I stumbled on this story a while ago, and here's my take.

First of all, I think the friend who's about to get married didn't do anything wrong. She asked for permission from her friend and it was freely given. The friend who first dated the guy is also being irrational.

But here's the thing, I don't think people should date their friends' exes, or siblings' exes or friends of their exes. Is it really so hard to decide those people are off-limits?

Human emotions are fickle, and it would be nigh impossible for anyone to not get sentimental knowing that their friend or sibling is dating or getting married to someone they once dated, worse still if they still love that person. Even if they say yes, it doesn't mean they're okay with it.

If any of my friends came to ask me for permission to date my ex, I'll clearly say I'd rather they don't and that it will make me uncomfortable. But if they still go ahead to date each other, no issues, I won't be dramatic - just cut both of them off.

Would you date someone who dated your friend or sibling, or is a close friend to your ex?

This is the conclusion of the story...

The wedding is allowed... There's nothing wrong here.
I once saw a lady that married her elder sister's ex and they all still live in peace and not in pieces. Although, the initial family war was not a funny matter

PrimadonnaO:
I stumbled on this story a while ago, and here's my take.

First of all, I think the friend who's about to get married didn't do anything wrong. She asked for permission from her friend and it was freely given. The friend who first dated the guy is also being irrational.

But here's the thing, I don't think people should date their friends' exes, or siblings' exes or friends of their exes. Is it really so hard to decide those people are off-limits?

Human emotions are fickle, and it would be nigh impossible for anyone to not get sentimental knowing that their friend or sibling is dating or getting married to someone they once dated, worse still if they still love that person. Even if they say yes, it doesn't mean they're okay with it.

If any of my friends came to ask me for permission to date my ex, I'll clearly say I'd rather they don't and that it will make me uncomfortable. But if they still go ahead to date each other, no issues, I won't be dramatic - just cut both of them off.

Would you date someone who dated your friend or sibling, or is a close friend to your ex?

Very childish stance

SavageResponse:


Very childish stance

Which part exactly is childish?

PrimadonnaO:


Which part exactly is childish?

Ending a relationship with a friend just because he or she is dating your ex is very immature!

SavageResponse:


Ending a relationship with a friend just because he or she is dating your ex is very immature!

No, it's not. We should all be pretentiously keeping up appearances?

PrimadonnaO:


No, it's not. We should all be pretentiously keeping up appearances?

What your ex does with his or her life after ending things with you is really none of your business

A simp on the friendzone mode seeking for advice. For what exactly?

Women are wired with 70% certainty of coming back to their ex... Some never really close the door fully... So when their friend ask or go behind their back to date their ex.. They tend to have dat jealous rage.

Even if they are married...

SavageResponse:


What your ex does with his or her life after ending things with you is really none of your business

Of course, and I wouldn't have expectations of him. But I'll have expectations of my friends.


By the way, you seem to be taking this quite personally. Might you be in a similar situation?

anitabella:
Women are wired with 70% certainty of coming back to their ex... Some never really close the door fully... So when their friend ask or go behind their back to date their ex.. They tend to have dat jealous rage.

Even if they are married...

I kind of agree... that's why I feel people should just avoid such situations, because a person may say they don't mind because they're trying to act "mature" and feign complete disinterest, whereas deep down they're uncomfortable with the arrangement.

I think the only way they'll be cool with their friends dating their ex is if there was never feelings involved.

He was not her type of man and was not ready to work on him to fit in to her type then another person takes up the job and stress then achieved an awesome result and she says her man was snitched.

Thunder should be firing people on a sunny day not just when it rains.

One man's meat is another man's poison, so said a sage.

I don't see why there should be any quarrel about this matter at all.
The guy in the eye of the storm was not the first lady's spec. Her friend duly got her permission to take over and moulded the guy into a better version of himself. More like her spec.

If anybody is being dramatic about this matter, it's just so unreasonable.

They were never meant to be. First girl, move on. May someone who will accept and love us for whom we are find us

PrimadonnaO:
I stumbled on this story a while ago, and here's my take.

First of all, I think the friend who's about to get married didn't do anything wrong. She asked for permission from her friend and it was freely given. The friend who first dated the guy is also being irrational.

But here's the thing, I don't think people should date their friends' exes, or siblings' exes or friends of their exes. Is it really so hard to decide those people are off-limits?

Human emotions are fickle, and it would be nigh impossible for anyone to not get sentimental knowing that their friend or sibling is dating or getting married to someone they once dated, worse still if they still love that person. Even if they say yes, it doesn't mean they're okay with it.

If any of my friends came to ask me for permission to date my ex, I'll clearly say I'd rather they don't and that it will make me uncomfortable. But if they still go ahead to date each other, no issues, I won't be dramatic - just cut both of them off.

Would you date someone who dated your friend or sibling, or is a close friend to your ex?

Humans always placing limitations on yourself.

henryhemon:


Humans always placing limitations on yourself.

Yeah. Because life is complex like that, sometimes.

Jack005:
A simp on the friendzone mode seeking for advice. For what exactly?

Being friends with ladies and not wanting them sexually does not imply being a simp


Actually being able to control yourself is actually what makes you alpha

There's nothing wrong with 2 opposite sexes having a plain platonic relationship!

PrimadonnaO:


Of course, and I wouldn't have expectations of him. But I'll have expectations of my friends.


By the way, you seem to be taking this quite personally. Might you be in a similar situation?

So your friend should be unhappy because of your expectations?? You should be happy she’s with someone you already know and you know she’ll be safe with him. Isn’t that what friendship is?? Making sure the other person is happy and looking out for them?? Nawa o

Have no issues with my Friends dating my Ex.

But I can't date someone,someone close to me has been with.
For me that is stooping below low,I mean the lowest.

Loyalty for me is above everything.
I rather keep my friendships,than ruin it with a relationship.

Hmmm

Imagine this people



Abeg what is the story about??

I can date my friend's ex. But that of siblings is totally off limits for me.