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Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Angy55(f): 1:40pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Nazgul: You nailed it. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Midas01: 1:40pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Hoe like your mother right? MLTR: 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Seyzcham91(m): 1:41pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
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Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by BabbanBura(m): 1:41pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe: I agree, there is no justification whatsoever for a lady at such an age to want to leave alone except may be if she is done with school and is working 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Nimrod81: 1:41pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
[quote author=virginprincess post=98063198]Good evening nairalanders, pls i need advise, my counsin sister who is just 22 is demanding to live alone (she wants to move out of her father's house), but her parents disagreed with her decision. This has brought a whole lot of confusion, because she is very serious with her decision and her parents (especially her mom) is totally against it. Pls as a sister, what advise can i give to her, should i support her or i should advise her against it? and what are the of dangers living alone as a female? Modified: My counsin is not a prostitue, I might not entirely know the reason she wants to live alone, but i'm sure her num1 major reason is noise, she is a very calm person who loves being alone, but since they are much in the house she doesn't have such opportuity, pls she's not a hoe, my question is what are the dangers of living alone as a lady?. Does she have a job? How does she want to support herself? |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by filleSouriante(f): 1:50pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe: NwaAmaikpe it can only be you 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by firstratedcitiz(m): 1:52pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
There's nothing basically wrong with a young woman of 22 staying alone, though there are often negative consequences for doing so. A young lady related to me her experience of what she'd passed through while staying alone in a rented apartment. She lost her job a few months after packing in, and as a result was constantly having to endure pangs of hunger and could not renew the rent. The landlord took advantage of her situation and started to demand sex as condition to allowing her to stay. Things got so worse that she started sleeping with different kinds of men just to find money and make ends meet. She even ignored to ask for help from her relatives back home because they had opposed her decision to stay alone. So she was ashamed to let them know what she was passing through. Then the unexpected started to happen: she got raped by the landlord's son but she was ashamed to report the incident, simply because she also was sleeping with the landlord. The boy who raped her had threatened to expose her affair with his father in the event that she reported about the incident; also, she feared being confronted by the landlady, who, according to the girl, had shown so much kindness to her. Then she got raped a second time, but this time by a group of suspected cultists, while returning from church one night. According to this girl, she had such a terrible experience staying alone as a single girl, and she swore never to advise even her worst enemy to try the same thing. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by SocialJustice: 1:53pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:Did she not live alone in university? She's 22, an adult. If she's footing the bill then let her be. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Glawrie: 1:57pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
They should let her go, else they will wake up one morning to see that she's left. She may even go out and not return again without packing anything. I believe there's someone somewhere influencing her decision. Or she has friends that are doing it. I understand that she needs freedom, she wants to do what are friends are doing that she can't do at home. She should have her way, she will return, I promise you. I hope when she realizes, it won't be late by then |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by oonyeoma50: 1:57pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
onyenatruchi:you no go kill somebody oo 1 Like
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Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by gstelly: 2:01pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Am 22 also, 100 level, I take care of my bills alone, at times I even send money home 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by NoToPile: 2:01pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Why does she want to live alone. Is her work place far from the parents house? Was she transferred to another state or somewhere far from the house. Or she just wants to move out, its cheaper for her to stay with her parents so I don't understand the moving out except there is a reason . |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by owendei(m): 2:07pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe:You are right. But the OP wants to know the dangers of leaving alone. Could you please deal with that? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by denvers: 2:07pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Once you are 18 and have the finance, be you a boy or a girl, you could make the decision to leave on your own. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Wunna: 2:08pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:if she isn't a hoe, nobody asked but here you are trying to defend her. Why? Oh so people won't think she's like you right? Smart girl |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by cumlord(m): 2:09pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Wow... Am amazed at how backwards and retarteded some people's thinking are.... She wants to stay alone and all most pple think about is sex.... God forbid if she was an orphan won't she stay alone?.... Smh.... She's old enuf to decide... Let her decide and if she made a mistake she will learn and grow 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Pioneer01: 2:10pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
She is old enough to live alone as long as she can foot her bills She should pls stick to what nazgul wrote. |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by folks4luv(f): 2:10pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Why do we always associate a girl living alone with promiscuity? Can't she be bad under her parents? This is not 1960, it's 2021. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Nobody: 2:15pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
She no know where dey Pain her...I know of her mate (24yrs)wey dey do very well with online trading,She has over a million Naira in her Wallet yet She's Humbly living under the same roof with her Parents...This one wey fit just get only 200k Want live alone later She go begin hop from one bed to another just to meet up. |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Nobody: 2:15pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess: Any adult should be able to live alone as long as they can afford to do so. Living alone is no child's play. It's expensive and can be boring. One last thing, most people who live alone usually become more sexually active. Which is a good thing, fvcking about under your parent’s roof can be stressful and frustrating. As an adult this freedom is priceless. I wish your cousin good luck. |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by harmony75: 2:16pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
not bad as long as she's responsible.. most times because they don't like how things are going at home. I have someone same age she's eager to live on her own but she's sharing with a good Christian friend! 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by achymmania: 2:18pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:wow. I know why she wants to leave the house. It's a kind of competition among bank staff. Your apartment, your car, your furniture and the likes. She can never be talked out of this. |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by fredwill1357(m): 2:21pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:There is nothing wrong with living alone as a girl or boy, like I have always said Nigerians are myopic idiots, the average human all over the world is a stupid idiot who most times Can't think outside the box, but I think it is worse in Nigeria. Your sister can do whatever she wants, she officially became an adult at 18, apart from the stupid societal stigma of being viewed as a LovePeddler, she has got no problem, living alone can cause her marriage and a questionable reputation, marriage is not a must anyway. She should be security conscious and don't keep late nights. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by legacystore: 2:22pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess: Being a prostitute starts one day She just needs her freedom to explore life It's not just about age, is she a graduate n gainfully employed. If she is jobless, how will she foot her bills except through men? |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by bixton(m): 2:22pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess: If you are really close to her you'll have to ask her the reason to say her reason of wanting to stay separate from her immediate family. It is not everything one ought to assume or speculate. It is good to own a place of your own at 22 years. But as a girl/ lady/woman what are the benefits? You made mention of her working in the bank and residing in PHC. Now in this same PHC I know people of her own sex who lived in their family house and used their salary to procure land(s) and build house(s) for rental purposes. They were able to start up a side business. They did not live like ohhh I'm a grown up so I can live my life as I can. One of my sisters at 22 with a good salary was encouraged to continue her studies that is relevant to her career choice to enable her grow the ranks appropriately in her department. Bank work is not a security to financial autonomy. There should always be a Plan B and also put your trust on God. It is good for parents to be concerned though sometimes it becomes worrisome. But a true mother will express her emotions. |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:It is right for a lady to have her own house. What else? 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Nobody: 2:25pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
She wants to enter into Hoe-Olosho business right? Her choice, her money and her body
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Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Unrated900(m): 2:29pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess: She kept on shouting she works in a bank Didn’t we knows plenty female bankers That are into prostitution Go to badoo you would see them plenty |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Ojemedad: 2:30pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
We that are 30+ are even thinking of running back home When bills go strike her she go get sense 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by Bbbwings: 2:36pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
virginprincess:So how is it your business that she want to live alone? |
Re: Is It Right For A Lady To Live Alone? by scokoro: 2:38pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
My dear, A 22yr old is supposed to live alone if her parents died in an accident. That is not how it is meant to be. She is a calm person that is why she wants to leave alone. Tell that to younger generations to come. Any time a lady is demanding for independence, she has some skeleton in her cupboard. Why are you campaigning for her? What is your own business in the whole matter?. If you are the one, why not come out openly to seek for advice. Let me now tell you the grave consequences. 1. Too much frolicking would set it. 2. Prospective males friends would have a lee way to come visiting 3. Attack from devil in form of temptation would be in for her 4. No serious suitor would approach for her hand in marriage if she is seen staying alone 5. The Landlord that would agree to give her accommodation would think she is a prostitute 6. Some of her friends would approach her to squat with her thereby entertaining more noise 7. Undue expenditure which she would ordinarily be used to help her noise making siblings at home Conclusively, if she wants to stay alone, she should either rent a new place for her parents and some of her siblings or get a place and take some of her siblings if she must move. Tell her to be patient, there will come a time when she has loneliness to contend with in life. 1 Like |
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