If this is what it means to cheat on my husband, then I will do it again.

Sometimes it's not usually a good idea to judge people because, you don't know what made them do whatever they do.

I am married to a man who cares less on how his wife is faring.
All his attention is towards his children. We have only 3 kids, and I am appreciating him for taking care of them, but what about me?
Not that I'm asking for too much, but what about me?
Not that I haven't tried searching for work, I have, but hey, luck wasn't so shining on my side.

So I decided to give up, because my husband is not poor. He is comfortable and capable of taking care of me and the kids, but yet, he is not considering me worthy of eating his money.
And not only that, he hardly touches me. He doesn't enjoy me anymore. I have tried talking it out with him, asking him what the problem was and why he doesn't like sleeping with me anymore, but he said nothing. I asked him, if he doesn't love me anymore, and he asked me what gave me such idea that he doesn't love me anymore, that no matter what, I'm still the mother of his wonderful kids.

Yet, he still never changed and it kept on worrying me. And if I refuse to act fast, my marriage is going to collapse. I don't want that to happen because of my kids. I want them to have their both parents, living together while they grow up.

Most times, the thought that he may be cheating on me creeps in. That he is spending the money he is supposed to be spending on me on another woman. Though he hasn't given me reasons to suspect him, but why is he treating me as if I mean nothing to him? The only way I see money is only if I go to the market to buy stuffs. Because, I usually double the prices of items. He doesn't raise brow on how ridiculous the prices look, he will still give me the money without amending any of them.

I am his wife, I can't continue living this way. I needed someone I can talk to. Someone he listens to. So a better person who I believe fit in that position came to my mind.
His best friend, Eedris, who is also his childhood friend. They are into the same business and does virtually everything together.
Eedris is like a brother to him. He honours the friendship they share.

So I picked my phone and called Eedris, explaining what I was going through and requested to see him, so I can explain better, so he can proffer a possible solution on how to turn my husband's attention back to me.

My narration sounded surprise to him, saying that, my husband never mentioned about not being happy with the marriage. He asked me if I was sure of what I was saying, and I replied yes.

So I requested to see him, that it would be better for him to me face to face, so he can understand my pains and help me talk to my husband.
And he said, ok, that he is at home, that I can come over, if I'm not busy at that moment.
So, I told him that, there was nothing more important than, saving my marriage, and that he is the only one I believe that can help me talk to my husband.

So, 2 hours later, I was at his home. Eedris was dumbfounded on how much I was enduring. He gave me all his ears, listening to my worries. I was completely drowned in emotions.
Because, as I was talking to him, my mind deepened, remembering some parts I have already forgotten.

Eedris really felt my pains and then came close to hold me, to calm me down. So I slowly dived into his arms and felt warmth instantly. His soft gentle perfume graced my nostrils. I pushed my body closer into his arm. The comfort was too mesmerising.
I have been longing to feel this way, but my husband is not giving it to me. I yearned, craved for it, he still saw it fit to starve me. What's my crime? He doesn't want to say. The only thing he could tell me, was that, our marriage is good, that he doesn't have any problems with me.
I don't know if Eedris also felt what I was feeling. He supported me by cuping his arms well tight. I don't know if it was just to make me feel better, or he was having some feelings for me. In other to find out, I decided to look into his face.
As I looked at his face, our eyes clicked.
He gave me this warm look, that was signaling me an invite into his heart.
I moved my face bit closer, almost into his and the next second, we got lost at the moment.
Our lips joined, kissing the hell out of of each other.
Everything happened so fast. Before we could know what was happening, we already made love.
My emotional eruption made me loose guard, that I didn't know when everything happened.
The only thing that was tickling my mind, was the beautiful feeling I was experiencing then.
After the passionate moment, Eedris began apologising, that he was sorry, that he didn't know how it all happened. That he saw himself feeling bad for me and drawing to my emotions, that he didn't know how he lost control. That his intentions was to make me feel better and not to do anything with me.
But I felt better. I'm not regretting what we did.
He asked if I was sure, and I said yes.
He felt glad and held me again, drew me to his arms, and hugged me so passionately, and said that, I deserve to be happy. And also promised to help me talk my husband, that he will make him change for the better.
But he was shocked at the response I gave him.

Continue below to read the final part

Ngozilovelyn.com

What's the title of this story abi na movie?

It's a true story, giving it theatre name isn't necessarily

Globalhustler:
What's the title of this story abi na movie?

NgoziLovelyn:
It's a true story, giving it theatre name isn't necessarily

really? E dey happen sha.

This is super story, a life of strive and sorrow.

Hahaha.. I think that's a better way to describe it

dannyrhymes600:
This is super story, a life of strive and sorrow.

NgoziLovelyn:
Hahaha.. I think that's a better way to describe it

I'm glad you know

A lot happen behind close doors

Globalhustler:
really? E dey happen sha.

Yea

dannyrhymes600:

I'm glad you know

She really can't be blamed shaa

Women should try to always pay attention to their physical appearance and wellbeing, even in marriage.

Marriage is not a licence for you to appear like a common commodity or an unattractive person to your husband.

While dating, you both will be trying to please each other by looking good... After marriage, everybody drops their guard. Some men won't brush properly... Some women get fat and out of shape... As in the list goes on... No matter your financial situation, always look good, clean and attractive for your wife/husband.

Women are at the receiving end because we live in a messed up society where it's okay for the man to sleep outside with another woman but the woman can't do such as it's a taboo... So, the woman should be more concerned about her looks, health and well-being especially in marriage... There are so many simple things that will bring great improvement... simple exercises... simple foods... simple lifestyle changes.

You don't have to wear emulsion paint on your face or fix vulture nails to look attractive... simple, clean, classy wins it for majority of men.

I'm sure that man isn't bold enough to tell the woman the truth about why he no longer finds her attractive... Childbirth won't even help the matter for the woman

Hopefully she finds joy and happiness again without jeopardising her family

SEE CAIO

OBALOLA55:
SEE CAIO

This weather is bad o

Nobody:

NgoziLovelyn: I am an attention seeker and will do anything to get noticed even if it means whoring myself all over town

careytommy37:
Nobody:

NgoziLovelyn: I am an attention seeker and will do anything to get noticed even if it means whoring myself all over town

Lool. Funny but unnecessary.

Its a really good story on how the mind of a cheating woman works (fiction or not).

Kudos OP, well written and an interesting read, too.

Cheating is never the answer. Cheating complicates things and makes it worse. A last option should be to get witnesses and separate before them, cuz usually the wicked spouse doesn't want to change but they want to keep you there to be suffering.

Speak out, call family and friends and announce a clean break, and for God's sake go and find someone who cares. Not your hubby's friend. Make a clean start.

The threads on nairaland tho. Encouraging infidelity is evil

Hi Ngozi,

I am sorry about your ordeal. It hurts to love and not to be loved back. It hurts likewise to be abandoned.

However, have you ever thought about what might be the reason for this change? I am sire it wasn't like this from the onset. I am not penning the blame on you, but it seems that value has shifted grounds.


Psychology puts it that men would only chase after what they see as desirable, a challenge...something stellar. You retiring from job search and not being independent to some extent has made you so many things, but desirable (reason why he doesn't touch you), a challenge (reason why he doesn't make am effort to make you happy).


Its obvious your husband likes his women ambitious. I know parenthood and marriage can be tasking, but please dust your CV and get your groove back in the labour market. Whilst at it, discover your entrepreneurial flare, draft a business proposal and mail it to him.

For your man to desire you, he needs to be turned on by your "doings". Make sure you look prem and proper even when at home. Get some hot négligé, do not act thirsty, but make him thirsty. Please don't nag....


I wish you good luck!

These storytelling guys have come again

NgoziLovelyn:
If this is what it means to cheat on my husband, then I will do it again.

Sometimes it's not usually a good idea to judge people because, you don't know what made them do whatever they do.

I am married to a man who cares less on how his wife is faring.
All his attention is towards his children. We have only 3 kids, and I am appreciating him for taking care of them, but what about me?
Not that I'm asking for too much, but what about me?
Not that I haven't tried searching for work, I have, but hey, luck wasn't so shining on my side.

So I decided to give up, because my husband is not poor. He is comfortable and capable of taking care of me and the kids, but yet, he is not considering me worthy of eating his money.
And not only that, he hardly touches me. He doesn't enjoy me anymore. I have tried talking it out with him, asking him what the problem was and why he doesn't like sleeping with me anymore, but he said nothing. I asked him, if he doesn't love me anymore, and he asked me what gave me such idea that he doesn't love me anymore, that no matter what, I'm still the mother of his wonderful kids.

Yet, he still never changed and it kept on worrying me. And if I refuse to act fast, my marriage is going to collapse. I don't want that to happen because of my kids. I want them to have their both parents, living together while they grow up.

Most times, the thought that he may be cheating on me creeps in. That he is spending the money he is supposed to be spending on me on another woman. Though he hasn't given me reasons to suspect him, but why is he treating me as if I mean nothing to him? The only way I see money is only if I go to the market to buy stuffs. Because, I usually double the prices of items. He doesn't raise brow on how ridiculous the prices look, he will still give me the money without amending any of them.

I am his wife, I can't continue living this way. I needed someone I can talk to. Someone he listens to. So a better person who I believe fit in that position came to my mind.
His best friend, Eedris, who is also his childhood friend. They are into the same business and does virtually everything together.
Eedris is like a brother to him. He honours the friendship they share.

So I picked my phone and called Eedris, explaining what I was going through and requested to see him, so I can explain better, so he can proffer a possible solution on how to turn my husband's attention back to me.

My narration sounded surprise to him, saying that, my husband never mentioned about not being happy with the marriage. He asked me if I was sure of what I was saying, and I replied yes.

So I requested to see him, that it would be better for him to me face to face, so he can understand my pains and help me talk to my husband.
And he said, ok, that he is at home, that I can come over, if I'm not busy at that moment.
So, I told him that, there was nothing more important than, saving my marriage, and that he is the only one I believe that can help me talk to my husband.

So, 2 hours later, I was at his home. Eedris was dumbfounded on how much I was enduring. He gave me all his ears, listening to my worries. I was completely drowned in emotions.
Because, as I was talking to him, my mind deepened, remembering some parts I have already forgotten.

Eedris really felt my pains and then came close to hold me, to calm me down. So I slowly dived into his arms and felt warmth instantly. His soft gentle perfume graced my nostrils. I pushed my body closer into his arm. The comfort was too mesmerising.
I have been longing to feel this way, but my husband is not giving it to me. I yearned, craved for it, he still saw it fit to starve me. What's my crime? He doesn't want to say. The only thing he could tell me, was that, our marriage is good, that he doesn't have any problems with me.
I don't know if Eedris also felt what I was feeling. He supported me by cuping his arms well tight. I don't know if it was just to make me feel better, or he was having some feelings for me. In other to find out, I decided to look into his face.
As I looked at his face, our eyes clicked.
He gave me this warm look, that was signaling me an invite into his heart.
I moved my face bit closer, almost into his and the next second, we got lost at the moment.
Our lips joined, kissing the hell out of of each other.
Everything happened so fast. Before we could know what was happening, we already made love.
My emotional eruption made me loose guard, that I didn't know when everything happened.
The only thing that was tickling my mind, was the beautiful feeling I was experiencing then.
After the passionate moment, Eedris began apologising, that he was sorry, that he didn't know how it all happened. That he saw himself feeling bad for me and drawing to my emotions, that he didn't know how he lost control. That his intentions was to make me feel better and not to do anything with me.
But I felt better. I'm not regretting what we did.
He asked if I was sure, and I said yes.
He felt glad and held me again, drew me to his arms, and hugged me so passionately, and said that, I deserve to be happy. And also promised to help me talk my husband, that he will make him change for the better.
But he was shocked at the response I gave him.

Continue below to read the final part

Ngozilovelyn.com

Nothing a woman will ever do will surprise me again!

It sounds like a made up story.

But let us say it isn't. Why haven't you taken this matter to his parents? Why haven't you taken this matter to God?

NgoziLovelyn:
If this is what it means to cheat on my husband, then I will do it again.

Sometimes it's not usually a good idea to judge people because, you don't know what made them do whatever they do.

I am married to a man who cares less on how his wife is faring.
All his attention is towards his children. We have only 3 kids, and I am appreciating him for taking care of them, but what about me?
Not that I'm asking for too much, but what about me?
Not that I haven't tried searching for work, I have, but hey, luck wasn't so shining on my side.

So I decided to give up, because my husband is not poor. He is comfortable and capable of taking care of me and the kids, but yet, he is not considering me worthy of eating his money.
And not only that, he hardly touches me. He doesn't enjoy me anymore. I have tried talking it out with him, asking him what the problem was and why he doesn't like sleeping with me anymore, but he said nothing. I asked him, if he doesn't love me anymore, and he asked me what gave me such idea that he doesn't love me anymore, that no matter what, I'm still the mother of his wonderful kids.

Yet, he still never changed and it kept on worrying me. And if I refuse to act fast, my marriage is going to collapse. I don't want that to happen because of my kids. I want them to have their both parents, living together while they grow up.

Most times, the thought that he may be cheating on me creeps in. That he is spending the money he is supposed to be spending on me on another woman. Though he hasn't given me reasons to suspect him, but why is he treating me as if I mean nothing to him? The only way I see money is only if I go to the market to buy stuffs. Because, I usually double the prices of items. He doesn't raise brow on how ridiculous the prices look, he will still give me the money without amending any of them.

I am his wife, I can't continue living this way. I needed someone I can talk to. Someone he listens to. So a better person who I believe fit in that position came to my mind.
His best friend, Eedris, who is also his childhood friend. They are into the same business and does virtually everything together.
Eedris is like a brother to him. He honours the friendship they share.

So I picked my phone and called Eedris, explaining what I was going through and requested to see him, so I can explain better, so he can proffer a possible solution on how to turn my husband's attention back to me.

My narration sounded surprise to him, saying that, my husband never mentioned about not being happy with the marriage. He asked me if I was sure of what I was saying, and I replied yes.

So I requested to see him, that it would be better for him to me face to face, so he can understand my pains and help me talk to my husband.
And he said, ok, that he is at home, that I can come over, if I'm not busy at that moment.
So, I told him that, there was nothing more important than, saving my marriage, and that he is the only one I believe that can help me talk to my husband.

So, 2 hours later, I was at his home. Eedris was dumbfounded on how much I was enduring. He gave me all his ears, listening to my worries. I was completely drowned in emotions.
Because, as I was talking to him, my mind deepened, remembering some parts I have already forgotten.

Eedris really felt my pains and then came close to hold me, to calm me down. So I slowly dived into his arms and felt warmth instantly. His soft gentle perfume graced my nostrils. I pushed my body closer into his arm. The comfort was too mesmerising.
I have been longing to feel this way, but my husband is not giving it to me. I yearned, craved for it, he still saw it fit to starve me. What's my crime? He doesn't want to say. The only thing he could tell me, was that, our marriage is good, that he doesn't have any problems with me.
I don't know if Eedris also felt what I was feeling. He supported me by cuping his arms well tight. I don't know if it was just to make me feel better, or he was having some feelings for me. In other to find out, I decided to look into his face.
As I looked at his face, our eyes clicked.
He gave me this warm look, that was signaling me an invite into his heart.
I moved my face bit closer, almost into his and the next second, we got lost at the moment.
Our lips joined, kissing the hell out of of each other.
Everything happened so fast. Before we could know what was happening, we already made love.
My emotional eruption made me loose guard, that I didn't know when everything happened.
The only thing that was tickling my mind, was the beautiful feeling I was experiencing then.
After the passionate moment, Eedris began apologising, that he was sorry, that he didn't know how it all happened. That he saw himself feeling bad for me and drawing to my emotions, that he didn't know how he lost control. That his intentions was to make me feel better and not to do anything with me.
But I felt better. I'm not regretting what we did.
He asked if I was sure, and I said yes.
He felt glad and held me again, drew me to his arms, and hugged me so passionately, and said that, I deserve to be happy. And also promised to help me talk my husband, that he will make him change for the better.
But he was shocked at the response I gave him.

Continue below to read the final part

Ngozilovelyn.com

"His soft gentle perfume graced my nostrils. I pushed my body closer into his arm. The comfort was too mesmerising."

This is where I stopped reading this novel.

It may look like a write up but honestly it's real, 100% real, just that cheating is not the way forward, dust your C. V and get a good job with prayer all things are possible. Sometimes good character, beauty or whatsoever do not keep some men. May God help us all.

Hmm, two wrongs can never make a right. I would dress hot and fake seeing a new guy and pretend not to care too.
He will eventually speak up... he should give you money to start a business or you can as well get small capital from d gain u raise in getting foodstuff.

Ok......so that you don't learn bad thing.

buzorcharles:
"His soft gentle perfume graced my nostrils. I pushed my body closer into his arm. The comfort was too mesmerising."

This is where I stopped reading this novel.

Nice one, but she doesn't like business. She prefers to work

milky3:
Hmm, two wrongs can never make a right. I would dress hot and fake seeing a new guy and pretend not to care too.
He will eventually speak up... he should give you money to start a business or you can as well get small capital from d gain u raise in getting foodstuff.

Yea... you are right

Kaybae:
It may look like a write up but honestly it's real, 100% real, just that cheating is not the way forward, dust your C. V and get a good job with prayer all things are possible. Sometimes good character, beauty or whatsoever do not keep some men. May God help us all.

She did all that, but he kept saying he is good, that their marriage is working fine

angelfallz:
It sounds like a made up story.

But let us say it isn't. Why haven't you taken this matter to his parents? Why haven't you taken this matter to God?

All this inside life? The future is that gendre indeed! And any one who got turned on while reading this tales, he's a cheat also

Hmmm.
I had this experience minus the cheating part though because as a spiritualist I am more scared concerned about going against spiritual laws.

God came to my rescue.