Whenever I read or hear about heartbreak stories… There’s one thing that keeps repeating itself.

” Dis gender sef!”

If a girl gets heartbroken, that’s when you’d see/hear comments like – ” Men are scum! “Men are dogs”… blah blah blah… Flying around.

And when a guy gets served “breakfast” – that’s when you’d see/hear “women are evil/dangerous”… yen yen yen.

Which gender is good?

The one that betrayed Jesus? (Male)

or…

The one that ate with the devil, had discussion with him that no one knows what they talked about, and sent mankind out of garden of eden? (Female)



Shebi I’ve been able to convince you, not confuse you that—— No Gender is faultless.



It’s sad and funny at the same time, yunno.

I think labeling a whole gender evil because of the misdeed of 1 is unfair.

Some of these people won’t even think before opening their wide mouths to spew trash offline or online.

I was chilling out with some friends recently. We talked about different topics and – when it got to relationships…

One babe that recently got heartbroken said she no longer believes in relationships because… ” all men are dogs.”

The rest guys were quiet and laughed about it but, e pain me kpuff.

I was trying to act like I didn’t hear what she said when my mouth opened and…

“If all men are dogs, which breed is your dad, bitch?”

..she got all defensive and said I’m mean. But, I couldn’t care less.

What’s cheese for the goose, is cheese for the gander, right?

It still baffles me to hear guys say “women are evil”.

Ogbeni shut up your wide mouth.. say “some women”..

Because if you say “women are evil… it means both your mum, all your female siblings and relations are Evil. ( shey you grab?)

So….


Guy/Babe,

Instead of you to generalize and fool yourself, why don’t you just add ‘some’ to the gender you want to address.

” some men are dogs – cos they go about fucking recklessly, without regards for their wives”

” ‘some women ‘ are evil – they could be keeping multiple affairs and even get pregnant for their ex and claim it for their husbands”

Shey you see how it goes…

We see cases of the above scenarios going on in society, regularly, but…

That doesn’t mean there are no faithful and loyal men/women out there – you gerrit?

It just happens that the number of bad people outweighs the number of good people out there.



Who even nicknamed heartbreak as “breakfast” ?

Some people say “heartbreak go reach everybody”.

Issa fvcking lie from the deepest part of hell joor.

Don’t take advice from bitter, toxic and damaged people o (E Get Why)

Misery loves company, dem dey find people wen go follow dem dey wail inside the river of bitterness – if you like, take their advice and join dem — iss you dat sabi.

Na only life dun serve me breakfast before sha,and that was while I young.


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Back to the matter…

When it comes to relationships…

No particular Gender (male or female) is Good or Evil…

It’s an individual thing.

a shitty person would be a shitty person – irrespective of their gender, religion, tribe or country.

Who dun cast dun cast..



I find it funny when I see people tag a particular gender as cruel, evil or monsters.. ( no be so na)

I’ve witnessed my male pals get heartbroken by babes they loved genuinely and had best intentions for, but, well… shit happens.

I’ve also witnessed some of my female pals who are Specs, get heart broken by guys who didn’t value them.

You see, it’s not a gender thing.

Not everyone values and appreciates good things.

Some people dun use their own hand troway their gold out of ignorance, selfishness or sheer Stupidity.

Sad part is, some people are not emotionally mature enough to handle heartbreaks.

When it comes to emotional and mental maturity… It has Nothing to do with one’s age.
( read am again)

After some people’s heart gets broken, and emotions tampered with – maybe once or a couple of times…

They would resign from loving and think love is a scam because of their previous experiences with the Wrong people.

… some may become cold and toxic,

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If you decide to give up on love and become heartless because of someone else…. Well, it’s on you.



Well, the bitter truth is…
Not everyone would get married in life. Not everyone would have happy ever after relationship.. ( no be swear o, it's just life)

… if you’re one of those, well…



Relationship is not for the weak hearted sha.
If you no get mind, no put body.�

We just hope we meet and connect with the right people.

But,

Despite that…

Observations matters a lot o. �

Some of you may fall for people’s fakeness.

I mean, some people may fool you to fall for them by pretending to be who they aren’t- to get you… Bleep you… leech on you… or get you into a relationship or marriage (desperation)

But…

Thing is, people would always give hints and drop clues about their true personalities- unconsciously… no matter how hard they try to disguise or pretend.

Watch out for the signs and… ��

If you guts tell you something is fishy, or you feel off about your partner- you may just exit.

All forms of relationships (Platonic or Intimate) are supposed to be built on the foundation of team spirit.

What do teammates do?

… support and assist each other to grow and achieve goals together, right?

Every team would grow Stronger and Better IF there’s reciprocity of Energy, Kindness, Love n Vibes.

… because, in a relationship, if only one party is doing the giving ( love, money, support, care..etc) – (s)he would get exhausted as time goes and the ship would sink.. End of Story!

For me, it’s QUALITY friendship/relationship over Quantity.

I would rather be Alone than be in the midst of people without value, goals and ambitions in life.

… being an ambivert helps me alot sha, although it has it’s cons.

The rule of thumb is : Don’t be selfish and DON’T associate with Selfish people.


Cos if you do… they’d drain the life out of you till you become miserable and bitter. (You gerrit)

So, it’d be best for you to look into your life, and discard every parasitic person/friendship/relationship from your life – for your own growth and sanity.

You don’t NEED everybody sha.

You’d be loved by some people and you’d be hated by some people. Make peace with that fact and live your life without limit, fear or fear of being rejected.


If you are fortunate to have good people around you, you better – hold them close, treat them nice, celebrate and appreciate them regularly.

Remember Law of Attraction Works - 100%....

It takes being a dope person; to see, attract and retain dope people.

If you want to attract quality friendships/Relationships – Be a person of high quality, first.

Pheewwww

Stay Smart & Solid!

Your Love Doc,
Sam Wealth(Efe)


P.S. Come to me all ye that are heartbroken,
like a tailor… I’m here to mend your broken hearts.

… just come with your consulting fee sha.

You wee feel alright after your session.

I’ve done it before…

I’ve mended hearts, and restored peace and hope to the broken.


Efe



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