Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

You want to know undiluted truth?. Go and marry your fellow Christian man and stop wasting your time. Christians see Muslims as unbelievers.


"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14

Religious differences matter a lot in Nigerian environment. Nigerian Christians have religious inclination toward Christianity. Some Muslims parents marry off their daughters to Christian man because in their brain, they think husband's religion(Christian) is wife's religion. But Christian wife will never do the same. Christian woman by 80% will not revert to Islam under her Muslim husband. Examples; Fashola and Tinubu.

Some years back, a Christian man married a Christian woman. Before then, he went to meet her father who is a Christian. Her father told his son in-law that "my daughter will never change her religion. You prayer your Muslim prayers, she prays her Christian prayers". This old fool didnt care to utter this in public at the wedding. This happened in Yorubaland some years back. So go and marry your fellow Christian man. Otherwise the Muslims man will regret later in life. All his children will be Christians bcus kids are close to their mothers in their early stage while father goes to work.

Go to your church and marry 'bro Samuel'

gasparpisciotta:
No.

So long as none of you have any fanatical view about his/her religion

Moslems are polygamous in nature. Can she deal with it?

Moslems views are different. Now which religion will the children follow?

This is confusion loading which brings strife.

What of the man's family nkor?

If he is not a fanatical Muslim and you are not really a devoted crazy Christian, the relationship will work. There are a lot of successful mixed-religious families in the Yoruba land that I have seen. Signs of non-fanatical Muslims;

- He can enter a Church with you, if necessary. Maybe for a child's dedication.
- He doesn't care about praying 5x daily
- He doesn't have any Alfa or Sheik he's crazy about or seeks spiritual help from.
- He's not from a crazy Alfa/Sheik family. If he is and his parents are still alive and active, it is a no-no. They will frustrate your life.

Terms and Conditions if eventually the relationship leads to marriage;
- He must not attempt to convert you to Islam, and you too will not attempt to convert him. Either of you can be convinced to switch in the future but, it must not be coerced.
- Because women stay longer with the kids, he must allow the children to follow you to Church. A mother needs to keep an eye on what the kids are learning. If some of the kids naturally fancy Islam, you must not stop them. From the experience that I've got from mixed religious marriages, children always pick their mothers' religion. All of Ajimobi's children are Christian. All of Remi Tinubu children are Christians.

Love transcends religion, ethnic group or colour but, you don't want a complicated life. While you are in love, use your brain to analyze all the points I listed above. If you see any sign of fanatism in him, run cos he will attempt to convert you after marriage. If you don't mind Islam, then don't care at all. Just watch his morals.

Arijude:
all muslims are fanatical.

Did you know Tinubu is a Muslim and also wealthy man yet his wife is a deacon in redeemed and many of his children are xtians

All black people that follow these slavery religions are foolish....

Tcwork:

Are you ready to change your religion? If you are then it's all good but if not you should reconsider

The way the girl sounds, she is a little bit religion fanatics, if the guy is also like her or more, the marriage will have problems.

kilonshele101:
Religion that should be an ultimate tool of unity and peace in now a tool of division. What a pity.


Imagine some hypocrites telling this young girl that her feelings for the person she love are mere infatuation. In power of what you believe in, may the very thing they cherish be regarded as worthless by others.


Some even said she's not a Christian, for feeling what she should naturally and normally feel towards the one her heart chose, denying her of her religion. In power of what they believe, May they be denied and rejected for following their heart and choice at the most important stage of their life.


I wonder what is it in marriage when there no LOVE and CARE, yet some idiots are not even thinking of the most important ingredients of marriage, no wonder there are many pastors with extramarital sexual scandals.


If you believe they are not good for each not because they don't love each other, not because they are not ready to stand by each other at every stage of their life, not because they not faithful to each other, not because they are not ready to support and assist each at their darkest times, not because they won't be comfortable and happy with each others, not because they not ready to tolerate each other, but for some absurd and controversial reasons, then I pray with everything in me, may that same reasons prevent you from getting That very important thing you're looking for.


You should ask yourself why do pastors and alfas have marriage issues AT ALL, when they (above all things) strictly follow the criteria some hypocrites here pointing to.


My sister, I truly understand what you are going through at the moment, I can't help but to wonder, how can religion be causing this much emotional pain to its brethren.

If I should tell you to follow your heart at this part of the world , I'm just being unrealistic. The truth is that it's both of you against the world, so The question is, do you truly love each other, then are you both ready to fight your way to be together, can you cope, of course not with each other, but with the world which might include your families. Talk to your partner about the future, ensure you reach a definite agreement taking into consideration your children, inform your families about the agreement. You can even make it a written agreement. If both families are okay with the agreement. Then fine you are good to go, if they are not, then you fight your way, you have the law backing you, but honestly, I won't advise you to have issues with your families. So you should talk to your partner more on adjustment. And if you can't cope with the struggle, then you do what they want coz your peace of mind is important. Give yourself some time coz TIME is the only thing that can cure your heart after departing him. I'm sure you will get yourself back on track In no time, as a young graduate you still have your life to live and achievements to accomplish. During the process you might meet a CHRISTIAN guy, then you will know if you are to thank them or remind them.

Ur epistle too long cos of repetition, don't blame those who bring out loopholes in her opinion, if she truly loves this guy as you think and not infatuation, handsome, rich, societal pressure, she will not come out online to ask people opinion in getting married to him. In fact she will ready to convert to whichever religion the guy is practising.

For her to ask such question says a lot about her, herself, it shows, she too she is a religious person, if the guy in question happened to be religious like her, oga in next 10 years the marriage will be shaking and heading towards rock.

Religion matters in marriage oooo. Oga read your Bible.

It doesn't matter. You two worship the same God. However, seek God's counsel, and if you're reasonably convinced, go ahead, not minding what anyone says or would say.

As long as the only seeming incompatibility you have is on religious ground. Getting around this, you two have to get a good understanding of each other's religion, with no one nursing the idea of converting the other.

For the kids, they should be exposed to both religions, and when they come of age, they'll choose their path.

It doesn't matter if both are liberals. If not, then it matters.

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

For You to even ask this question at all, you are not yet a Christian but just a church goer. Even me that is a Muslim before I became a Christian know that, it really matters BUT Still ask God for direction from God. Only God knows your true direction. If God said you should go, dont look back.

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

The one & only true religion is LOVE. Christ emphasized on this. Let your heart guide both of you & not fanaticism. As long as both of you have clearly spell out the boundaries & agreed to abide by it. So many have married within the same religion and yet living in hell.

Stop believing in this colonial 'god', both of you.

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

Hey babe in matters like this, everyone is entitled to their own opinion! What matters is ur own decision and that of ur family members.

The fact it didn't work for madam A, doesn't mean it won't work for madam B.

If you want me to say no it doesn't matter sorry I have to disappoint u. I know you love him because of his money that is the reason you don't want to lose him. What matters is what comes after bcose the passion will fade after sometime and what will keep the union going is the fear of God. And you know the two religion doctrine is antagonistic to each other. I believe in a Jesus Christ

In marriage, it's about persons NOT religions...
Tinubu is married to a Christian,
Fashola is married to a Christian,
Many others are marriages of mixed religions, I'm even thinking of marrying a fine N educated Hausa/Fulani babe Christian OR Muslim I do care! So marriage is a choice afterall.
You marry or stay single N live longer!!!

pweetychyka:
Hey babe in matters like this, everyone is entitled to their own opinion! What matters is ur own decision and that of ur family members.

The fact it didn't work for madam A, doesn't mean it won't work for madam B.

Well said, kinda true alright

I have seen alot of couples with different religion practice living happily together. And I have also seen alot of couple with same religion that don't have peace in there marriage. See let me tell you this, as long as you love the guy and has all the qualities you want. Please go for him. Don't let religion make you loose your chances of getting a good husband. Good husband are very scarce this days to get. Na mad men full around. This life is a dice, do what pleases you and enjoy your life.

Everthing depends on who truly both of you are. In fact, you are both unbelievers to a Buddhist!! Nevertheless, never associate yourself with any religious fanatic; be it Christian, Muslim, Hinduist, Buddhist etc.

Religion remains man made, and only foolish people and hallucinators take it too seriously. What matter most is humanity; which is the only logical view to life.

If you were born in India, probably you would have been practicing Hinduism. Lord Krishna or Shiva etc could have been your own God.

You are practicing either christianity or Islam today because some foreigners came to Nigeria many years ago to brainwash us by taken away our own made religion for theirs.

Therefore, no religion is divine. All are man made and they will remain to be so regardless of the twist those who are practicing them are churning out.

Be happy with life and enjoy it while lasts without being wicked to others. Irrespective of the religion people practice or without any, good and bad people are everywhere.

seyiomotunise:

That some people are hypocrite don't mean all religious people are hypocrite. Religion matters in relationship. In Christianity the two must become one after marriage. Islam permits polygamy while Christianity preaches monogamy. Therefore, two parallel lines cannot meet.

It is left for the person to decide. Irrespective of any religion's perspective on anything people should be left alone to decide their own fate.

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

My point is religion isn't parameters to a fruitful married life. Please don't let some religious bigot mislead you about being a devoted or not . You guys can be of same religion and have problems in your marital life. My muslim sister got married to a xtian and I think from my view outside , he supported my in all part of life, sponsored her through PhD, now a reader which has ever been her dream.. Anyone telling you to leave coz of religion would not provide you the man of your dream rather gives you worst one. If he has all the qualities you want in a man, sit him down , strike a truthful deal with him , know his mind , discuss like you would like to talk about how many kids you guys want together, None of ur family or people here will neither enjoy nor suffer with you in the future.

Jesuisbelle:
Can light and darkness stay together?

See weytin religion do to Africa...black man is cursed I swear

Peace081:
Thanks so much for this question,
My dear sister, it matters OK, forget about all the care n love he's showing u now, think about the future of your kids, how will u raise them?
Pls don't confused those innocent children oo
Cc Seun
Cc Mynd44
should pls move this to front page

Ontop religion white man used to enslave and brainwash us ... it is finished for the black race

ENIGMATIC2023:
Light and darkness cannot live together

My mom is xtian and my dad is Muslim ,my uncle also married a Christian woman...pls go and die sir

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

It does, for the sanity of your kids

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

It matters.

kingxsamz:
Lol, people keep asking, how will you raise your kids? What about your kids future? Clowns. You don't need religion to raise kids. If that were the case, most Nigerian folks would be morally upright.

But you blindly argue that a child will follow the parents religion, remember? The irony is that you forget yourself in the assertion.

Same thing happened to me but I was able to walk away, he promised I was going go be allowed practice my religion in his house, I thought of my family and everyone I was going to cause pain. Then I thought of my unborn kids, who was going to name them? Would they be allowed to church? The salvation of my unborn kids was a major discouraging factor, so I walked away.
He is married with kids now, checked me up to say he has forgiven me for not marrying him without good reasons, still feels he would be happier with me. He is a very good man and I did love him but salvation is greater!

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

It matters and must be considered before courtship.
Can two work together, unless they have a common understanding.
A time will come and your faith, beliefs, religion will be tested. I'm not saying you should not marry him....the choice is yours to make.

�% yes ooooooo

From experience if you go ahead na you go regret. Thank you!

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

Foolish girl, continue. By the time you are about to give birth to your second child, he will be marrying his second wife and before your last child comes, he has taken his fourth wife. By then your foolish eyes will open.



So you have never read where Bible said that don't be yoked with the unbeliever because your faith is at risk.


Intertribal marriage can sound sweet and classy but wait until crises erupts in the marriage then u realize that resolving it is another battle.


Why Muslim that hate Christians with passion. Even a Hindu or Pagan is better. You are just a conquest to him not a partner. Go ahead and marry him, time will open your eyes to reality.


I blame una soft parents that allow all these nonsense