Gratefulsoul202:
Good day, everyone I would she brief with my story as at now am typing this am not okay at all.
Ever since I was a kid have never for once in my life enjoyed my child hood all because of my dad.

My mum's Death

I was probably around 3 years old when my mum died at an hospital in Lagos because of complications at child birth she already gave birth to the child but I was told she was bleeding after birth so she died the baby which was supposed to be our Third born also died days later as I learnt when I grew up.....
The day she died: was a sad one there was my aunt who was staying with me when my mum was still in the hospital she just woke up from her sleep all of a sudden( I think she had a dream ) curious me followed her even though she told me to go back I didn't answer I was inquisitive on what could have happened for her to be running to the hospital. I was following her Note: I was 3 years then) immediately I reached the hospital I saw my mum her eyes were closed everyone were crying I was wondering what happening it was when I was a little older I knew that was death the day she was buried also I remembered vividly everyone were crying with black clothes on the pastor that day asking me if I knew the person sleeping in the coffin little me said yes that my mum he told me to pour sand on her which I did this was a very sad experience I didn't cry cause I wasn't aware of death. I stayed with my Mum Grandmother till I was around 8-9 years old I keep seeing kids with their mum I would ask where is my own mum she would just cry and look at me..., But my dad was persuaded to remarry because me and my brother were still young so someone could take care of us. Note: Me and my bro were sat down and talked to that do we want a mummy and we said yes.

As at now am 19 I still had the clear memory of me seeing my mums corpse

How problem begin

My Dad had a woman to take care of me and my bro which the woman also had a kid she brought her boy along too which we were living as a family. To God and man the woman has never for once maltreated me and my brother for once she takes care of us like her own child.. My dad was working as an assistant to a politician before my mums death so the boss he was working for got a political post in 2013/2014 then at Ogun state. That how we had to pack from Lagos to Ogun my dad saying the woman can't follow him to Ogun that his family members said she isn't right for him I was wondering what could be wrong but I couldn't question him am a child while we were going to Ogun state he picked up a new woman by the way introducing me to her that me and my bro should start calling her mummy we didn't dispute that the woman also had two kids a boy and a girl we started living again as a family things were going well until my dad just turns his back against many responsibility at home he won't pay our school fee in time he wouldn't even come home for a month, 3 week, 5 weeks and so on always saying he his at work it was later the woman learnt my Dad had a baby outside but I was still Young I was wondering could it be true?

Alas, it was true!
Later on, After the rent of the flat we were staying at expired my dad said the woman should leave that he doesn't have money to pay for 4 bedroom flat that he his taking me and my bro to our grandma's place.We were happy we were going to grandma's place only to find out my dad was lying to us.Taking us to the house he already rented for the woman who gave birth for him the child was already around 3 years old she was a girl. If you see what he used money to furnish in this house for the woman even us at home didn't have all this we were just shocked. He was just saying ooh Martins this is your sister I couldn't question him cause am scared then. He even had the money to open a provision store for the woman who gave birth for him. while the children then he was ignorant to pay our school fees.it was after we got to the woman who gave birth for him we knew he even opened a shop for this his child mother .I was heartbroken cause the when we were still with the other woman he doesn't even pays The NEPA bill talk less of CABLE sunscriptions . The woman had a wine shop she is the one who do single handedly pays almost all things it like he just turned his back against me and my bro only for us to realize that he had already had a child it was a great shocker.
The woman who gave birth for him also had two kids which one was almost my age then the other was my brother age. The woman was over nice to me and my brother in the first 2 months of our stay there. But after about 3 months her real character was out of the bag.
Men we suffered too much. If my dad wasn't around there are somethings kids do you should correct normally instead she starts beating it was my brother who suffered most of her beating she mostly intimidates him and makes him fear her a lot by beating him. Which she doesnt beat her kids like that. The incessant beating didn't stop always beating him later The day I won't forget was the day she was claiming me and my brother are thieves that we stole her #6000 from her shop saying she trusts her own child beating me as if she had grudges with me before she beat me to the extent that my lips got really battered her customers begging her on our behalfs that if we stole her money indeed we would confess I asked my brother if he actually stole her money he said No. Which I knew he didn't she didn't stop the beating until I wasn't able to move out from the corner I was were she was panel beating me. Later on the same day at night when we got home Alas! She forgot the money on the chair in the sitting room I was expecting an Apology from her nope she didn't even feel guilt over what she has done she didn't say single sorry to me.
I told my dad about the matter he quarreled with her after that not a single apology still came from her .....
Instead of these if my dad isn't around The beating doubled small small mistake either slap or cane she uses on us. her kids always doing overly powerful in the house. There was a particular day her kid beat my brother to the extent his nose began to bleed she wasn't around then I got angry and beat the boy the elder brother of the boy telling why did I beat his brother I told him see what your brother did he chanced me I vex I beat craze commit from him and his brother body where as the elder one had a mark I injured him while fighting me he told his mum about it when she came home his.Imagine her lashing her child 6 strokes and beating me continuously saying am the eldest in the house i should behave like an elder. The beatings didn't end there us too we were now scared to tell my dad of the happenings at home...,.......fearing that our cane shouldn't get tripled even if we tell him since the woman doesn't respect him....it was now until a neighbor had to contact my dad that he should do something about his children that she doesn't like the way we are being maltreated. He then came to his senses.
And had a quarrel with the woman. The woman claiming she won't be aggressive on us again it was later I knew her reasons for being aggressive on us was because she was always thinking my Dad had a mistress outside which she was right. She later caught him red handed with his mistress in an hotel. That day was very bad she had to divorce him.........which I was also happy about that underneath after his madam left it wasn't up to a year My dad would just bring different women home claiming there would be my step mom again some would stay for about 2 weeks with me and my bro and leave and say that there would be back it was then I knew my dad likes woman too much to the extent of him dating an illiterate woman which she just talks rudely to us like trash up till this moment

Edit he has never had a stable relationship with a woman. And he would spend for woman if a woman is around with us that when you would see him telling the woman to cook stew with sardine,meat and so on where as we the kids can't remember the last day we ate sardine. if we his kids ask him for money either we don't get up to the amount we need or he just says he doesn't have money. As at now have gained admission to a federal University this year . During the holidays last year I went to greet my uncle from my mums side I stayed there for a short time he sat me down and let me know he wasn't happy with my dad at all. That he doesn't even check on any members of my mum family talk less of my mum mother.
He had to tell me my dad is part of the reason my mum died That he doesn't even give her a single attention till she died I was told before she died when she was heavily pregnant he didn't even come to check up on his wife till the moment he was called she had died. He always brings up excuses most time saying he his traveling and so on which is all lies he would go to enjoy himself with his mistress else where and leave his family alone and up till now I still see that same character in him. Which signifies my uncle wasn't lying. Though they promised to help with any little they have if have been admitted to the University.
Now my dad's Boss isn't in his political post again so there is money is not flowing in like before even as at when theoney isn't flowing in like before the money he his receiving as salary is still enough for a family man to take care of his family but the way it seems it just as if he his not even receiving money at all cause if you ask him for these no money ask him for that no money and so on. Before the countdown for the acceptance fee payment I saw hell he had to borrow money from people before he could pay for my acceptance on the deadline now my thoughts is even if I successfully get into school like won't he neglect me completely and the funding for school am scared of it. Even my junior brother should be writing WAEC also this year and I don't see any apathy he has about the boy exam. Although have informed my must family about my admission they already promised to help in anyway they can. The thing is could all his doings be spiritual can he be changed from all this or any advice because am fed up have talked to him severally he would just say okay ..and that all he doesn't change. Note: Many of his family members have talked to him also even his own elder sister but he doesn't seem to change what can make him change pls

Nemesis0147:
Lifestyle of a typical politician

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Get a skill.. establish yourself and be a man instead of complaining here..

Candidlady:
Your dad and mine should be friends




Sorry bout your mum

Truvelisback:
Bro, don't mind what ur Father is doing. A time will come, him eye go clear. I would advice that u plead with him to forward ur education. Also, try and huzzle too.

HenryDion:
I can only imagine the mental torture, lack of care, attention and neglect that you suffered. Losing your mother at such tender age, coupled with a useless father is something I wouldn't wish an enemy.

In a sane country, child protective services would would have taken you away from your father. Unfortunately we live in a hell hole.

You need therapy, cause I'm sure your dysfunctional family have Inflicted a lot of harm to your mental health. You were too young, and still too young for what you're facing.

Life is not fair. I know cause life fuccked me too. If you need someone to talk too, my mail is open.

Gratefulsoul202:
am already planning to learn programming should it be after uni or during uni I can learn it which is better?

Gratefulsoul202:
already doing that my worries now is funding

Truvelisback:
Just keep telling ur dad to help u. If he refuses, tell his close relatives. They will disturb him.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Do that before you get into school aiit..
Learn some language like Java..c sharp.. python and some touch of web designing..

University is all about theory and they ain't gonna teach you the most practical aspect aiit..