The fading role of Alarina (An intermediary) in Nigerian culture and the increase in divorce rate.

Africans are known and can be criticized for many things in the world, but divorce is not one of them. Among the unnoticed sources of world problems today, divorce rate is one of them. This do not just affect the man and the woman, it gets extended to have a massive impact on the children and the society at large.

As for Africa, one of the most disgraceful acts is divorcing who you have claimed to the world to love with all your heart. This is not so in the western world. As for the western world, they are as proud as using a ring on their divorce fingers to tell the world at large even with a sight on them.
Many indicators were actively in place to help Africa stand out of this ‘mess’. One of them which involves the third party is the place of ‘Alarina’ (An intermediary) between lovers. This individual gets involved in any marital journey right from the beginning or early stage and excuses himself or herself immediately the lovers are joined.

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.” ―Shannon L. Alde

Divorce Rate In Nigeria.
Nigeria has a very low level of divorce rate compared to the western world. Part of the factors which made the country appeared on the lower rate is the fact that very low percentage get married through modern law.

According to the National Bureau of Statistics (as cited in the Vanguard Nigeria, October 21, 2020) ‘Just 0.2% of men and 0.3% of women have legally untied the knot.’ This made it so difficult to have an accurate divorce rate as most people who ‘divorce’ might end up separating without any legal way of doing it.

Despite this good record for Nigeria society, divorce rate is presently at its increase in Nigeria as we have it in the western world. According to a report by the Nigerian Catholic Reporter, ‘Divorce rate in Nigeria seems to be rising. The main reasons are incompatibility and intolerance of couple’.
One of the factors responsible for this indicated reasons for the increase in divorce rate in Nigeria is the absence of Alarina (An Intermediary) between lovers as we have it before the advert of civilization. Alarina is expected to tell about each family and individual that is planning to start a journey of life. Read more about Alarina; Alarina in Yoruba Culture (Intermediary).

Scientists of today agreed on so many things that are hereditary in nature. These could range from attitudes to sicknesses. The Alarina exposes such hereditary factors of each family to avoid continuity of such trend in the new family.

Though, as great as Alarina might sound or be, it is gradually becoming a thing of the past. Its relevance is not as strong as it was in the days before ‘civilization’.

The social media is taking the place of Alarina now. There are several websites where ‘singles are mingled’. The youths of today care less about the history of any family. All that matters to them is the individual.

The world seems to be in the era of individualism. In the time past, the individual or even the family is not enough to predict a home. The Yoruba go as far as the town of origin to determine how peaceful a home could be.

The fading of this great culture is in a way increasing the divorce rate in Nigeria. If only people can be well known and duly recommended, there is every tendency that some things can be well prepared for in the individual you are about to live your entire life with.

Source: https://medium.com/african-culture/african-culture-divorce-rate-in-nigeria-compared-to-western-world-135027d27b85

The rate at which people have started to get divorced in Nigeria is now alarming... It makes a the singles want to give up on getting married. But don't get it twisted; Marriage is a beautiful thing!!!

And what's the rate of Divorce in Nigeria

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dawnomike:
The rate at which people have started to get divorced in Nigeria is now alarming... It makes a the singles want to give up on getting married. But don't get it twisted; Marriage is a beautiful thing!!!

What is the rate?