Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

Will u help him with the mechanical work...use ur brain ...there are gender roles...seems like u are lazy in nature

YorubaLord:
Seriously, I don't blame these ladies. It's the men I've got to blame as they lured these ladies with material wealth so, they feel entitled.

U have a point. Most men dont no how to toast or talk to a woman. They just bring money as if sex& love are commodities to be bought

Not 'some' ladies but 'most' ladies.
Na their mama dey teach them.
That's why their mama always want them to marry rich man.

Offpoint1:
Just marry an understanding woman and save yourself this epistle. An understanding woman who truly love you would find joy in spending her last penny to support you both in courtship and marriage.

The youths of nowadays are after women with big asses, boobs, fine faces and all sorts of physical appearance and the end result is wailing and whining.

Big asses/boobs and artificial beauty ladies they have an asset every man wants, so dating felt like they're doing you a favor. They've exchanged their senses with their "assets"

See you talk as if understanding women are millions and many. Kikikiki

#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv


The Kain nonsense wey many men dey tolerate dey shock me..
ordinary girlfriend wey I no dey give shishi.. I dey control them like herds of cow talk much a wife wey I use my money marry.. if you no gree obey my COMMANDS I pursue you commot bring in another woman..
The earlier this weaklings called men stop being emotional and become rational, they scales would fall off their eyes.. but till then, premium tears dey wait them..
that useless man now go work tire to carter for the family only him, too much pressure and probably die when the kids are in the University and the wife would be alive to enjoy when dey graduate and become establish later..
most african men are suffering and I no pity Dem.. Weaklings

Stockquality:
They re all useless girls. I have spent for a lady,sent for a lady,cooked,done every but still she remained adamant,like 3 diff girls o. They are all wired to be promiscuous,lazy,greedy,arrogant and fromnpoor background. I dated the rich,that one was super arrogant, money conscious ad social media freak. Its been 7months now I never sex any gal. My ex who realised I loved her in 2015 suddenly started calling me and said she even bought gifts forme during val. On the D day I off my phone,can't go back to my vomit. During their prime,they won't use their head and study life,its from one guy to the other,Then by age 30,lady already looking like 45,desperate to settle down,by age 35,no hope. I hate majority of naja ladies and I wish ritualsts ca reduce ther numbers. They are ungrateful and would mock u in disguise.

You are on point..

knowhowk:
Work Hard ,Find a Surrogate mother ,Sign an agreement to carry baby/ Babies for you at least two ,Further your contract with her to take care of them till 2 to 3 years ,when they have started Schools ,Work hard to build a good home ,Hire a house Help and a good cook ,U can pay a good school with good environment to have them in the school till you close .Later move them to boarding school .Enjoy your life and stay away from Wife/ Woman Palava

if I get money,this kind plan go sure for me e de my mind..
I don't need a woman that will shorten my life span,those folks are devil's incarnate even the gentle ones..

Reex12:
pls lets remove sentiment and answer this question, IS IT A MANS JOB TO DO CHORES?
how selfish can u be, so a man will work morning-evening(mosttimes late in the night) and still come bck and do the chores so what is your work in the house then? to sit dwn and wtch zeeworld from morning till night and open ur legs like a lovepeddler

Bros you sef why you trying to reason with a feminists? A naija one for that matter. Modern marriage choke her there!
Na so we see say a woman in the UAE filed for a divorce because the husband was too nice, too caring, provides and even does house chores. She talk say her spouse never argued or yelled at her and was always kind.
You can never please a female.

I still cant conjoin my head around this saying... rubbish

Kriss216:
Stay away from Nigerian girls and avoid threads like this.

but we can't stay away from our fellow country citizens, am sorry we can't stay away from Nigerian girls

knowhowk:
Work Hard ,Find a Surrogate mother ,Sign an agreement to carry baby/ Babies for you at least two ,Further your contract with her to take care of them till 2 to 3 years ,when they have started Schools ,Work hard to build a good home ,Hire a house Help and a good cook ,U can pay a good school with good environment to have them in the school till you close .Later move them to boarding school .Enjoy your life and stay away from Wife/ Woman Palava

Lol! Bad niggar

You are right.

Kebbiprince:
In the marriage setting the two have become one and therefore should partake in doing things together, chores, finances etc

Its shocking how some women feel its ok to earn almost the same money as their men and feel zero obligation to contribute to anything in the family. Not just that, they now selfishly insist on spending their partners money. Who is raising these girls to think like that?
I have a colleague whose wife works very much like him yet she contributed nothing to the home but instead sends her own money to her family as if the man has no family too to send money to. This selfish act must stop!

That statement can only come from 2 tribes of pple in this country. Edo women and Delta women

A lady once told a guy, "Don't refer me to my salary again, it's a lady's right to ask a bf or any male friends for money".

Lobatan

Jaqenhghar:

Is that the best you can come up with? Olodo. I wonder when men became this shameless. You become the woman in a relationship waiting for handouts tomorrow you will say you are alpha. No he only alpha na alfa for mosque

Simp

Pepe

Lolo.

specialmati:
dont just marry any woman discuss how you want to run your family with them before engaging them to avoid this kind of story.if you sense selfishness look for someone else women many na

Some women pretend and hide their true characters in order to cajole the men into marriage. Na after the wedding the man go hear am.

I think this habit boils down to their mothers. Most African mothers have that entitled mentality. Before you marry any lady pay attention to every details of the mum's character, their is a chance that your wife wud adopt 80percent of her mum's character. I knw a family where d mother waits for the father to get back from work bfor they can buy something as little as Maggi and grounded pepper, and she has money cos she trades but wud never spend a kobo out of her own money for the family upkeep, instead she prefers to join women meetings and buy very expensive wrappers. And I see the daughters following her foot steps.

U are right somehow but I grew up in a home where MY DAD DID EVERYTHING.I MEAN EVERYTHING. Even my stepmom who worked in a top corporate firm as a top tier manager NEVER DID A THING WHEN IT COMES TO HER KIDS.
MY POPS DID EVERYTHING
So I see life in such light that I should do it all but if U are rich enough, alaye sharing formula go dey o

Kebbiprince:
In the marriage setting the two have become one and therefore should partake in doing things together, chores, finances etc

Its shocking how some women feel its ok to earn almost the same money as their men and feel zero obligation to contribute to anything in the family. Not just that, they now selfishly insist on spending their partners money. Who is raising these girls to think like that?
I have a colleague whose wife works very much like him yet she contributed nothing to the home but instead sends her own money to her family as if the man has no family too to send money to. This selfish act must stop!

In Islam that's the way it is....a man must use his money to take care of his wife,that's not foolish but responsible

This is the reason you must know who you are getting married to. Before you get married to her, she must have tell you that your money is ours and her money is for she alone. So when you fail to know her well. Take whatever married gave you.

Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

Most women will not mention these things you have written up there before the wedding because they desperately want to be married and answer Mrs. They will pretend to be the submissive wife to cajole the man. But after the wedding, true color will now come out. Believe me, no high value men will agree to marry a woman with the kind of attitude you have stated there. Unless say na lazy and broke fukk boy.

Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

Are you implying that a woman's maximum respect and submission for her husband be reduced because she contributes financially to the home?

Also, why assume that the OP (Nigerian Man) doesn't assist his wife with house chores, did he at any point mention that?

chiommy123:
She is saving it for the raining day na

No be only raining day. Na sunning day. Mtchew.

BUT here is some helpful tips to help and please do not ignore the Red flags when dating
1, if you do not trust your fiance with money before you marry her/ him, then please run away and remain single. I do not care how pretty or handsome he or she is. You will not regret this.
2. If your fiance is very stingy with his or her money, na you dey spend all time and common bottle water to buy for you, they cannot buy something small for you, even to buy a t-shirt for you is wahala. their excuse is always I do not have money, naija is hard, I do not have work. please run away and remain single. You just save yourself a lifetime of headache.
3. If your fiance has never bought you or rarely buy you a gift or food or cooked something for you, please run away and run very fast. It is thought that counts - sometimes even a gift as cheap as a slipper speaks volume.
4. If you do not know how your fiance makes his or her money and their explanation of how they are making their money does not make sense, please run away. They have money but how they make money na jamb question, please run.
5. Marriage is compromise , sometimes it is not always 50/50. The goal is to be open to your spouse with money, always have a discussion with your spouse when it comes to spending money or giving out money and as long both of you are in agreement then you can move on and enjoy your marriage. Do not cheat your spouse financially- It is wrong and it is create a seed of distrust
6. Sometimes the woman spend more, some times the man spends more, WHO CARES- IT is not competition. As long you and your spouse understand and agree with how money is spend , then there is no problem.

luminouz:


Lmaooooo


I knew you'd bring up the house chores part. Dem use house chores do Una ni? It doesn't matter how hard he provides, you still won't be satisfied. Give her washing machine, a 2 bedroom flat and a maid. She would still complain.
If you don't bring money, they complain, you bring money but don't help them to wash plate, na wahala. It's only Nigerian girls who equate financial independence and house chores.
Chai, these girls are just plain fuqin lazy.

The time don dey come wey Nigerian men that are doing well will start paying women to have their babies and disappear after birthing the baby. Then just employ a nanny to care for the baby. Na the same money wey the man go give him wife on a good day he go give the nanny and she will be very grateful.

ednut1:
how much be house maid Any woman that can’t do 60 40 of 65 35. Should quit her job too and stay at home na. So make she Dey save her millions while we men suffer to provide ba. Naso

So, you'll rather employ the services of a maid to train your child or children??

Our society is evolving and it’s obvious that the income of a husband is no longer enough to sustain the home. In most cases, both partners need to work full time. For the partnership to truly work without resentment, if the woman contributes financially to running the house, the man needs to contribute equally to domestic chores and child rearing. If a man wants to complain about his woman not supporting financially, he has the moral obligation to be sure he is supporting his wife in her traditional roles as well.

Amb1045:
Can you really trust an African man. Can an African women really trust their husbands with what is happening in the society. An African man can wake up tomorrow morning and he will say he wants a second wife nothing will happen. I don't blame the women because it's part of our culture to have freedom. Let me use my grandma as a case study, she and her husband made thousands in Zaria back in the days through combined business buit two house in the southeast of the country when they relocated back east. Suddenly my grandfather went for a second wife who started dragging those properties my granny work for just imagine. In this part of the world our culture don't give women value, they can be kickout anyday and nothing will happen. Just watch people that divorce already. people learn from other peoples mistake. Don't blame Nigerian women blame the culture. Use Fani Kayode as a case study. if that man is in USA he will broke from series of divorce

Great points.

StacyO:


So, you'll rather employ the services of a maid to train your child or children??

nope. We do the training she does the chores

Very selfish statement from a couple that claim to be one

If she wanted to pay bills, you would probably complain because it hurt your fragile ego.
¯\_( ツ)_/¯

Anyway, you should make her feel so amazing that she can't wait to give you her money. lol