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Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 10:54pm On Jan 24, 2021
The existence of God will forever be in contention because of our insistence on empiricism. Due to this methodology, We will always rebuff claims about God because we want to physically experience and experiment on God before we collective agree on the existence. But there is something close we have that can give us hints about God; the system called mother nature.

Nature is whole system of the existence, arrangement, forces, and events of all physical life that are not controlled by man.

Nature is a life giving force. Nature is pure, beautiful and simple, yet complex and chaotic. Seasons, cycles, rainfall and sunshine amplify her beauty. But Hurricanes and tornadoes show us her power to be ruthless and chaotic.

You know what else possess these similarities?

Women!

Women are nature personified. They possess a nuturing spirit. They are warm, tender, beautiful, attractive and at the same time, destructive.
Women also go through the process of seasons and cycles like nature. They blossom and fade like the trees, they experience seasons (menstruation), and as plant life and oxygen are grown from the soil, human life starts in the womb of a woman. The womb of a woman is often described as the most sacred place on earth. Women feed foetus in her womb just as mother nature gives food and water for all living things. The ecofeminist ideology highlights the similarities between women and nature.

The problem
The chaotic state of nature was a big burden for man. To ensure a calm, purposeful and meaningful existence, man created order. He created laws, created authority, loyalty, marriage, submission and other mental fabrications. All these mental creations were as a result of the many independent adventures of man in the wild. His experience is why he is often regarded as a thinker. From his many adventures, he was able to create a society for himself.This is why man is seen as a symbol of culture just as woman is a symbol of nature.

But in the process of creating of these concepts, women were excluded. Men made all these decisions without women. Marriage is a good example. In the creation process of the concept of marriage, women were not involved. Men decided the rules of marriage, men decided that women become the cleaner and home manager. Infact, men gave women the name "women". Women were completely excluded in the creation process of society. Women were made to follow orders and live how men defined them.


Man is loyal because of his experience with the chaotic state of nature. The concept of brotherhood involves trusting your fellow men to the purpose of achieving a goal. Men have experience with loyalty and trust because they've been trusting each other on the battlefield for eons. They've been trusting each other, taking turns in securing their village, protecting women and children. This experience has instilled in men, the sense of duty. But this is not so for women because she has no experience. She has has always been under the care, protection and direction of men. She has barely been by herself. Women were forbidden to go into the jungle or forest. In igboland, women went to the stream in groups. It is rare for a woman to go to the stream by herself.


The major problems with marriage and romantic relationship between both genders

1. Man has experience with loyalty because he's been running a system he created. A system rooted on honor, agreement and loyalty; the social contract. But he expects loyalty from women, who have very little experience with loyalty. The little experience women get on loyalty is gotten through childbirth and motherhood.

2. Man has succeded in taming women with a system he created, but Women were not part of the creation process of this system. Therefore, it is natural for women to rebel against a system they didn't create. The feminist struggle/ideology is justified.


3. Man must agree and accept that women are nature in flesh. They are chaotic, brutal and ruthless like nature. Like the hurricanes, like how the lion eat the sheep. Men must accept this and stop having expectations from women. Men must stop demanding that women follow a man-made order because nature is the highest order.


In all, man created a system and he's suffering from that system. He created a system and forced women to go against nature, now he's suffering for going against nature. Men today are crying because women are being women. Because women no longer follow the order of men. Because women have embraced their chaotic nature. Look around, the internet is now littered with articles on the red-pill movement. Men are even dying because they expect women to be loyal. Man created a system where he has to give loyalty to a woman in the form of servitude, protection and providence. And he expects women to follow the same system and reciprocate the loyalty. This expectation is the root of his suffering.

Men must take responsibility. Men must bring women to the negotiation table and redefine all concepts to kill off the hostility between both genders, and finally, men must accept that women/nature cannot be tamed.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 10:55pm On Jan 24, 2021
Lalasticlala
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 24, 2021
op sleep dey my eye,I no go fit read this long epistle..
just know say naija gals are......grin
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 11:05pm On Jan 24, 2021
SmellySperm:
op sleep dey my eye,I no go fit read this long epistle..

just know say naija gals are......grin

Exactly my point. You call women names because they are not what you expect them to be.

Reduce your expectations.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by TANID(m): 11:38pm On Jan 24, 2021
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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Meedon: 11:45pm On Jan 24, 2021
SmellySperm:
op sleep dey my eye,I no go fit read this long epistle..

just know say naija gals are......grin

Foo...
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Mandela27: 12:01am On Jan 25, 2021
This kyn long epistle for woman mara.

Omoh I no fii read jorh.if u know wetin good do am
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 8:48am On Jan 25, 2021
Men must take responsibility. Men must bring women to the negotiation table and redefine all concepts to kill off the hostility between both genders, and finally, men must accept that women/nature cannot be tamed.
Apt. You are 100% on point.
Men created systems and structure and women merely followed and obeyed. Now, women want to make /take decisions for themselves, by themselves and men turn around to call us names. One thing I know is, I'll raise my son to appreciate and accept gender equality. The next generation of men will be better than this.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 12:21am On Jan 26, 2021
Chii59:

Apt. You are 100% on point.
Men created systems and structure and women merely followed and obeyed. Now, women want to make /take decisions for themselves, by themselves and men turn around to call us names. One thing I know is, I'll raise my son to appreciate and accept gender equality. The next generation of men will be better than this.

Women have every right to fight for equality but men cannot understand women because men are blinded by ego. Infact, ego is man's biggest problem.

All the laws and institution he created, were to soothe and massage his ego. Marriage, for example, was created for men who have sole ownership of a woman's private part. That is why he's obsessed with a woman's private part. He created strict laws for women on how to use her vagina. He even mutilated and circumised women so that she can not enjoy her sexuality. That is why he judges a woman by what she does with her private part. A woman can be a doctor, a scientist, a inventor of a cancer vaccine, but as long as she uses her vagina against the laws of men, men will castigate her and tag her valueless.

In the world today, men are angry at women because women have gone against the laws of men. Women are living their lives the way they want. They have embraced their sexual nature. This is why men, all over the world, are angry. This is why men have littered everywhere with redpill articles. Women have gone against order. Women have gone against gender norms.

But What is wrong if women want to live life based on their own terms? Nothing! The only problem is with men. The only problem is his ego.

The major issue with both genders is the ego of men. Men must behead their ego, so that they can understand women.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by mosdii(m): 7:07am On Jan 26, 2021
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by DONFRANSKID(m): 7:31am On Jan 26, 2021
Story story....... Story. All Nigerian girls are bunch of clowns

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 8:17am On Jan 26, 2021
MrColdsweat:


Women have every right to fight for equality but men cannot understand women because men are blinded by ego. Infact, ego is man's biggest problem.

All the laws and institution he created, were to soothe and massage his ego. Marriage, for example, was created for men who have sole ownership of a woman's private part. That is why he's obsessed with a woman's private part. He created strict laws for women on how to use her vagina. He even mutilated and circumised women so that she can not enjoy her sexuality. That is why he judges a woman by what she does with her private part. A woman can be a doctor, a scientist, a inventor of a cancer vaccine, but as long as she uses her vagina against the laws of men, men will castigate her and tag her valueless.

In the world today, men are angry at women because women have gone against the laws of men. Women are living their lives the way they want. They have embraced their sexual nature. This is why men, all over the world, are angry. This is why men have littered everywhere with redpill articles. Women have gone against order. Women have gone against gender norms.

But What is wrong if women want to live life based on their own terms? Nothing! The only problem is with men. The only problem is his ego.

The major issue with both genders is the ego of men. Men must behead their ego, so that they can understand women.




The problem with some of you is, you mistake been articulated or been grammatic for wisdom.
who told you men institutionalize marriage, who told you men define gender roles ... even as an atheist you won't die if you read the bible for research sake ...

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. prov 18:22. Now who said that, God or man? find the answer nd you will know who institutionalized marriage.

Gen3:16; To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."(emphasis). when you digest & understand these words you will know who subjugated women and who defines gender roles.
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 1:18pm On Jan 26, 2021
MLTR:





The problem with some of you is, you mistake been articulated or been grammatic for wisdom.
who told you men institutionalize marriage, who told you men define gender roles ... even as an atheist you won't die if you read the bible for research sake ...

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. prov 18:22. Now who said that, God or man? find the answer nd you will know who institutionalized marriage.

Gen3:16; To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."(emphasis). when you digest & understand these words you will know who subjugated women and who defines gender roles.

Go and sit down


So, in the creation of marriage in igboland, women agreed to be traded for foodstuffs? Is it what you're saying?

In the creation of marriage in the middle east, women agreed to be beaten and battered by her husband?

Man is the symbol and custodian of culture. This is fact!

Next time, come with superior arguement and not bible passages. We are trying to be objective here.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 1:24pm On Jan 26, 2021
DONFRANSKID:
Story story....... Story. All Nigerian girls are bunch of clowns

Read properly. The issue is not Nigerian girls. The issue is, you are suffering from a system you created. You created a system where you had to subjugate women, you had to use providence and protection as bribe, for women to humble and submit to you. Now you're being exploited.

Men must stop wailing and renegotiate.
Men must restructure the system just as you southerners ask the north to restructure a system that favours them and exploits the south.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jan 26, 2021
MrColdsweat:


Go and sit down


So, in the creation of marriage in igboland, women agreed to be traded for foodstuffs? Is it what you're saying?

In the creation of marriage in the middle east, women agreed to be beaten and battered by her husband?

Man is the symbol and custodian of culture. This is fact!

Next time, come with superior arguement and not bible passages. We are trying to be objective here.




You think you know, see as you dey disgrace yourself .. you can't even differentiate between marriage, culture and personality.
marriage is an institution that bring two random people together as one, how its done in igboland, middle east or in china showcases culture and how people treat there partner in marriage is a reflection of personality.
Man is the custodian of culture buh we are talking marriage here, get your head straight.
There is no bases for arguement without verifiable references, the bible as proven to be a superior reference overtime, your generation total cumulative IQ is not even up to 1% of the knowledge in the bible. so STFU

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 7:52pm On Jan 26, 2021
MLTR:





You think you know, see as you dey disgrace yourself .. you can't even differentiate between marriage, culture and personality.
marriage is an institution that bring two random people together as one, how its done in igboland, middle east or in china showcases culture and how people treat there partner in marriage is a reflection of personality.
Man is the custodian of culture buh we are talking marriage here, get your head straight.
There is no bases for arguement without verifiable references, the bible as proven to be a superior reference overtime, your generation total cumulative IQ is not even up to 1% of the knowledge in the bible. so STFU

Man created culture and is the custodian of culture. Is marriage not a subsection of culture?

You did not answer my question.


Do you think women would agree to these degrading conditions if they were part of the creation process?

If women had a say, Do you think women would agree to be stoned to death if they sleep around?

If you reply with insults, I will ignore you.
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Shortyyy(f): 8:40pm On Jan 26, 2021
Is it a man or woman that wrote this? Because I'm yet to see a reasonable and none biased man like you here.


I watched the movie "I am woman" and I saw how long it took American women to be recognized in society. Every day rallying and carrying banners just to have the privileges men had. The song "I am woman" released by Helen Reddy in 1972 was what woke them from their slumber, it became their anthem. They played the songs in all their rallies and campaigns.

And the song was inspired by constant rejection from the male folk when Helen was pursuing her music career. But after she released this song, it broke records, because it explained every struggle women were facing then. That was a stepping stone for women's liberation in America. With the help of constant campaigns from notable women, the bill was signed.

What's my point? It's going to take more than online essays and articles for African women to be recognized in this patriarchal society.

And I doubt if they're even ready. The freebies they receive from men won't let them open their eyes and see what is wrong with them.

I also blame society partly for it, because in this part of the world, women are not valued at all, they're made to believe that their only existence is grow up, marry and reproduce, nothing else. And they're made to believe that they're the receiver while men are the giver.

A lot needs to be changed.
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 8:59pm On Jan 26, 2021
Shortyyy:
Is it a man or woman that wrote this? Because I'm yet to see a reasonable and none biased man like you here.


The issue of gender equality is simple. It's just that men are blinded by ego.

Men would rather suffer by carrying the whole load on his head and be hailed as a man, than ease his burden by sharing responsibilities and seeing women as equal.

Unfortunately, his pride is why his life is short.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Sonnobax15(m): 9:00pm On Jan 26, 2021
cheesy
Op,so if we should stop blaming women for our misfortunes,then who should we put the blames on?

Op don dey turn to woman wrapper small small

For every single fire that a man finds himself in, there's always a woman sitting behind him with a match stick,igniting wahala and problem to the man's life..
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 9:17pm On Jan 26, 2021
Sonnobax15:
cheesy
Op,so if we should stop blaming women for our misfortunes,then who should we put the blames on?

Op don dey turn to woman wrapper small small

For every single fire that a man finds himself in, there's always a woman sitting behind him with a match stick,igniting wahala and problem to the man's life..


What exactly are you blaming women for?

You are constantly hornyy. You make no effort to tame yourself. Your demand for sex is high. This is simple economics. If the demand is high, the supplier can seize supply to create artificial scarcity so that he can regulate prices. Your high demand for sex is why you're being exploited by women.

Control your sexual urges if you don't want to be manipulated by women.

Nobody can control you if you control yourself.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jan 26, 2021
MrColdsweat:


Man created culture and is the custodian of culture. Is marriage not a subsection of culture?

You did not answer my question.


Do you think women would agree to these degrading conditions if they were part of the creation process?

If women had a say, Do you think women would agree to be stoned to death if they sleep around?

If you reply with insults, I will ignore you.



Is my english not simple enough or whattt ! marriage was in existence before culture, therefore marriage as a subsection is void. however culture is a way of life (genral) peculiar to a group of people or tribe.
Maybe you should provide the date & venue men all over the world sat on a round table to allot gender roles. When God cursed adam & eve roles were apportioned to both gender its not as if adam had a choice.
As there are laws that forbids a woman from whoring there laws that forbids a man from beating a woman. we all are susceptible by culture & laws.
i don't need your reponse if its worth so much to you take it to the bank.
Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 11:08pm On Jan 26, 2021
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MLTR:




Is my english not simple enough or whattt ! marriage was in existence before culture, therefore marriage as a subsection is void. however culture is a way of life (genral) peculiar to a group of people or tribe.
Maybe you should provide the date & venue men all over the world sat on a round table to allot gender roles. When God cursed adam & eve roles were apportioned to both gender its not as if adam had a choice.
As there are laws that forbids a woman from whoring there laws that forbids a man from beating a woman. we all are susceptible by culture & laws.
i don't need your reponse if its worth so much to you take it to the bank.



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Common sense dictates that questions are answered during arguments so both parties can further delve deeper to reach a common ground and approach the truth.

I've asked you the same questions severally but you keep running in circles instead of giving answers.

You cannot see that you are blinded by ego. You rather spill nonsense and avoid the question, than admit that women cannot deliberately choose to be maltreated and disenfranchised in a system.

I cannot help you approach the truth because I cannot pursue you while you run from the truth. I cannot help you because you have decided to deceive yourself.


Sorry!!

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by MrColdsweat: 11:13pm On Jan 26, 2021
Shortyyy:
Is it a man or woman that wrote this? Because I'm yet to see a reasonable and none biased man like you here.


I watched the movie "I am woman" and I saw how long it took American women to be recognized in society. Every day rallying and carrying banners just to have the privileges men had. The song "I am woman" released by Helen Reddy in 1972 was what woke them from their slumber, it became their anthem. They played the songs in all their rallies and campaigns.

And the song was inspired by constant rejection from the male folk when Helen was pursuing her music career. But after she released this song, it broke records, because it explained every struggle women were facing then. That was a stepping stone for women's liberation in America. With the help of constant campaigns from notable women, the bill was signed.

What's my point? It's going to take more than online essays and articles for African women to be recognized in this patriarchal society.

And I doubt if they're even ready. The freebies they receive from men won't let them open their eyes and see what is wrong with them.

I also blame society partly for it, because in this part of the world, women are not valued at all, they're made to believe that their only existence is grow up, marry and reproduce, nothing else. And they're made to believe that they're the receiver while men are the giver.

A lot needs to be changed.




Women are now free. They have gone against gender norms. They're enjoying their lives.


The case of man is worse. All his life, he has to be a slave by proving that he's a man.

His only reward is a pat on his back and being called "a man".

Men needs gender equality much more than women.

Most of these feminists saw their dads work hard and pay all the bills. They saw their mums, sit at home, enjoying while their fathers toiled. Why don't they want to sit at home and enjoy like their mothers?

Why do they want to work and contribute to the home?

Men are blinded by ego that they cannot see that women want to ease the burdens of men by taking some responsibilities off him, so that men can enjoy life and even live longer.

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Re: Men Must Stop Blaming Women. by Nobody: 6:10am On Jan 27, 2021
MrColdsweat:
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Common sense dictates that questions are answered during arguments so both parties can further delve deeper to reach a common ground and approach the truth.

I've asked you the same questions severally but you keep running in circles instead of giving answers.

You cannot see that you are blinded by ego. You rather spill nonsense and avoid the question, than admit that women cannot deliberately choose to be maltreated and disenfranchised in a system.

I cannot help you approach the truth because I cannot pursue you while you run from the truth. I cannot help you because you have decided to deceive yourself.


Sorry!!



i don't owe you answers, its not a question & answer session ... make your point while i simply make mine, get over your entitlement mentality.
maltreatment is exclusive to all, it can be melted out to anyone, even a child is not left out, hence why i said earlier its more of a personality thing not gender based. Its myopic to think maltreatment & disfranchisement is limited to the women race only, whatever you tryna insinuate have it @the back of your mind there are positions & jobs men are also disenfranchised from, however what really influences disenfranchisement boils down to gender role. God allotted roles to a man & woman, men just built on it.
No human will chose to be maltreated or treated badly if he or she has a choice. God cursed adam & eve in different ways and we all are bearing it in different ways. so !
joseph ayobabalola founder of CAC church was maltreated by his wife the same way some men maltreat women

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