Bobmaintain:



Wow....Betrayal of trust...Could you be kind enough to share with me one remarkable instance in your life that was characterized by this betrayal of trust?

Also I would love to hear some of the parameters you've now adopted to guard your heart.

.I will explain later..I am very busy now...thanks...

Men don't do heartbreaks only women, unless paper is involved.

pcguru1:
Men don't do heartbreaks only women, unless paper is involved.

You think so?
Why do you think so?

Bobmaintain:


You think so?
Why do you think so?

I want to believe men come to terms quicker with a situation than women, plus i don't believe any grown reasonable working man will be heart broken that's a teenage thing. Men just get dissappointed.

Bobmaintain:


Please permit me to probe in a little, and this time a bit personal....What expectations did you have in your last remarkable relationship that got dashed to the extent that the pains were so unbearable?

Well.....I just felt he was the one for me. A nice person. We understood each other perfectly, could talk on and on about anything & everything for hours. I loved his confidence, and the way he could explain about life situations with logic, examples and illustrations. He was a full blooded Yoruba guy; never have I dreamt of going into a relationship with one but boom!!. I m head over heels with one. He didn't even act like the typical yoruba men I meet on a daily. Found out he had a babe he was serious with and I had to call it quits. I was heartbroken for weeks cuz this was the first time I was actually in love buh I have to move on

Interesting replies.

As for me, my worst heartbreak made me realize that we sometimes tie our worth to what certain people think of us. If we're not confident, if we don't feel that we are valuable, someone rejecting us easily translates to us being worthless.

Now that I'm more confident in myself, I don't need anyone to validate my worth. Even if people don't like me, it doesn't mean anything. I don't take it personally and I understand that not everyone will like me, but some will, and those are the ones who really matter.

Again on my worst heartbreak, he initially liked me a lot, but I didn't. Eventually, as I got to know him more, I slowly fell for him and it was true love not infatuation. But, as he got to know me more, he began to realize that I was not right for him. I feel betrayed in a way because if he never liked me in the first place, I wouldn't have allowed myself to fall for him. Anyway, the pain was worth it. I've grown so much from that experience, and my self love is on a whole new level. That experience also made me excel in other areas of my life, so I'm grateful even though it was a very painful experience.

Hmm mm...This is so touching. He didn't give you a hint about having someone in his life? How did you find that out?

Maryjane001:

Well.....I just felt he was the one for me. A nice person. We understood each other perfectly, could talk on and on about anything & everything for hours. I loved his confidence, and the way he could explain about life situations with logic, examples and illustrations. He was a full blooded Yoruba guy; never have I dreamt of going into a relationship with one but boom!!. I m head over heels with one. He didn't even act like the typical yoruba men I meet on a daily. Found out he had a babe he was serious with and I had to call it quits. I was heartbroken for weeks cuz this was the first time I was actually in love buh I have to move on

Knowing your self worth and upholding your self esteem is a good way to start coming out of the pains of heartbreaks.

Truly, closeness and familiarity can make or mar a relationship.

bepositive11:
Interesting replies.

As for me, my worst heartbreak made me realize that we sometimes tie our worth to what certain people think of us. If we're not confident, if we don't feel that we are valuable, someone rejecting us easily translates to us being worthless.

Now that I'm more confident in myself, I don't need anyone to validate my worth. Even if people don't like me, it doesn't mean anything. I don't take it personally and I understand that not everyone will like me, but some will, and those are the ones who really matter.

Again on my worst heartbreak, he initially liked me a lot, but I didn't. Eventually, as I got to know him more, I slowly fell for him and it was true love not infatuation. But, as he got to know me more, he began to realize that I was not right for him. I feel betrayed in a way because if he never liked me in the first place, I wouldn't have allowed myself to fall for him. Anyway, the pain was worth it. I've grown so much from that experience, and my self love is on a whole new level. That experience also made me excel in other areas of my life, so I'm grateful even though it was a very painful experience.

Lalasticlala, this is new year oh....take us to the promiseland so we can hear stories from last year's December/ Christmas heartbreaks and how they were handled.

Bobmaintain:
Knowing your self worth and upholding your self esteem is a good way to start coming out of the pains of heartbreaks.

Truly, closeness and familiarity can make or mar a relationship.

Very well said.

I can never get attached when I start to feel I unattached
Somehow I just end up feeling bad
Baby I'm not your dad

Bobmaintain:
Hello Fam.
Please, I'm trying to gather enough information about the emotional and psychological makeup of individuals based on their own perception of events that have occurred in their lives.

Now, I picked one aspect of this matter - heartbreaks. I believe that most people in the world have experienced this at one point in their lives or another...Either in a relationship (like being dumped), business deal (like being cheated), family decision (like being excluded in a Will), etc.

I see heartbreaks taking a lot of emotional and psycho-biological toll on both teenagers and adults (especially those you think are big enough and have the well-withal to come off it easily, and I ask why? I have seen people sink into depression, commit suicide and even murder due to heartbreaks. We see all these things around us and we either condemn, berate, chastise, encourage or sympathize with the victims going through such.

Now to you as an individual, what is it that really made a heartbreak so painful to you that it weighed you down? Please lend me a piece of your mind. I don't mind a sneak peek into your thoughts and what you've been through in live...Please share with me...(((smiles)))
Thank you!



Please Lalasticlala, Dominique, Mynd44, this post is for educational and research purposes, thus I will highly appreciate if it gets a slot at the front page for wider views and opinions.
Thank you once more!

The heartbreak I experienced is wat I wouldn't wish for my enemy but it happened. The moment u confided in that person, the person knows your pain and still did worse things to make you remember of the past pain, that's betrayal.
I almost fell into depression but I had to control myself that it wasn't worth it all.
Those memories are difficult to forget

doris4u:

The heartbreak I experienced is wat I wouldn't wish for my enemy but it happened. The moment u confided in that person, the person knows your pain and still did worse things to make you remember of the past pain, that's betrayal.
I almost fell into depression but I had to control myself that it wasn't worth it all.
Those memories are difficult to forget

I v been there before my dear. Experiences I v had made me run far from anything relationships. I see them as hardwork that requires me to be vulnerable to the other person. This vulnerability scares the hell out of me

Bobmaintain:
Hmm mm...This is so touching. He didn't give you a hint about having someone in his life? How did you find that out?

There was not a single hint. Although from time to time while he was wooing me, I would intentionally ask about his bae cuz I didn't want to be with someone's boo. He denied having any. It was not until I was madly in love with him that he opened up to me.
Looking back, I feel he wanted easy access into my panties...lol. dat chop and clean mouth kind of stuff.

Maryjane001:

I v been there before my dear. Experiences I v had made me run far from anything relationships. I see them as hardwork that requires me to be vulnerable to the other person. This vulnerability scares the hell out of me

Yes Exactly

Dreadlock69:
I can never get attached when I start to feel I unattached
Somehow I just end up feeling bad
Baby I'm not your dad

Hmm....

Maryjane001:

There was not a single hint. Although from time to time while he was wooing me, I would intentionally ask about his bae cuz I didn't want to be with someone's boo. He denied having any. It was not until I was madly in love with him that he opened up to me.
Looking back, I feel he wanted easy access into my panties...lol. dat chop and clean mouth kind of stuff.

Lol...He wants to be two-timing so he could have a spare tyre or reserve.

Heartbreak no be for me the day the second to the last of my exes breakup with me was the day i know sey no who give heart for heartbreak na him e heart go break .
although i love the girl and i tried to fixed things but she refuse but i don't go into depression,thinking and do nonsense things because of her.
All in All All for All Love Na Scam.

Bobmaintain:
Hello Fam.
Please, I'm trying to gather enough information about the emotional and psychological makeup of individuals based on their own perception of events that have occurred in their lives.

Now, I picked one aspect of this matter - heartbreaks. I believe that most people in the world have experienced this at one point in their lives or another...Either in a relationship (like being dumped), business deal (like being cheated), family decision (like being excluded in a Will), etc.

I see heartbreaks taking a lot of emotional and psycho-biological toll on both teenagers and adults (especially those you think are big enough and have the well-withal to come off it easily, and I ask why? I have seen people sink into depression, commit suicide and even murder due to heartbreaks. We see all these things around us and we either condemn, berate, chastise, encourage or sympathize with the victims going through such.

Now to you as an individual, what is it that really made a heartbreak so painful to you that it weighed you down? Please lend me a piece of your mind. I don't mind a sneak peek into your thoughts and what you've been through in live...Please share with me...(((smiles)))
Thank you!



Please Lalasticlala, Dominique, Mynd44, this post is for educational and research purposes, thus I will highly appreciate if it gets a slot at the front page for wider views and opinions.
Thank you once more!

You sent an email to me
What’s up?

Shortyy:


I just told you. Thinking about things I need to achieve

You can't think about all you want to archive every single minute of day. At some point those memories would play in your head, consciously or unconsciously

Financial and emotional involvement so i stay away from it

Bobmaintain:
Hello Fam.
Please, I'm trying to gather enough information about the emotional and psychological makeup of individuals based on their own perception of events that have occurred in their lives.

Now, I picked one aspect of this matter - heartbreaks. I believe that most people in the world have experienced this at one point in their lives or another...Either in a relationship (like being dumped), business deal (like being cheated), family decision (like being excluded in a Will), etc.

I see heartbreaks taking a lot of emotional and psycho-biological toll on both teenagers and adults (especially those you think are big enough and have the well-withal to come off it easily, and I ask why? I have seen people sink into depression, commit suicide and even murder due to heartbreaks. We see all these things around us and we either condemn, berate, chastise, encourage or sympathize with the victims going through such.

Now to you as an individual, what is it that really made a heartbreak so painful to you that it weighed you down? Please lend me a piece of your mind. I don't mind a sneak peek into your thoughts and what you've been through in live...Please share with me...(((smiles)))
Thank you!



Please Lalasticlala, Dominique, Mynd44, this post is for educational and research purposes, thus I will highly appreciate if it gets a slot at the front page for wider views and opinions.
Thank you once more!

Hello

Shortyy:
The problem isn't the heartbreak, the problem is the flashbacks.

Wotoporiously speaking

Of the knackings or what?

Wotoporiously speaking

Heartbreak on a full moon.... there's no level of breakfast that comes close to the bolded.

My only heartbreak comes when a money deal goes wrong and we lose..that's premium tears for me

I’ve ever dated a girl who broke up with me cos I refused to f#ck her .
If I sleep with a girl I lose interest in her ASAP ,
She didn’t know , I don’t know why am like this
May God help me .
If I like a girl genuinely I try not to f#ck her , cos I’ll lose interest in her , and the girl might feel like that’s what I wanted all along .

1. Wasted resources (time, money etc.) You could have learnt a new skill with your time and money, could’ve spend the money on your mom who will pray for you, could’ve done something productive for yourself with your resources; something that won’t one day break your heart.
2. Flashbacks of both the good and bad (the good makes you want it and wish it could work out but the bad makes you wonder why you didn’t see it then and it makes you feel stupid). You even start to imagine or assume things like(so when he/she was calling me or talking to me or visiting me or telling me they love me, they had someone else they were saying the same thing to?)
3. The feeling of betrayal; you feel like a fool
4. The questioning aspect (which a lot of people deny); the point where you start wonder what exactly went wrong, whether it’s you that really had problems or it’s them, whether you need to work on yourself or something, whether you actually pushed them or it just them. It can be mentally draining.
5. Known and unknown in-laws questioning; here, you see people asking you about the relationship, even people you never thought were watching you, start to ask and you have to find an answer for them.
6. The regrets; you regret why you did not listen to that one friend, or sister or adviser who warned you about them
7. You still regret the time you rejected someone who wanted you at the same time you were getting into a relationship with that person who broke your heart, wish you could turn back the hands of time to choose them.
And more.