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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by adajoe555: 10:29am On Mar 20, 2021
The problem here is how your husband passed the message... You should try talking to him about it. issues like this , you are suppose to talk it through with your husband. and try and work on your self. try to control what you eat and more of fruits and vegetables, and exercise... check up this group on Facebook

" Weight losers Nigeria" the group will help you alot in losing weight.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Freelance363: 10:30am On Mar 20, 2021
do u like the way u are now? Doesn't that pastor's wife's body make u feel somehow about urself?
Just let him help u regain ur normal shape.He only told u what u should do,that's all.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by 99thEnemy(m): 10:37am On Mar 20, 2021
cococandy:
and this is supposed to make her sad?

No, indifferent just like any other comment.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by timjones1(m): 10:39am On Mar 20, 2021
Just shut it and go and work on yourself.. I don't know what ladies actually want.. You were chubby then gave birth with the good life you added small. When you say you added small, we all know what it means, for you to admit that your added.. We know a woman's body changes post partum, but what is actually wrong with your husband telling you to work on yourself a little. Did he ask you to be skinny? Go back to being that chubby self you were, not extra-large chubby. So you mean you have no right to complain about pot belly from your husband? Go and work out!! For your own good.. If not, you go still come here come write full page on how your husband is cheating on you with a less chubby lady

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Offpoint1: 10:39am On Mar 20, 2021
Lefulefu comma see chun chin o, you wey like dem biggrin
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by samwillyco1(m): 10:41am On Mar 20, 2021
HopeVictor:
This greedy attitude from men is very childish and wicked..if you don't want a chubby woman you go for the slim ones..stop stressing and frustrating women after they've given birth..it's a natural thing that they will add weight..

What are you even saying?
You should advice her to work on herself by storming the gym house, do enough exercise, eat more of vegetables and fruits, avoid fat giving food and eat more of protein and fiber giving food, she should stop eating late at night, get Tommy belt ( abortion belt) for her protruding Tommy , etc and you are trying to send her to her Early grave.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by kushme: 10:43am On Mar 20, 2021
LordKO:
I've no doubt that you're a hypocrite, citing your first paragraph "why are Nigerian Men so insensitive." Your husband isn't a standard for Nigerian men, so stop being as insensitive as your husband.

Meanwhile, stop whining and do what you know is the right thing to do under the circumstance, your husband tactlessness notwithstanding.

Wahala for any man whose core purpose of marrying a woman is because of her physical shape and beauty. An associate who married a slim woman five years ago has a balloon-like entity in the same woman today.


grin Yeee .. ballon-like entity .

Most young females are fat fvcks or potential land whales in slim bodies. The traits start manifesting when you finally wife them up.

You know, Naija struggles kept some of these females slim for a while until they got access to a kitchen and excess food to cook and eat at all times.

The lazy and ever hungry ones are so desperate to get married cos they see men as a way out of occasional lack of good food to eat.
So, they try to eat much to cover for lost times of good food and probably trying to satisfy their never ending long throat thereby not paying attention to their new ballon-like entity status cheesy .
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Ayennah: 10:45am On Mar 20, 2021
Continue to cry, infact you can cry for the next six months, but the truth remains that your husband truly love you that's why he told you to work on yourself, he can decide to keep quiet and will be loosing interest in you gradually, before you know it, you will not be sexually attractive to him again, move close to the said pastor's wife, get some of her secrete and let him see you making efforts, that's all, every man want a woman they can brag on.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by gabicon: 10:45am On Mar 20, 2021
Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

There is a saying " women go into marriage thinking they can change their husbands and men go into marriage thinking their wives body will remain the same, they both end up terribly disappointed". It rather unfair for your husband to compare you to someone else, but the more important thing is that you ensure you are living healthy, check your weight blood pressure, cholesterol etc, if you need to loose a few pounds work on it and hit the gym to get that your killer curves. Do this for yourself and boost your self esteem and have a chat with your husband on how uncomfortable his utterances make you feel.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by streamsofjoy(f): 10:46am On Mar 20, 2021
OMG! Women we are in a deep mess in this part of the world. A man compares his wife with another woman, something I know that even the man will not take from his wife, and all the advice I see flying around is- men are moved by what they see, u no longer burst his brain,he just told u the truth bla bla bla. Only few persons adduced health benefits as good grounds for weight loss.

Madam, that man doesn't love u again. He is crushing on ur pastors wife and other women out there. He saw u fat before he married u, and I suppose he should know that a woman at her reproductive stage is most likely to become a little or very fat.

Sadly, its a mans world a woman will be expected to stick to a broke man and dares not compare him with her "pastors husband" else...

My advice, work on ur weight for ur health not for him. Get something very lucrative doing with ur life. Mingle with important people and get connection. Disconnect from him emotionally because he has, but pls play ur wifely duties religiously and just do what will make u happy and give him peace. He will yet complain about something else, that will not bother u again because u are already disconnected. Just make sure u are also at peace within u.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Hassanmaye(m): 10:48am On Mar 20, 2021
merieam16:
He loves u...buh he just told u his mind.No vex ,just try work on urself at least let him see u responded to wat he told u
basa banba kinsama 50likes
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Neddyogu(m): 10:49am On Mar 20, 2021
It seems u we're adding weight in the wrong places. Oya hit the gym and stop digging ur grave with ur teeth. No be everything u suppose eat.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by MrNipplesLover(m): 10:49am On Mar 20, 2021
Some of us are truly like that.

So sorry.

Many men chose for what they are seeing they sometimes don't care about how it would look in the future to come as time goes on (though unpredictable).

That's why if you are marrying your partner, you've gat to make it your choice and must not be compromised.

I laugh anytime I see some men drool over a woman's beauty or curve or shape. If those attributes depreciate in future, would you still drool over her?

Some women as well, they'll be blushing over a CUTE guy. If his cuteness becomes tarnished in the future, would you still blush over him.


When you're choosing a partner, it must be your choice and must not be imperiled.

Cos body can change later.

Try and adopt workout, exercise, sis.

I won't support that man.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by samwillyco1(m): 10:50am On Mar 20, 2021
Please work on yourself by storming the gym house, do enough exercise, eat more of vegetables and fruits, avoid fat giving food and eat more of protein and fiber giving food, you should stop eating late at night, get Tommy belt ( abortion belt) for your protruding Tommy , etc

With this you will look younger, be of good health and shape etc.
If you are in Onitsha I will help you if you want.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by pragmatistm(m): 10:50am On Mar 20, 2021
Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?
Sorry for your husband's comments.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by JBL316: 10:52am On Mar 20, 2021
I dont understand some of the opinions here...
As desirable as marriage may be....no be by force oooooo
Humans naturally change with age just that that of women are more obvious due to child bearing for the men. (some of which are not grateful)
Am sure this woman in question, if she pays attention the husband go get comma for 1 place or the other. For instance, the guy mate dey drive brand new cars and he is struggling to buy a tokunbo.....his mate are driving Cars and rides, he is driving moto. There's no place for comparison of ur spouse to another.
Of course, u may work on ur self for ur self not for some ungrateful folks! Ladies appreciate ur self for who u are, where there are need for changes pls change if u can...afteralls u cannot come and kill ur self for one man wey go run after another thing in skirts while ur body may still be in the morgue.

INITIATE DESIRED CHANGES IN UR SPOUSE IN LOVE...IN LOVE!

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Hassanmaye(m): 10:53am On Mar 20, 2021
ZINIIBANKS:
Lefulefu see me self no chop orobo again cause dem hard to nack for bed grin grin
I fûçk one some weeks back and I regret am grin na me dey do all the work she just lye for bed like ply wood grin
Op be like say you fat u self go slim down grin if u like yourself you won't be fat ask doctors the implications that comes with being fat they will tell u .
And leave that stupid Zzor alone make she dey yarn dust angry
is she married
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:56am On Mar 20, 2021
ojun50:


go and marry first then tell yr husband what you wrote here.

i come in peace
Ignore her dude. It is her type that will clean the entire village of a man who accepts to marry them out of excitement. The husband will beat them to stupor but they will still be enduring it while giving foolish advice online.
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by divineappo(m): 10:57am On Mar 20, 2021
Fahdiga:
Instead of you to work on your shortcomings and be better than those he compares you with you are here nagging.
abi OO

Some women don't even understand how to keep their marriage

Her husband is telling her what she needs to fix in her body, and she is nagging
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by pansophist(m): 11:00am On Mar 20, 2021
That little fat is not little fat. You're downplaying how fat you are, also saying that things are good and it's the reason why you added weight is a lie, it's simply laziness. The time you spent posting and reading all these comments could have been spent searching online on how to loose fat.

Are you richer than Beyonce? And all other female billionaires that still keep fit and watch what they eat? It's laziness and lack of accountability, not because things are good. If he is actively bringing home the money and taking good care of the family, then you should also actively be looking fine for him. He didn't ask for too much.

But what he did wrong is comparing you with the pastors wife, that's a no no. He could have ask both of you to hit the gym together, become your fitness coach and just lead. I'm sure you'll gladly follow.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Kondomatic(m): 11:00am On Mar 20, 2021
pocohantas:


Seems your stomach is like drum too. 99% of hna belle be like Geepee tank.
Goan sit down enyia.


Big stomach is a swag on its own, you ladies of today just don't like better thing. SMH


Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Regex: 11:01am On Mar 20, 2021
Martinez39s:
You story isn't complete. Whatever be the case, discipline yourself and go lose those fats.

It's just that simple. But she has chosen to manipulate the man with her tears.

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Mummymahdi(f): 11:01am On Mar 20, 2021
Fahdiga:
Instead of you to work on your shortcomings and be better than those he compares you with you are here nagging.
f



She was never skinny b4 and being chubby becomes her shortcomings?

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by omaclarry(m): 11:01am On Mar 20, 2021
Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life


those saying the man is insensitive, reason these two assertions from the lady... she over ate and forgot about her physical health, wants her husband to accept her new orobo status even if its an opposite of what he fell for...
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by ModestGal(f): 11:03am On Mar 20, 2021
Hmmn, see comments
This is only typical in an African setting, I could post same in an international group, and you will see how comments would be different. Body shaming is normal in these people's village

Sometimes I wonder if its illiteracy that Nairalanders male suffer from, or just pure hatred for women including their mothers and sisters.
According to commentators here, its the woman's fault to have gained weight after giving birth to the children they both have, and the best way the husband can use to inform her is by abusing her(emotional abuse), comparing her with their pastors wife who has given birth to 5children.

One idiot even said protein causes diabetes and thus the husband is helping her by emotionally abusing her.
In reality, I do not speak with an average Nigerian, some call it pride, I don't have time to waste with a dumb irrational wanna be dumb person

Op I would help you with tips to reduce your weight in a sustainable way, and I hope you serve him Emotional abuse by comparing everything bad about him in a very playful manner and laugh about it. By then, he would realise he's not perfect as well
Even if you mistakenly compare me as a friend, that would be the last time you will hear from me, and if that happens to be my husband, I will punish him for a year after he apologizez if he doesn't, that would be the end of the marriage. Nothing would make me cry over a body shaming wicked man. But I can only do that because I'm self sustained, and I'm a rich lady on my own, an introvert and a genius in the making. And that's why we preach women empowerment, don't copy me if you are a LEECH, a PARASITE, and you can't BREATH without a MAN, you can't buy CAR without a man, you can't eat without a MAN. Ladies should learn to be independent, that way, you will be respected

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Mummymahdi(f): 11:08am On Mar 20, 2021
This world sef
Me wey dey look for how to add a little weight and the stomach wey dey same as d back should push a bit but no. God no gree.


Madam press ur ignore button, marriage no be child play organise urself and reduce that weight even for ur well being and u will b more presentable
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by oyin3322(f): 11:09am On Mar 20, 2021
u r on point
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by HopeVictor(m): 11:09am On Mar 20, 2021
samwillyco1:


What are you even saying?
You should advice her to work on herself by storming the gym house, do enough exercise, eat more of vegetables and fruits, avoid fat giving food and eat more of protein and fiber giving food, she should stop eating late at night, get Tommy belt ( abortion belt) for her protruding Tommy , etc and you are trying to send her to her Early grave.
The fact that he's comparing her to another woman is bad..

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Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by BLoomfrancs(m): 11:14am On Mar 20, 2021
cococandy:
tell me you been severely rejected without telling me you have been severely rejected grin

You are Lame at best. Congratulations on your new level of stupidity. Bullshit clown. angry
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Philomath1212: 11:14am On Mar 20, 2021
Cry more
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by Mummymahdi(f): 11:16am On Mar 20, 2021
HopeVictor:
This greedy attitude from men is very childish and wicked..if you don't want a chubby woman you go for the slim ones..stop stressing and frustrating women after they've given birth..it's a natural thing that they will add weight..


In some cases yes. Me am using my money to add a little weight but nothing
The tommy always went back attached to the back immediately after bearing. Each child
Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by ParkleElegant: 11:16am On Mar 20, 2021
Fahdiga:
Instead of you to work on your shortcomings and be better than those he compares you with you are here nagging.




seriously

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