"My son suffered. His birthday is next tomorrow (Dec 4). I’ll celebrate it. I’ll have a cake baked. I’ll cut it on his behalf. The boys they mentioned were also reported to the school last term when they bullied Junior and collected all his foodstuffs; clothes. I have two daughters, one of whom earlier graduated. I had to remove the second after this incident. They asked this boy to describe the sister’s privates and this got to us.”

"They put fear in him so much so that, when you ask him, he might keep to himself and say, ‘they will kill me’. This way, we didn’t know what to do. I considered removing him, reconsidered since his sisters were still in the school"

HelloWriter:
OPINION: Why I Blame Oromoni Snr For His Son's Death, And What We Can Learn From It

We have all been reading news about the death of a 12-year-young lad at the high-brow Dowen College, Lekki. After watching some family photos of the Oromonis, and seeing how much the family loved the younger Sylvester, I've been weeping uncontrollably. Somehow, I even feel that Sylvester Jnr is my own blood.

But, it pains me even more to learn that the boy's family had all it would have taken to save him but didn't...unfortunately. It's so painful.

I know that shallow sentiments are flying around right now concerning the boy's death. Therefore, many people here are going to take their fangs out against me and say how I am cruel, insensitive, and satanic for daring to blame the aching family (especially the father) for young Sylvester's death.

You see, one of the reasons why Nigeria remains so backward is that we largely seem to lack the maturity of truly learning lessons from our experiences - even on the political space. We seem to enjoy getting into trouble in order to complain about our ugly situations. Looks like we even enjoy to get the sympathy which has absolutely nothing good to add to our lives.

If I fail to share the light I have about his family's responsibility for Sylvester's death now that the event is fresh, I see more families failing to learn the lesson hidden in the boy's premature death (which is the only good thing that can come out of the evil). So, in spite of the expected criticisms, why am I going ahead to blame Sylvester's older ones - and especially his father - for the boy's death? See why:

I read a report by The Punch on the incident where Late Sylvester's father is quoted as saying...



Imagine that! The bullying on their son got to the point that he was being asked to talk about her sister's privates. It got to a point where they had to withdraw Sylvester's only elder sister left at Bowen. Yet, they saw no reason enough to also withdraw their darling son to save him from such profound abuse.

Even more indicting is the fact that Oromoni Snr was aware, as early as the last term, that his young son was getting death threats from the bullies to the extent that he was getting traumatic! Hah!!! As the Punch report quotes him as saying about his dead son,



As you can see, he got this gory report as far back as when younger Sylvester's two elder sisters were still at Bowen. He considered withdrawing him, but changed his mind because the lad still enjoyed some protection from his elder sisters. But, why did you (Oromoni Snr) still leave the little boy at Bowen with such a history of getting bullied, even after his two elder sisters left the school? Why?

This is happening in the first school term. As early as last term, you (Oromoni Snr) knew that your little son was being bullied to the point of getting traumatic. So, why didn't you withdraw him? You can't tell us that you took him back there to complete the school year's curriculum since that was the last term of the year. I can't find any reason enough to take back the child to a place where he was getting so abused that he was getting traumatic without any significant intervention from the school managers.

From my personal appreciation of Oromoni Snr, it seems to me that he was blinded and deafened by the arrogance of having a child at high-brow Dowen. I'm aware of how cruel this my perception might sound. I could be wrong also. But, I see many Nigerian parents making that same mistake of letting such shallow considerations becloud their reasoning. If only we can learn, from this painful death, to be less vain than this.

What has happened has happened. As painful as it is, the only good thing that can come out of it are the lessons that we can learn from it. These lessons would be useless to the extent that they don't help us to prevent a repeat of such an incident individually and otherwise.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Seun

Hashabiah:
OP, this sort of thing happens in almost everyone country across the world and there is no amount of precautionary steps you can take to prevent this . Yes, there were signs of bullying and neglect by the school , but you need to understand that as a parent, you can't control all traumatic situations your children go through in life and pretending you can will just simply be hypocrisy

HelloWriter:

Some cases are more serious than others. When a child gets to a point that he won't tell you something "lest they kill me", if you still think it's hypocrisy to take it extra-serious, then, YOU ARE THE HYPOCRITE HERE.

HelloWriter:
OPINION: Why I Blame Oromoni Snr For His Son's Death, And What We Can Learn From It

We have all been reading news about the death of a 12-year-young lad at the high-brow Dowen College, Lekki. After watching some family photos of the Oromonis, and seeing how much the family loved the younger Sylvester, I've been weeping uncontrollably. Somehow, I even feel that Sylvester Jnr is my own blood.

But, it pains me even more to learn that the boy's family had all it would have taken to save him but didn't...unfortunately. It's so painful.

I know that shallow sentiments are flying around right now concerning the boy's death. Therefore, many people here are going to take their fangs out against me and say how I am cruel, insensitive, and satanic for daring to blame the aching family (especially the father) for young Sylvester's death.

You see, one of the reasons why Nigeria remains so backward is that we largely seem to lack the maturity of truly learning lessons from our experiences - even on the political space. We seem to enjoy getting into trouble in order to complain about our ugly situations. Looks like we even enjoy to get the sympathy which has absolutely nothing good to add to our lives.

If I fail to share the light I have about his family's responsibility for Sylvester's death now that the event is fresh, I see more families failing to learn the lesson hidden in the boy's premature death (which is the only good thing that can come out of the evil). So, in spite of the expected criticisms, why am I going ahead to blame Sylvester's older ones - and especially his father - for the boy's death? See why:

I read a report by The Punch on the incident where Late Sylvester's father is quoted as saying...



Imagine that! The bullying on their son got to the point that he was being asked to talk about her sister's privates. It got to a point where they had to withdraw Sylvester's only elder sister left at Bowen. Yet, they saw no reason enough to also withdraw their darling son to save him from such profound abuse.

Even more indicting is the fact that Oromoni Snr was aware, as early as the last term, that his young son was getting death threats from the bullies to the extent that he was getting traumatic! Hah!!! As the Punch report quotes him as saying about his dead son,



As you can see, he got this gory report as far back as when younger Sylvester's two elder sisters were still at Bowen. He considered withdrawing him, but changed his mind because the lad still enjoyed some protection from his elder sisters. But, why did you (Oromoni Snr) still leave the little boy at Bowen with such a history of getting bullied, even after his two elder sisters left the school? Why?

This is happening in the first school term. As early as last term, you (Oromoni Snr) knew that your little son was being bullied to the point of getting traumatic. So, why didn't you withdraw him? You can't tell us that you took him back there to complete the school year's curriculum since that was the last term of the year. I can't find any reason enough to take back the child to a place where he was getting so abused that he was getting traumatic without any significant intervention from the school managers.

From my personal appreciation of Oromoni Snr, it seems to me that he was blinded and deafened by the arrogance of having a child at high-brow Dowen. I'm aware of how cruel this my perception might sound. I could be wrong also. But, I see many Nigerian parents making that same mistake of letting such shallow considerations becloud their reasoning. If only we can learn, from this painful death, to be less vain than this.

What has happened has happened. As painful as it is, the only good thing that can come out of it are the lessons that we can learn from it. These lessons would be useless to the extent that they don't help us to prevent a repeat of such an incident individually and otherwise.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Seun

talk2hb1:

Worst Thing To Say To a Grieving Parent at This Time, is to blame them

Hashabiah:
Oga,stop being emotional here ! You and I both know that you can't take everything a child says seriously. Those who do are just sharing brain cells with that lady in Oyo state that stormed a school with thugs.

HelloWriter:

Why I will not let this your perspective be is that it will stop some people from learning the lesson I want them to learn from this. I have not said that the Oromonis should have taken soldiers to Dowen. So, comparing me with the Oyo woman sounds so strange.

You are of the view that a child shouldn't be listened to. You think that his/her complaints should not be taken seriously even when you see signs and symptoms of trauma on him/her. I think your kids are unfortunate to have you.

You are still insisting on your view even after seeing what it has caused. In case you don't know, Sylvester is only a sample of what is taking place to many kids today.

Many kids are being initiated into cults, gay clubs, etc. While the signs are there early enough, unthinking parents like you fail to notice and take ACTION until the children are beyond their control.

Well, I don't blame you much. You are a Nigerian. You guys elected Buhari only to start complaining. Yet, you're on the way to elect Buhari's bossom friend and co-corrupt old man so that you can complain more and attract sympathy.

tollyboy5:
my mum is like the boys father. but my father is opposite .
my mum will ask me to be careful and meet wirh school authority while my father will redraw me or nearly beat the principal for just bullying

festacman:


We are all grieving along with Sylvester's parents but the lessons must be learnt even in grief. No kidding because life is ruthless.

HelloWriter:
OPINION: Why I Blame Oromoni Snr For His Son's Death, And What We Can Learn From It

We have all been reading news about the death of a 12-year-young lad at the high-brow Dowen College, Lekki. After watching some family photos of the Oromonis, and seeing how much the family loved the younger Sylvester, I've been weeping uncontrollably. Somehow, I even feel that Sylvester Jnr is my own blood.

But, it pains me even more to learn that the boy's family had all it would have taken to save him but didn't...unfortunately. It's so painful.

I know that shallow sentiments are flying around right now concerning the boy's death. Therefore, many people here are going to take their fangs out against me and say how I am cruel, insensitive, and satanic for daring to blame the aching family (especially the father) for young Sylvester's death.

You see, one of the reasons why Nigeria remains so backward is that we largely seem to lack the maturity of truly learning lessons from our experiences - even on the political space. We seem to enjoy getting into trouble in order to complain about our ugly situations. Looks like we even enjoy to get the sympathy which has absolutely nothing good to add to our lives.

If I fail to share the light I have about his family's responsibility for Sylvester's death now that the event is fresh, I see more families failing to learn the lesson hidden in the boy's premature death (which is the only good thing that can come out of the evil). So, in spite of the expected criticisms, why am I going ahead to blame Sylvester's older ones - and especially his father - for the boy's death? See why:

I read a report by The Punch on the incident where Late Sylvester's father is quoted as saying...



Imagine that! The bullying on their son got to the point that he was being asked to talk about her sister's privates. It got to a point where they had to withdraw Sylvester's only elder sister left at Bowen. Yet, they saw no reason enough to also withdraw their darling son to save him from such profound abuse.

Even more indicting is the fact that Oromoni Snr was aware, as early as the last term, that his young son was getting death threats from the bullies to the extent that he was getting traumatic! Hah!!! As the Punch report quotes him as saying about his dead son,



As you can see, he got this gory report as far back as when younger Sylvester's two elder sisters were still at Bowen. He considered withdrawing him, but changed his mind because the lad still enjoyed some protection from his elder sisters. But, why did you (Oromoni Snr) still leave the little boy at Bowen with such a history of getting bullied, even after his two elder sisters left the school? Why?

This is happening in the first school term. As early as last term, you (Oromoni Snr) knew that your little son was being bullied to the point of getting traumatic. So, why didn't you withdraw him? You can't tell us that you took him back there to complete the school year's curriculum since that was the last term of the year. I can't find any reason enough to take back the child to a place where he was getting so abused that he was getting traumatic without any significant intervention from the school managers.

From my personal appreciation of Oromoni Snr, it seems to me that he was blinded and deafened by the arrogance of having a child at high-brow Dowen. I'm aware of how cruel this my perception might sound. I could be wrong also. But, I see many Nigerian parents making that same mistake of letting such shallow considerations becloud their reasoning. If only we can learn, from this painful death, to be less vain than this.

What has happened has happened. As painful as it is, the only good thing that can come out of it are the lessons that we can learn from it. These lessons would be useless to the extent that they don't help us to prevent a repeat of such an incident individually and otherwise.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Seun

Hashabiah:
Oga,stop being emotional here ! You and I both know that you can't take everything a child says seriously. Those who do are just sharing brain cells with that lady in Oyo state that stormed a school with thugs.

Saao:
except if u trained your kid to lie. I have kids, if they complained to me about issues twice, I will certainly look into it not talking about death threats, I will change the kid from the school and report to police cuz of others

Hashabiah:
OP, this sort of thing happens in almost everyone country across the world and there is no amount of precautionary steps you can take to prevent this . Yes, there were signs of bullying and neglect by the school , but you need to understand that as a parent, you can't control all traumatic situations your children go through in life and pretending you can will just simply be hypocrisy

lamentor78:
I think the father is stupid ,some people don't take the affair of their children serious, my daughter in JSS 3 only complained that some boy use to play rough in the class during break time and this disturbs her, I went to the school and told the owner that next time my child complain I will remove my daughter.
Today everyone behaves well in class

LutanFyah:
You're talking rubbish!

Men need to step up and act as MEN!

You don't bully my son,he reports to me and you expect me to fold my arms and watch you continue bullying my son. Go to the school, create "A GOOD SCENE", arrest the bastards and issue warnings to the management.


NOBODY will ever mess with my son again.

Hashabiah:
This is same thing that lady in Oyo did and where did that land her ...? Mr man , there's a limit you can do when it comes to the upbringing of a child. As much as it hurts you can't truly give your children 100% of your attention and protection all the time . This is a fact you just have to accept

LutanFyah:
You're still talking rubbish.

If any fool messes with my children and they report to me, I will arrest the f00ls and the management so they can do their job in protecting the wards in their care.