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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Realhommie(m): 6:47pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


You are right. That's still under assumptions. This particular lady already tested the guy's dick and she ain't cool with it.

She did not test it. She said the guy proposed no sex until after marriage and that sort of arouse her suspicion, that there could be a health challenge he was hiding. She made enquiries and heard from the grapevine that he's very small and lasts only 10 seconds.

It's there in her post, she did not test.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 6:49pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Oga rest abeg. No dey cap nonsense and offpoint. When you have a daughter and disapprove her marriage, tell her to run off with the guy because of love. For your small pikin brain, love is going against your family. Na too much film dey make una mumu. If they ask you to donate one kidney, love go clear from your opolo eyes.

Because your gbola dey rise, you think you are in love. Small children of this generation sha. cheesy
I'm not the cause of your misery, look for someone else to throw your frustrations at.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by jornwhite: 6:49pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Why do you men ask this question when it is a woman saying it? Isn’t it your usual chorus that men are polygamous in nature? Seems men know the truth but hate to hear it from women.



why would men want to hear truth from the gender that crave for flattery & lies undecided

iro lobinrin fé smiley pesin wey no fit buy truth has no business selling truth undecided only logical

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:50pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:



grin grin grin

Till you get some sense, you will keep attending Shiloh! I ain't gonna dignify you with any response no more. Useless bitter old cunt!



The truth be say if we even see physically you know go even fit talk to me sef. I know blame you shaaa I blame the faceless forum, small boys like you can be spitting trash anyhow. Senseless he-goat.

I am still a young and beautiful working class graduateoo,I never reach 26oo.. i dey select menoo, incase you believe every shit you see me post here. Next time u wanna talk to me add ma'am, then try to get a job so you stop bringing your depression to nairaland all the time... Small boy���

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 6:51pm On Dec 22, 2021
Sermwell:

It's only that can spew this trash! I checked and wasn't disappointed!

Is this the best you can do? Was my questions even directed to you?


Since you want to speak on that person's behalf, why didn't he come out to defend himself?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MOBBDEEP: 6:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

What's with the outburst...I can see that you're speaking out of experience. Hope the heartbreak wasn't that bad, and hope you're recovering very fast, sorry ok?

I see you meeting a sugar daddy before the end of this year, I see him buying you iPhone 13 but it will be fake, I see you angry very very angry, I see you doing plastic surgery for your breast and bum, I see you looking more sexy than chioma davidos ex.

This I have seen.

You are funny guy and your sense of humor is something else.
Chai

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Sunday2021: 7:01pm On Dec 22, 2021
emonis88:

Buhari is not all these, but he is d head of them all. I don't understand y u rejoice over mediocrity, even when it is staring u n every Nigerian in d face, y didn't u make these same excuses for previous presidents? But u were shouting then about them being incompetent, like this guy is shout about ur bubu, but u come here to defend what now, ur pocket?
this is not military regime,this is democracy. Buhari have no right to give order to a governor who was elected the same way Buhari was.
Some of you argue blindly.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Realhommie(m): 7:02pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


Lol

This lady never said she wanted a big dick. For her to have left the guy, his dick was very small and it couldn't even last long.

You keep saying it could be worked on, but I hope you know working on such in a marriage is not easy. The guy should go and work on himself before thinking of marriage. He was not even straightforward with the lady with his genital problem.
Again, it wasn't just about the small dick ish. Check her post, she mentioned something else in her last sentence i think which was a deal breaker.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by ultraviolet27(f): 7:02pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:

I didn't need to check page 4 of that guys comment and I was about commenting back but had a breaking service ,,I don't advocate for cheating in relationship if you know me very well in nairaland ,both for male and females ,I have met red pillers who advocate of knacking a lady and dropping her or turning her into a baby mama ,and I am never in support of that behavior and I tell girls or lady which ever ,marry before you carry (marriage before pregnancy ) .... because the chances of becoming a baby mama is 70% higher
you will end up as a single Mother if you still choose the opposite ..

so choose your words wisely if you are coming for me , because both genders are faulty in my dictionary sweetheart


My anger was for that Gandokie Guy for those middle Sentences though and what is it with me Choosing my Words wisely?If u made a Comment on a thread u would be Quoted

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 7:02pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:





I know that all beautiful ladies may not be marriage materials, but such situation can never make a man to settle for a woman he never finds attractive, a woman who isn't presentable? "it's not possible"!

every one is different when it comes to men sister , beauty like they say lies in the eyes of the beholder ,u see some men ,if it's beautiful we all want then we can as well go to the brotel and pick a wife there but we see beyond that ,as I grew older ,my definition of beautiful goes beyond having big boobs ,big Yash even though many na fake ,or beautiful make up ,we must have met a few like us ,we hardly complement a lady because of these assets ,the asseet I see is what's up stairs...... beauty I will place at 40% ,like they say the more beautiful the more problems she brings and it's true ,she is used to attention and if these attention aren't available problem starts from no where

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Poleski: 7:04pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

You are wiser indeed. Good for you.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 7:08pm On Dec 22, 2021
ultraviolet27:


My anger was for that Gandokie Guy for those middle Sentences though and what is it with me Choosing my Words wisely?If u made a Comment on a thread u would be Quoted
nairaland female go beat the guys one day ooo,calm down u too day paro jor ,

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigDawsNet: 7:08pm On Dec 22, 2021
AfroKnight:


cheesy I’m glad you escaped. Naija feminists are not supposed to be in relationships. Very dangerous creatures

God was on ma side

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigDawsNet: 7:10pm On Dec 22, 2021
Kirkman:

grin Na better trailer you jam.


I knew she was difficult but I Wana try to change here but it got worrst

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Sermwell(m): 7:10pm On Dec 22, 2021
LolaO:
Yes I have
We dated for 5 years.
Proposed to - Jan 2020
Introduction - February 2020
Engagement and wedding was supposed to be - November 2020
I called off the wedding in August 2020 due to the below reasons:
- Dishonesty in finances (non-communication too)
- LIES, very strong ones

- Cheating (deal breaker was while engaged)
- Sexual incompatibility
- Loss of love and attraction because of the above.
The red flags had always been there, but I chose to ignore because I was blinded at the time.
He got married to someone else in less than a year.
I don’t regret my decision and I’m glad I called it off; I deserved better.
That's good! Shiloh 2025 is for you! grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by emonis88: 7:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
Sunday2021:
this is not military regime,this is democracy. Buhari have no right to give order to a governor who was elected the same way Buhari was.
Some of you argue blindly.
Oh! Now u know it is not a military regime!! When u were heaping blame on Jonathan that year u didn't remember it was a democracy? Now let me burst ur bubble. If the NASS does an over ride ,let's say on this new electoral bill that he has to sign bf it comes into law, n he is pushed out of the way in d passing into law, il u not come here n shout hell fire n brimstone , that he is d leader? Ok since it is not a military regime , the NASS should over ride him in laws n stop all these his useless policies that has plugged our economy into distress, proscribe bandits, n alot more that the leader ur denying has bn preventing , stalling.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by PotatoSalad(m): 7:14pm On Dec 22, 2021
Mrsserene:

Have you ever thought about yourself in 40 years? Being old and lonely is not fun at all
Tell that to rich old white people.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Dagger111(m): 7:16pm On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility


Won ti doo e pa abi?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Seunpaul01(m): 7:18pm On Dec 22, 2021
Helper1991:
I got her engaged 2019 after my NYSC, she was in her final year. I met her on facebook, she was a nice girl. Though, as a born again brother I am, she thought I will be bleeping her but to her surprise I didn't do that. Instead I helped her to control herself and drew her closer to God. I engaged her three months into the relationship. She was nice but very aggression. After a year and six months, I discovered that she couldn't be my wife due to the consistent revelations I had at night. I couldn't quit instead, I did 14days fasting asking God to intervent. God did and we separated peacefully. We are still friends til date.

mtweeww! rubbish and bad English.

It had to be a year and half before you see revelations. U these holier than thou sheep.
You are obviously denying the fact that her aggressive nature made you rethink and you probably did not love her enough.

How is a born-again, as u claimed, using "bleeping" in a context like that.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by deltateam: 7:23pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:


any thing that involves protection of continual generation a man will always spend on it ,it's not the issue of not helping a fellow man

You meant anything that involves kpekus?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 7:24pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

I'm not the cause of your misery, look for someone else to throw your frustrations at.

Lol. You think say you wise ba? You done see wetin pass you.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigBashiru: 7:25pm On Dec 22, 2021
Vintiana:
A friend of mine (not too close) proposed to me sometime 2018 even though we weren’t dating as of that time. after too much pressure from my family I accepted this guy and we started dating and was planning a wedding the same time. A date was fixed for the wedding already, even though I wasn’t ready to settle with someone like him. I tried to adapt to his kinda person but it wasn’t working for me I had to call the wedding off. Everyone was mad my parents could not take the shame they begged and begged but I stood my ground cos we were not compatible and most importantly there was no communication in the relationship but nobody could actually understand my point. Long story short. He got married to someone else January 2021, I got married November 2021.

if you knew you were not compatible then why did u lead him on? guys focus on God and ur own life and treat women as accessories una no go hear....

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Osilama1: 7:27pm On Dec 22, 2021
ezegenigbonine:


I think you are still a child depending on your parents that's why you don't know what is happening in this country. Children everywhere
2023 ll soon come that's how u ll look for another propaganda... That you didn't voted for buhari doesn't mean those who did are fools... You made your choice others did live with it and stop the cheap blackmail... Decide now between tambuwai and osinbajo who to pick so you don't come crying like a bush baby tomorrow
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by PotatoSalad(m): 7:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
SirMichael1:


Jeeez!! Did you just say three weeks to the wedding?? Aren't you guys suppose to ask yourselves when the relationship looks like it's headed for marriage?? That's some pain it must have brought. So sorry.
Courtship in naija na shawarma, pizza, penising and vibes. No important talk. Just cruise till it's late.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by justli: 7:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
Tranquillity360:
A man without girlfriend is happy.





If not for kids man no suppose put himself in trouble in the name of marrying vagina people.

When you 70 and not rich you'll know that children are byproduct of marriage and not the real deal

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by charlexarmani(m): 7:29pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.
na man u be make God bless ur home

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Beze992(f): 7:31pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


The truth is bitter to you and your kind. In the absence of a logical rebuttal, you play the “you sound bitter and hurt by men”. I would have expected you to put on your thinking cap and tell me what part of my submission is wrong.

Ad hominem is stale and only goes to butress how mentally deficient you are. T for tenkz.

This their usual response is so predictable and hilarious at the same time. Men playing the bitterness card when they don't have any comeback is so tiring.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by toujurs: 7:31pm On Dec 22, 2021
Wow, how can you even get engaged when you two haven't ticked all levels of compatibility as checked.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by drmuri(m): 7:31pm On Dec 22, 2021
inumidun2010:


Ok... Yours is even better... IHUOMA wey TEAR ME hot SLAP because I was talking to her FRIEND in her PRESENCE nko....
All is well
Run from Ihuoma before it is late

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 7:32pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.

Frustrated feminist

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kingsasian(m): 7:36pm On Dec 22, 2021
Itzurboi:
maybe nah engineering student cheesy grin
nah, she isn't.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by HustlePro: 7:37pm On Dec 22, 2021
Phoenixk:
Got Engaged to someone who had asked me out years ago ,I wasn't interested but I felt he had been persistent enough ....

Next thing he said as a good Christian he will wait till after the wedding to consummate

It sounded great till someone hinted he may be hiding a health problem

She was right! D was tiny finger small & man cums in 10seconds

He also wanted me to forge some important docs ,I realised our values are very different.... Returned his ring & took a walk
SHUT UP... YOU NEVER LIKED LET ALONE LOVED HIM. MOVE THE FURK ONNNNNNN!

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