What can a man do if a lady becomes obsessed with love to the extent of spying on you, calling all the numbers on your cell just to scare away "might be" contestants, ruined your fitness studio by chasing all your female members away and screams on you for looking at girls in bikini on TV. And telling her she`s making you miserable and unhappy so you want out wont even help. She just refuses to leave because she believes nobody can love you better and you were meant to stay with her for life!

If all else fails, have the police escort her from your property. Go to the police station and

request an Order of Protection. You can also get a Restraining Order but a lawyer has

to be hired to do that. Start choosing your women more carefully. People show signs of

being psycho. Start heeding those signs from now on.

What the fork?

Thirst4Lif:

If all else fails, have the police escort her from your property. Go to the police station and

request an Order of Protection. You can also get a Restraining Order but a lawyer has

to be hired to do that. Start choosing your women more carefully. People show signs of

being psycho. Start heeding those signs from now on.

Right to the point!

I believe before a lady starts behaving like this, she most have been feeling really insecure about your relationship, and asking her
to leave you alone is not the best but trying to give her that security and making her feel she is your everything. Except you just don't want the
relationship any more, then you can make understand that you cant continue with her, and limit her access to you house, cars and your call line.

Well, i have always been known for having long relationship. I broke up with a lady after 7 yrs and then met this freak. Believe me, i do read signs and i NEVER saw anything like this in her until i brought her down to Naija for the very first time. And then she went gaga, although i never gave her any reason to feel jealous.

Despite the fact that she lied to me many times about her past, trying to protect her ex-boyfriend from being hurt by not telling him that she is now in a new relationship, i still never gave her any reason to doubt me. But i guess she couldn`t trust herself no more, and that was why she couldn`t trust me neither again. The first 6 months were cool, but for the past two and a half years, i have been leaving in hell.

I once called the police. They came and told her to keep away from my crib, 3km away from my street. And i thought that was it. But then she came again, and if i try to call the police, she takes a knife and threaten to kill herself. Maybe i can prove i didn`t kill her if it should go that far. But i dont trust the german police when it comes to their lady and a black guy like me.

Believe it or not, there was no sign of insecurity from my side from the beginning. She was the one that messed it all up and then got pretty scared. How can a lady break up with a boyfriend, met another one and dated him for 10 months while still keeping all the pictures of the ex in her room and wearing a ring with the inscription "M**r*o and S**d*a together forever".

And when she met me she told me all these and i told her to let me know where i stand from the beginning. But she kept the pictures and that ring for more than 6 months till i found out she was playing the same game with me, not telling the ex-boyfriend (M) about me.

And how would you feel if you brought your german girlfriend home and she collected number from a guy she met at the park in abuja, and denied it, although you found it yourself?

Stop making her feel insecure,give her more attention and try reducing your mingling with other girls. your girl is obviously getting out of hand,but you should try and fix it.

Goldieluks:

your girl is obviously  getting out of hand,but you should try and fix it.

You think? You don't fix psychos, just dump their crazy arse and move on.

@Goldieluks: Fix what I think Cantell knows what i am talking about here. Besides, i never mingled with girls if i have a woman i love and respect. Obsession and low self-esteem is a thing you cant help someone cure,

You think? You don't fix psychos, just dump their crazy arse and move on.

Very true. As the saying goes, "you can't fix stupid."

Giving her more attention is not the answer. He's been going through this for 2-1/2 years. Of course he's given her attention in all that time.

The woman has emotional issues. All the hugs and kisses in the world won't change that! Ever see the movie 'Fatal Attraction?'

Relocating may be inconvenient, but it may also be a fixer.

How he stuck it out for almost 3 years has me baffled!

Well, anytime she pounces on me with her emotional insecurity and crazy attitude of stalking me, she kinds of get around to even manipulate my emotions by crying and falling sick afterwards. That always make me feel sorry and guilty for making her go through all these emotional stress and physical pains. Then i met a shrink at a gig, and he told me all the tricks these emotional psychos use to manipulate and get their ways,

Kill the bitch and say its self defense.

The emotional cryin and fallin sick afterward is just a hype up. She's doing it for you to feel sorry for her and stil have her as your girlfriend while she's stil seeing the X-bf!  At first, I taught it's a Nigerian gal, but since she's German, I think it's a bit serious. Since the case has been reported to the police before, if I were you, what I'll do is go back to the police and tell them that whenever you ask her to stop comin to your crib, she tried commitin sucide.  So that, whenever you make up your mind to bone her finally, if anything goes wrong, they should know that you'r innocent about it. I was told by my mom not to be with a gal just b'cos of her emotions towards me!

PS: But somehow, I think you'r blessed with great diick that was why she refused leaving you, Lol (kiddin)!

Goodluck brov!!

That is why i planned with another german girl to be my witness anytime she shows up at my crib and start her well-planned theatre
again. Atleast a german like her will be a nice prove cuz my naija pals wont help much.


And even if i have bleeped her brains out, being her first black dude, she shud give some
other black dudes around a try then and let me Bleep someone elses brain out too, , i really
made a mistake hooking up with a german. Should have stayed jejely with russians!

There are many guys looking for stay and would kill to get a nice educated ilepa like her. But
why me A ready made finished product,

HabbyHonze:

That is why i planned with another german girl to be my witness anytime she shows up at my crib and start her well-planned theatre
again. Atleast a german like her will be a nice prove cuz my naija pals wont help much.

Very good idea!

But also, make sure the police are aware of it, should incase!

HabbyHonze:

And even if i have bleeped her brains out, being her first black dude, she shud give some
other black dudes around a try then and let me bleep someone elses brain out too,

Lol @ the lines on red. . . very funny!

Since you gat the techniques of blowin a gyals brain out, how then do you think she's gon leave you when no one has ever blew her brains off before?. . .maybe the term "oppotunity comes but once" does rings in her head always, so, how then do you think she's gone waste the only one she has at the moment? Lol.

HabbyHonze:

i really made a mistake hooking up with a german. Should have stayed jejely with russians!

You made NO mistake, man. Shiit happens all the time. Left for us to handle whatever situation we find ourself and move on, for you'r not the 1st nor the least.

HabbyHonze:

There are many guys looking for stay and would kill to get a nice educated ilepa like her. But
why me A ready made finished product,

Self confidence makes a man. Dont panic. just be strong and focus. Mind you, a man is being judged by his principals. Being a man is not by his 3rd leg but, how he handles whatever situation he finds himself.

Be strong, brov, NOTHING DO YOU !!!

What doesnt kill a man only makes him stronger. And a man should be bold enough to accept and deal with the challenges in his life. That much i am doing. Just that it is more easier for you to continue fighting if you know when the war will be over.


And i don`t really think with my third leg bro. You did get the joke and i love ur sense of humor, atleast it still feels good to have a good laugh despite the emotional stress in my life.

Am confident but it is never easy waiting to excel and dreaming about happiness but never really living it. I have some good chances of trying it out with other girls, but they do run away if they know the kind of girl i am involved with. And that sucks, cuz she succeeds in chasing em all away. And there aint crazy girls like some naija girls who could show her different logos here and put her back where she belongs to.

I just got my doors opened right now as i am typing and i am in no mood for another energy sucking conversation this morning. Although, if the truth be said, i need not find a lady who could clean my shit for me by putting up with her and chasing her away. I found her and i gotta get rid of her myself.

Moving totally to another city is not possible cuz of my studies and work. And it sure feels scary if a lady tells you "Just because you get rid of something, doesnt really mean its gone!"

Sorry bro, your girl is obviously a psycho and a cheat with a potential to also cheat with other guys as well (as demonstrated with keeping her old bf and collecting phone no. from the Abuja guy).

She also reeks of selfishness and double standards in view of her cheating mindset coupled with an obsessive fear of the same thing happening to her.

I am surprised at how you were able to cope with such unacceptable behavior for so long.

Don't waste any more time in dropping her; and yes I concur, pls in form the police and arrange for them to respond whenever she turns up at your home.

Listen brov, I think her emotions are taking whole of you! Is she with your crib key? If yes, change the lock. If No, then reschedule the time of your coming back home.

Forget about this ~~> "Just because you get rid of something, doesnt really mean its gone!"
You have been threating fairly but, she refused to grasp the message. What you need to do now is be rude to her, for without that, she's going no where. Your strange attitude will put her off! Just like her quote above, she might stalk for somewhile but, before you know it, your plan B will make her leave quietly!

The case is already reported so there's nothing to fear! Switch in to plan B, brov, zero your mind about her emotions, for women are very, very good and trickish with it. Time to be MORE serious about it!

She`s got my keys, so i have to change my locks for sure. And being cold to her is what i am doing now. You wont
believe it bruv, she is sitting next to me and trying to see what am doing while already accusing me AGAIN of chatting with
ladies on the net.

My being cold to her is defined by her as monstrous, but if being a monster is what`s gonna free me, then i better be one, once and for all!


I have suffered in silence for 54 months! She is being happy at the expense of my unhappiness,

HabbyHonze:

What can a man do if a lady becomes obsessed with love to the extent of spying on you, calling all the numbers on your cell just to scare away "might be" contestants, ruined your fitness studio by chasing all your female members away and screams on you for looking at girls in bikini on TV. And telling her she`s making you miserable and unhappy so you want out wont even help. She just refuses to leave because she believes nobody can love you better and you were meant to stay with her for life!

that sounds scary if you were in the u.s or europe you should get a restraining order that will keep her 500 feet away from you. if she even comes 499 feet she goes straight to jail.
that type of person sounds like they will kill you if they cant have you just be careful

HabbyHonze:

She`s got my keys, so i have to change my locks for sure.

Good!

HabbyHonze:

And being cold to her is what i am doing now. You wont
believe it bruv, she is sitting next to me and trying to see what am doing while already accusing me AGAIN of chatting with ladies on the net.

Can you imagine?. . .Tryin to check to know if you were chatting with ladies online whilst, she's stil very much intouch with her X-bf?. . .Bros, let me ask you this question. . .Are you in captivity?. . .If no, then fine! If yes, In the hands of who?. . .That thing?. . . some1 younger than you?. . .Well, different strokes for different folks!

HabbyHonze:

My being cold to her is defined by her as monstrous, but if being a monster is what`s gonna free me, then i better be one, once and for all!

She has been tormenting you for 54 months and you'r yet to find 'a day' to know when you'll apply the plan B?

Alright, Keep waiting !!!

HabbyHonze:

I have suffered in silence for 54 months! She is being happy at the expense of my unhappiness,

Why please some1 and displease yourself for good God sake?

Why stay even a second with some1 that her pleasure is your unhappiness/sadness?. . .
Listen man, you need to act fast before you finally see yourself in total captivity (God forbid tho).  My honest advice to you is, no matter how you later get along with her atlast, DONT ALLOW HER TO HAVE YOUR BABY!!!

Ofcourse that`s why am scared, not because i thought she`s gonna jazz me up or something. I took her down to Naija thrice myself and she has no access to stuffs like that, being a german. She always say if she cant have me, then nobody will.


And ofcourse, i live in europe.

It is easier said than done my brother, but i am feeling you. And hell no, i am not in captivity.

I might have a heart that is weak to hurt a lady, but aint no dumb ass. Definitely, if she can have
my baby, then her dreams will finally come true. I already stopped the servicing since.

Dont you know what the 3rd monkey said??


BANG NO EVIL!!!!!!!!

@tashanja: a perfect description of what she is. I can even describe her and her fears better.


@MzDarkSkin: Ofcourse is there any other name for this?

@poster
In my house?! Hell no! No need for Police escort as I will drag her out and tell her to stay well away. I've had my fair share of psychos (or women who suddenly lose their damn mind) and my way of dealing with it is COMPLETE and IMMEDIATE SEPARATION (just like gangrene)

As for the ones who say they gonna kill themselves, I gladly hand them the knife but ask them to go outside on the other side of the street to do it (some crooked cop might try to frame you for murder).

As the saying goes: there is a thin line between love and insanity.

^^ God bless you man, you'r my kind of person!

OP, I hope you'r listenning?

Thirst4Lif:

If all else fails, have the police escort her from your property. Go to the police station and

request an Order of Protection. You can also get a Restraining Order but a lawyer has

to be hired to do that. [/b]Start choosing your women more carefully. People show signs of

being psycho. Start heeding those signs from now on.

Thumbs.

HabbyHonze:

[b]That is why i planned with another german girl to be my witness anytime she shows up at my crib and start her well-planned theatre
again. Atleast a german like her will be a nice prove cuz my naija pals wont help much.


And even if i have bleeped her brains out, being her first black dude, she shud give some
other black dudes around a try then and let me bleep someone elses brain out too, , i really
made a mistake hooking up with a german. Should have stayed jejely with russians!

There are many guys looking for stay and would kill to get a nice educated ilepa like her. But
why me A ready made finished product,

Good! Have you also ever thought about installing a camera outside your home? That would be a more tangible evidence, but if that's all you can do, that should still do.

HabbyHonze:

She`s got my keys, so i have to change my locks for sure. And being cold to her is what i am doing now. Y[b]ou wont
believe it bruv, she is sitting next to me and trying to see what am doing while already accusing me AGAIN of chatting with
ladies on the net.
[/b]
My being cold to her is defined by her as monstrous, but if being a monster is what`s gonna free me, then i better be one, once and for all!

I have suffered in silence for 54 months! She is being happy at the expense of my unhappiness, 

I wonder why you haven't done that already, but great idea! And aren't you trying to stay away from her?? Why're you still spending time with her You should be limiting your time with her, otherwise you telling her to stay away and all your efforts to keep her away are nought.

Hope everything works out and she will leave you alone. Right now, just don't let her see you're afraid. She wants to make you feel weak and fearful, but stay your ground.

There is fire on the mountain, run! run!! run!!! run!!!!

Eyaaaa, na waoooooo. So u let urself be manipulated like this? Thought naija guys didnt take crap like that,from any kind of lady.
Well, change the locks,change the number,inform the police u get a stalker,record her silly antics (in case u go need some evidence) and keep ya door locked. And before u start fishing and jump into another pool, try and solve this little thing first.

Don't you think you should delete dis? Cause dis gurl is not like dis and she loves you, i know it. But when you are go on walking with another gurl - than it is an explanation for everything! So think of your way, bros! I think i know you 4 sure!