I'm new on nairaland and I need advice urgently (heard from a friend that good advice are shared on this platform)
I am a 200L medical student. I have a female friend who I got to know in year one and we did everything together, I even started staying over in her room for us to read. She was all one could need in a friend.
In our 200L first semester she started giving attitude but we reconciled. Now she decided to cut off from me saying she isn't someone who makes friends and she plans to be overly ambitious this semester and extra.
This has left me heartbroken and I feel like the world has come to an end because I'm so attached to her. I even asked her if I was the problem and she said no, rather she said the problem was from her and she was comparing her self to our top Male course mates who had no friends.
Any serious advice on how to move on from here because I'm so depressed and have lost appetite for everything I loved doing.
Ps: I'm female.

she is indirectly telling you the you are a misfit for her.

give her her space, and move on with your life

[quote author=anthonyuncle post=103489431]she is indirectly telling you the you are a misfit for her.

give her her space, and move on with your life[I guess so..tnks]

Greenkim:
I'm new on nairaland and I need advice urgently (heard from a friend that good advice are shared on this platform)
I am a 200L medical student. I have a female friend who I got to know in year one and we did everything together, I even started staying over in her room for us to read. She was all one could need in a friend.
In our 200L first semester she started giving attitude but we reconciled. Now she decided to cut off from me saying she isn't someone who makes friends and she plans to be overly ambitious this semester and extra.
This has left me heartbroken and I feel like the world has come to an end because I'm so attached to her. I even asked her if I was the problem and she said no, rather she said the problem was from her and she was comparing her self to our top Male course mates who had no friends.
Any serious advice on how to move on from here because I'm so depressed and have lost appetite for everything I loved doing.
Ps: I'm female.

Alot of things happen in school...and relationship is best enjoyed when not forced.

Any serious advice on how to move on from here because I'm so depressed and have lost appetite for everything I loved doing.

Lols....just move on, all these feelings won't matter in some months to come.

Make sure she doesn't out-perform you in your studies.

[quote author=Hahjascho post=103540739]Alot of things happen in school...and relationship is best enjoyed when not forced.


Lols....just move on, all these feelings won't matter in some months to come.

Make sure she doesn't out-perform you in your studies.

[quote author=Hahjascho post=103540739]Alot of things happen in school...and relationship is best enjoyed when not forced.


Lols....just move on, all these feelings won't matter in some months to come.

Make sure she doesn't out-perform you in your studies.

That makes alot of sense and I also thought about it too. Thank you.

Greenkim:
That makes alot of sense and I also thought about it too. Thank you.

Yeah, u'r welcome.

I still wonder how people get attached easily to either the same sex or opposite

Stop being too entangled and get tfoutta here!

Greenkim:
I'm new on nairaland and I need advice urgently (heard from a friend that good advice are shared on this platform)
I am a 200L medical student.@1 i have a female friend who I got to know in year one and we did everything together, I even started staying over in her room for us to read. She was all one could need in a friend.
In our 200L first semester she started giving attitude but we reconciled. Now she decided to cut off from me saying she isn't someone who makes friends and she plans to be overly ambitious this semester and extra.
This has left me heartbroken and I feel like the world has come to an end because I'm so attached to her. I even asked her if I was the problem and she said no, rather she said the problem was from her and @2 she was comparing her self to our top Male course mates who had no friends.
Any serious advice on how to move on from here because I'm so depressed and have lost appetite for everything I loved doing.
Ps: I'm female.

I know that kind that of felling when some one starts to avoid u

@1 it happens when people get tired of your excessive presence and don't value ur availability to them.......
when dey realize that they are only the person that u cling to and have no other friends......they become subtile

@2 she doing that will only bring her down top male course mate that has no friends that's a big lie u can't make it their without help from some friends..(I once had that mentality in school but I realized it won't end well, u don't only go to school to study but to make connections that can help u in the future.....u never know wats tomorrow)....u can't know or understand it all in one way or the other u will need help in one or two courses MBBS for that matter.
My advice::: out perform the top male course it may be though though but with dilligence and consistency u will make it.....forget abt her, mark my words when u don't bother abt her ur friend will come on her own . Adios

Hamzasaid:


I know that kind that of felling when some one starts to avoid u

@1 it happens when people get tired of your excessive presence and don't value ur availability to them.......
when dey realize that they are only the person that u cling to and have no other friends......they become subtile

@2 she doing that will only bring her down top male course mate that has no friends that's a big lie u can't make it their without help from some friends..(I once had that mentality in school but I realized it won't end well, u don't only go to school to study but to make connections that can help u in the future.....u never know wats tomorrow)....u can't know or understand it all in one way or the other u will need help in one or two courses MBBS for that matter.
My advice::: out perform the top male course it may be though though but with dilligence and consistency u will make it.....forget abt her, mark my words when u don't bother abt her ur friend will come on her own . Adios

Your first point makes alot of sense.....all my life I've always had the idea of being friendly to everyone and have only one friend but now I've learnt not to get attached or even have expectations of people.

Cerebellum:
I still wonder how people get attached easily to either the same sex or opposite

Stop being too entangled and get tfoutta here!

Working on it, hopefully I'll completely forget about her.

Greenkim:

Working on it, hopefully I'll completely forget about her.

hello bro,hope u fine and gotten over the girl

[quote author=tayewomi post=111947240] hello bro,hope u fine and gotten over the girl[Lol.....I am a she and yeah I've gotten over her totally, we are now casual friends and I'm not even bothered]

okay

[quote author=tayewomi post=111947240] hello bro,hope u fine and gotten over the girl[ lol I'm a girl tho....nd yeah I'mover her, i am glad about the situation bcs it made me realize that our friendship was toxic....but we r cool now.]