https://www.nairaland.com/6866901/neglect-boy-child-need-speak#107947679

It is a joyful thing that after I made that post alot of people were in support of we actually speaking up for boy child in this country....infact I got a mail from someone who actually planning on doing this awareness on big platform which is commendable.

Like I said this isn't meant to cause a gender war but to let us see imbalance in laws and society norms which is causing problems.

Today in the country everyone is actually doing everything possible to protect the girl child from molestion and rape but we forget young boys too experience it......let me give a clear example of the one we all see but don't care.....alot of ladies when they bath there junior one play with there penis..but can a man do that to a girl child??

There a particular day I was in a hang out and we had a discussion about our childhood and believe me almost every guy had an experience of one anuty molesting them sexually as a minor....although we all laughed about.
This affect on us but we might not know it.....we were expose to sex as minor which affect our psychology.

In other to create the awareness i think we men need to start sharing how experiences so women can understand that this thing is across board but maybe lower on our side but that doesn't we should down play it.

Let help the boy child by telling our stories so we can use it as a documentary to push this awareness to the right authorities..

Today we want to talk about rape and molestation.....please if you have any experience of molestation or rape as a man/boy kindly share.

I can clearly recall there one anuty (i guess a family friend)that do come carry me then....I think i was around 6yrs.
She always made me suck her breast or put my hand and rub it.....she was always naked.
I can't say I understood those things because I don't even no the meaning then....she did it for a while before they moved out from our street.

My rape case or let say forceful sex experience was during my service year.....I was dating a fellow corper and at some point I started avoiding her due to her bad temper.....After almost 3month of no sex with her she came to my place one night without informing me......she held to my cloth that I must tell her why am avoiding her to cut long story.....she had to stay because it was late.

During midnight this girl didn't let me sleep she use all her power to remove my short I didn't want to hit ( that was only thing I could do to stop her) at a point when the stress was too much i had to let her to do it......she was looking at my eye as she was doing it and it was filled with anger and hate.
Throughout that nigth I was just counting down to 6am for her to leave and never see her anymore.

We men experience this things too but is just that society which comprises of both men and women make it laughable for boy/man to say this things....but it has to end.... we need to start speaking up.

Almost all the boys have an ordeal with aunties or ladies older than them including me.

I need a world where men aren't playing victims card, a world where women aren't playing victims card.

Humanity flaw, her existence is monumental failure to whoever is behind her creation.



To the topic:
No one violated my childhood, what I can still remember vividly is the innocent us trying to explore our sexuality out of curiosity. We played with our sexual organs by inserting our fingers and objects in it for curiosity sake and not for sexual pleasure.

The whole fault still falls back to our guidiance and parents for their inabilities to give us adequate sex education at our early stages in life.
For cultural, societal or religious reasons our parents ignored/shy away from teaching us about sex and these has birthed a society field with social perverts.

Apart from sexual issues,there are more pressing needs for boys that need to be addressed, especially concerning values and how to face the storms of life,more like life skills and mentorship that boys need from successful men,boys are not getting mentors,there's a clever boy to systematically and gradually defranchise the Nigeria boy,thereby disrupt his success in life as a man.It's a ploy to destabilise the black male,like they did in blackamericans,here in Nigeria they are cleverly using our own people to truncate the success of future blackmen by denfranchising boys while elevating girls

The reason why people don't pay attention to the Molesting of the male child is because the opposite gender is seen as the weaker vessel and nobody is ready to come out to talk about it today especially the male gender.
The female gender are seen as a sexual entity that can be abused so people tend to concentrate on the female gender when it comes to sexual molestation and expect the male child to sort himself out.
The male gender are not even taking it serious as well because some see it as nothing
The world isn't really fair on the male gender despite the fact that it's a man's world

babasolution:
Apart from sexual issues,there are more pressing needs for boys that need to be addressed, especially concerning values and how to face the storms of life,more like life skills and mentorship that boys need from successful men,boys are not getting mentors,there's a clever boy to systematically and gradually defranchise the Nigeria boy,thereby disrupt his success in life as a man.It's a ploy to destabilise the black male,like they did in blackamericans,here in Nigeria they are cleverly using our own people to truncate the success of future blackmen by denfranchising boys while elevating girls

I agree totally with you....that why we all need to speak up.......why am starting with sexual part is to make people know boys experience molestation too.

If we can actually first bring it to people consciousness then we can gain attention to push other matters (like u mentioned forward)

Solofresh2:
The reason why people don't pay attention to the Molesting of the male child is because the opposite gender is seen as the weaker vessel and nobody is ready to come out to talk about it today especially the male gender.
The female gender are seen as a sexual entity that can be abused so people tend to concentrate on the female gender when it comes to sexual molestation and expect the male child to sort himself out.
The male gender are not even taking it serious as well because some see it as nothing
The world isn't really fair on the male gender despite the fact that it's a man's world

Most mother if they get to know her son was molested i think she won't be bother like if it was her daughter.
It just the society not giving a Bleep about boys and we don't know we creating problems for the future.

Godoverevery:


Most mother if they get to her son was molested i don't think won't be bother like if it was her daughter.
It just the society not giving a Bleep about boys and we don't know we creating problems for the future.

Yes because their mentally about sex is mostly centered on the female gender and some of them don't even believe a male child can be molested which is very wrong

My story is not elaborate but this happened when I was around 8 or so.

I was still in primary school and this Aunty was in senior secondary school then, probably S S S 3 as at then.

She do lure me to satisfy her sexually, I can remember the last encounter we had, she lured me into their bathroom and made me touch her breast and vaginaaa. It was when my mother called that she released me.

Last time I heard about her, I heard she's married and that's so many years ago, more than a decade now.

So this thing is real!