Dalil8:
That's her story

We'd also like to hear from her husband as well before we judge.

KanwuliaExtra:
So. . . .women like this still exist?
Carrying belle upandan without insurance?
Looking for chop-money, wrapper and 'pad' for nyansh from MAN?


I DON DIE!

Sijo01:



With what you wrote here, including there's tendency that he's being influenced on how he treats her, believe me it can only get worse.

Tell her to gradually withdraw her emotional investment on him then prepare her mind towards leaving the marriage. Since she's not financially independent, she should build herself up to be. Thank God she's already learning a trade.

But to be expecting baby number 2 in this type of toxic relationship, she messed up big time.

Amazinggirl95:
na from woman she for get am from? are u okay, are u married?and are you well?

Time registered: October 19, 2019

KanwuliaExtra:





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Liposure:
Prayer is the only key.

Amazinggirl95:
My married friend is in need of an advise, I trust I can get one from here,matured folks pls advise.

The tales goes like this
My friend married with pregnancy, u know all this pregnancy marriage with belle,they have been married for 5 year with a girl child expecting another one,her happiness level in the marriage in a scale of 100% for the past 5 years,she has been happy only 10%,her husband don't give her monthly allowance,he send her money when she wants to buy anything like foods stuff ,children school fees ,house rent,she cant boast of a wrapper for herself as a married woman,as at last year his total earning a month was 450k mwhere he is working though they cut down the salary to 150k,pending when things kick in d company,,she doesn't know how much he has
he is not open with that info,the man's family doesn't like her and anytime he goes to the family house and come back ,his attitude changes towards her, money for herself no way,their communication level is zero ,this his character towards her has made him unattractive to her,like when he wants to make love to her she detest it,most of the time he doesn't talk to her in the house,when she tries to raise discussion he doesn't answer her,he comes back late at night,and does not discuss his future plans or plan of the family with her,he once called her a prostitute in public one evening in a bar around their place when she went to call him home(his family members doesn't come to his house,she suspecting he says bad things about her to people cos he's this person that paints himself good outside while inside is nothing to write home about,she a graduate no work, she is learning fashion designing with the hope to set up a tailoring shop,though her mother gave her some money to set up herself ,she pregnant for the second child but she don't know if she should shift from this man for her sanity sake or remain ,or report him but to whom?pls help ,what should she do?

Truvel:
I Think She Should Give D Man Some Space Until He Comes Back To His Senses. Let Her Build Herself Financially, Just Like D Tailoring She Intend To Do.

Amazinggirl95:
My married friend is in need of an advise, I trust I can get one from here,matured folks pls advise.

The tales goes like this
My friend married with pregnancy, u know all this pregnancy marriage with belle,they have been married for 5 year with a girl child expecting another one,her happiness level in the marriage in a scale of 100% for the past 5 years,she has been happy only 10%,her husband don't give her monthly allowance,he send her money when she wants to buy anything like foods stuff ,children school fees ,house rent,she cant boast of a wrapper for herself as a married woman,as at last year his total earning a month was 450k mwhere he is working though they cut down the salary to 150k,pending when things kick in d company,,she doesn't know how much he has
he is not open with that info,the man's family doesn't like her and anytime he goes to the family house and come back ,his attitude changes towards her, money for herself no way,their communication level is zero ,this his character towards her has made him unattractive to her,like when he wants to make love to her she detest it,most of the time he doesn't talk to her in the house,when she tries to raise discussion he doesn't answer her,he comes back late at night,and does not discuss his future plans or plan of the family with her,he once called her a prostitute in public one evening in a bar around their place when she went to call him home(his family members doesn't come to his house,she suspecting he says bad things about her to people cos he's this person that paints himself good outside while inside is nothing to write home about,she a graduate no work, she is learning fashion designing with the hope to set up a tailoring shop,though her mother gave her some money to set up herself ,she pregnant for the second child but she don't know if she should shift from this man for her sanity sake or remain ,or report him but to whom?pls help ,what should she do?

frozen70:


She doesn't need to report her man to any family member

She seems not to be contributing nothing at home and that alone can make the man to see her as a burden

If she is bold enough, let her travel home to her husband family to find out what she did wrong that made them not to love her

Besides, the family never wanted their son to marry her but she smartly took inn and feels they have to accept it that way, they too feels they can't relate with her Cos
Alternatively, she can talk to the husband and find out what she does that is making her unhappy in her marriage

Lastly, find out if she us being stubborn, you can't be contributing and you are proving stubborn to your husband, he will have his ways outside his home

mutter:
She should make more effort.
Is it all about money?
Let her try more to be a loving and receptive wife and the man's attitude might change.
From the narrative there is no love or regard for the man.

Amazinggirl95:
nice one tnxs...is it normal for a man not to give his wife upkeep? Cos I remember when I was little my father gave my mother her upkeep money and she contributed nothing in the house ,same with my married sister,if you marry a man that don't know how to take care of a woman, na suffer...a caring and loving husband is what i wish myself and every woman out there,you will be happy and at peace and you will be able to give your husband peace

frozen70:


Some men for obvious reasons refuse to be responsible

It's a problem he has to deal with abs accept anything that comes out that way

When a man can't take the responsibilities of providing for the family and the wife took it upon herself, if you are God, who will you bless, of course the woman, then in such situations the man becomes uncomfortable with her success

Though only stupid men reasons so

Amazinggirl95:


Aww it's well oo

Amazinggirl95:
they don't talk at home,so how will she hear the husband's side?

Hashabiah:
My dear, it is best for the young lady to first consult with her spiritual leader. Let her hear what he has to say on the matter.

SweetCunt97:
So cant she get a job or business? She come world to be dependent on another human being? She probably thought her situation would change with another kid huh?

farous:
Simple fact is the man is not happy for the lady to lure him into marriage unprepared through pregnancy and she is not in anyway valuable financially. Nothing annoys a man to find himself in marriage unprepared. Its like a deceitful and forceful marriage.

Take it or leave it, the only thing that can bring the man love back to her is for the woman to find something doing and be offering financial support no matter how small to the family or learn a skill and start something to add value to the family.The man only sees her as a reliability that just come his way when he is not even settled as a man to marry.

If you can take the above steps, you will surely come here and tell us the positive changes and how the love has been restored.

farous:
Simple fact is the man is not happy for the lady to lure him into marriage unprepared through pregnancy and she is not in anyway valuable financially. Nothing annoys a man to find himself in marriage unprepared. Its like a deceitful and forceful marriage.

Take it or leave it, the only thing that can bring the man love back to her is for the woman to find something doing and be offering financial support no matter how small to the family or learn a skill and start something to add value to the family.The man only sees her as a reliability that just come his way when he is not even settled as a man to marry.

If you can take the above steps, you will surely come here and tell us the positive changes and how the love has been restored.