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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 2:02pm On Nov 20, 2020
Zzor:
haaaaaaaaaa,wonders shall never end ooooo,its good to be careful in this life oooo.
grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by duwell(m): 2:16pm On Nov 20, 2020
It's been ages a thread got me hooked. I mean I read this thread from the first to the last. I've been on nairaland for ages, and haven't been making comments and generally just scan through threads. When I saw this one and saw that it was 29 pages, something told me that the guy has showed up, and that some point they'll make up after some violence. And it happened just as I predicted.

I've seen some fine comments from some really smart persons.

They were interesting to read. Quite revealing too.
And I hope to see them come back to settle it completely.

The things I learn from this are the following:

Don't keep ask someone if they've eaten if you can't assist.

Don't ghost someone you really like if you can't stay without them. Find a way to explain yourself.

For females, don't expect the guy to do all the calling and chatting, such that if he doesn't call or chat you, that's the end of it.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
grin
so you are a married man, hmmm na wa ooo
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 3:01pm On Nov 20, 2020
Zzor:
so you are a married man, hmmm na wa ooo
See dis one oh? I have the most beautiful, sedulous, amazing woman filled with huge sense of humour and lastly not a gold digger like 80% of Nigeria ladies and we are blessed with a cute kid, if she wasn't worth it I wouldn't have made her my woman wink
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by olaife80: 3:07pm On Nov 20, 2020
tppzzy01:

It's a gift I have. When my mind tells me something, I should not doubt it. Coming together is what I see. Peace
Thank God you have calm down. I can't imagine how happy he will be for you to pick his call. You are doing well. Lol

You can't believe I followed this topic from page 1 to the end before I make my comment. I have never go this far in a topic b4. Am alone and the topic amused me and kept me busy.���

Honestly I followed as well and was monitoring what transpired between them even when I lost a dearest person that I was full of thought.
Just that I have learned not to put mouth for relationship talk why I didn't bother to reply but always read and pick tangible opinions.

My own advice (even though i don't want to shook mouth) is for both to learn how to keep secrets and sort their differences amicably without bringing it to public if eventually they date and married.

Madam Calli make una reduce your ego oo and Mr Daf learn how to lockup.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 3:24pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
See dis one oh? I have the most beautiful, sedulous, amazing woman filled with huge sense of humour and lastly not a gold digger like 80% of Nigeria ladies and we are blessed with a cute kid, if she wasn't worth it I wouldn't have made her my woman wink
Ofcourse I wouldn't expect you to type anything negative about her, but you never for once behaved like a married man here, you were open to meeting people, you are deceitful and cunny,you are wicked as well.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by tppzzy01(m): 3:46pm On Nov 20, 2020
olaife80:


Honestly I followed as well and was monitoring what transpired between them even when I lost a dearest person that I was full of thought.
Just that I have learned not to put mouth for relationship talk why I didn't bother to reply but always read and pick tangible opinions.

My own advice (even though i don't want to shook mouth) is for both to learn how to keep secrets and sort their differences amicably without bringing it to public if eventually they date and married.

Madam Calli make una reduce your ego oo and Mr Daf learn how to lockup.
In fact, I was just monitoring how the thing will end. At a point, I was about to lost interest, then, something again will come up. like Cali trying to put fire again. lol.
I also lost a dearest friend 3 months ago in person of my wife and I was just alone thinking a lot. So the topic was just giving some kind of free mind. Those two are just something else. Lol
Sorry about the lose. May God grant the person eternal rest
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 3:56pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
She isn't, if Poco is married everyone will know here
anyone that will marry will be lucky but age is not on her.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 4:08pm On Nov 20, 2020
Zzor:
Ofcourse I wouldn't expect you to type anything negative about her, but you never for once behaved like a married man here, you were open to meeting people, you are deceitful and cunny,you are wicked as well.
Oh shut up! the only person that's deceitful, cunny and wicked should be u not me
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 4:11pm On Nov 20, 2020
Bodyodour:
anyone that will marry will be lucky but age is not on her side.

How do you know?
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by UCHIHAmask: 4:35pm On Nov 20, 2020
CalliDora1:
Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.
How dare you declare those feeble,undirected,weaklings as "men",manhood is not by age...
Those kind of guys disgusts me,they soil us
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 4:43pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
Oh shut up! the only person that's deceitful, cunny and wicked should be u not me
yeye, smooth talker, thank God I'm not easily carried away. Let me see you near any of my friends here again, I will expose you.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by coolk(m): 4:46pm On Nov 20, 2020
pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...



My Dearest Poco Babyyy, from the bottom of my rumbocious potbelly, I love you....
It is a very rare thing to find a lady with 1% of your sense (of reasoning). Very rare indeed.

You gave a beautiful mind. Take good care of it.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 4:52pm On Nov 20, 2020
omooba969:


How do you know?
she has mentioned her age on N land .
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 4:53pm On Nov 20, 2020
omooba969:


How do you know?
she has mentioned her age on nairaland .
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 4:56pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
Believe me I'm not the one, I hv a beautiful fiancée already and we have a lovely kid together, I just want to help u out that's all

Irresponsible dirty pig who certainly needs help, talking about helping another....lol

Another joke of the year! grin

Nairaland though, wón ti kó eran mó èrò... mtcheeew! cool
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 4:59pm On Nov 20, 2020
Bodyodour:
she has mentioned her age on nairaland .

Adonbilivit. shocked
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 5:03pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
See dis one oh? I have the most beautiful, sedulous, amazing woman filled with huge sense of humour and lastly not a gold digger like 80% of Nigeria ladies and we are blessed with a cute kid, if she wasn't worth it I wouldn't have made her my woman wink

Share her pix let's see.. grin

Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by mamaafrik(m): 5:08pm On Nov 20, 2020
CalliDora1:


Poco bia, I'm not guilty of anything you spotted up there. I already explained I don't like letting people know when I'm fasting that was why I kept it that way and expected him to stop asking the first time I didn't give tangible reasons and didn't request from him either.

Ok, why did he keep asking without offering anything? That alone in itself is annoying but I didn't count it. Yet he kept asking, which was why I decided to play him.

I don't know the angle you're viewing this from but let me tell you, it's not what you think.

Gracias.
you are not straight forward yourself,i see excuses and pretence built on the foundation of lies from the way you with the guy and you subsequent comments.
How many times have you asked him about himself and proffered solution to his problem.
Put yourself in his shoe and you may understand better

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 5:13pm On Nov 20, 2020
omooba969:


Adonbilivit. shocked
I don't believe its her real age. Maybe she doesn't want unnecessary DM's
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 5:15pm On Nov 20, 2020
Zzor:
yeye, smooth talker, thank God I'm not easily carried away. Let me see you near any of my friends here again, I will expose you.
Lolz u are crazy, the last time I checked u don't have any friends here, I've already warned dorin27 to stay away from u before u corrupt her

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 5:16pm On Nov 20, 2020
Bodyodour:
I don't believe its her real age. Maybe she doesn't want unnecessary DM's
It's her real age bro, so u think she's a small girl? pocohantas done open eyes since grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 5:18pm On Nov 20, 2020
Bodyodour:
I don't believe its her real age. Maybe she doesn't want unnecessary DM's

Because most of them don't necessarily have the skills to rap&roll, they miss out on a lot of stuff when it comes to relationship.

We have correct hardworking men and ladies on this forum.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 5:21pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
Lolz u are crazy, the last time I checked u don't have any friends here, I've already warned dorin27 to stay away from u before u corrupt her
when i warned dorin27 about you, she thought I was joking, I don't know how but I saw through you even when you started sounding convincing.Deceitful cunny man

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 5:21pm On Nov 20, 2020
omooba969:


Share her pix let's see.. grin
So that u can mastúrbate with her picture abi? u this chronic randy he-goat..thunder fire u there grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 5:23pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
It's her real age bro, so u think she's a small girl? pocohantas done open eyes since grin
lol. I dont see her as that small if you look at her profile picture
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 5:23pm On Nov 20, 2020
Zzor:
when i warned dorin27 about you, she thought I was joking, I don't know how but I saw through you even when you start sounding convincing.Deceitful cunny man
How? she's my friend and I'm comfortable chatting with her than anyone here, she knows that too, u corrupt fowl grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 5:24pm On Nov 20, 2020
Bodyodour:
lol. I dont see her as that small if you look at her profile picture
She's obviously 40
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 5:26pm On Nov 20, 2020
omooba969:


Because most of them don't necessarily have the skills to rap&roll, they miss out on a lot of stuff when it comes to relationship.

We have correct hardworking men and ladies on this forum.
this forum never believes they is anyone good here. They just generalise and call each other "leeches" and "hoodlums"
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Bodyodour: 5:30pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
She's obviously 40
haaa!! She don clock menopause without marrying?? Not possible. In one of her comments she was mentioned of her "oga"
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by CrazyMan(m): 5:33pm On Nov 20, 2020
CalliDora1:
Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.

You might actually not need anything from him, but in Nigeria today the worst test you can give to a single man in an early stage of a relationship is indirectly telling him your problem. Believe me more than 85% would take off. Reason being that greedy girls have abused the gesture of generous guys. Some guys are naturally generous but past experiences with the wrong people have made them wiser.

Therefore it's always advisable to keep your personal problems to yourself in the early stages of a relationship so that the relationship can grow.

I'm not blaming you tho...the guy himself didn't do well by showing concern about your business and neglecting your health. He should have at least inquired. I myself I'm an inquisitive person. If I claim to care about you and you tell me you haven't eaten I'll ask you why, if you tell me you're broke it's now left for me to ignore or reply you. He should have questioned you till he gets to the root of the matter. At least that's what caring means...let her ask for the urgent 2k before ghosting her.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 5:59pm On Nov 20, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
So that u can mastúrbate with her picture abi? u this chronic randy he-goat..thunder fire u there grin

Loool grin omo àsè - post your woman's pic jare make we hear word.

Masturbate kee you there.... oníranù grin

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