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Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Softboy001: 3:50pm On Oct 17, 2021
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Sonnobax15(m): 3:52pm On Oct 17, 2021
lipsrsealed
Good for you..

It's even better that you've refrained from pertaining in the sins of the world... Personally, myself,I haven't had sex for the past 4 years.. Sometimes when I tell people,they think I'm joking, perhaps Simply because I love joking alot.....But lemme tell you something op, everything about sexxx is highly overrated......Na guyman wey dem never admit for general hospital once because of too much lashing dey say he wor make lashing him mission for life.....

Las las, lashing no dey give award or trophy for being the best lasher.. Instead na insults from those unreformed NIGERIAN nurses for general hospital you go receive full your Belle.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by OLDESTWARRIBOY: 4:02pm On Oct 17, 2021
OP try this


Look what's written in the description!! Healing!! grin grin

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by brosom(m): 4:06pm On Oct 17, 2021
You think u only get A**$ with money? Wrong.

Sex isn't ur purpose and don't make it

Discover ur purpose, you'll see how u flow with other attachments and you'd be surprised.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 17, 2021
Okay ooo undecided undecided

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by BigJoe19: 4:10pm On Oct 17, 2021
Dey wait for girls when you have your hands lol.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:11pm On Oct 17, 2021
Softboy001:
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.

bro you have too many issues in your life and need to sort yourself out before you can be ready to meet a nice person in your life... better yourself and see how things will improve.

but let me remind you, you dont need MONEY to have a girl in your life, NONE! what you need is money to take care of your life's needs (food/shelter etc)...if you got that, you are good to go. a girl who needs you to spend money in order to get to know you/her, is no better than an olosho (you dont want that). so take 1 step at a time and fix your finances then get a place of your own and shiit will automatically fall into place.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Gabe427: 4:20pm On Oct 17, 2021
Omo with all the issues you raised I'm surprised you squeezed in konji.

Bros I know it also an issue your dealing with please focus your energy elsewhere.... don't rape.

After a while when everything soft your dick fit hard

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Jesterinjay: 4:23pm On Oct 17, 2021
Soapy or vaseline am out no dey worry us tongue

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by mariahAngel(f): 4:23pm On Oct 17, 2021
Channel all your energy (both physical and mental) into something productive like how to be successful, how to be a better version of yourself, what skill to acquire, and there’d be little or no room for those thoughts to hound you.

Look, what if you get someone pregnant when you’re not even ready to be married or be a father? It’ll be loss of chance and freedom for you which you might never get back.
Your time will no longer be solely yours.

Truth is, we all have weaknesses we must conquer to achieve greatness, and unless we fight and conquer those weaknesses, we’ll never attain that greatness.
Between us and greatness are obstacles we must conquer with self discipline to attain complete evolution.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Homeboiy: 4:54pm On Oct 17, 2021
Your primary reason is not good enough

There are free pussies around

Your main issue here is accommodation

Me sef no Dey do prostitutes

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by okoroemeka(m): 5:07pm On Oct 17, 2021
OLDESTWARRIBOY:
OP try this


Look what's written in the description!! Healing!! grin grin
why wasting precious money buying Vaseline while he can get #50 naira Activa groundnut oil and use it for months,if not having sex is the OP problem let him thank God he has no problem.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Ocholu: 5:08pm On Oct 17, 2021
OP let me be real with you;

Are you just moving up and down with bearing or what? C'mon, turn up the hustle and get the bag.

Don't heed to any advice here urging you to try soapy.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Wahalaperson: 5:14pm On Oct 17, 2021
what's your height?

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Jeon(f): 5:48pm On Oct 17, 2021
Lolz

Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Nobody: 6:02pm On Oct 17, 2021
Guy.. Even without money u can get a good girl to lash.. Iam in school at the moment,, and iam a broke guy,, since ladies discovered iam very good in calculations cox iam doing a science course, I have been enjoying different pussies with different shapes,, some even spent on me.. Iam not asking u to b randy, my point is you can have any pussy in the world without money.. Just b good at something

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by wiseone28: 7:30pm On Oct 17, 2021
Op make a hole on mattress and put your D" inside..

Easiest way to get satisfaction.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Telegram234(m): 8:30pm On Oct 17, 2021
wiseone28:
Op make a hole on mattress and put your D" inside..


Easiest way to get satisfaction.
You are very stupid.
cheesy
Your moniker says wiseone but you are actually not wise at all

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Softboy001: 8:35pm On Oct 17, 2021
Wahalaperson:
what's your height?

Kelvin hart height or very little below it. Very very little

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Nobody: 8:43pm On Oct 17, 2021
Join the redpillers you'll be fine.Martinez will wholly welcome you as you both are on the same page.Trace him to the redpill thread. lol

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Softboy001: 8:46pm On Oct 17, 2021
mariahAngel:
Channel all your energy (both physical and mental) into something productive like how to be successful, how to be a better version of yourself, what skill to acquire, and there’d be little or no room for those thoughts to hound you.

Look, what if you get someone pregnant when you’re not even ready to be married or be a father? It’ll be loss of chance and freedom for you which you might never get back.
Your time will no longer be solely yours.

Truth is, we all have weaknesses we must conquer to achieve greatness, and unless we fight and conquer those weaknesses, we’ll never attain that greatness.
Between us and greatness are obstacles we must conquer with self discipline to attain complete evolution.


When u say things like this it will look as if somebody is not working hard. You have no idea what I have done or been through.

I have done some things(legal) just to survive
But I thank I just got a job in a very popular firm in the country. As a costumer call agent.

The issue here now is the sexual tension am facing every day and my current job which I just started a month ago is not helping matters cos 90% of my colleagues are female. And you need to see what they wear to work.

My brother even if you don't want to be moved. You must move. Dem no born you well...
Everyday I give my self pep talk on how to look but I still look. The sexual tension is much plus the fact that I have not had sex for 2 years now, the Same me that normally have sex back to back...


Right now am just thinking how I am going to survive those ladies at work on Monday and my dick Is already doing me somehow

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by IbrahimSkiba(f): 8:48pm On Oct 17, 2021
Softboy001:
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.





Who cares?!!!

The GLORYHOLE for your bathroom, kitchen, bedroom don suffer undecided

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Softboy001: 8:51pm On Oct 17, 2021
IbrahimSkiba:




Who cares?!!!

The GLORYHOLE for your bathroom, kitchen, bedroom don suffer undecided

What are you even saying, please allow people that have meaningful things to say comment

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by IbrahimSkiba(f): 8:54pm On Oct 17, 2021
Softboy001:


What are you even saying, please allow people that have meaningful things to say comment



The sky is too wide for birds to fly


So there fore... Anyone can comment on your post without restrictions... cheers!!!!

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by mariahAngel(f): 9:01pm On Oct 17, 2021
Softboy001:



When u say things like this it will look as if somebody is not working hard. You have no idea what I have done or been through.

I have done some things(legal) just to survive
But I thank I just got a job in a very popular firm in the country. As a costumer call agent.

The issue here now is the sexual tension am facing every day and my current job which I just started a month ago is not helping matters cos 90% of my colleagues are female. And you need to see what they wear to work.

My brother even if you don't want to be moved. You must move. Dem no born you well...
Everyday I give my self pep talk on how to look but I still look. The sexual tension is much plus the fact that I have not had sex for 2 years now, the Same me that normally have sex back to back...


Right now am just thinking how I am going to survive those ladies at work on Monday and my dick Is already doing me somehow

Ngwanu ooo! Dis one pass me!

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Bunmhi(f): 9:09pm On Oct 17, 2021
Keep it up the Lord is your strength grin

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Cinema4d: 9:15pm On Oct 17, 2021
Sometimes I don't want to totally believe sex is overrated actually.
People keep saying sex is overrated yet they keep going back to it. Why?! Because it's a mind thing. Okay let me shock you.
If you want to overcome this urge you have to channel your energy to something else( you must have heard this before) and how do you achieve this?

First you have to admit that sex is not overrated, because if you don't, you might want to keep having a taste of this "overrated" topic. Sex is like money; only too much is enough.

Two stay away from anything photographic. Yes, it triggers the urge for sex. And lastly

Try not to be alone, get busy. The devil knows how to minister to an individual when he/she is isolated. That's when evil thoughts will start flooding your mind...

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by wiseone28: 9:31pm On Oct 17, 2021
Telegram234:

You are very stupid.
cheesy
Your moniker says wiseone but you are actually not wise at all
You're the opposite of my moniker

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Wahalaperson: 9:36pm On Oct 17, 2021
Softboy001:


Kelvin hart height or very little below it. Very very little

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by UndauntedYOCA(f): 10:27pm On Oct 17, 2021
I think what you need now is improving the quality of your life. Life is more than sex o, ensure you have things working for you first, once this is settled other things will fall in place.
If sex is what you feel is your major problem then do know you don't even need money to have sex but abeg focus on your life.

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by Nobody: 10:57pm On Oct 17, 2021
UndauntedYOCA:
I think what you need now is improving the quality of your life. Life is more than sex o, ensure you have things working for you first, once this is settled other things will fall in place.
If sex is what you feel is your major problem then do know you don't even need money to have sex but abeg focus on your life.
there is nothing like that felling.. When ur dick is in the vagina that's what the op is missing

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Re: Reasons Why I Haven't Had Sex For Over 2 Years Now And Don't Have A Girlfriend by meobizy(f): 11:35pm On Oct 17, 2021
Hopeba:
there is nothing like that felling.. When ur dick is in the vagina that's what the op is missing
Kai, it’s not as sweet as cleaning your ears. That is the ultimate orgasm.

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