At mother's day get-together last night with family friends, a single father of a 17-yr old girl (the girl spent her first 10yrs in naija) was saying he was confused about the decision to take his daughter to his doctor to discuss about birth control cos to him its like giving her free license to sex but she's in first yr college n sex is in d air in colleges,he said he cant talk to her about it but he said he told her if she ever gets pregnant she's in OYO n going back to naija. I think saying that was just enough, i wouldnt take my child on dat kind of mission either. How do you parents deal with teenagers and issues with sex

I don't expect anything more or less from a TYPICAL Nigerian parent who knows how to phock, but does not know how to discuss birth control. No wonder he is a single parent. I would discuss birth control with ANY daughter of mine as soon as she reaches puberty. If she decides to have sex. . .which I cannot control, at least it would protect her from unwanted pregnancies. . . by some apes out there.

Frankly, he must be a buuuuuuuuuuuush man. Ignorant to be exact!

He should be happy his daughter is not a teenage mom at 17. Obviously, she is doing a better job parenting herself.

i felt embarrassed to hear him say a thing like that too at first considering his level of exposure, but honestly there are still parents out there who will never talk about sex to their teenagers. I was 25 the first time my own mom ever mentioned sex and all she said was ' u know premarital sex is a sin' n i replied 'yes i know' and walked away just because i told her i will be staying at a friends place when i'm out of town, and i was amazed after 6yrs in a boarding school and 5yrs in university without close supervision or thinking i possibly knew better. i tot that was the most ridiculous thing iv heard her say to me. besides I love my mom

Please. . . we are past '25' years ago. This is 2011. 11 year olds are becoming grandmothers and 90 year old men are sleeping with/sodmizing female infants in diapers with erectile dysfunctional dee-ks for rituals.

What is there not to discuss?

Ye ye dey boom!

If anyone thinks education is expensive. . .let him or her try 'ignorance'!

Shioooooooooooor!

probably bcuz he is a man dt is why he tinks its odd to discuss such wit his daughter n feels discussing such might xpose her to doing dem bt d fact is dat its happening. i dnt see anything wrong in sitting ur child down n discussing issues like dis. as a woman i can sit my child down n discuss sex,its no more a hidden tin among the youths nowadays so y r we trying to avoid it?

i do not understand why most Nigerian parents are like this, I must confess that my parents have never talked to me about sex and i am 23 .

The only talking they gave to me was DON'T HAVE SEX!!!! And in my teens i was wondering why they did not want me to, cos other things they say do not do this because, but sex was JUST DON'T DO IT NO JUSTIFICATIONS, I wished they had the the talk with me in a more informing way,

Even now my mum talks to my fiance about sex instead of me , I swear i so do not get that, n all she says is ''ema mo bi ese ma se oro ara yin, esha ma ti je ki omo woh"

some parents arent ready to face facts of life and would rather use threats to bring their points across.

TALK/EDUCATE YOUR DAMN KIDS before they go and listen to their dumbasss friend and do something they will regret.
how can your child react WISELY and MATURELY if they dont have a damn clue about the subject?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

the important question here is: if YOU dont teach your kids about such stuff, SOMEONE ELSE will. so would you rather that TVland and stoopid friends teach her about sex or you?!

That's touchy. I think as a teen I feared pregnancy more than any other thing and that's what kept me from having sex. Also, birth control medication can't prevent STDs so it may be sending the wrong message.

I think 'the talk' is well overdue since she is 17, but I don't necessarily think birth control medicine is the proper way to go. Maybe he can take her to the doctor for an education on the different types of STDs out there, including those that can be spread even if ptotection is used.

Honestly, I have no idea what I would do in the situation. Maybe I would be like the dad and avoid the subject for as long as possible.

I would imagine that it would be harder for a father to have the sex talk with his daughter but most Nigerian parents (my parents age) did not talk to their kids about sex. They might have the fornication talk though  

I guess he is feeling awkward but he should be the one to do it,that is one of his duties as a parent!
Taking the girl to a doctor or any outsider won't do much good,If anything goes wrong in future(the girl gets preggie,faced with relationship challenges,dealing with peer pressure at school) he wud be the last to know as the girl wud first confide in outsiders.The girl is 17 already and that is a plus for the man as she already knows alot.The talk they wud have is more like opening communication lines and taking their relationship a notch up from just father-daughter to best friends.

Btwn,the best sex talks I got were from my dad.I don't understand the logic that men can't discuss sex with their daughters when they phock,discuss abortion and marriage with 16 yr old girls.