zexy2030:

My bro, u r unique in your own way, people have kids for posterity sake, children carry or finish the task or legacy, you started.

Its a choice though, but if u have thenl ability you can just sample with one.

But if u r taking this decision because of fear of the unknown? Your mind might be justified, because your fear will become real.

Over sometimes now.i have been noted by friends and family as someone with sudden weird reasoning.my reasoning isn't weird if am to evaluate myself.its just that am more logical in my tactics to life, subduing religion rules to some extent and finally going against the usual cultural and society norm that aids the retrogression of the black communities.

That was one of the reason that led me into this reasoning: is having a child a must for us? Going by religion insight,it encourages us to multiply in multitudes and our society and culture never give less.their major point of observation is if you die without giving birth,then you are nothing to the world and the linage to your name will perish for eternity.does this really worth standing on?

To me i will prever a name over a birth.Thomas Edison is known today not by his linage of children but by his contribution to the world through his light invention.Chairman Mao, Malcolm X, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr.karl benz and the rest are remembered in the heart of every historians and the lovers of documentaries through out the globe not giving any dime about their ladder/offspring kids if even exist.there is more to my submission but don't let me do all the talking.logically at your own view.what do you think about the topic.

At least you shouldn't miss out on the great adventure in life so you just have to go through the steps of life so having a child in this world is one of the greatest privilege that anybody can have that a parent can have a very responsible and matured couple can have so it is a choice so it is not a monster but you just need to experience it so that you don't miss out you understand

Is a must to those with sensible thinking. shikena!

Goldbw122:
At least you shouldn't miss out on the great adventure in life so you just have to go through the steps of life so having a child in this world is one of the greatest privilege that anybody can have that a parent can have a very responsible and matured couple can have so it is a choice so it is not a monster but you just need to experience it so that you don't miss out you understand

You are right.the joy if seeing your kid playing around you suits the heart but people take it and make it a hell for the youths in their twenties and early 30s that are not yet planning about their marriage when it is probably the least in the hunting list of a prospective youth who might be chasing a bigger dream.

It's not a must but it's advisable you have one.

My second thought.the pressure mounted in the heart of youths is so extreme that people care less of their income before giving birth.giving birth is beyond feeding their mouth alone but the total inclusion of all aids they could need that can build them and make them strong enough to contribute and and be of help to their society.
Imagine someone earning below $100 or Nigeria states minimum wage (NGN30 000) getting married and giving birth.we can wed and delay child till when the red flag is clear or stay without a child if effort to escape the poverty level keeps proving abortive.why would we bring innocent children into this world to suffer or even add to what we are facing here?

Iniobong34:
Is a must to those with sensible thinking. shikena!

What will be your advice to a man who is earning below 30 000 naira seeking your daughter's hand in marriage

adeniyi65:

What will be your advice to a man who is earning below 30 000 naira seeking your daughter's hand in marriage

Good question. The choice is her's, to me i don't judge the future of a man with his present condition god can use anyone to bless the family beyound human expectation

Goldbw122:
At least you shouldn't miss out on the great adventure in life so you just have to go through the steps of life so having a child in this world is one of the greatest privilege that anybody can have that a parent can have a very responsible and matured couple can have so it is a choice so it is not a monster but you just need to experience it so that you don't miss out you understand

Is it still the great "this and that" after more than 3 000 000 000 people have done it in our very life time?

Iniobong34:
Is a must to those with sensible thinking. shikena!

Sensible in what sense?

Treasure17:
It's not a must but it's advisable you have one.

Advisable why?

adeniyi65:
Over sometimes now.i have been noted by friends and family as someone with sudden weird reasoning.my reasoning isn't weird if am to evaluate myself.its just that am more logical in my tactics to life, subduing religion rules to some extent and finally going against the usual cultural and society norm that aids the retrogression of the black communities.

Do you really not want to have kids or are you simply looking for a way to impress others by this choice?

Kobojunkie:
Sensible in what sense?

if ur parents didnt give birth to u, you for know say this world dey exits? Abeg argue with ur bible am out.

Iniobong34:
if ur parents didnt give birth to u, you for know say this world dey exits? Abeg argue with ur bible am out.

Huh?

Even Jesus Christ explained to you that God created some Eunuchs, some became Eunuchs in life, and others chose to live like Eunuchs... - Matthew 19 vs 12

This your idea no sensible at all, and e no even enter Bible so don't try to drag God down into that muck abeg!

Kobojunkie:
Huh?

Even Jesus Christ explained to you that God created some Eunuchs, some became Eunuchs in life, and others chose to live like Eunuchs... - Matthew 19 vs 12

This your idea no sensible at all, and e no even enter Bible so don't try to drag God down into that muck abeg!

the mandate to have and raise a child to populate the earth was part of god's plan, bro what ar u telin me? Gen-1vs28 and Gen-9vs7 read it and feed me more am waiting right here

Iniobong34:
the mandate to have and raise a child to populate the earth was part of god's plan, bro what ar u telin me? Gen-1vs28 and Gen-9vs7 read it and feed me more am waiting right here

Mandate my arse!

If God mandated childbearing, then God would not have have created some Eunuchs from birth, nor would He have allowed any to become Eunuchs in life, and certainly He would not have made it a choice available to any now, would He now?

Jesus Christ again reiterated that Almighty God created some Eunuchs, some became Eunuchs and certainly some chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of God's work for them. So tell me, is God confused?

Use your head rather let other men decieve you with their lies.. God commanded men to be fruitful and multiply. There are many ways to be fruitful and multiply on this earth... child bearing is only one such way.

Kobojunkie:
Do you really not want to have kids or are you simply looking for a way to impress others by this choice?

Thanks for the question.i already have one who is now in age 4 while his dad is now drawing near to being 29 years of age.my submission is that people shouldn't see raising kid as a must.seeing it as a must hinder dreams of many that should have delay it for a promising invention. and it makes who is not eligible to have a child by his/her financial strength or hearth issues to drag children into the world.i see nothing fruitful in trying to be different or impressing others but giving dignity to someone's name sounds so distinctly promising.

Iniobong34:
Good question. The choice is her's, to me i don't judge the future of a man with his present condition god can use anyone to bless the family beyound human expectation

Expecting God to do wonder by taking us out of nil to the top should be the least in our minds.its like gambling and gamble give you nothing than 50:50 chance because there is no Court we can sue God to if he refused to grant our request.many have died,many are still fighting harder to leave the enclosure of poverty,natural disasters have crumbled many and so on,yet they believe in God.i don't against believing in God but it should be the least in our heart.we should be more tactical and realistic in facing life challenges than putting expectation on God. leaving avoidable calamity to God to avert is what is eating us to the bone.raising kids when there is no adequate or enough facilities to equipe them for the future why not encourage them to marry and give birth according to their capability or even abstain from giving birth if they can't meet the demand of raising one.let stop cooking more than what we can chew pls.

I think it's a choice and not really a must.

There are so many things to consider here and not just because everyone is having children therefore I must have one in my lifetime.

If you are financially capable of taking care of them,fine. You don't just bring children into the world cos "it's a must" when you can't carry their burden. If anything goes wrong with their health and you can't provide medicals for them and they die, have you succeeded in that area? Or would such an one still count himself as having children?

The question is..... Where is it written that we must have children. No where! not even in the Bible. Infact with the current population in the world multiplying no be by force. But anyone that don't want to multiple should not waste sperm, and should not do what will make her contemplate abortion. There is a day of judgment. But as for me, I will have children in Jesus name. But even if God choses not to give me, no wahala.

No.

Mystery9:
The question is..... Where is it written that we must have children. No where! not even in the Bible. Infact with the current population in the world multiplying no be by force. But anyone that don't want to multiple should not waste sperm, and should not do what will make her contemplate abortion. There is a day of judgment. But as for me, I will have children in Jesus name. But even if God choses not to give me, no wahala.

Waste sperm? What about waste egg? Abeg, stop depicting as sin that which God Himself has not declared sin. It is sin to add commandments to God's Law.

We can walk through the plain of West Africa, two things will be very obvious in the people..poverty and religion...

Did you see how this fine logical assertion quickly degenerate into a religious discussion about what God said ?
Can't we see that the mathusian population theory that failed in Europe and America got a 100% pass mark in Africa?
We are totally unable to reason scientifically without bringing the mystery of religion into the mix,
We are like 200m in Nigeria and 70% of this population are below the poverty line and your advice is this 170m people should double themselves to 320m because a Good said we should multiply without first thinking how to feed this many mouth ...yeah God will provide , even if he will, so what ? Manner should fall from heaven ?
When West Africa abolish religion of all types , our brain will start working

For those of us that has seen the problem because we refuse to be clouded by religion , we are tag weird by people who could not reason past the ordinary
And FYI those that have decided not to have offspring has made the biggest sacrifice for those that have offspring because it means in a difficult world tomorrow, your children will have Les mouth to compete with ...

It is not a MUST.

Iniobong34:
the mandate to have and raise a child to populate the earth was part of god's plan, bro what ar u telin me? Gen-1vs28 and Gen-9vs7 read it and feed me more am waiting right here

u no actually get sense though

femarse:

For those of us that has seen the problem because we refuse to be clouded by religion , we are tag weird by people who could not reason past the ordinary

Religion has practically killed most nigerian's sense of reasoning...
And they'll keep paying the price for this

adeniyi65:
Over sometimes now.i have been noted by friends and family as someone with sudden weird reasoning.my reasoning isn't weird if am to evaluate myself.its just that am more logical in my tactics to life, subduing religion rules to some extent and finally going against the usual cultural and society norm that aids the retrogression of the black communities.
That was one of the reason that led me into this reasoning: is having a child a must for us? Going by religion insight,it encourages us to multiply in multitudes and our society and culture never give less.their major point of observation is if you die without giving birth,then you are nothing to the world and the linage to your name will perish for eternity.does this really worth standing on?
To me i will prever a name over a birth.Thomas Edison is known today not by his linage of children but by his contribution to the world through his light invention.Chairman Mao, Malcolm X, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr.karl benz and the rest are remembered in the heart of every historians and the lovers of documentaries through out the globe not giving any dime about their ladder/offspring kids if even exist.there is more to my submission but don't let me do all the talking.logically at your own view.what do you think about the topic.

My bro, u r unique in your own way, people have kids for posterity sake, children carry or finish the task or legacy, you started.

Its a choice though, but if u have thenl ability you can just sample with one.

But if u r taking this decision because of fear of the unknown? Your mind might be justified, because your fear will become real.

Yes na

If you don't enjoy living with children, then no, there's no point.

NO! NO! AND NO!