We all claim we individually want an honest, transparent and trustworthy partner that is very committed in our individual relationships. But most of us are saying it is wrong for husband and wife to have access to each other's phones.

It is like saying "I want someone without mouth odour but I don't want anybody to come near me". How will you identify those without mouth odour? If you are not sharing with another person what you should share with your spouse alone and if you are not closer to an outsider than you are to your spouse, why do you deny your spouse free access to your phone?

Do not misunderstand me. Do not think I want people to monitor their spouses as if the spouses are criminals. Checking my wife's phone to confirm her faithfulness will never be my habit. I will not try it even a day. If checking her phone is how I can confirm her faithfulness, it means I am dumb.

But I should have free access to her phone and she should have free access to my phone. If I deny her free access to my phone, it means I am afraid that I might get a dirty message or call from someone when she is using the phone.

What can be more personal to you than your sexual organ? You have access to each other's sexual organs but you are debating whether you should share phones. This generation has lived immoral life to a point that vanity is treasured over natural things that money cannot create. It is a pity.

No wonder people password their phones and refuse to disclose it, yet most people are generous with their bodies. Some people have offered their bodies to almost everyone around them but do not allow anybody to check their phones. Whatever information you consider personal to yourself in your phone is not as personal as your sexual organs. Whoever does not deserve access to that information does not deserve access to your sexual organs. As for people who do sensitive jobs that require high level of confidentiality, get a separate phone for the job. Only few jobs demand such. But a driver or a driver of a public transport hides his phone from his wife as if his phone contains the top secret of the federal government. A woman that sells fish or vegetables is hiding her phone from her husband as if her phone is the database of the central bank.

But for those who desire transparency in their marriages, try to be rational so your actions will not hinder your desire. If you are the type that runs mad when your spouse renders a justifiable help to a family member or a friend, you are tempting the spouse to deny you free access to his or her phone. If you are the type that forces your spouse to lavish savings on expensive wears, he or she may choose to hide phone from you so you would not know his or her earnings. This is more reason you should choose someone whose mentality (understanding) is similar to yours. Facial look and material possession cannot be as satisfying as character.

If it's my phone she wants to access, she can have it.

Including my laptop.... and mp player... and both chargers.


If that will hold her not to share her hotspot like wifi to neighbors around the compound and next compound....no pee.


The worst thing in a man life is marrying a whóre, because all the shame yours and hers, will be on you.

Smile, I'm here to read comments.

I wonder why I can't check my husband's phone

immortalcrown:
We all claim we individually want an honest, transparent and trustworthy partner that is very committed in our individual relationships. But most of us are saying it is wrong for husband and wife to have access to each other's phones.

It is like saying "I want someone without mouth odour but I don't want anybody to come near me". How will you identify those without mouth odour?

Do not misunderstand me. Do not think I want people to monitor their spouses as if the spouses are criminals. Checking my wife's phone to confirm her faithfulness will never be my habit. I will not try it even a day. If checking her phone is how I can confirm her faithfulness, it means I am dumb.

But I should have free access to her phone and she should have free access to my phone. If I deny her free access to my phone, it means I am afraid that I might get a dirty message or call from someone when she is using the phone.

What can be more personal to you than your sexual organ? You have access to each other's sexual organs but you are debating whether you should share phones. This generation has lived immoral life to a point that vanity is treasured over natural things that money cannot create. It is a pity.

No wonder people password their phones and refuse to disclose it, yet most people are generous with their bodies. Some people have offered their bodies to almost everyone around them but do not allow anybody to check their phones. Whatever information you consider personal to yourself in your phone is not as personal as your sexual organs. Whoever does not deserve access to that information does not deserve access to your sexual organs. As for people who do sensitive jobs that require high level of confidentiality, get a separate phone for the job. Only few jobs demand such. But a driver or a gateman is hiding his phone from his wife. A woman that sells fish or vegetables is hiding her phone from her husband.

Confused generation.

This is the type of king I am looking for

KiNg0G:
If it's my phone she wants to access, she can have it.

Including my laptop.... and mp player.


If that will hold her not to share her hotspot like wifi no pee.

Your P. A can pick your call but not your wife or husband, madam/Oga you are hiding something, I don't no why this is even a topic globally as in it usually get to me what is the big deal about it.
Is not as if you are in a competition or bid with your spouse, you dont want them to win a contract you are both bidding for. If you are honest let them even pick your call atleast for them to know your colleagues or friend.
Why marry someone who cannot represent you in your absents why?
Your spouse should be your 2IC.
for doctors and lawyers who deals with privacy I don't see anything bad for your spouse to tell you that a patient or clients just say you should call him back its important.
Going through your phone has never kill anybody why keep secret you can share with someone you says you love. Always remember when something bad happen the first person people question is your spouse and they will still judge him/her for not knowing or being aware of your doings.

Marriage is a tricky union. A wife shld have and unfettered access to the mobile phone of her husband likewise the husband. But the problem is if the wife is somebody that refuse to trust the husband even when others outside commend him? What then happen?

There are many reasons why people restrict access to their phones. It's not just about checking if the other person is faithful or not.

Personally I wouldn't allow anyone have access to my phone, because I have alot of personal contents in it. Eg. Business deals, transaction receipts and projects I could be doing on the side.

Imagine your wife asking you for 50k and you tell her you don't have then she sees an email of 100k you sent to your Mom and 10million in your account balance! No be war be that!

In ordinary relationship some lovers don't use to hide there phones let alone couples, something must b fishy. Simple

I don't see anything bad In it tho

No be only access,na first bank.

Jokes apart, gaining access to each other phones isn't a bad thing tho,but truly it's one thing that'd definitely bring about the damage of many homes...

Sometimes,e better say make everybody just mind him business for peace to reign instead of causing world war3 out of minor issues....

As for me,I no dey reason,or talk more of gaining access to my gf phone because I know say if eventually try am,the kind rubbish wey guyman go see fit make am end the relationship ASAP

Who be this one, why you dey find trouble, this matter is still in court and nobody should comment on a matter in court, if na lie , ask a lawyer