gullible readers.

Readers note::
The aforementioned union is based solely on procreation not romance between a woman and another woman.

It had to be you the Igbo person ignoring the question asked but romanticizing my answer and accusing me of doing so.
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by SirVintageCock: 5:31am On Nov 09, 2020
Ayotemide:


It had to be you the Igbo person ignoring the question asked but romanticizing my answer and accusing me of doing so.

Because your answer is wrong, incorrect and inciting and albeit baseless, filled with assumptions and incorrect information.
Re: Lgbt: Coming Out As A Lesbian In An African Home by Ayotemide(f): 8:54pm On Nov 09, 2020
SirVintageCock:
Because your answer is wrong, incorrect and inciting and albeit baseless, filled with assumptions and incorrect information.

Nah, I barely used two lines and referenced the books that 'assumption' was based on. You couldn't help yourself, seeing an Ayọmide answer that question triggered whatever bigotry exists inside of you. Please stay triggered.

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