[size=14pt]Agony of widow with 3 kids Remarry, pack out of this house - Late husband's family * I 'll remarry, retain the house 'cos we jointly built it - Widow[/size]
Written by IDOWU ADELUSI,
Sunday, June 19, 2011


IDOWU ADELUSI, in this piece, writes on the drama surrounding the ownership of a house which Mrs Olusola Ejidiran (a widow) claimed was a joint effort of herself and her late husband but which the family disagrees with.

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Mrs Olusola Ejidiran






NINE years after the demise of her husband, Mrs Olusola Ejidiran, who had remained since then without husband, said she was done sitting in limbo and called on Nigerians to free her from entaglement put on her legs by the family of her late husband.


According to the 34 -year-old Olusola, the family had placed options before her of either remarrying somebody within the family and inherit the house built by the couple or marry somebody else from outside and forfeit the house.


The widow who said remarrying in the family was a bitter pill she could not swallow, disclosed that one of the younger ones to her late husband who had shown interest in her has more than a wife at home and was not prepared to join the harem.


However, in a swift reaction, Mr Debo Ejidiran, an elder brother of the deceased, told Sunday Tribune that if she was going to re-marry outside the family, only her three children bore to late Olubukola Ejidiran can claim ownership of the house and not her.


The chairperson of Oyo State International Federation of Women Lawyers (FDA), Mrs Dupe Awosemusi and the Executive Director of Centre for Grassroot Women Advancement and Development (CEGWAD), Mrs Priscillar Titiade, have frowned at the development, saying that much as the widow has inalienable right to re-marry any man of her choice, she has a right of claim to all property left behind by her late husband.


Mrs Ejidiran who lives at Opeyemi Ajagba, Wakajaye, a suburb of Ibadan in Egbeda Local Government Area of Oyo State, was 25 years old when her husband died in 1997 from a wound he sustained on his hand.


The woman who had operated as patent medicine seller explained. "I wedded Mr Olubukola Ejidiran in 1997 and the marriage was consummated at the registry of Ibadan North Local Government.


"My late husband was an upholstery maker. He loved me and my children very well. He was a caring husband. The trouble started when a sawing machine cut a finger of his right hand. We took him to the hospital, the cut was stiched.


"Later, he complained of severe pain from the finger. We took him to three hospitals before landing at the University College Hospital (UCH), Ibadan. He died there. That was in 2002. We were told that he had had tetanus infection.


"When my husband was sick, my inlaws did much they could to assist us but shortly after his death, they all abandoned me. My husband was then survived by his father and mother.

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Widows suffer in Nigeria for real.

Actually it was embedded in "YORUBA" culture for a Younger brother to inherit his brother's wife upon his demise,but dat was then and that was d reason I used "WAS EMBEDDED" not in this age anylonger.The simple reason why some people are still very crude,wayward and unrefined about there way of life is because they are still very much dwelling in d past while today is rotten and wasting away.I really hope d widow get a help from d appropriate authority.

Abanicwise:

Actually it was embedded in "YORUBA" culture for a Younger brother to inherit his brother's wife upon his demise,but dat was then and that was d reason I used "WAS EMBEDDED" not in this age anylonger.The simple reason why some people are still very crude,wayward and unrefined about there way of life is because they are still very much dwelling in d past while today is rotten and wasting away.I really hope d widow get a help from d appropriate authority. 

It has nothing to do with dwelling in the past; more like the perpetrators are simply wicked and they know it is very wrong.

such things still happen in 9ja.

This is one area that grieves me seriously. Where are the woman's relatives? where are her church members? do they subscribe to this nonsense. Working as an HR person i have seen many cases of male employees dying and their relatives flocking around like vultures on top of their entitlements. I have always been able to ensure that the dead employees wives are not shortchanged in that area - educating my male colleagues on the next-of- kin issue etc. you see men going about forming , not telling their people that their wives are contributing and leading the family to believe it is all about them and so that is what the family believes so when the man dies they rush in making all manner of useless claims. this is why you see women of means sometimes building their own on the side - to avoid this kind of issue. i recall an incident when my hubbies brother came and saw some chairs and wanted to know if he could have them - i laughed. u never saw those chairs with your brother till he married me (and they are obviously worn)and now he believed that they belong to his brother !!!! This gave me an insight into the kind of pple i could be up to if anything happened. In fairness to my hubby he doesn't allow his people get into our business but you never know. when the man is gone relatives can be funny anyways they all know that i am not one to be toyed with and i know that my family and church have got my back big time Sometimes if the family is demonic and u would have known that in the course of the marriage you may just have to leave if you are not into juju yourself. I hope the agencies involved in her case can be of assistance.

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