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Phew by ladygemini(f): 6:45pm On May 17, 2011
Phew
Re: Phew by hunkyjohn(m): 6:50pm On May 17, 2011
Sometimes yes but most times No.

Love often becomes a choice when frustration sets in!
Re: Phew by Godmother(f): 7:16pm On May 17, 2011
@ OP
It seems like you are talking from personnal experience.
Re: Phew by Nobody: 7:29pm On May 17, 2011
@poster
i totally disagree and IMHO what you are saying is what most desperate to marry people would say to feel better about marrying any donkey out there.
- whats the point of MARRYING someone if you dont love them?!
- what if you dont grow that "love" you are talking about"?
- if what you say is true then what is your BASE for marrying that person? his wealth, status?! lol
- what do you think a man who doesnt love you (but married you), will do when he FINALLY finds that loved one?!
- should any woman just marry any person that loves them regardless of how they feel about this donkey?

you are the one who is not realistic about life and marriage, thinking that its simply a piece of paper while its really a LIFETIME COMMITMENT with a lot of hard work.
Re: Phew by sexylogan(m): 8:26pm On May 17, 2011
ladygemini:

you dont have to love the person you marry,[b]love is a choice [/b]and it grows if we make up our mind to love the person.alot of women are unmarried today because they are not being realistic about the things they want in a man and the situation surrounding such man.

most women love someone who is loving someone else and they dont give attention to the guy who is loving them just because he seem not to have their unrealistic qualities and they go on like this till the guy finally finds someone who loves him and then he is no no longer available.

i disagree,poster. u cant see sumone and say to urself, i have decided

to love this person. it just happens. yes, love can grow with time as u

discover their strengths and learn to accommodate their weaknesses

but love isnt a choice.
Re: Phew by iice(f): 5:18am On May 19, 2011
Yes it's a choice.
Re: Phew by MrsChima(f): 5:31am On May 19, 2011
You can choose to love someone or not. You can also sell love as well. Many people are doing that around the world. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Phew by iice(f): 5:32am On May 19, 2011
For free meals grin
Re: Phew by MrsChima(f): 5:33am On May 19, 2011
Ooooooooo lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed grin grin grin grin
Re: Phew by Nobody: 5:40am On May 19, 2011
Love is not a choice and it cannot be forced. Having a bond with someone you are amongst for long periods of time is not the same as being IN love.
The failure to differentiate the two is part of the reason why divorce on an international scale is through the roof.
Re: Phew by adamsrib(f): 6:15am On May 19, 2011
Love is a choice. I choose to love my spouse even though he knows how to get on my last nerve. I choose to be with this imperfect person for the rest of my life and to stand by him no matter what happens.  In marriage you don't always have that lovey dovey feeling. At some point you will have heard all their stories, talked about everything you can think of, and you will have seen them in so many different situations that you can predict with 99.9%  accuracy what they will say or do and yet you choose to stay.  Choosing not to love your partner every single day is, in my opinion, why relationships break down. If you are not choosing to stay together then by default you are choosing to no longer be together.
Re: Phew by MMM2(m): 6:21am On May 19, 2011
true talk
Re: Phew by Aiekwede: 6:24am On May 19, 2011
adamsrib:

Love is a choice. I choose to love my spouse even though he knows how to get on my last nerve. I choose to be with this imperfect person for the rest of my life and to stand by him no matter what happens.  In marriage you don't always have that lovey dovey feeling, at some point you will have heard all their stories, talked about everything you can think of, you will have seen them in so many different situations that you can predict with 99.9%  accuracy what they will say or do and yet you choose to stay.  Choosing not to love your partner every single day is, in my opinion, why relationships break down. If you are not choosing to stay together then by default you are choosing to no longer be together.

wink grin
Re: Phew by adamsrib(f): 6:35am On May 19, 2011
Aiekwede:

wink grin

Hi Honey :-)
Re: Phew by okeyazu: 10:43am On May 19, 2011
u must marry d person u love
Re: Phew by Kgdavid(m): 11:33am On May 19, 2011
age old cliche but once again people are failing to differentiate between love and lust. Love is a choice most def! O.P thou art wise
Re: Phew by Tingles(m): 12:49pm On May 19, 2011
Love is a choice our subconscious mind makes.

E.g. I still love my ex, I never stopped loving her but I can't live with her many imperfections especially when she isn't planning to change.
Re: Phew by MissyB3(f): 3:32pm On May 19, 2011
No, I do not agree. Love or any other emotion, if sincere, is involuntary hence uncalculated/unprogrammed/ not dependent on my decision.
Re: Phew by Nobody: 3:57pm On May 19, 2011
@OP And most people make bad choices.
Re: Phew by Dsense(m): 4:06pm On May 19, 2011
op.

I do not agree . . . .
Re: Phew by Nobody: 10:39pm On May 19, 2011
^^Nobody asked u, o-slushy! angry tongue grin

Missy ★ B:

No, I do not agree. Love or any other emotion, if sincere, is involuntary hence uncalculated/unprogrammed/ not dependent on my decision.

GBAM!!
Re: Phew by sexylogan(m): 10:58pm On May 19, 2011
MzDarkSkin:

^^Nobody asked u, o-slushy! angry tongue grin

GBAM!!

lmao. grin
Re: Phew by aminalib(f): 1:28pm On May 20, 2011
Love is not a choice, if that was the case people would be the person that treats them the best instead of some riff raff that doesn't care for them, love is just something that happens.
Re: Phew by Kgdavid(m): 4:38pm On May 20, 2011
aminalib:

Love is not a choice, if that was the case people would be the person that treats them the best instead of some riff raff that doesn't care for them, love is just something that happens.

thats an obvious contradiction. wt yu say implies that people must love the person who treats em well, but however most people choose not to do so. the fact remains that people do not always make the rational choice because they have other mostly irrational criteria on which the choice is made.
Re: Phew by Nobody: 4:50pm On May 20, 2011
adamsrib:

Love is a choice. I choose to love my spouse even though he knows how to get on my last nerve. I choose to be with this imperfect person for the rest of my life and to stand by him no matter what happens.  In marriage you don't always have that lovey dovey feeling. At some point you will have heard all their stories, talked about everything you can think of, and you will have seen them in so many different situations that you can predict with 99.9%  accuracy what they will say or do and yet you choose to stay.  Choosing not to love your partner every single day is, in my opinion, why relationships break down. If you are not choosing to stay together then by default you are choosing to no longer be together.

Clicks 'like'!
Re: Phew by aminalib(f): 4:55pm On May 20, 2011
@ kgdavid, ummmok i basically stated wat u did , ook
Re: Phew by MrCork17: 5:07pm On May 20, 2011
aminalib (f). sweeery can i looove you like Cabin Biscuit? tongue
Re: Phew by Dsense(m): 5:44pm On May 20, 2011
Mrs.Chima:

You can choose to love someone or not. You can also sell love as well. Many people are doing that around the world. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided
Re: Phew by ladygemini(f): 11:08am On May 21, 2011
thank y'all for replying, i bet we have our different opinions but i still stand by my belief that love is a choice.
its not a personal experience like a poster said,as in my own case its d way round,am hardly into any guy that says he loves me&his actions say otherwise.
i will get back to u guys as soon as i leave d salon.shalom!!!
Re: Phew by Beync(f): 4:11pm On May 21, 2011
Love can be a choice, even thou it involves feelings, u can choose to flow with the feels or suppress in a matter of time.
Re: Phew by 2blunt: 3:54am On May 22, 2011
ladygemini:

you dont have to love the person you marry,love is a choice and it grows if we make up our mind to love the person.alot of women are unmarried today because they are not being realistic about the things they want in a man and the situation surrounding such man.

most women love someone who is loving someone else and they dont give attention to the guy who is loving them just because he seem not to have their unrealistic qualities and they go on like this till the guy finally finds someone who loves him and then he is no no longer available.
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LOVE IS A CHOICE I AGREE TOTALLY[/size]
Re: Phew by IZUKWU(m): 11:13am On May 22, 2011
We fall in love by chance .We stay in love by work and we fall out of love by choice. To an extent love is a decision ,at a point you begin to ask yourself ,what is in this relationship for me. And you make the choice of whether to continue in love or fall out of love. I used to have this girlfriend ,i loved her but was never sure of my place in her life.So i decided to fall out of love with her.How? Stopped calling her ,avoided her . Stopped picking her calls. Its four months now. Am over her. Saw her on friday and heart didn't even shiver.Not that i didn't miss her ,i did but i decided that she is not worth the heartache. So poster i agree with you.

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