Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Too bad but why would she not perform her marital obligation to you , it's very bad and you doing what you did is wrong also , both of you are wrong but her action triggered your reaction, maybe she is nursing a grudge against try to find out out why discuss with her , fix things up try to find out where the problem is coming from and make amends

Amarisco:


I think this is pretty sound advice. On top of that though Noah9, you need to really get to the bottom of that rage that overtook you. What you did is only on the surface - the issue runs deep and it may still come out in a different way or for different reasons.

If you can, seek some sort of professional therapy to really overcome that inner violence.

But don’t expect her to love you to the same degree as she did. That’s just me keeping it real. Just accept that as your sentence and make the most of it

Everybody talking down on the man like he is a potential psychopath without calling out the stupid wife.

How dare a woman treat her loving and caring husband the way this woman treated him? Month after months this man was subject to sexual deprivation and Torture by a selfish and uncaring wife and at some point he lost it.

It wasn’t the 1st she rejected him he did this it was over a long period of toture and frustration with no explanation in sight.

Should he have done this No! He should have looked for a better way to address the wrong behavior of his erring wife.

ayindejimmy:


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Not when we both own the biro.

This is marriage not dating. Two has become one.
Refusal of sex by any of the partners is negligence of conjugal duty.
Some men when they're sex starved they portray develop animalistic instincts. Me, I just leave you and move to plan B.

I'm not defending the man's violent reaction but don't come here and say the wife is not wrong. She boxed the husband into a tight corner and he reacted differently.
They're both victims

Honestly I hate people like you who think foolishly. What do you own? You own her body? because you married her so she doesn't have her free will anymore?

Even God that created men couldn't even take free will away from us and here you are talking like an idiot.

Delete that your mentality cos your eyes will open when you in jail.

Op is very lucky the kind woman he married and the shithole of a country he is in. That's only thing saving him right now

Christinaog:

Men are scum

I'm excluded o

Women are scum. How does that sounds? Don't generalize this, please.

Christinaog:

Men are scum

ibechris:
Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

Gbam,u nailed it.
Both are at fault.
imagin the husband cheated?
assuming she is pleased by a man outside? Both parties should try and resolve dis issue b4 it spirals out of control.

i just hope she doesnt have this too much of an ITS UR FAULT Attiude[ i didnt include him becoz he is already remorseful]

Christinaog:

Men are scum

If all men are scum, remember you have a father and brother

descarado:
Wonder if seun pay these people for these stories.

Or the mods use diff usernames to chun out shaming threads.

And we will rush to comment as long as its the gender we hate.

Mtcheew

So I suspected o...

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Why does it bother you that much?
Is she suppose to deny you sex in the first place?
The more remorse you show the more culpable you will feel and the more vindictive she will feel.
Escalate it and you will be shocked how the chunk of blame will be on her.
Stop brooding and move forward.

As long as you've apologized properly and are truly remorseful about it then that's okay because at the end of the day you cannot kill yourself.

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Ya fada na scum

Shut up

What brought this rubbish ?

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Wait, you slapped her, she was bleeding and you went on with the rape even with the sight of blood? What kinda animal are you?

Anyways, you should not wait till people notice. You need to open up to someone your wife respect, that can talk to her. Explain to the person and let the person talk to your wife. It will be easier to deal with if your wife can open up to someone. A neutral party that is not a family will be better.

I wish you all the best.

I don't really understand why men care too much about sex. I used to tell my wife , if she want to deny me sex, she should be prepared to beg for resumption.

cococandy:
Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

most foolish advice I've seen so far...

Very bad from u

yinkeys:

Very bad advice
You’re a novice bro

Expert, say your own and leave me alone

i926:
Maybe she even liked it.

She manipulated you by crying and you also showed weakness by begging her. So stupid of you.

When you get home, bath...eat, call her and fvck her from behind so hard. Tell her she's free to walk away, if she can't perform her duties...spank her ass and then pump her harder. Ask her, if she likes being forced? If she says no, handle her breasts and tell her to be a good lady. That way no need to force enter her.

In the morning, before going to work, kiss her & let her know how beautiful she is..play with her.


Men, if you are getting married because of sex, forget it. In fact when you get married, your sex life gon be fvcked up.


Men, stay toxic!

This is nice bt an extreme. I think men loose their conversation and toasting skills when they get married they forget wives are women who need to be handled in a certain way to get the best out of them or put them in the mood.

Some women hate the mechanical and boring sex approach their husbands use day in day out like they have lost their damn minds.

The fact u married a woman doesn’t mean everything is automatic for u. U must understand her and she understands u.

You're very stupid for blaming the victim.

Very very stupid.

Millions of women are married to men who have abandoned their matrimonial beds, have they raped their husbands?

You're very stupid for this nonsense you stated.
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Your entire family is stupid and useless at the same time why will you you insult me because i made my feelings known your entire generation must be a curse generations. Don't ever open your mouth to insult me again.

Humans keep complicating issues. You were both wrong with your actions, your wife was wrong for pulling away and witholding sex from you without a known reason. But your actions didnt sync with her offence, hitting her was bad and terrible enough, rape? It's not the momentary physical pain that is the issue, it's the lifelong psychological trauma. Seems a lot of men don't understand this and they see rape as just a momentary event, it's not. Maybe when we all understand what it does to women, maybe potential rapists who ain't hardened criminals would atleast think twice. A man who can control his thirst for alcohol, his greed for money, his drive for sex has control over virtually everything. @Op you have to sit her down, have a sober reflection of what happened, trash any pride left in you because you've broken her trust already, you gotta find a means to rebuild it. That's if your union can still be salvaged.

You don`t have to feel bad bro, it is your right and privilege. Why will she denied you sex?
You are legally married to her and she is your wife not your sex mate, but she have no right to denied you access to your kingdom.
What if you were a cheater like some of us here? Tell her sorry anyway.

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Sixteen and getting it. I'm happy for you. Is your Dad a scum too?

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

Apologize and tell her you're sorry. If she isn't okay leave her alone. You can't kill yourself if she isn't forgiving. Even God dey forgive if she's feeling too big just leave the house and go stay elsewhere till the day she calms down and call asking where you are.

Better still you can stay at home and become a ghost too. Two can play who knows if you quit trying to show concern she might just crawl back in. Don't go begging a woman like your life depends on her no matter the magnitude of what you have done to her. She would only end up seeing you as weak and someone who can't do without her. And that's when manipulations are birthed

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Bros I just hope your wife doesn’t charge you to court for doing this,I watched a Nigerian movie just yesterday the wife planned on taking her husband to court because he raped her and she bore him kids out of the rape…yes we can’t use movies in real life but the crime you committed could land you in jail for years

Keep begging her, she'll reciprocate, never get tired yet I promise you, she'll come back to apologize to you for her actions towards, although you're for taken a decision to not pleasing, but have in mind, she's not a side chick, she's your wife, misunderstanding will die a natural death and you'll make up again but never you do that again

mixta140:

The woman brought out the bad side of the man... why cus the problem in the first place.... the force the man used to the extent of slapping her to coming to bleed from the mouth is definitely too much from the man.... but still why starve your husband of sex without telling him why in the first place ... its totally wrong from both side though

Na so we see am

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

In all this, my problem is how will you say indomie and meatpie are bad meals

Both of you are wrong but op mess up big time. Your own woman you marry, you bruise her still rape her. Just give her time to heal

}sureguytalk

Can u see your Pastor/Imam to handle this and in the process seek for forgiveness from her , buy her gifts afterwards and make sure u find out what's really bothering her and be able to help her out...women has alot in
Their head which disturbs their activities at home and to their husbands..it is well with ur home

She deny you sex, get a side chick and make sure you don't come back home for 3days her senses will come back. You did nothing wrong, she's your wife.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Really!! You are the real example of a SIMP. Not sorry to say this.

Your wife that you married by yourself is denying you sex unnecessarily and that’s not enough worry for you? And you still call her a decent?? After u angrily slapped her, forcefully have your way in her, you begged her endlessly, still she hasn’t taken forgiveness as what would make a woman to be virtuous and beautiful in and out like u called her?

Digression: Did u find out why she was denying u sex? Oh do you think she would ever forgive u if she finds out you cheat on her even if she is the reason u cheated on her? I hope u know the kind of weapon sex in marriage holds? Bible says; for people who can’t abstain, they should get married!
Your wife is far from the qualities u attributed to her but a pretender. U won’t know right now but you will find out in no distant future!

See, women know exactly what they are doing. They know when they hurt you or are hurting you.

Exception to all the above; women sometimes lack the urge for sex after having kids. Hers could be one of those cases of hormonal changes, if this is the case, u must seek her forgiveness in all means and make her happy as ever again. Tender apologies genuinely, but If otherwise, u need to withdraw those qualities you attributed to her with immediate alacrity!

truthfully you are just a beast and your name describes you. noah is from noir which means BLACK. a man who cant control any of his urges is a beast man. an animal. at this point you need some kind of deliverance and intervention.

jaxxy:


Everybody talking down on the man like he is a potential psychopath without calling out the stupid wife.

How dare a woman treat her loving and caring husband the way this woman treated him? Month after months this man was subject to sexual deprivation and Torture by a selfish and uncaring wife and at some point he lost it.

It wasn’t the 1st she rejected him he did this it was over a long period of toture and frustration with no explanation in sight.

Should he have done this No! He should have looked for a better way to address the wrong behavior of his erring wife.

Not sure why you’re mentioning me with this bullshit. But seeing as you have, here’s what I have to say:

You don’t use cutlass to kill fly.

Whether the wife stupid o abi she no stupid o, the bottom line is pretty simple. Rape and domestic violence is never permissible. You don’t ‘call out’ victims.

Focus on the point, all this character analysis/assassination is irrelevant.

OP wasn’t talked down. He was not only asked to seek help so that he doesn’t lose self-control and commit another crime in blind rage, but also to support the healing of his home.