Good day nairalanders.
I visited my fiancée's family yesterday. I received a warmly welcome....I was offered pounded yam and different soft drinks but I refused to eat....they said it's an old method to reject offer in in-laws house. I managed to eat just 10% of pounded yam....they asked me there is an extra room but I told them I agreed to sleep in a friend's house.... Note: We are from core north....This morning I went back, after the service....I was served rice....I ate almost 90 percent with my fiancee because of hunger....The way I ate, does that portray a sign of disrespect? Thanks in anticipation for your responses.....I am weak

Maybe if the pounded yam was serve with chill beer I doubt you’ll reject that lol.

I don’t know you reject food too in core north anyway I don’t have any thing to contribute but I’ll be here to read comment from all wise Nairalanders. But OP eat well as much as you can because soon billing will start hitting you

Eating someone's food is a sign of trust, not disrespect. The manner in which you ate the food showed you felt comfortable with them.

There's nothing bad eating but thou shalt not sleep over.

Relax and enjoy Boss

People wey dey normally wear this your cap dey do somehow.

Smh external validation is what makes you feel good?

If you like eat one bag of rice who no like you no like you and who like you go like you

mename:
Eating someone's food is a sign of trust, not disrespect. The manner in which you ate the food showed you felt comfortable with them.

GBAM!



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They offered you the food,so eat na.It shows they welcome you and that you accept them.
No ask for extra sha.

thorpido:
They offered you the food,so eat na.It shows they welcome you and that you accept them.
No ask for extra sha.

Hahaha....I are very well today ooo

Dis actually brought some kind memories, d first day hubby visited my home, he finished d whole pounded yam offered to him, when he was eating my siblings were peeping through d kitchen door to see his table manner.
I'm laughing as I type right now, my cousin and siblings were calling him longer throat and I was so mind at hubby for finishing the food even though I couldn't tell him, cuz I wanted him to look perfect to every one at home.
During introduction was even worse, he was eating and my uncle was facing him, and my hubby was behaving like a farmer, he didn't just finish d food, he ate it like some one that have not eating for days, even his mum noticed that.
According to my hubby, he said he noticed my uncle just fixed his eyes on him, probably observing the kind of man he is, when he noticed that, he gave him a total different impression about himself.


My brother free urself jare, its what happens or how u behave urself after marriage that counts. All of dem laughing at my hubby dat first day, d kind respect they have for him eh no b here, he can't do wrong in their eyes.

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders.
I visited my fiancée's family yesterday. I received a warmly welcome....I was offered pounded yam and different soft drinks but I refused to eat....they said it's an old method to reject offer in in-laws house. I managed to eat just 10% of pounded yam....they asked me there is an extra room but I told them I agreed to sleep in a friend's house.... Note: We are from core north....This morning I went back, after the service....I was served rice....I ate almost 90 percent with my fiancee because of hunger....The way I ate, does that portray a sign of disrespect? Thanks in anticipation for your responses.....I am weak

We don't know your culture na and how you intend/are obligated to follow it.

I remember watching a move and stirring the cup of coffee meant acceptance of the proposal while someone told him something else.

Lol...

I like the fact that you did not sleep in their house.. U have earned 2.2% of respect from them

Food? You were not hungry that's why shakara dey worry you..

I never eat when I visited my Ex then at their home...

Niqqa need to be cautious...
Sometimes I beg... Pls don't bother cooking cus God knows ain't gonna smell it...

Some do strong head cook ham thinking u will force me... Mehn not gonna work

It depends on the manner in which you ate. Was it like a hungry lion or a fine gentle man? Hope you didn't lick the plates. If you didn't do any of these, then there's no need to be ashamed.

Jokes apart.
Going there once in a blue moon to eat is not a problem. however, don't make it a habit because that is when you'll start to lose your respect. Trust me.

If your sister's fiancé eats in your family house once in while, will you and your relatives regard it as disrespectful?

Na wa o for relationship matter, everyday na question upon question wey no dey finish.

From number of children to MIL and DIL fights, school fees, names of children...

I just tired.

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders.
I visited my fiancée's family yesterday. I received a warmly welcome....I was offered pounded yam and different soft drinks but I refused to eat....they said it's an old method to reject offer in in-laws house. I managed to eat just 10% of pounded yam....they asked me there is an extra room but I told them I agreed to sleep in a friend's house.... Note: We are from core north....This morning I went back, after the service....I was served rice....I ate almost 90 percent with my fiancee because of hunger....The way I ate, does that portray a sign of disrespect? Thanks in anticipation for your responses.....I am weak

Op you funny ooo
You measured the food you ate there by percentage.
But there's nothing wrong with eating food served to you na.
The point of them serving you food is so that you can eat.

Alexaonfleek:
Op you funny ooo
You measured the food you ate there by percentage.
But there's nothing wrong with eating food served to you na.
The point of them serving you food is so that you can eat.

Abi o

Biko do they have an another girl ripe for marriage?
I need to chop that pounded yam, e don tey.

If you cannot be free among your in laws,where else will you be free

I know a girl who did not eat on visit to her fiance place, the guys mother swore that his son will never marry her.

Different laws for different folk. Society is confused. Be yourself. Eat if you are hungry and comfortable. Use your finger and lick the plate to tell them you really enjoyed it.



We should not allow public opinion make us guilty and ashamed of whom we are
https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/05/fed-with-guilt/

I don't see how it is.

Oizee:
Dis actually brought some kind memories, d first day hubby visited my home, he finished d whole pounded yam offered to him, when he was eating my siblings were peeping through d kitchen door to see his table manner.
I'm laughing as I type right now, my cousin and siblings were calling him longer throat and I was so mind at hubby for finishing the food even though I couldn't tell him, cuz I wanted him to look perfect to every one at home.
During introduction was even worse, he was eating and my uncle was facing him, and my hubby was behaving like a farmer, he didn't just finish d food, he ate it like some one that have not eating for days, even his mum noticed that.
According to my hubby, he said he noticed my uncle just fixed his eyes on him, probably observing the kind of man he is, when he noticed that, he gave him a total different impression about himself.


My brother free urself jare, its what happens or how u behave urself after marriage that counts. All of dem laughing at my hubby dat first day, d kind respect they have for him eh no b here, he can't do wrong in their eyes.

Lol........this made me laugh!!!!

you should have rejected the food,dont mind this longer throat men supporting you, soft drinks is ok but not pounded yam, rice etc.I hate men that eats in women's house.

Zzor:
you should have rejected the food,dont mind this longer throat men supporting you, soft drinks is ok but not pounded yam, rice etc.I hate men that eats in women's house.

your opinions are always different

if you don't eat food there where else would you eat

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders.
I visited my fiancée's family yesterday. I received a warmly welcome....I was offered pounded yam and different soft drinks but I refused to eat....they said it's an old method to reject offer in in-laws house. I managed to eat just 10% of pounded yam....they asked me there is an extra room but I told them I agreed to sleep in a friend's house.... Note: We are from core north....This morning I went back, after the service....I was served rice....I ate almost 90 percent with my fiancee because of hunger....The way I ate, does that portray a sign of disrespect? Thanks in anticipation for your responses.....I am weak

When next you visit them and they offer you food, pls eat the food

If you are asked to sleep pls pass the night there

The closer you are with them the more you all understands yourself

But bear in mind that, you don't have to go there all the time

Whenever you are going there don't go empty hand

Things are expensive and your visit is additional cost