It's a thing of joy and great happiness for both husband and wife to find childbearing an easy one, having children at the slated time they both agreed upon but this is a different and sad unprecedented one for Mr and Mrs adebayo(this is not their real name,I had to changed the name)


It clocked 7 years that this couple got wedded,but still there's no child between them, they have gone for several counselling,medical check up and they were made to understand that both of them are medically fit, this raises a whole lot of questions as people who knew when this guys got married were bewildered as to the reason why they are yet to have a child of their own,funny enough;I was within the age range of 13-15 years when this couple got married.


They have gone through several processes, several platforms, all sorts of methods not leaving out the traditional way but all their efforts proved abortive,I feel so sad and broken whenever I think about this couple,i pray all day for them hoping that one day God will answer OUR prayers.



Here comes my question sir/ma, why do some set of couples find it difficult to have a child of their own even when they are medically fit and genetically compatible?

And this second question goes to the married folks in the house, how long did it took you guys to have your first child?

If it took you a long time, what did you guys do?
Please share your experience as it will go a long way helping others


lalasticlala
Righteousness 89

Ok

things are not always the way u see it
they might tell u that they are fit to bear kids but one of them might not really be that medically fit
again in nigeria and in africa when it comes to having kids its always the woman that everybody beams the searchlight on while ignoring the man.
the problem can also come from the man
or maybe this couple u talking about dont want to have kids for the moment and just feel its their own business and they dont have to announce to the world why they dont want kids
or there might be the unknown which nobody knows what is the reason
As long as the woman has been tested for any existing std
As long as the men"s sperm count has been taken
As long as every condition has been satisfied which can result to the outcome of a child
then they should just calm down and keep trying

Spiritual problem

This life no balance.

People are paying good money to abort babies, others are paying top dollar to conceive.

A good friend of mine has been married for some years now and he and his wife don’t have kids. It crosses my mind once in a while but I never broached that topic with them. Not once. It’s not my business if they don’t tell me and I would rather not add to the pressure some relatives would be putting on them.

Some couples actually want to stay without kids for a few years. It’s their business. After all, no be me go buy pampers and pay school fees.

Pray your prayer privately and don’t add to the pressure.

How old are the couples in questions so I can help?