mariahAngel:


Oh really?
You came to this conclusion out that short sentence because why? You're in my head?

Oh! OK! How about this then....
"Your brother never see the woman wey him wan marry" because in reality, people don't just call off a wedding from one moment to the next simply because...

Guy, you wan tell me say if you get woman wey you dey head over heels in love with, you'd call off your wedding to her just like that because "the expenses are too much?"
Does that story even make any sense?

Love is not the only solution to being single, having kids etc, just like money doesn't solve all problems. IIRC,OP never described the kind of love that is clouding your judgement.
For many people love happens along the way not before. Don't get it twisted. There's space for everybody: Those who want to go in head over heels and those who want to go in eyes wide open. Take your pick.

People who got married during the first phase of COVID-19 were the lucky ones, at least their excuse of no extended family & friends were solid lol

100trillion:
My senior bro wedding was schedule for the 30th day of October 2021, his wife and her fams were on his heads, telling him to make sure the wedding is the talk of the town, that, he should rent a big hall and make sure food; drinks; meats; kola etc. are available.

So last night he told me, I asked if his wife contributed anything, he said "Monetary" No....that she said she'll bring ppl to cook food and handle things women are meant to handle.

I told my him: Snr bro, make marriage simple. Don't take loans for wedding, don't use all your savings on wedding just to please people. People come to eat, drink and leave you in povery. Manage what you have. If your wife can't help you to think straight, then she ain't wife worthy.
This afternoon, in my presence he called his in-laws and called off the wedding....thank God he has not complete the dowry.

Hope I was right?

Dude, your brother sounds hella GULLIBLE...

He’s told to throw a big wedding, he borrows to do so...
Then you tell him not to do so, and he calls off the wedding!

TELL HIM TO GROW A PAIR AND MAKE HIS OWN GADDEM DECISIONS! SMH
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trailblazar:


Love is not the only solution to being single, having kids etc, just like money doesn't solve all problems. IIRC,OP never described the kind of love that is clouding your judgement.
For many people love happens along the way not before. Don't get it twisted. There's space for everybody: Those who want to go in head over heels and those who want to go in eyes wide open. Take your pick.

Still, people don't just call off something as big as a marriage just because...
Do you know how many people are involved?
Unless he's yet to go with his people to officially seek the lady's hand.
What man would want to disgrace his father and his kinsmen that way?

100trillion:
My senior bro wedding was schedule for the 30th day of October 2021, his wife and her fams were on his heads, telling him to make sure the wedding is the talk of the town, that, he should rent a big hall and make sure food; drinks; meats; kola etc. are available.

So last night he told me, I asked if his wife contributed anything, he said "Monetary" No....that she said she'll bring ppl to cook food and handle things women are meant to handle.

I told my him: Snr bro, make marriage simple. Don't take loans for wedding, don't use all your savings on wedding just to please people. People come to eat, drink and leave you in povery. Manage what you have. If your wife can't help you to think straight, then she ain't wife worthy.
This afternoon, in my presence he called his in-laws and called off the wedding....thank God he has not complete the dowry.

Hope I was right?

Wow God bless you sir, na your type go save alot of men,

osamz007:
MAKE THE WEDDING THE TALK OF THE TOWN

something HERDSMEN cannot do

Hahaha

Freestainworld:
The wedding is finally the talk of the town now that he has called off the wedding.

Lol

100trillion:
He told them. But they said if he ain't get no money, that he should not bother taking their daughter home....

Just look at the impunity Hmmm if you have allowed him to marry from this kind of in-laws I swear he will die early, you think vagina people have sense in this economy? All they care is themselves.

mariahAngel:


Still, one don't just call off something as big as a marriage just because...
Do you know how many people are involved?
Unless he's yet to go with his people to officially seek the lady's hand.
What man would want to disgrace his father and his kinsmen that way?

If the man is marrying for them, them, he should go right ahead. like i said, there's space for everybody. Even those who will need third parties involved during the marriage.

100trillion:

that was their plan. Big wedding ceremony. But they ain't thinking about who will foot the bills after wasting money on 1day celebration.

They are insensitive.

Your last statement is correct if you allow Hypergamy people control you, you are doom, only do what you can afford

100trillion:
He told them. But they said if he ain't get no money, that he should not bother taking their daughter home....

This can't be true, wait are you for real ?

100trillion:
He told them. But they said if he ain't get no money, that he should not bother taking their daughter home....

Then leave their daughter for them. I don't take nonsense!!!

Michelle55:
You did the right thing bro.. Anyone expecting a plate of rice on my wedding day will wait till eternity because I ain't doing that shit.

If you want to celebrate with me, wait until after I've fought and conquered the stress, phases and struggles of my marriage with my husband by my side, then I will throw a big party for y'all( just come, eat and celebrate with us) I don't need anything from you

Celebrate your post marriage and not your pre-wedding!!

If he ends up using his life savings to please the wife and her family, what will he use to feed her after the wedding? No be only talk of the town, na talk of the nation e go be

Some people with unrealistic expectations sef yet they won't add a dime to make that dream a reality.. Mtcheew!

I like that! Post wedding g celebration. I think we should adopt this in Nigeria, especially in south west where people gamble with their marriages

That's why the Bible says that 'two are better than one'. As u sidan advice am now, it has gone a long way in helping him in life.

mariahAngel:

Lies!
Nobody leaves out such a crucial part that helps a story make sense.

You've been noticed. Oya swerve!

BRATISLAVA:


You're so SIMPle-minded that's all you can come up with. Enjoy your brain washed thoughts on women.

You're stupid, and nobody wants to tell you.

Mumu Nigerian girl wen no complement or fit add value to a man's life. Ode!

stevups:

But Oct is still far. You can make adjustment before that time. I planned my wedding in last Saturday of August, I got married in first week of November. I delebrately used canopy instead of hall. I used the money for hall to buy land. Don't be in haste to cancel. Please

Wow what a good decision once again wow

So snr bro no get the sense before...


Ode brother

ogub:
Calling off the wedding shouldn't have been the first thing to do he could have met with his prospective in-laws and tell them what he can afford to spend for the wedding and hear what they have to say

WHY SHOULDN'T HE CALL OFF THE WEDDING FIRST, when it is obvious the girl in quote is not the virtuous type of woman he needed to have lasting peace of mind, IS IT THE INLAWS THAT WILL LIVE WITH HIM FOREVER,
YOUR REASONING IS WHY there are many failed marriages today, MARRIAGE IS TO BE ENJOYED, NOT TO BE ENDURED,
IMMEDIATELY YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO SEE ILLEGALITY, RUN FOR LIFE, ELSE YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THAT STIGMA FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, selah!

Princeps:
Mumu Nigerian girl wen no complement or fit add value to a man's life. Ode!

You are stupid, and nobody wants to tell you.


It's SIMPle-minded, empty Nigerian boys like you who see me in the mall and begin begging to be my sugar boys. Mumus like you.

You have the mentality of an idiotic broke boy.

Get out of here before you disgrace the true men with your pathetic representation of them. You have nothing to offer any girl you meet. Shame on you.

100trillion:
My senior bro wedding was schedule for the 30th day of October 2021, his wife and her fams were on his heads, telling him to make sure the wedding is the talk of the town, that, he should rent a big hall and make sure food; drinks; meats; kola etc. are available.

So last night he told me, I asked if his wife contributed anything, he said "Monetary" No....that she said she'll bring ppl to cook food and handle things women are meant to handle.

I told my him: Snr bro, make marriage simple. Don't take loans for wedding, don't use all your savings on wedding just to please people. People come to eat, drink and leave you in povery. Manage what you have. If your wife can't help you to think straight, then she ain't wife worthy.
This afternoon, in my presence he called his in-laws and called off the wedding....thank God he has not complete the dowry.

Hope I was right?

The supposed bride to be I will assume is a retired but never tired Ashaawoo who wants to shame her enemies.

BRATISLAVA:



You are stupid, and nobody wants to tell you.


It's SIMPle-minded, empty Nigerian boys like you who see me in the mall and begin begging to be my sugar boys. Mumus like you.

You have the mentality of an idiotic broke boy.

Get out of here before you disgrace the true men with your pathetic representation of them. You have nothing to offer any girl you meet. Shame on you.

Begging to be sugar boy got me laughing..lol

HopeVictor:

Begging to be sugar boy got me laughing..lol

Seen a lot of things.

Some of those guys with well carved beards hanging around fancy places, they are just looking for how to ask you for such things. It is always so surprising that some young men do that for a living, basically prostituting themselves. Some of these guys are very young.

It's just that there's no point writing threads on it.

BRATISLAVA:


Seen a lot of things.

Some of those guys with well carved beards hanging around fancy places, they are just looking for how to ask you for such things. It is always so surprising that some young men do that for a living, basically prostituting themselves. Some of these guys are very young.

It's just that there's no point writing threads on it.

Chai

HopeVictor:

Chai

Truly wonders never end. It won't be surprising he's one of such guys.

trailblazar:


Love is not the only solution to being single, having kids etc, just like money doesn't solve all problems. IIRC,OP never described the kind of love that is clouding your judgement.
For many people love happens along the way not before. Don't get it twisted. There's space for everybody: Those who want to go in head over heels and those who want to go in eyes wide open. Take your pick.

I don't know the conversation you were having, but this comment has caught my attention.

It's precise, and oddly accurate in all ramifications.

BRATISLAVA:


Truly wonders never end. It won't be surprising he's one of such guys.

I thought it was even the women approaching the guys to be their sugar mummy..

HopeVictor:

I thought it was even the women approaching the guys to be their sugar mummy..

The guys don't want to expose themselves so that it will look like it only happens one way. There are female prostitutes, and there are male prostitutes. Believe it.

I tell you that they lurk in malls and fancy places looking for women who will take care of them in more ways than one. These small boys don't respect their elders anymore. They will walk up to you and yarn the rubbish, then come online and tell you how women contribute nothing to the lives of men.

BRATISLAVA:


The guys don't want to expose themselves so that it will look like it only happens one way. There are female prostitutes, and there are male prostitutes. Believe it.

I tell you that they lurk in malls and fancy places looking for women who will take care of them in more ways than one. These small boys don't respect their elders anymore. They will walk up to you and yarn the rubbish, then come online and tell you how women contribute nothing to the lives of men.

No wonder the women uses them as trash too

HopeVictor:

No wonder the women uses them as trash too

Ask the guys on this forum what they were dating older women for, and see if they won't say money was involved.

It goes both ways.

Freestainworld:
The wedding is finally the talk of the town now that he has called off the wedding.

Definitely is now the talk of the town..

Michelle55:
You did the right thing bro.. Anyone expecting a plate of rice on my wedding day will wait till eternity because I ain't doing that shit.

If you want to celebrate with me, wait until after I've fought and conquered the stress, phases and struggles of my marriage with my husband by my side, then I will throw a big party for y'all( just come, eat and celebrate with us) I don't need anything from you

Celebrate your post marriage and not your pre-wedding!!

If he ends up using his life savings to please the wife and her family, what will he use to feed her after the wedding? No be only talk of the town, na talk of the nation e go be

Some people with unrealistic expectations sef yet they won't add a dime to make that dream a reality.. Mtcheew!

You're a BAE