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Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Chrisbenn(m): 9:17pm On Aug 07, 2021
You all are aware of my moving to Lagos island, I didn't really tell people close to me because I notice something about nigerians these days they have this syndrome known as
COMPULSIVE LIABILITY DISORDER in which when they see someone that looks like he's doing well not necessarily doing well persay all they start thinking of is how to get one thing or the other from the person.

So this friend of my dad called me and told me his son needed somewhere to stay for a couple of days being someone I hold really high I couldn't say no so I allowed him.

It's a month now and the guy is still here, this shouldn't be a problem naturally but let me break it down for you this guy has been chased away from 5 different places so for someone that has been chased away from 5 different places I don't need to tell you again anything about the kind of person he is.

The most painful part is everybody that heard that he wants to come and live with me WARNED ME STERNLY against it but mumu me I was saying to myself why are people so wicked shebi it's just to accommodate the guy for a couple of days let me be my brothers keeper. Now I understand better why it looks like people no one dey help.

I have left the house for him and went to my town where I will tell his dad he has 1 week to vacate.

So what ways can I use to evacuate him forcefully because he looks like he's not leaving


My message to everyone reading this is NEVER ABUSE ANY PRIVILEGE OR HELP YOU ARE PROVIDED WITH, DON'T BE THE REASON SOMEONE WILL STOP ASSISTING FELLOW MEN, because now it will be difficult to provide accommodation to anyone again.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by BigMoneyeye: 9:20pm On Aug 07, 2021
Inform his dad that your finance would be coming around. His dad will convey the message to him

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Bigredmachine: 9:23pm On Aug 07, 2021
just do something
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Nobody: 9:24pm On Aug 07, 2021
U de Dull oo grin grin
Me i suppose don call de parents on phone since nd Reason dem Xup abut der Son, travelling 2 Village 2 tell dem is waste of time nd energy,,,
Agreement is an Agreement,
Ur Agreement wit dem don Expire undecided

Must u people need Nairaland Advice b4 u people do de needful undecided

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Iniobong34: 9:32pm On Aug 07, 2021
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Plomo: 9:35pm On Aug 07, 2021
As a man, e get some kind question wey you no suppose ask.

If you don’t want someone in your house, simply advise him to leave. Then if you still want to be nice, give him an ultimatum.

You have muscles for a reason, flex it.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Ulunne777(f): 9:53pm On Aug 07, 2021
Your wahala then. You haven't said anything he did to you.

You don't inherit hatred or enemies based on ppls opinion of someone . He's older than you changes nothing.

When you are tired, tell him. You had a reason to accept him even after the 5 ppl.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Chrisbenn(m): 9:59pm On Aug 07, 2021
Plomo:
As a man, e get some kind question wey you no suppose ask.

If you don’t want someone in your house, simply advise him to leave. Then if you still want to be nice, give him an ultimatum.

You have muscles for a reason, flex it.
You think it's just by telling people to leave
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Chrisbenn(m): 10:02pm On Aug 07, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?
Didn't you read where I said he has been chased from 5 different places or do you want me to start explaining to you the kind of person dey keep chasing from different places or the kind of person people warn you not to accommodate

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Chrisbenn(m): 10:03pm On Aug 07, 2021
Ulunne777:
But you didn't even say how he has wronged you other than overstaying. If he isn't getting in your way why not steer him to the right path and discuss sharing housing expenses till he's on his feet . Ppl can be termed difficult but once they meet a particular person they mellow.

We are humans who go to others to scratch our back when it itches not like goats that look for a wall or tree.Will you be happier if he returns to the village to turn to menace?

Onwe kwanu onye uwa zuru? It's not easy but try.
Didn't you read where I said he has been chased from 5 different places or do you want me to start explaining to you the kind of person dey keep chasing from different places or the kind of person people warn you not to accommodate abi if he's habitable I go come here come complain?
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Polynek(m): 10:09pm On Aug 07, 2021
Though He has been chased away by 5 different pple according to you, but u can change His life 4 beta, you know wat I mean, but if u can't, you do the needful by sending Him away
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Chrisbenn(m): 10:15pm On Aug 07, 2021
Polynek:
Though He has been chased away by 5 different pple according to you, but u can change His life 4 beta, you know wat I mean, but if u can't, you do the needful by sending Him away
This is someone older than me o
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Polynek(m): 10:18pm On Aug 07, 2021
Chrisbenn:

This is someone older than me o
And dax why I said if u can't, you folo ur mind
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Khonifer: 10:20pm On Aug 07, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?

Mr, are we acting Nigerian film? cheesy

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Iniobong34: 10:34pm On Aug 07, 2021
Khonifer:


Mr, are we acting Nigerian film? cheesy
Lets keep film aside. If you think evry successful man was born with a silver spoon thats to say you are stil sleeping.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Plomo: 11:20pm On Aug 07, 2021
Chrisbenn:

You think it's just by telling people to leave

Lol in my own house?

Like my house where I pay my rent?

Lool
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Newboss(m): 12:28am On Aug 08, 2021
Ulunne777:
But you didn't even say how he has wronged you other than overstaying. If he isn't getting in your way why not steer him to the right path and discuss sharing housing expenses till he's on his feet . Ppl can be termed difficult but once they meet a particular person they mellow.

We are humans who go to others to scratch our back when it itches not like goats that look for a wall or tree.Will you be happier if he returns to the village to turn to menace?

Onwe kwanu onye uwa zuru? It's not easy but try.

You sound too nice for your own good. It's very bad. Learn to put yourself first
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by VillagePipu: 2:57am On Aug 08, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?

And who told you the OP won't be richer than him?
I don't know why some people have begging mentality in their DNA.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Magnoliaa(f): 4:43am On Aug 08, 2021
Lewisjohnson:
U de Dull oo grin grin
Me i suppose don call de parents on phone since nd Reason dem Xup abut der Son, travelling 2 Village 2 tell dem is waste of time nd energy,,,
Agreement is an Agreement,
Ur Agreement wit dem don Expire undecided

Must u people need Nairaland Advice b4 u people do de needful undecided
Lmao. cheesy

Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?

Seriously? No, seriously?
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Magnoliaa(f): 4:56am On Aug 08, 2021
Newboss:


You sound too nice for your own good. It's very bad. Learn to put yourself first

I think he made a very good judgement actually. You concluding his outlook on life is bad is such a reach. Maybe, just maybe if everyone treated people like he said, we wouldn't have to be putting ourselves first and looking over our backs every time?

I know bad things happen to all people, but I think people with "nice" attitudes like that tend to get good coming back to them because they give, and are always looking for ways to help, so they meet people like themselves and even when bad things happen, it doesn't affect them as much. If they are not being entitled to goodness because they are good, that is. He merely suggested just helping or giving it a try...he hasn't asked the OP to kill himself or to sacrifice something. Although I know how difficult people can be and we don't even know how the particular person in OP's case is.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by greenie77: 5:02am On Aug 08, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?

And what makes you think OP will become poorer in the future?

Someone who has been a rolling stone, chased from 5 different places...it is a reflection of someone who has not contributed meaningfully wherever he had shared housing with people.

One thing I have learnt in life is that being assertive makes others lose the capacity to guilt trip you.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by sisisioge: 6:05am On Aug 08, 2021
Actually, you have it under control. No need to fight or sound too harsh when relaying your decision to the dad. Simply tell him respectfully that you allowed in the first place thinking its 2days or max 2 weeks. And that you have a real need for your privacy now. Do it looking very solemn.

Why won't the guy just get a small apartment for himself instead of moving from house to house? Na wa o.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Nobody: 6:58am On Aug 08, 2021
You haven't said anything he did to you apart from citing warnings from the other people he stayed with.
I don't think your sending him away based on other people's judgement is tenable enough except there's something you're not willing to tell us.

In the meantime, let me reserve my comments.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by yuping(m): 7:53am On Aug 08, 2021
Tell his dad the truth that you need your space is not easy, is better than beating around the bush. And let the dad knows that you've left home because of him, so he will no how serious it is.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by mcdokwe(m): 7:53am On Aug 08, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?
and you don't see the this guy being rich in that your future abi?
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Iniobong34: 7:54am On Aug 08, 2021
greenie77:


And what makes you think OP will become poorer in the future?

Someone who has been a rolling stone, chased from 5 different places...it is a reflection of someone who has not contributed meaningfully wherever he had shared housing with people.

One thing I have learnt in life is that being assertive makes others lose the capacity to guilt trip you.
I'v never think such.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by MufasaLion: 7:58am On Aug 08, 2021
Iniobong34:
And if you eventualy evacuate him forcefully and in the future he has becomes rich, how will he sees u?

Stop this type of mentality.

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Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by MufasaLion: 8:00am On Aug 08, 2021
I'd urge you to tslk to his parents, but since you already said you are going to see his father there's no problem.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by MufasaLion: 8:02am On Aug 08, 2021
CharisEleos:
You haven't said anything he did to you apart from citing warnings from the other people he stayed with.
I don't think your sending him away based on other people's judgement is tenable enough except there's something you're not willing to tell us.

In the meantime, let me reserve my comments.

I doubt if he's sending him away based on what people said. If that was the case, he wouldn't have accepted him to start with.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by Nobody: 8:09am On Aug 08, 2021
MufasaLion:


I doubt if he's sending him away based on what people said. If that was the case, he wouldn't have accepted him to start with.

Then let him spill it all out grin
Abi which one is keeping us in suspense? undecided.

Good morning.
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by VTJN(m): 8:15am On Aug 08, 2021
Chrisbenn:

Didn't you read where I said he has been chased from 5 different places or do you want me to start explaining to you the kind of person dey keep chasing from different places or the kind of person people warn you not to accommodate
What exactly has he done wrong to you within the period he has stayed with you? Though he might be a bad person as you said. But don't you think you could make him turn a New leave?

Is there something wrong he has done or doing in your house that you want him exit?

Or you just want him to leave according to the agreement his father had with you?
Re: Please Help How Can I Chase This Guy Away From My House? by MufasaLion: 8:17am On Aug 08, 2021
CharisEleos:


Then let him spill it all out grin
Abi which one is keeping us in suspense? undecided.

Good morning.

I hope he does that.

The person of interest too should work on himself. How could you be chased away from 5 different homes when you're not cursed? grin grin grin grin

Anyways, did you sleep well? tongue

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