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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by ADude(m): 10:29am On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:

I can't predict if his cultists and I can't doubt it because he behaves strange and irresponsible.
Now his just becoming worse by stealing from other people, neighbors
He has done another one now which his be wanted by police.
My friend just like anther poster said allow him cooloff in prison for a longtime forget this family image been destroyed you kept yammering about. Let him know you all can't wait for him to die off nobody coming to his rescue. My immediate younger brother acted same before he get sense, he knew without been told that I no send am infact I use to tell him he can go kill himself or die the next day for all I care life goes on for us the living. You need to be the big brother man, a hard one, somebody he will come to respect. Even in those days he fears and respect me. When he does come around water him with love and rally him along the family goals and dream, more importantly his contribution in the whole progress.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by becky39000(m): 10:41am On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
but if he is been arrested and jailed won't it affect the family image

That is exactly what gives the Boy the guts to keep on committing more atrocities.

Forget family image.
He should be left to learn the hard way by facing the consequences of his actions angry

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Fantazy(m): 10:51am On Sep 04, 2021
Pray for him to stop Stealing, that's the only problem he has. Others you mentioned are normal.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Brunosamel(m): 11:01am On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
my advice find a way to send him to military base to stay if that is possible when he stays there like 2 years his head go correct
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Damian10(m): 11:17am On Sep 04, 2021
I understand every bit of what you have said because i had a family member on such horrible ride, but glory to God he is back humble, hard working and devoted again all thanks to mom prayers and never we as family never relenting on helping him, mom woluld take a photo of him to our church crusade often believing in God power of effecing change.
I don't intend getting preachy but bro, my brothers was a perfect example of "nothing God cannot do" infact we the sibblings lost all hope in him i personally wanted him jailed forever for the emotional wreck he caused us all. He got us stigmatised with his many troubles, drunkenness, pilfering, violence, touting and all vices the human mind can think of. But bro pls you people shouldn't give up on him that is what family is all about, never stop trying to talk to him, praying for him even though it seems it's not working God is forever Alive.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Damian10(m): 11:20am On Sep 04, 2021
Damian10:
I understand every bit of what you have said because i had a family member on such horrible ride, but glory to God he is back humble, hard working and devoted again all thanks to mom prayers and we as family never relenting on helping him, mom would take a photo of him to our church crusade often believing in Gods power.
I don't intend getting preachy but bro, my brother is now a perfect example of "nothing God cannot do" infact we the sibblings lost all hope, i personally wanted him jailed forever for the emotional wreck he caused us all. He got us stigmatised with his many troubles, drunkenness, pilfering, violence, touting and all vices the human mind can think of. But bro pls you people shouldn't give up on him, that is what family is all about no matter what, never stop trying to talk to him, praying for him even though it seems it's not working God is forever Alive.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by bepositive11: 11:54am On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Sounds like your brother is a sociopath. I read in another comment that you lost your dad years back, so you come from a broken home. Childhood trauma and abandonment and abuse are what usually create sociopaths.

The mistake your family is making is you're enabling his bad behaviour by continuously bailing him out.

We usually avoid bad behaviour because we don't want to face the consequences. But since your family keeps bailing him out, you're not allowing him to deal with the consequences of his actions, and that's why he keeps doing it

Your brother will need therapy. But still, he needs to decide to change for himself. The only way he can decide is by dealing with the consequences of his bad behaviour and deciding that he no longer wants to face them

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by FRANKOSKI(m): 11:56am On Sep 04, 2021
TELL JESUS ABOUT IT.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:20pm On Sep 04, 2021
madjune:

You've a lot to learn.
Sadly, I've little to share with you when you're fiercely comfortable with your perspectives.

One, that you and your brother came through the same womb doesn't mean you must share the same Astral energies, course or follow same life patterns.
Life runs in a circle.
Your brothers predicament could very well be karmic.
In other words, he may be undergoing a needed cleansing (an atonement) for sins committed in his past life, and this is strictly a personal affair.

He alone must go through the journey.
Oh, now you open up about the pagans origin of your belief. Why did you bother mentioning the Bible earlier? Where you ashamed of mentioning that your belief is not of, or something? undecided

Please stop confusing yourself thinking you confuse me in someway. undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:22pm On Sep 04, 2021
Danjikanbauchi:
mostly.

The guy should try have a talk with his mom about their fathers background. There are situations we check social and economic factors but this one is beyond that.
How you arrive at this being "spiritual "? undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:28pm On Sep 04, 2021
bepositive11:

Sounds like your brother is a sociopath. I read in another comment that you lost your dad years back, so you come from a broken home. Childhood trauma and abandonment and abuse are what usually create sociopaths.
What broken home? Since when does loosing one's father at age 19 amount to childhood trauma and abandonment?
ROFLMAO
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You read own book upside down abi? undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by alhaji04: 12:35pm On Sep 04, 2021
Well. I came late. But why not try talk to him or someone he respect so much should talk to him.. Again the family should sit him down and advice him and also try to help him. I guess if the family could open a business or an office to keep him busy.. Him go change small small . It's not an overnight stuff.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nonsky048: 12:45pm On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
all he needs is to be flown out of the country so that he can concentrate and focus on his goals... because once he still remains in Nigeria especially around the same area he problems will still continue.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 1:15pm On Sep 04, 2021
Nonsky048:
all he needs is to be flown out of the country [b]so that he can concentrate and focus on his goal[/b]s... because once he still remains in Nigeria especially around the same area he problems will still continue.
what goal would that be? crime? undecided

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MorningStar233: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
but if he is been arrested and jailed won't it affect the family image

The family image has already been affected by his actions..just allow that boy to be thoroughly massaged.. and then pray for him
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by hahn(m): 1:35pm On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Maybe he's on hard drugs like gbana. He needs rehab.

Next time he bleeps up you guys should leave him at then station. That is natural rehab
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by madjune(m): 1:48pm On Sep 04, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Oh, now you open up about the pagans origin of your belief. Why did you bother mentioning the Bible earlier? Where you ashamed of mentioning that your belief is not of, or something? undecided

Please stop confusing yourself thinking you confuse me in someway. undecided

I strongly believe you're the problem child in your family.
That "brother" is fake. And it's actually you.
Go fix yourself.
Stop asking for advice that you don't need.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 1:50pm On Sep 04, 2021
madjune:

I strongly believe you're the problem child in your family.
That "brother" is fake. And it's actually you.
Go fix yourself.
Stop asking for advice that you don't need.
ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy grin cheesy cheesy wink cheesy cheesy cheesy wink
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by OnimiB: 2:56pm On Sep 04, 2021
With bet9ja in these country so many lives will be destroyed. No one want to listen to the secret cries and the pains of those who are bet9ja victims.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by bepositive11: 4:01pm On Sep 04, 2021
Kobojunkie:
What broken home? Since when does loosing one's father at age 19 amount to childhood trauma and abandonment?
ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy grin cheesy

You read own book upside down abi? undecided

Parent loss falls under abandonment and depending on the circumstances under which he loss his dad, it may also fall under trauma

But ya, since he was 19, "childhood" may not applicable. It depends on how independent and self sufficient he was at that time

But I double checked OP's comment, he said that "My dad is late since 2015. Before then my dad wasn't in the country for more than 5years.", so his brother wasn't with his dad since 14 or less, so "childhood abandonment" applies

And parents can be around/alive and still abandon their kids

A lot of the problems we have today stems from kids being brought up in dysfunctional homes. Our childhood has such a huge impact on us and our lives. I used to struggle with a lot of issues until I did self therapy which required me to address my childhood. And then it all became clear. All the issues I had was a result of the abuse, abandonment, and trauma I faced in my childhood. I'm in a much better place now because I addressed them
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Ofadaman(m): 5:37pm On Sep 04, 2021
Lol, y'all care too much that's why. He's doing all this knowing you'd scold him or bail him out of trouble.

I also lived a rough life , bad neighborhood and felt I was tough, my fams cared too much, after the issue got too much , my mum informed my elder brother, the dude who's pretty calm and quiet returned from SA one december,and without saying a word, he asked me to join him for a trip which ended up in the south Africa, in the heart of Jborg, and Sunnyside.

I saw crime, trickery, schemes and so much violence in so little time, I wondered how a calm looking dude could indulge or even survived in such place environment. After three months ,I begged to return home, there are levels to these things, he's still starting ,Shebi it's just gambling ,lie and stealing. He's not tasted blood or have his ears chopped off , ,or a gun pointed to his brain, or see a friend butchered to pieces or spent hard time in prison.

These days when I see people act tough, I just smile and laugh,they have not seen nothing, there are levels to these things.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by GiZcorp: 5:44pm On Sep 04, 2021
Buy him a laptop and data, not everyone must be good.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Habib101: 5:48pm On Sep 04, 2021
Kobojunkie:
There are so many gamblers out there who do not resort to this sort of behavior in order to feed their addiction. So, how certain are you that this particular case stems from a gambling addiction? undecided
Agreed, but what do u think the problem might be
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 8:03pm On Sep 04, 2021
Habib101:

Agreed, but what do u think the problem might be
I would need to actually examine the boy to understand that. undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MummyD2020(f): 10:22pm On Sep 04, 2021
passionguy:

Who are the family
Is it not I and my other siblings and mum
And to be sincere he can't make good of money. He doesn't have clothes shoes or slippers

No vex, this one make me burst laff. I can relate, honestly. Time heals all wounds. If there is money, send him abroad
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by XDaBOSS(m): 10:52pm On Sep 04, 2021
GAZZUZZ:


A mother's love for her last born, it will never happen.

It can happen if they truly want him to change for good
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Habib101: 6:17pm On Sep 05, 2021
Kobojunkie:
I would need to actually examine the boy to understand that. undecided
cheesy yeeaa

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