Good evening Ops!

I will try and be brief. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4yrs now. I am her first love and the one that deflowered her after 3yrs of no sex relationship.

We started dating when I just finished my youth service and was jobless, she stuck by me and to be frank I love her and plans to make her my wife because she meets everything I want in a wife.

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

after three years of dating, she gained admission of which I played a key role, she went to school and I relocated to a new environment, I am not financially buoyant but can comfortably feed, pay my bills and at least send something home for my mom and siblings. I also try to send some tips to my girl in school because I know how tough it is for the family at home.

But her parents on the other hand (especially the mom) calls me only to make one monetary plea or the other. Anytime her call comes, I already know what it is for... Money.

Most times promise to pay back but never pays.... I know things are tough and I am willing to assist whenever I have but I feel pissed knowing that they only call to seek assistance.

I want to marry this girl and build a future with her, but the parents billings are scaring me, especially with the thought of being double taxed by my family and wife's family after marrying.

How do I handle this, my girl knows about this and most times quarrels with the mom anytime she finds out and this has strained their relationship badly, for the father he barely asks but when he does, you can feel the disappointment on his voice like one who has no other option.

I'd love to assist if I have, because before the relationship I was friends with the family.

Imagine. Just fiancee ooo. What happens when you marry her? I bet she will be demanding for alot of material things.

My advice: give what you know, you won't rant about tomorrow. Beside, you are not obligated to shoulder her responsibility monetarily and it is not a crime to say No most times but use wisdom to say the No.

Having the ability to say "NO" is a skill you need to learn....
you don't work in C.B.N neither are you are an A.T.M machine as a man you need to develop confidence and set your boundaries...
You were not born to impress people you are not NETFLIX....

Though it is wrong for the family to be demanding money from you, but may God bless you so richly that you can help them without feeling it, and may that girl not disappoint you with an immoral/sexual news after you have invested your sweat so much...

You know these girls!! But I pray your own girl is different....

You don turn ATM

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

you said fiancée and I am seeing in-laws

abstain from anything that is a threat to ur mental health, you are still in the process of achieving ur goals, sugar cane da sweet but e nor mean say u go swallow am
call ur girl and talk to her about it that u can't handle her parents bills ..and if it continue might end d relationship...
if a very rich man come now and ask their daughter hand in marriage they will gladly give him their daughter and consider all what u have done as nothing.... wise up man
as a struggling nigga, only ur parents bills nai supposed da bother u,not even d girl u love..

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So long your fiancee isn't okay with her parents attitude,I don't think it'll be a wise idea for you to just quit your relatives with her just like that...... Sometime,e better say make person no just start wetin he know say he no go fit finish than to go start am and later cor dey regret why....

Anonymoususher:
Good evening Ops!

I will try and be brief. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4yrs now. I am her first love and the one that deflowered her after 3yrs of no sex relationship.

We started dating when I just finished my youth service and was jobless, she stuck by me and to be frank I love her and plans to make her my wife because she meets everything I want in a wife.

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

after three years of dating, she gained admission of which I played a key role, she went to school and I relocated to a new environment, I am not financially buoyant but can comfortably feed, pay my bills and at least send something home for my mom and siblings. I also try to send some tips to my girl in school because I know how tough it is for the family at home.

But her parents on the other hand (especially the mom) calls me only to make one monetary plea or the other. Anytime her call comes, I already know what it is for... Money.

Most times promise to pay back but never pays.... I know things are tough and I am willing to assist whenever I have but I feel pissed knowing that they only call to seek assistance.

I want to marry this girl and build a future with her, but the parents billings are scaring me, especially with the thought of being double taxed by my family and wife's family after marrying.

How do I handle this, my girl knows about this and most times quarrels with the mom anytime she finds out and this has strained their relationship badly, for the father he barely asks but when he does, you can feel the disappointment on his voice like one who has no other option.

Seems i know this story. If u and ur babe reside in Benin then i know you. Happy monetary roles

Amotolongbo:
You don turn ATM

op are stop acting like a saint,even if you have tell her you don't have but make sure she is aware you have so that she would no you are not a fool, if you continue giving she would keep asking for more.
I'm nt saying you should not give at all o but dont start what you cant end when you finally get married.

With the way it is, if the parents see a richer guy, they will advise her to dump you for d richer guy? Why? They sole aim is all about money. Can't they work?

Whatever you do,abeg consider that girl wey still love you and still dey willing to strain her relationship with the mum for you...


Also "Learn to start saying no"

Where is @falseprophet1 make him come tell us whether a rich guy will finally snatch ur babe

Anonymoususher:
Good evening Ops!

I will try and be brief. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4yrs now. I am her first love and the one that deflowered her after 3yrs of no sex relationship.

We started dating when I just finished my youth service and was jobless, she stuck by me and to be frank I love her and plans to make her my wife because she meets everything I want in a wife.

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

after three years of dating, she gained admission of which I played a key role, she went to school and I relocated to a new environment, I am not financially buoyant but can comfortably feed, pay my bills and at least send something home for my mom and siblings. I also try to send some tips to my girl in school because I know how tough it is for the family at home.

But her parents on the other hand (especially the mom) calls me only to make one monetary plea or the other. Anytime her call comes, I already know what it is for... Money.

Most times promise to pay back but never pays.... I know things are tough and I am willing to assist whenever I have but I feel pissed knowing that they only call to seek assistance.

I want to marry this girl and build a future with her, but the parents billings are scaring me, especially with the thought of being double taxed by my family and wife's family after marrying.

How do I handle this, my girl knows about this and most times quarrels with the mom anytime she finds out and this has strained their relationship badly, for the father he barely asks but when he does, you can feel the disappointment on his voice like one who has no other option.

I'd love to assist if I have, because before the relationship I was friends with the family.

. Gather money and marry her now, to avoid story that touch. Don't say we didn't warn you

Burden. Run o. No go carry load weh pass you. Try enjoy your youth. No go deh live like married man when you never marry.

Stop investing in a lady. It doesn't always end well.

Anonymoususher:
Good evening Ops!

I will try and be brief. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4yrs now. I am her first love and the one that deflowered her after 3yrs of no sex relationship.

We started dating when I just finished my youth service and was jobless, she stuck by me and to be frank I love her and plans to make her my wife because she meets everything I want in a wife.

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

after three years of dating, she gained admission of which I played a key role, she went to school and I relocated to a new environment, I am not financially buoyant but can comfortably feed, pay my bills and at least send something home for my mom and siblings. I also try to send some tips to my girl in school because I know how tough it is for the family at home.

But her parents on the other hand (especially the mom) calls me only to make one monetary plea or the other. Anytime her call comes, I already know what it is for... Money.

Most times promise to pay back but never pays.... I know things are tough and I am willing to assist whenever I have but I feel pissed knowing that they only call to seek assistance.

I want to marry this girl and build a future with her, but the parents billings are scaring me, especially with the thought of being double taxed by my family and wife's family after marrying.

How do I handle this, my girl knows about this and most times quarrels with the mom anytime she finds out and this has strained their relationship badly, for the father he barely asks but when he does, you can feel the disappointment on his voice like one who has no other option.

I'd love to assist if I have, because before the relationship I was friends with the family.

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I think you should ask the Mods to move this Topic to Family Section..
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However, have a Heart to Heart talk with you babe, explain your fears & insecurities on this issue to her..... Take it up frm there