Sequel to this trend: https://www.nairaland.com/6633599/heartbreak-lady-weeps-she-asks#103346750

I want to put out some thoughts that I think may save some from heart breaks. I'm not a counsellor by the way just a concerned fellow.


The lady above, gave her all into the relationship only to hit the rocks. Why does this happen?

1. Growth: As a guy advances in his career and finances he begins to have more exposure to women of class, that may be witty, brilliant and have good character who may also want to mingle, reverse is the case for a lady, as she advances in her career and finances, her options slims down as to the level of men that may want to mingle with the sincerest of heart, why is this?

When a guy who lacks character or even probably when some guys come into money and have women at thier beck and call, they rarely enter a relationship for commitment, instead having fun may have the better part of him, and when a lady comes into money, she may seek a good man at her level to settle down with, now most men at that level have options and may not want to commit leaving her with few options.

What is the point of GROWTH in a relationship; look as a lady you may be there for that guy when he is poor or have nothing, when a guy is broke psychologically he will be all humble and good especially when he wants to leave that level, so his true nature may never be known until he steps into money.

As a lady your only advantage at this point is to grow along side him, life has six key areas of interest that if you pay attention to you must excel, they are; your faith life, The quality of people you relate with (relationships), Finances, Mindset, Health, Career.

As a lady you must learn to excel in all these areas and expose yourself to relevant materials that will make valuable to your guy at all times. Build yourself.

Else you may give him all your heart and body, and he still leaves, bkos sincerity is not the seed for results, remaining relevant to people hardly makes them make you an option. This should not be the basis of LOVE, the person of your being should be, HOWEVER, Fulfilment in any relationship is as a result of CONTRIBUTIONS: your usefulness around finances, home building or what is valuable to your man or woman.

2. Being definitive: being friends for long is good but not in a love relationship set up, every love relationship must have a define place where it should end with a deadline to executing such rights. If you want to flex, let it be known, if you want to settle down let it be know and what time frames are you looking at?

3. Clearly defining roles: what roles will you play as the lady and what role will your guy play? If you're stepping in to assist let it be an agreed grounds.

As a guy don't ever carry responsibilities that are beyond you, you are no Jesus or saviour for any family, first save yourself, before you save others.

Well every relationship is unique and different, more so different strokes for different folks. But you can't overrun principles and last.

Lake of trust and sex

Sirchef:
Lake of trust and sex

Absolutely especially the trust part.

On the sex part, every man should learn how to make his wife cum really good, so also the wife should learn how to ride the man to shatter his dada.

This is brilliant. Did you write this?

voidUpdate:
This is brilliant. Did you write this?

Yes

Make Sense

Yusufisraelj:
Sequel to this trend: https://www.nairaland.com/6633599/heartbreak-lady-weeps-she-asks#103346750

I want to put out some thoughts that I think may save some from heart breaks. I'm not a counsellor by the way just a concerned fellow.


The lady above, gave her all into the relationship only to hit the rocks. Why does this happen?

1. Growth: As a guy advances in his career and finances he begins to have more exposure to women of class, that may be witty, brilliant and have good character who may also want to mingle, reverse is the case for a lady, as she advances in her career and finances, her options slims down as to the level of men that may want to mingle with the sincerest of heart, why is this?

When a guy who lacks character or even probably when some guys come into money and have women at thier beck and call, they rarely enter a relationship for commitment, instead having fun may have the better part of him, and when a lady comes into money, she may seek a good man at her level to settle down with, now most men at that level have options and may not want to commit leaving her with few options.

What is the point of GROWTH in a relationship; look as a lady you may be there for that guy when he is poor or have nothing, when a guy is broke psychologically he will be all humble and good especially when he wants to leave that level, so his true nature may never be known until he steps into money.

As a lady your only advantage at this point is to grow along side him, life has six key areas of interest that if you pay attention to you must excel, they are; your faith life, The quality of people you relate with (relationships), Finances, Mindset, Health, Career.

As a lady you must learn to excel in all these areas and expose yourself to relevant materials that will make valuable to your guy at all times. Build yourself.

Else you may give him all your heart and body, and he still leaves, bkos sincerity is not the seed for results, remaining relevant to people hardly makes them make you an option. This should not be the basis of LOVE, the person of your being should be, HOWEVER, Fulfilment in any relationship is as a result of CONTRIBUTIONS: your usefulness around finances, home building or what is valuable to your man or woman.

2. Being definitive: being friends for long is good but not in a love relationship set up, every love relationship must have a define place where it should end with a deadline to executing such rights. If you want to flex, let it be known, if you want to settle down let it be know and what time frames are you looking at?

3. Clearly defining roles: what roles will you play as the lady and what role will your guy play? If you're stepping in to assist let it be an agreed grounds.

As a guy don't ever carry responsibilities that are beyond you, you are no Jesus or saviour for any family, first save yourself, before you save others.

Well every relationship is unique and different, more so different strokes for different folks. But you can't overrun principles and last.

If you like have all these things. Relationship that won't last won't last.

As a matter of fact it's because of all these over awareness relationship are crashing these days..

A non knowledgeable woman would have a very limited reasons to want to break up with you. But you see those Educated, knowledgeable and well aware women, you will always fall short of their expectations and they'd have plethora of reasons to leave you.