My girlfriend from the neighborhood got pregnant for me last month, though we are both young still living under our parents roof.
I told my parent's about the situation, they were both happy at least they having a grandchild, but was surprised when my girlfriend called me last night, that her mom says first thing tomorrow morning They going to the hospital to do an Abortion.

I asked her why, she said her mom says am a tout, a street dog, over her dead body would she let her daughter bore my child.


Am thinking about taking community youths to their house this evening,




Edited: her mom is troublesome the whole community knows her just because her husband is wealthy.


My parents are ready to assist me in taking care of the child.

Am 19.
I do menial jobs
I also tear tickets in a popular junction in my town.
That's council related.
(Hoping to further my studies next year)



The reason she's doing this, because am not a rich Yahoo boy that drives benz, but still
I can't let them abort my child.

You wor go use community youths beat up another woman ontop her own property wey you go bridge?

Op,you better no try am . In as much as I detest abortion,but I think you can still settle things up amicably instead of trying to solve a Problem by creating another Problem..........

As for your Banny momsy,she suppose show you regards at least for not denying her daughter's pregnancy.....

That being said,I think the best thing to do at this moment is for you and your parents to arrange a meeting with her parents....

Sonnobax15:

You wor go use community youths beat up another woman ontop her own property wey you you bridge?

Op,you better no try am . In as much as I detest abortion,but I think you can still settle things up instead of trying to solve a Problem by creating another Problem..........

As for your Banny momsy,she suppose show you regards at least for not denying her daughter's pregnancy.....

That being said,I think the best thing to do at this moment is for you and your parents to arrange a meeting with her parents....

Don't You think going with my parents this evening to their house will make us look weak and desperate.
Her mom is the troublesome type, the whole community knows her, just because her husband is wealthy she stumps on people anyhow, I won't want to go there and she start insulting my parents.

That's why I was hoping to take some boys with me, have even spoke with our street chairman about the situation.

Community youth ke? Na so you wan solve the issue??

You are proving the woman right by doing that

Preshmane:
You are proving the woman right by doing that

Please advise what should I do.

If you are actually a street tout I see no reason the girl should keep the child

Police.
Provided you're both above 18.

Bluezy13:
Police.
Provided you're both above 18.

Her mom is wealthy, won't she turn the case against me.

Yes am above 18, but I don't know her age yet

Bluezy13:
Police.
Provided you're both above 18.

Obong Owo you don finally resort to N-Power

When you were nacking, you dinur call community youths o, you didnot involve the chairman neither did you remember that your nacking partners mum was a troublesome woman ...

Lemme not derail too much...

You have ABSOLUTELY no say in whether or not she chooses to abort, I'll tell you why:

1. You guys are not married
2. You still stay in your parents house and thus I doubt whether you have what it takes to meet the needs of a child (or children if na twins, triplet et al) and your baby mama... I mean, which parent would want their child to suffer
3. The family may not accept you since you're regarded as a community tout and to avoid you causing wahala in the near future, thus the need to abort.

I don't in anyway support abortion, but rather than bring a child in this kind of situation (no money, family problems, etc), abortion is a go for me...

But OP, you sef no try o...
Why didn't you zip up??
Or at least you should have used protection to avoid this wahala...

Favfables:
When you were nacking, you dinur call community youths o, you didnot involve the chairman neither did you remember that your nacking partners mum was a troublesome woman ...

Lemme not derail too much...

You have ABSOLUTELY no say in whether or not she chooses to abort, I'll tell you why:

1. You guys are not married
2. You still stay in your parents house and thus I doubt whether you have what it takes to meet the needs of a child (or children if na twins, triplet et al) and your baby mama... I mean, which parent would want their child to suffer
3. The family may not accept you since you're regarded as a community tout and to avoid you causing wahala in the near future, thus the need to abort.

I don't in anyway support abortion, but rather than bring a child in this kind of situation (no money, family problems, etc), abortion is a go for me...

But OP, you sef no try o...
Why didn't you zip up??
Or at least you should have used protection to avoid this wahala...

Because am not a rich Yahoo boy that drives benz?


All is well

Ayanwukoma:


Because am not a rich Yahoo boy that drives benz?


All is well

You're missing the entire point OP, this is not a matter of being a Yahoo boy or a rich dude, ask yourself one question, do you have the capacity to PROPERLY take care of a child? (Without support from anyone)

Please if the answer is no allow that girl and her family be...

You're lucky the family are not intending to make trouble with you...

What if they allowed the child to be born and force you to pay a child upkeep, will you be able to meet their demand?
What if they force you to marry her daughter, would you still "love" her this much in the near future, abi you go transfer agression for her body?

Let's be real here, the presence of a child when you're not ready will put a halt in your growth in all areas of your life...

You may not be able to further your education, you may not be able to make certain life changing investments, you may not be able to achieve your goals...why??

Because the resources you have as well as your time and energy will go towards the child and the left overs (if any) may not be enough to grow yourself as rapidly as you'd want to...

So brother, walk away...
Her parents have already decided, don't force it, let this be the fuel that drives you to becoming better...

Because if you make that girl go against her parents and they disown her, what happens next?? Will you be able to bear responsibility??

Take a chill pill bro and walk away...

Favfables:


You're missing the entire point OP, this is not a matter of being a Yahoo boy or a rich dude, ask yourself one question, do you have the capacity to PROPERLY take care of a child? (Without support from anyone)

Please if the answer is no allow that girl and her family be...

You're lucky the family are not intending to make trouble with you...

What if they allowed the child to be born and force you to pay a child upkeep, will you be able to meet their demand?
What if they force you to marry her daughter, would you still "love" her this much in the near future, abi you go transfer agression for her body?

Let's be real here, the presence of a child when you're not ready will put a halt in your growth in all areas of your life...

You may not be able to further your education, you may not be able to make certain life changing investments, you may not be able to achieve your goals...why??

Because the resources you have as well as your time and energy will go towards the child and the left overs (if any) may not be enough to grow yourself as rapidly as you'd want to...

So brother, walk away...
Her parents have already decided, don't force it, let this be the fuel that drives you to becoming better...

Because if you make that girl go against her parents and they disown her, what happens next?? Will you be able to bear responsibility??

Take a chill pill bro and walk away...

I can't walk away, it's my child
Even though am young, I still do menial jobs.

My parents are happy they are ready to assist me in raising the child.

We both are not ready for marriage yet, so that is ruled out.
I just want my child, then she can go her way.

Thanks for your input.

Ayanwukoma:

I can't walk away, it's my child
Even though am young, I still do menial jobs.

My parents are happy they are ready to assist me in raising the child.

We both are not ready for marriage yet, so that is ruled out.
I just want my child, then she can go her way.

Thanks for your input.

I respect your decision sir...
And I sincerely pray that God will bless your hustle...

Good luck sir...

Hahaha, community youth don turn to Hisbah. The woman should allow you have your child in peace naw.

Ayanwukoma. How did the meeting go. Please update us

Ayanwukoma:

I can't walk away, it's my child
Even though am young, I still do menial jobs.

My parents are happy they are ready to assist me in raising the child.

We both are not ready for marriage yet, so that is ruled out.
I just want my child, then she can go her way.

Thanks for your input.

Come and update us biko...

Ayanwukoma:
My girlfriend from the neighborhood got pregnant for me last month, though we are both young still living under our parents roof.
I told my parent's about the situation, they were both happy at least they having a grandchild, but was surprised when my girlfriend called me last night, that her mom says first thing tomorrow morning They going to the hospital to do an Abortion.

I asked her why, she said her mom says am a tout, a street dog, over her dead body would she let her daughter bore my child.


Am thinking about taking community youths to their house this evening,




Edited: her mom is troublesome the whole community knows her just because her husband is wealthy.


My parents are ready to assist me in taking care of the child.

Am 19.
I do menial jobs
I also tear tickets in a popular junction in my town.
That's council related.
(Hoping to further my studies next year)



The reason she's doing this, because am not a rich Yahoo boy that drives benz, but still
I can't let them abort my child.

The mother of the girl have decided. Move on with your life. Don't do what will make them lock you up you know how corrupt this country is. Na person wey get money dey get power o. Besides you are still a small boy. When you don hustle make money by going to school or learn better hand work. When you are fully grown as a man to get married. Then you can marry and start having pikin. You are still a small boy bro. No go dey allow people for una neighbour know o. Na shameful thing say a 19 years old boy go dey give girl belle. You no go school. You no get handwork. You still dey live under your parents and you still dey chop their food. Guy Abeg forget am, Go focus on your life

As much as I hate the issue of Aborting the Child, I dont think you have a case here

She is not your wife , hence I believe there is nothing you can do legally

What if she tells you now that You are not the father of the child, will you force her to go for a DNA test on the unborn baby? Can you afford it if its possible medically?

So because you have the ability to produce sperms and deposit it in a girl, you think you do whatever you want to do with the girl and force her to keep a pregnancy against her /parents will?

If you want to father a child, Get married or impregnate a loose girl from a loose family who is willing to give a loose guy a child.

Baby daddy and mummy thing is common now , but that doesnt make it right

There are just tooo many issues with what you wrote

Ayanwukoma update us what has happened so far?

atilla:
Ayanwukoma update us what has happened so far?

Fake storee.