What Is A Simp?
At first, simp (an abbreviation of simpleton)
meant a foolish and gullible person. But then
the internet culture came in and gave this
word a completely new definition.
Nowadays, the term simp is used to
describe a man who willingly puts himself in
a submissive position to women in hopes of
winning them over. You might also say that
a simp is someone who puts gals before
pals.
Note that there is a huge difference
between a simp and a gentleman. First of all,
when a simp is kind, he always wants
something in return. On the other hand, a
gentleman acts out of kindness and
compassion.
Secondly, a gentleman will never humiliate
himself to get close to girls. Simp, however,
has no problem with degrading himself if
that means a girl would notice him. Finally,
gentlemen prioritize their family and friends
over a casual acquaintance. Contrarily, simps
forget about their close ones once any girl is
in sight.
How To Tell If You Are A Simp
There are telltale signs that you are a simp,
some of which are included in the list below.


• Putting yourself in an inferior position to
women: If you constantly let girls walk all
over you without confronting them, your
friends are probably right for calling you a
simp. It’s one thing to sacrifice your pride
for the ones you love, it’s a totally different
thing to be a pushover


• You are overly devoted: Just to be clear,
paying attention to girls is perfectly normal.
What’s not normal is giving all of your
energy, time, and money to a person that
simply isn’t interested in you. If she friend-
zoned you and you are still clinging on to
her in hopes of winning her over, you are a
total simp.


• You use being nice as a tool: Unlike nice
guys who are meek and polite, simps are
simply manipulative. Their courteous
behavior is just a trick, the point of which is
to make women like them. However, once
the charade is over, they can become quite
rude and even aggressive.


• You overvalue women you don’t even
know: If a woman earns your respect just
by being a woman, you might be a simp. It’s
OK to appreciate and honor others, even if
you don’t know them well. However, going
overboard and obeying someone just
because of their sex is a definition of
simping.


How To Stop Being A Simp

1. Don’t Be Anyone’s Butler
As a simp, you are constantly tempted to act
at her every request. But remember, doing
so won’t make you look like boyfriend
material. It will make you look like a
desperate man that has nothing better to
do… ever. Even if you are in a relationship,
this behavior will not help you gain her
respect.
Instead, be respectful of your time. Even if
your relationship is thriving, you shouldn’t
sacrifice your whole life for it. Spend more
time with friends and family, take up a
hobby or sport. If her request is messing up
your plans, politely refuse it. She might not
like that response at the moment, but she
will admire your enthusiasm and dedication.
However, don’t be an a-hole about it.
Respecting your time doesn’t mean
completely avoiding her. You shouldn’t
ignore her messages and calls, or fake
chores to appear more reserved. Be
available when she actually needs you, but
don’t be her butler.


2. Stop Seeking Validation
Bending over backward to get her
compliment will get you nowhere. In fact,
she will just think you are needy and
insecure. Generally speaking, women are
more attracted to confident men that are
not desperate for anyone’s approval. And
oddly enough, that attitude is more likely to
inspire respect in others.
However, confidence isn’t something you
can fake. You’ll first need to convince
yourself that you are someone worthy of
admiration. You can do this by saying short
affirmations in the mirror every day.
Although this practice might seem silly at
first, it will eventually make you stand tall,
and the ladies will love it.

Early morning tea

Thanks for this.
I hope God set our manipulative simpleton on Nairaland free.
Simps are very disgusting.

This article is great...love the way you delianated the difference between the two..
Hope to see more of this from yourself..

As the Grand commander of the order of simping on nairaland GCOS

I feel hurt

Op no worry.... no matter ur gentlemanism to girls u will always get fvcked up by em ... So a Simp is synonymous to a gentleman Just be streetwise n this will do

A simp is a gentleman...
You cant be a gentleman without being a simp.