What would you do if you had been in a relationship for a long while and over the course of your relationship,every prophet you went to told you that you would end up miserable with the man you were going out with? what if God had told you differently? would you trust what God told you or what more than one prophet says about your relationship? would you still continue or would you break up?

@Seyi, thanks a bunch seyi, i thought as much too,
Many people lack an intimate relationship with God and tend to relie on prophets to 'hear' for them on thier behalf.It's disheartening to see people go off the track that God has set for thme because of what a prophet has said.

@estrela
It can be true or false. Every prophet is not your prophet .Every pastor is not your pastor. How do you know God told you to go ahead. If you are that spiritually mature will you be consulting many prophets as you said. What is the position of you own pastor. Apart from these strange prophets.

If it's your own pastor that says that, you may give it consideration especially if you know his words of prophecy to be accurate. You know a matter like this cant just have a yes or no as answer. There other things to consider. Of course i believe God wants to lead you on the inside primarily. It's just that many times when it gets to relationship , people who have never heard God speak before will suddenly say "I heard God" because LUST is speaking through them.Only to end up in divorce later. But one does not have much information to work with about your case. In life matter like this. The safest place is to talk with your pastor. He knows you. He knows your level of maturity more than anyone here.

@Seyi brown
I agree. Everything can be abused. But we still cannot take the place of pastoral office away. Anybody can marry anybody,but there are some christian who by the virtue of the call of God upon them ,they can't just marry anybody. They need guidance. Some other people would have been okay but they have certain issues to be dealt with first.

Take for example a beautiful lady that has issue in her life, she had suffered abuse, rejection and all. She survived on her own but she had developed mechanism against anyone coming close. She has issues with anger. The pastor knows what he went through o bring her up this far. Even though born again ,she funds it hard to work with other groups. She is solo. If you put her in a group ,the leader will not have rest especially if she is not calling the shot.

To a great extent the pastor had helped her forgive her parents and others who have wounded her in the past . She is gradually changing. learning submission ,learning leadership.

Now here comes brother handsome . He sees this beautiful lady ,falls in love . But he didn't know where she's coming from. The pastor knows her more and tells brother, "she is not ready now , give her more time but if you must marry now find someone else" he tells the sister too " you need some time more to be ready but if you must marry now, you need a man that will be very very patient and understanding " the brother gets angry and gets her to go along but he didn't know ,that deep within the beautiful face. Some issues lie beneath . They insisted and got married and after few weeks . They want divorce. The brother says "she is a devil" she says " he he thought I'm a fool' nobody will take me for a ride like before".

A real pastor has foresight he sees beyond the eyes. he is a guide, and a counsellor. That doesn't take away the place of the holyspirit. Timothy had the holy spirit but paul still had to counsel him.

I know where you are coming from but how many Pastors KNOW EVERY MEMBER of their flock that well? How many Pastors know that a particular brother or sister in their flock is a serial fornicator or has the tendency to be violent, especially where the flock is a large one? Pastors do not know everything (even most things) about every member of their flocck! Telling a member what the Spirit says is one thing, and matchmaking beyond that is another matter entirely. Many times, Pastors advise 'outside the spirit' on matters which their scope/experience is limted and preference/taste differs to that of the congregants who just take the Pastors' words as advised 'of the spirit'.

We all know how important it is that one marries the right person but we cannot be overly reliant on pastors to make our decisions for us, we need to rely on God more! It is not wrong to ask of Prophets and Pastors but it is important to be able to discern what is spoken 'in the spirit'.

seyibrown:
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We all know how important it is that one marries the right person but we cannot be overly reliant on pastors to make our decisions for us, we need to rely on God more! It is not wrong to ask of Prophets and Pastors but it is important to be able to discern what is spoken 'in the spirit'.

Pastors are not to make descision for people. If such is the case there will be no conviction or faith. And anything done without faith is sin.

Romans 14:23
. . for whatsoever is not of faith is sin.


They are to work with the pastor . A real pastor does not need all the facts to discern . He discerns by the spirit. It is a gift that's why he is a pastor. it may not go for every one in the church but for those who seek such counselling. Many churches also go the extra mile of having marriage counselling and series of seminars yo guide people aright in making wise descisions