I ve been wt her for 4 yrs now.I love her and she means the world to me.she just wrote her degree exams and asked me to promise that I ll marry her or she ll marry a guy she aledged she met two weeks ago who is willing and able to marry her in the next 4 weeks.The problem is that I m still a young graduate still seaching for job annd she is still 21 yrs of age.I told her that I would most sincerely wish to sppend the rest of my llife with her but will love we take these things one step at a time.She is serious about her threat annd I dont want to loose her.i ve a feeling she has been seeing this guy ealier than she claimed.Do I promise her marriage or do I allow her to follow her heart annd make the decvisions herself.I love her and she knows that.pls what do I do freinds!!!!!!

dont promise her what u cant give her yet!

i wonder what d rush for marriage is, she's only 21 right?

she's prolly threathening to leave you cos she might want some assurance of ur love

take things in ur own pace and dont let any one pressurize u to do anything.

and if she still says she'll leave u, then let her go cos u need someone who will love u for what u are.

just make her understand ur plans and let her know that u cant get married rite now cos ure not ready

stephanay:

don't promise her what u can't give her yet!

i wonder what d rush for marriage is, she's only 21 right?

she's prolly threathening to leave you because she might want some assurance of your love

take things in your own pace and don't let any one pressurize u to do anything.

and if she still says she'll leave u, then let her go because u need someone who will love u for what u are.

just make her understand your plans and let her know that u can't get married rite now because ure not ready

this is true dan.
why is she in a rush to get married. or is there something she don´t want u to.
and how come she is still seeing the guy when u guys are still kind of a pal.
well when push come to shove, i agree u let her do what is in her mind before she blames u off what u can´t deny.
take care bro

what! see that girl knows that u re weak for her thats y she is doing shakara u sef come de shake i beg hold ur groungs u veproved u love her already wat more can a man do, put love aside for a sec that girl should never threaten u with another guy thats an insult its hearts breaking i wonder how u take it, i ll never do that to my man wat nonsense, wait is it that easy let her go and see if she wont be the one to loose trust me!

@Dan

NEVER DO ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT READY TO DO
after 4yrs, i'd expect she understood u a bit better, and knows when u mean things or not. Omo, maybe she's one of these girls that like the easy way out in life, they dont wanna stick with a man who is struggling to make it, they want a guy who has made it!!!

Look at the ppl she hangs out with. r her friends married?, what is influencing her to think that way?, assure her you are willing and will marry her when u are able to do so. She can either trust or go ahead an marry someone she will probably regret marrying in the future!

Either way my dear, u STAND TO WIN, YOU'LL EITHER WIN A TRUE PARTNER FOR LIFE THAT UNDERSTANDS U AND IS WILLING TO BE PATIENT AND GROW WITH YOU (if she hangs around), OR [b]YOU WIN, because YOU LOSE A GIRL WHO VALUES SOCIAL STATUS MORE THAN WHAT YOU SHARE!!, [/b]even at ur expense

@poster

luxoire said it all. She can always go but as a man u've got 2 hold ur grounds. Fate has a way of making things right. Keep ur head up man.

Joey82:

@poster

luxoire said it all. She can always go but as a man u've got 2 hold your grounds. Fate has a way of making things right. Keep your head up man.

WORD!!!!, even when u think life is dishing out its worst to u, just know THERE'S ALWAYS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL

You just don't need stressing yourself further in bringing her heart back, she has already concreate her mind with that your rival. more so there is possibility of already sexing the guy and if the guy sabi pass you my brother is another story.

I cant thank you all enough for your words of encouragement and advice.tha.ks freind.You are  d BEST!!!!

@ dan_onyeka
GUY,IF U LOVE UR LIFE JUST ALLOW THE CRAZE GURL GO JEJE, THE TRUTH B SAY THE BABE NO LOVE U AT ALL, I GO YARN U CORRECT.THE BABE FIT DON GET BELLE FOR THE OTHER GUY OF WHICH SHE WAN TRY PUSH U ENTER MARRAIGE SO AS TO PUSH THE BELLE TO U.(ITS JUST A GUESS NOT A FACT)
FOR THE BABE TO USE ANOTHER GUY THEY THREATEN YOU MEAN SAY SHE DEY SLEEP WITH THE GUY WELL WELL NA NORMAL PAROLE WITH NAIJA BABES.SO MY BROS MAKE U JUST WAKA, RETREAT AND SURRENDER FOR THE GURL MATTER.SHE NO WORTH AM AT ALL,MAKE U FOCUS AND CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY ON MOVING FORWARD IN LIFE, GUY! GOD GO ESTABLISH YOU,SLOWLY BUT SURELY MY BROS,

guy even if u r ready now to marry her, dont propose yet. u should'nt proposae to a womwn cos she threatened you, even if you love her. if she wana go then let her go that means she is not yours, whats yours will come your way. it will be diffiu=cult if she leaves but u'll over come with tym. i am a living witness to that, my chick left me when i was searching for job, i tot my world will end but it dd not eventually i got a job 9not too fantastic, but the future is now damn too bright) now she wants to come bak but guy no way. the man she ran to showed her what she wanted to c and she fell for it now she have seen thta it was a film trick and i am now waxing strong ( na GOD)
LET NO DAUGHTER OF EVE THREATEN YOU

That girl should be the least of your problems for now.Your priority should be how to get a decent job.Ignore her as she is just naive

One of the biggest mistake guys and gals made while dating is to conclude all dates especially long one must end in marriage. While this is absolutely desirable,it is actually dangerous. We makes promises under the influence of love only to regret later.
I wouldn't know what kind of relationship you are having so advising you is risky. If you truly love her and want to marry her (sooner or later) for better for worse. Then sit her down and make plan with her. Unless she is greedy, lusting after a rich man, she would reason with you. One thing I can tell u is that, after 4 years, she know you inside out. She know if you truly deserve her wait or not. I understand how you feel because, i had had a similar encounter (not expirence) u must decide whether to fight for her love even if you are inviting poverty or let her go. I am sorry, however to say if economic consideration is at the heart of the matter, you should start looking elsewhere. Money, matter na serious matter. Love minus money equal conflict. It doesn't matter when it is open or closed. Ciao!

I m sorry for keepinng you good pple in the house in the daark for so loong without an update on the development on this case.
I ve finnaly came above the shock of her betrayal,I got a very beautifull job a month after she left me with a fat salary.
She kept texting me that she cant love anyone the way she loved loved me and that i m the best man that ever lived.
I beliieve she is happily maarried and have always prayed she have a peacefull and happy family.
As for now,I m very single and ve decided to remain so and cncentrate on my job untill I am ready foor another r/ship.This time we ll heading for the , , ONCE BITTEN TWICE SHY

singns of things to come,
maybe when you are broke in future
the threat will be divorce

stay away ,

she's not the one for you.

@ Poster, i think she's doin dat cos she is aware of how much u love her. but i think u shuld let her know ur position but dnt promise wat u cant give.

dan_onyeka:

I m sorry for keepinng you good people in the house in the daark for so loong without an update on the development on this case.
I ve finnaly came above the shock of her betrayal,I got a very beautifull job a month after she left me with a fat salary.
She kept texting me that she can't love anyone the way she loved loved me and that i m the best man that ever lived.
I beliieve she is happily maarried and have always prayed she have a peacefull and happy family.
As for now,I m very single and ve decided to remain so and cncentrate on my job untill I am ready foor another r/ship.This time we ll heading for the , , ONCE BITTEN TWICE SHY

I'm glad you finally walked out and doing good.
I just hate it when girls break people's heart but sometimes, it's inevitablel. She probably never really loved you. Congrats on your new job.

You re all wonderfull!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorrry guy,4years and now she want to leave.I wonder what is wrong with our girls. Am sure the guy in question is richer than u.Guy keep your head Up. E go better.Love is conditional in NAIJA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. oh,
thank God u got a job now!!!!!!!!!. She go beg tire.

Keep your heads up. Concentrate on your job and look elsewhere for a befitting 'love'. But in case you want a tight Naija damsel to spray ur salary on, contact me. princekay123@gmail.com

@poster since u knw u might jst lose ha soon,
dis is the tyme to give her long long thing very well
so dat wen she livs u go jst dey dey look am.
I alwas warn guys dont eva get deep in love wit a gurl cus at the end na dem go live u.
Sm gurls aint worth it.
Y she go dey rush u sef.U r d man gv her conditions to.

I bet she wants to leave b/c u can't meet her demands. It's b/c u dnt av a job nd cant provide 4 her. She has definitly been seeing the guy earlier than she said.

My candid advice - Leave her to do wat pleases her. If she truly loves u, she'll com bak. I hp it wnt be too late then. Goodluck bro

thanks all u are all great pple

princekay1:

Keep your heads up. Concentrate on your job and look elsewhere for a befitting 'love'. But in case you want a tight Naija damsel to spray your salary on, contact me. princekay123@gmail.com

na waoooooooo,how would you reecommend a "tight Naija damsel to spray money on"
I think I prefer your first option.
lol
anyway thanks 4 ur concern!!!!!!!!

gud 2 hear you stood your grounds and things are ok with you. all the best

Ma guy better find your level! The last threat i can receive from a girl is that of marriage. Marriage is for men and women, not Boys and Girls. its certainly clear she isn't inlove with you. Think about it. youve been with someone for a long while and shes threatning to leave for someone promising marriage in a few weeks? Nice try from her. Am no fool. I cant fall for that poorly set trap. You shouldn't either

onyeka_ng:

good 2 hear you stood your grounds and things are ok with you. all the best

yeaah i stood my grounds but that is not at a PRICE.