Karleb:
Oga! Focus on your problems and leave them alone.

They man and his wife enjoyed the multiple sex and orgasms that led to the six children.

They are the author of their own poverty.

That is a wrong choice of word to use. Imagine the woman wasn't helped to have family planning, she probably might have had another child/ren. Life isn't the way you preview it. We all can't mind our business and put a deaf ears and blindfolded eyes to things happening. If you can't look for means in your very little way to make life better for your fellow humans then you have no business claiming to love God

Imagine when the woman son was arrested for stealing phone and Op father focus on his own problem or mind his business, that boy might have gone way too far beyond redemption now

OP is on course. What he does is highly commendable. You know we all don't have same mindset. Op probably don't have the mentality of minding his own business when things are going so wrong despite his present condition. While you on the other hand might probably ignore it

This is pure love. This is the love Christ expected from us and not those fake romantic love

Ishilove:

So if I and my husband can very comfortably afford 4kids in this economy, we will not be allowed to have them because low income earners can't?

Mercy, it is indeed an unrealistic suggestion

My suggestion is that parents are to be heavily taxed, while all kids are taken care of by the government

In my opinion, it should be mandatory for every kid to be taken care of by the government, while the parents are heavily taxed depending on how many kids they had.

Sincerely, if I ever become the leader of this country, I shall take this seriously to secure the future of the nation, most parent don't train their kids at all, I am orphan that has lived with a couple of people, so I know.

And if you argue that this isn't possible cause if democracy, well you are right, but don't you think it is high time we switch from democracy.

Democracy is supposed to be a government of the people, but Nigerian can't rule themselves, and this is very evident in family settings, most nigerians prefer taking instruction from someone they can trust and hold accountable, and laments at the lack of people to trust, therefore, i believe If you can prove to be that person, you will never had a problem ruling this nation, provided you do not follow the democracy policy and you are transparent enough for people to trust you.

Kobojunkie:
Nigerian society is still one where the wise are considered foolish because the foolish are the majority.

This is a powerful statement.



I weak

VTJN:
That is a wrong choice of word to use. Imagine the woman wasn't helped to have family planning, she probably might have had another child/ren. Life isn't the way you preview it. We all can't mind our business and put a deaf ears and blindfolded eyes to things happening. If you can't look for means in your very little way to make life better for your fellow humans then you have no business claiming to love God

Imagine when the woman son was arrested for stealing phone and Op father focus on his own problem or mind his business, that boy might have gone way too far beyond redemption now

OP is on course. What he does is highly commendable. You know we all don't have same mindset. Op probably don't have the mentality of minding his own business when things are going so wrong despite his present condition. While you on the other hand might probably ignore it

This is pure love. This is the love Christ expected from us and not those fake romantic love

Where did I claim I loved God?
Pure love?
Love christ expected from us?

What are you talking about?

You are the the one using the wrong words here.

A set of individual can not be creating problems for another set of people to take care of it.

Even teenagers know if they have sex, they'd get pregnant.

Most teenagers know what a condom is and how to use it, how much more a married woman?.

I'm sure the woman in question has been to ante-natal at least once in her life and over there at ante-natal, they teach them various ways to prevent pregnancy.

What of the irresponsible husband that turned his wife's private part to consolation for poverty?

6 kids and the eldest being 13 means they were having new baby every 2 years.

Maybe the guy should marry the woman and take responsibility for the 6 kids on his N25k salary or he can face his front and seek for his own help because, obviously, he needs it.


I hate irresponsible people in my life.

Oizee:
My cousin is one of them, after six kids I thought they were finally done, until recently when she had miscarriage, I told her to go for family planning but she said her husband will refuse, I just told her to carry on, that if anyone of us need househelps, we would be coming for them and, she started crying.

Stop pitying her.

I have one like that in my neighborhood, 6 kids and the eldest is not upto 11.

She had a baby in 2019.
She had another in 2020.

She's not even upto 30.

Husband na okada man with betting addiction, wife na tailor wey no get shop.

They were in abject poverty. I'm just happy for the kids because somehow somehow, she travelled abroad this year.

Karleb:


Where did I claim I loved God?
Pure love?
Love christ expected from us?

What are you talking about?

You are the the one using the wrong words here.

A set of individual can not be creating problems for another set of people to take care of it.

Even teenagers know if they have sex, they'd get pregnant.

Most teenagers know what a condom is and how to use it, how much more a married woman?.

I'm sure the woman in question has been to ante-natal at least once in her life and over there at ante-natal, they teach them various ways to prevent pregnancy.

What of the irresponsible husband that turned his wife's private part to consolation for poverty?

6 kids and the eldest being 13 means they were having new baby every 2 years.

Maybe the guy should marry the woman and take responsibility for the 6 kids on his N25k salary or he can face his front and seek for his own help because, obviously, he needs it.


I hate irresponsible people in my life.

Since You said the Op should leave the family to rot in perpetual suffering. Also, from your statement @Bolded. Would you help the Op?

I believed you aren't talking for nothing. You meant every tiny words you said. Starting from the Op should leave the family to continue living their misery life and should stop looking for how to ease their burden. Then you later said the Op should focus on his life that it's quite obvious that he also needs help

The question is, will you help the Op who is responsible, educated but just unfortunate of the Nigeria system in getting a reasonable job?

Don't forget you claimed to hate irresponsible people in your life. I believed Op is very much responsible. Do you mind helping him?

Karleb:
A set of individual can not be creating problems for another set of people to take care of it.
Even teenagers know if they have sex, they'd get pregnant.
Most teenagers know what a condom is and how to use it, how much more a married woman?.
I'm sure the woman in question has been to ante-natal at least once in her life and over there at ante-natal, they teach them various ways to prevent pregnancy.
What of the irresponsible husband that turned his wife's private part to consolation for poverty?
6 kids and the eldest being 13 means they were having new baby every 2 years.
Maybe the guy should marry the woman and take responsibility for the 6 kids on his N25k salary or he can face his front and seek for his own help because, obviously, he needs it. I hate irresponsible people in my life.

This is Nigeria where people still make excuses for the most foolish of things.

The couple had all 6 kids in the span of 9 years, not one kid every two years, more like 1 every year and half. Na for house she take born those children wey she no know say family planning be a thing?

Any solution that does not include a vasectomy for that man and maybe the tying off of the woman's tube is likely to turn out a joke.

Karleb:
Stop pitying her.
I have one like that in my neighborhood, 6 kids and the eldest is not upto 11.

She had a baby in 2019.
She had another in 2020.
She's not even upto 30.
Husband na okada man with betting addiction, wife na tailor wey no get shop.
They were in abject poverty. I'm just happy for the kids because somehow somehow, she travelled abroad this year.

The foolishness dey here as well oo. Many Nigerians here carry that same mentality enter abroad too.

tensazangetsu20:
How can someone take in and have six foolish children in zoogeria. They deserve every inch of suffering they get. Scallywags.

You don't have to curse other people's children when you are not God, you call them foolish and you forget that God uses the foolish things of the world to justify the overwise like you. If you are wise enough you won't make such derogatory statement about those children or their family. You mustn't comment on everything, you can ignore things that doesn't please you.

Those children can be better than you or your children tomorrow but I don't wish you evil, no person is God and know one knows what the future holds for anyone in this life, so don't talk like you have seen their end or what will become of them in the future. Who was our Ex President's (Obasanjo) father? and what was their family background?

There are people who were very poor and later became very rich in this life and those who were very rich and became very poor afterwards. He who mocks the poor, mocks his creator and he who gives to the poor lends to God and surely will get his/ her reward.

If you cannot help someone or a group of persons, please don't discourage others who may be willing to help, if you don't have a good heart or compassion, it does not mean others shouldn't have, always show compassion towards others no matter what you may think was their mistakes in your own eyes or perception and don't display your hate in the public because it defines you as a person.

You can contribute in helping someone in many ways, by prayer, advice and by giving what you can afford.

Don't think it's the number of children they parents have that put them into suffering, yes, it can amplify it because of many overheads, most times it's lack of proper planning for the future, lack of education, lack of skills, lack of employment or life mistakes and also an enemy can be the cause of any person's suffering.

There are people who were very rich many years before and now become poor, death can even make one's children or family to suffer, unemployment, and too many factors, so do not act as if you have the antidote for suffering or you are immune to suffering because anything can happen to the wisest, the smartest and richest people in this life and everything they laboured for will disappear in a blink.

Before, when I hear that someone committed suicide I would say "Why would someone kill him or herself?", but experience of life have thought me that people commit suicide when they have reached their breaking point or elastic limit where death becomes meaningful than life itself and at that point the switch will occur.

Just pray that the unexpected doesn't happen to you or your loved ones and you see yourself in a helpless situation because a man's wisdom is foolishness before God.

Blessed are the merciful, for the shall obtain mercy.

Some have food but they cannot eat
Some can eat but they have no food
If you have food and can eat, then Glory to God.

May the Lord bless and provide for his children everywhere, who may be in pain, difficulty, sickness for his truth and righteousness sake. Amen!

Trios:
The truth remaina that, the poor will always breed more than they can cater for.. Sex is the only entertainment they enjoy.. Ratger than judge their already pitiable condition. Pls if you can help... Pls do so for GOD sake.. No one knows the fate of these kids... They could be brainy kids.. Please help if you can

The problem with your suggestion is that, 9 out of ten times, they will require more and more help in a geometric progression.

How many people can keep up with that? Charity and giving is not that easy o

blessedvisky:


The problem with your suggestion is that, 9 out of ten times, they will require more and more help in a geometric progression.

How many people can keep up with that? Charity and giving is not that easy o

Yes you're right. But i think giving them just money no matter the amount without guiding them through would mostly result coming back to you

Enrolling those kids in school
Establishing a business for the man and woman
Have a descent accommodation

I believed this will go along way in helping the family and stop the children from being exposed to the public.

Spherical77:
Yes you're right. But i think giving them just money no matter the amount without guiding them through would mostly result coming back to you

Enrolling those kids in school
Establishing a business for the man and woman
Have a descent accommodation

I believed this will go along way in helping the family and stop the children from being exposed to the public.

Good point.

Too many people live their lives waiting for life to happen to them.

Zero or poor planning
Zero financial education
Zero / poor Social skills

Waiting for 'Helper' Giveaway Oniduro or Big god to settle bills that were carelessly incurred.

It's time to start teaching the younger generations these things and I've started already

Villa12:
Thanks for your concern

1. The man is a bricklayer but barely get job. He also knows how to do carpentry job. According to him, he's not a business orientated person per se. But he'd love selling drinks. He also knows how to drive. He had once ride a cab before moving to his present location.

2. The wife had always love selling foodstuffs. She had once met with those igbo men that sells foodstuffs to be supplying food sellers and others and get commission. Sadly, the man stopped her later as she seems to be collecting all his customers. That was when she resorted helping people wash their clothes and get paid which wasn't constant and her hands always get injured over it.

3. A single room here is within 60-70k per annum depending on the house. Though face me i face you accommodation

4. As for their schooling. I've always emphasised on enrolling the kids to public school, which the parents didn't kick against. Though they made emphasis only on the 3 grown kids. Reason i consider public school was that they may probably not have the pover to continue paying their school fees later and they'd had to dropped out. Public school in Ogun state isn't free unlike Lagos state. To register in JSS class is #20,000, if you ain't coming directly from a public primary school. Then you get your uniform and other school materials. Afterwards, you only pay #1,600 per term as PTA levy till you complete your jsce. Same applies to SS class. This would help ease their burden and probably channel the money they derived from their various businesses into other things; like feeding, accommodation, health et al. There are public primary school also, within same location. The younger ones too can attend

As for private schools. There are schools that pays #18,000 per term for secondary while primary pays #12,000 respectively


Thanks.

Great job sir. Thank you and I hope potential helpers will now know how to proceed.

@Mynd44, Seun, Dominique, lalasticlala, OAM4J etc. Please take this to front page for wider view

These are the likes of what should grace front page. Please Mods, take this post to front page. Pity the family abeg

Villa12:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

There's this neighbour of mine, a family with 6 kids (3 boys and 3 girls) and the couple, totalling eight. They lived in an uncompleted building (they couldn't afford getting a single room) though with the permission of the owner. I've known this family almost a decade. The children ain't going to school. Not even a public school. The children look so pale, malnourished and unkept. The husband is a bricklayer who hardly get job. Most of the job he had gotten in his lifetime was just a join man job. The wife goes to different places to wash clothes and get paid which isn't constant

Some of these children are becoming nuisance in the neighbourhood. They walk helmlessly in the street looking for what to eat. People took advantage of their predicament. Sending them errand at will, while their mates are in school. Their mother and father had been insulted severely for stopping them from turning their children to their messenger. These children doesn't listen to their parents to stop walking helmlessly, parabulating the street and being sent on an errand by anybody. They claimed their parents doesn't give them food to eat and they had to help people go on errand just to get something to eat. Even the church ain't helping. She had stopped attending her church. According to her, they mocked and make jest of her right in her presence. Why? Because of her condition, she wasn't contributing to the church. These children had become a street beggars. Infact, the first son (13 years old) was arrested last week for stealing a mobile phone. He confessed, claiming hunger led him to it. My dad had to plead on his behalf and he was released the following day having seen the phone

I'm from a humble background. There's little to nothing i could do to help this family. I teach in a secondary school with just 25k take home. I do talked to these children, tutor them, admonished and give them the little from me. My mother being a friend to their mother also help in giving foodstuffs (though occasionally). This family had been an eye sore to the public that i had to forget my own problem sometimes. According to the man, he claimed his wife had never disrespected him nor cheated on him for once. She was a good woman to him and his children. She was just unfortunate


This woman came to meet my mum yesterday, crying bitterly, hitting herself on the ground. She claimed her family had been for days without food (eating only unripe pawpaw) This was someone who had ulcer as a result of starvation. She cried prufesly, lamenting seriously, claiming she'd have to abandon her children and run away. Her tears moved me and i got teary. My mum scolded her, letting her know the implications. Also, that should be the last thing to ever do. Not that she herself (my mum) was enjoying in her matrimonial home. However, running away, abandoning her children is a pure suicide mission that she'd regret for the rest of her life

My worry was that, these children needed to go back to school. These children are even brilliant seriously. The first 2 boys are done with primary school, while the 3rd child a girl, supposed to be in basic 6, sitting for her common entrance exam

Is there any Agency/NGO or whataview that can help these children back to school? not minding public school? These children are more likely to end up badly if they keep roaming the streets while their mates are in school. They'd easily get exposed to all sorts of bad things including the girls amongst them. Sadly, the last 3 children hadn't been to school before. Yet, the last child is 4 years old.

Life was completely unfair to this family. They lacked the basic necessities of life. Moreso, these children doesn't deserve all these, as they are way too young for this. In a saner climes, i doubt if these children would be abandoned. Where can they go to? Who should they meet? These children mustn't end up on the street

Looking forward to your suggestions. Thanks!

@MMotimo please this family is going through hard time. They'd sincerely appreciate the food items or any other thing available

It saddened my heart to have read what the family had gone through. Please ma, this family would eternally be grateful if you can help in any little way

Btw, I'm so sorry to have mentioned you on a dead thread without your permission.


Gracias!

They most be willin to take responsibility for they lives.there are NGOswith good programmes that would help them; such as save the children,women for women but their programmes are for a specific periods. while the send some to learn some hand work and also engage in subsistence farming to support themselves

funkyjaay:
They most be willin to take responsibility for they lives.there are NGOswith good programmes that would help them; such as save the children,women for women but their programmes are for a specific periods. while the send some to learn some hand work and also engage in subsistence farming to support themselves

Any such program ought to require the man to undergo a vasectomy and the woman have her tubed tied in order to be effective. Else those monkeys are bound to continue having more kids without stop.

Kobojunkie:
How exactly is life to blame for a poor couple amassing 6 kids in a span of 9 years? Seems more like foolishness and greed is what happened to them.

You may need to contact orphanages, or catholic programs around as well in case they can come take some of the kids off the hands of the parents abeg.

Please what else do extreme poverty paupers have to entertain themselves apart from sex and procreation

seguno2:
■ Please what else do extreme poverty paupers have to entertain themselves apart from sex and procreation

Sex as a form of entertainment maybe but procreation? Come on that is pure evil!

Village, you never come tell us whether dem don add another mouth or if the woman don dey get sense since your last report.

Good morning boss. @goldenval

Please sir I really need your help. I'm teaching in a private school and we just resume last week. Till month end before I'd get paid. I wasn't paid April salary because school was on holiday. I don't have anything to eat at home. I earn 40k monthly and i support my parents and siblings from it. There's nothing in the house that my family will eat. Please boss help me. I'm even using my mum button phone to type. My phone was stolen @Iyana ipaja when i went for a job interview last two month. I can send you evidence that I'm working as a teacher if you don't mind. Please boss help me.