Today, I talk to you about THIS MOMENT.... One i titled "I WISH THIS MOMENT WAS OURS TO OWN"
You know for the longest time, I tried to be civil about what I really wanted with Kids Unsaid by sugar coating it.
Everything leading to this moment started some 30 years ago, well I literally only just acknowledged that fact looking back to connect the dots.
You see, for the most part of my childhood till I was about 26 years old, all I knew was nightmares, pain, frustration, guilt, shame, and the emotional struggles of accepting the reality of my childhood trauma.
For some weird reason, childhood trauma is one thing that a lot of adults conscioulsly pretend to stack away in some old bag because they can't get rid of it of course with some magic wand.
I am not here going to claim some numbers based on research, but speaking with friends, family and just interactions with people regularly is enough to tell me that a whole lot of people have traumas from their childhood that they are dealing with, hiding from, or just basically massaging through adult phase with.
For most blacks, especially in Africa childhood abuse is literally made to feel like a way of life.
... People who are bullied by peers are told to try and toughen up so they can overpower their bullies.
.. Victims of sexual abuse are made to keep mute about their experiences for life to avoid shame and stigmatization for the family without a care in the world about the effect on the victim.
.. Children who had to grow up in orphanages or live with extended family members after losing their parents and go through all forms of mental, physical, emotional torture are told they were privileged not to be on the streets.
.. Children who were physically and emotionally abused by their parents were told it's all tough love.

Honestly, I am not even trying to convince you that you are dealing with some form of childhood trauma, I am only advocating that unexpressed childhood emotions should be given an outlet without looking back.
A quick question yeah?

Is there a childhood memory you feel uncomfortable to visit? You really don't have to answer me.... That is completely rhetorical

Given the rate of divorce, domestic violence, terrible acts of wickedness and all kinds of emotional, relationship chaos in our society today, you could tell that people have baggages that they are holding onto from some phase in their lives.
I am almost too sure that phase would be their childhood.

Here is a brief summary about me, before I was 10 years, I was sexually abused by a family member that I cannot remember when it started until I got older. This events awakened a sexual drive that led to my many years of struggle with masturbation and pornography! Not to talk of the daily nightmares that I still have once in a while even after a long time...
I grew up with a dad who believed so much in beating me with anything he found around at the slightest provocation, and giving me a permanent mark on my body was his delight. Cursing and insults were like daily vitamins given in overdose.
As for the toxic marriage of my parents, It is a conscious learning, unlearning and relearning of my perspective on marriage.
Truth be told, how do you expect someone who's been through some of these or worse to be a normal adult without any conscious form of work to deal with these traumas. Too many adults with anger issues, inferiority complexes, unforgiveness, are left to deal with their injuries whichever way they can because people barely talk about it.
... Everything leading to this moment in our adult phase is definitely instrumental. I literally dreaded this moment of truth where I finally face the demons of my childhood.
For the longest time, running from talking about my childhood felt like the right thing to do even though deep down, I know my truth is freedom.
It's been over 6 years since I have been trying to communicate to parents to give their children better childhood memories because I deeply want kids today to have it better than I did. But how can parents do better when they are dealing with their childhood demons too. There are times we wished some moments was ours to own the way we liked it but life happened. I am deeply convinced that there is someone like me who needs to heal from his or her childhood trauma for a better adulthood, and you are not alone!

Now, I boldly tell myself "THIS MOMENT I OWN IT".
From this moment, a lot changes for me consciously.
I choose to deal with my childhood trauma
I am aware that I may not be able to control actions towards me from this moment for choosing to heal this way, but I will take the chance at freedom, this is my life now.
Going forward, these will be defining moments!
I will talk about my childhood so my inner child can heal.
I will not transfer my childhood fears from traumas unto my children.
I know that seeking help right now would enable a better relationship with my spouse in future.
I choose not to play the victim anymore, I choose to see myself as the protagonist with antagonists because I am made for more!
If I stay wounded, I'll be causing more harm to my society. So, I choose to heal!

Today, I ask you?
Do you own this moment genuinely?
Is there a childhood memory you deeply know that you have to deal with to have a better adulthood?

My name is Ochanya D'mprez, this is Kids Unsaid

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Please share your honest thoughts and experiences about your childhood.