mutter:
You obviously haven't understood your problem.
The problem is not the issues but You!
You have absolutely no respect and regard for your husband.
Obiedience is better than sacrifice... All those efforts and sacrifices you think you are making are worthless if you don't accord your husband his respect and make him feel like a King at home.

Women want to be treated like queens but there has to be a King to crown the queen.

Your husband want a wife that respects him and regards him and you are busy writing a thesis on irrelevant issues.
There are many issues that come up in a marriage but they can be resolved with respect.
Also you should be ready to submit to your husband and his decisions. .. Because when there are 2 different opinions someone has to have the final say.
What you need to do is change your ways, stop the insults and stop the confrontations.
Seek solutions and not challanges.
Swallow your pride and go and apologise.. Real apology... not I am sorry okay if you don't accept...

I like when I see women giving other women good advice, its more relatable as you understand the realities of women by the virtue of being a woman yourself. I appreciate and hope the poster listen to this.

@poster, judging from your writeup, you have an unhealthy pride that is common with lots of women, that you can't just let simple things go. The fastest way to kill an attraction a man has for you is to disrespect him, it's so natural in men that lots of men didn't even see themselves hating a woman they love just for being disrespected. It's something that is hardwired in the male psyche, that you cannot compromise on. Marrying him means you must respect him. Insulting him is a no no, personally that single behaviour will make me end any relationship, I can't be out there contending with the challenges of the world to give my woman a good life and she will insult me. Its unacceptable.

Also, you should know that a submissive woman is the king actually. That's where your power lies, and by submission, it should not be understood as a surbodinate/tyrannical relationship, thats corruption, and definitely  not what I mean. I mean submission in the scriptural sense, where a man loves his wife, and she respects him in return. Imagine this scenario, if at 2am, there was a hard knock and scream that you should open the door, I suppose that it would be the man to attend and if someone has to collect a bullet first, it would be him. Thus is a good example where submission pays off because if you want to drag leadership with me, well, you should go check who is banging at the door, let me go hide somewhere.

Surely I suppose that you see that submitting to him is not a position of only privileges but, life sacrificing position. A man can do anything for you if you submit to him, as submission is the key that unlocks the wellspring of a man's natural altruism. Of course a woman can argue or refuse to submit, well, just know that it's a game of winning a single battle but loosing the overall war. Men love being of service to women, I even think that a man will feel unsatisfied deep down if he is not useful to his family, and respect is the code that unlocks that trait in him, otherwise he remains Peter-pan (A man who never grows up organically and indulges in cheap, impulsive,  low-class pleasure).


Furthermore, you should know how a man wants to be loved, a innocent mistake most people make. And you'll get this by communication. Ask him what he dislikes in your behaviour, and tell him yours, and you should be willing to listen and make changes. Rabbits like carrot but if you feed your cat that, it will die. Men and women understands love differently. Basically, men wants respect, acceptance, submission, while women wants love, attention, compliments and gifts. If you can't control your mouth, then he will ever doubt your love. In matters of love, ignorance is your number one enemy, because you'll do things that seems right in your eyes but counter productive to your marriage.

I wish you well in your marriage.

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