I really don't know what I did to my immediate boss since I got promoted earlier this year. Ever since I got my promotion letter, my boss changed to me abruptly. He suddenly finds everything I do useless.

When I noticed the change, I went to him and begged him to tell me what I had done wrong so we could settle everything and get back along. But he said I did nothing wrong and I shouldn't worry about anything. So I locked up and was doing my job to the best of my ability.
So he did something that sparked my madness and anger.

I got an email that I was to go on board our vessel to go and load from Lagos cos our mother vessel berthed in Lagos. And cos of my promotion, I'm not supposed to be a crew member anymore. But I was surprised to see the mail and went to his office to address the issue, next thing he said was 'IF YOU DON'T KNOW YOUR DUTY, YOU CAN RESIGN'.

That statement really sent chills down my spine and I sparked and told him really derogatory words. I don't even feel anyhow about my reaction.
I'm happy I told him his life history.
I'm very excited to have poured my mind out to him.
If I get sacked, I won't feel bad, rather I'll be glad I told him what I told him.
#Peace

I totally understand your situation but I would have not acted like you did, if I were in your situation. People like that should be ignored and avoided at any given chance. You said, he's your immediate boss which means you're probably gonna be reporting to him directly always.

You could have reported him to HR anonymously. Anyways, I'll leave you with two of the Laws of Power :

"Win through your actions, never through an argument."

"Know who you’re dealing with—do not offend the wrong person."

I wish you well.

Op learn to be humble.

Humility pays!

You could have done the job without hesitation and you would still be proud of yourself.

Now that you have created unnecessary tension and brought undue attention to yourself I hope you will be matured enough to navigate to a safe berth.

Cheers.

Don't ever allow the behaviour of someone to push you into acting thoughtlessly and leading to your downfall. There are mean humans everywhere but you have your dreams to pursue; stay focused.

My advice to you now that you have acted without caution is this: Go apologize to him for your behaviour and stay clear of him while you chart your future plans under the security which your present job offers. None queries their boss except they've got other jobs. God will see you through.

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Well, it's your decision to act that fine. It's okay.



I would rather do it and shock him...he wouldn't have expected that I will do it without any reaction.


Now he has the reaction he wanted...even got a reason to be your enemy now

MufasaLion:
I totally understand your situation but I would have not acted like you did, if I were in your situation. People like that should be ignored and avoided at any given chance. You said, he's your immediate boss which means you're probably gonna be reporting to him directly always.

You could have reported him to HR anonymously. Anyways, I'll leave you with two of the Laws of Power :

"Win through your actions, never through an argument."

"Know who you’re dealing with—do not offend the wrong person."

I wish you well.

I quite understand you well. But you see there's limit to which you can be patient. This man literally frustrates my work. He assigns works that I'm not supposed to do at all to me and I do with all diligence. This is an organization, and there are ways things are done. But he wants to always show himself.
I don't regret my action in any way at all.

Anger is a bad thing.
Better go apologize to your boss but know one thing for sure, ur job ain’t safe again.

Every job has their JD. Let him give u job within your description. I believe that he is jealous of your promotion. Evil man!!!

@OP You should have kept your cool or at most speak to another senior colleague who could have approached him instead.. you already know he is not happy with your promotion so you try to avoid confrontation with him that might cost you your job.

WillyWonda1:




I quite understand you well. But you see there's limit to which you can be patient. This man literally frustrates my work. He assigns works that I'm not supposed to do at all to me and I do with all diligence. This is an organization, and there are ways things are done. But he wants to always show himself.
I don't regret my action in any way at all.

Understood! Let's hope for the best.

Cheers!

Since you're ready for the worst, no problem.

You could have reported him to HR anonymously. Anyways, I'll leave you with two of the Laws of Power :
"Win through your actions, never through an argument."
"Know who you’re dealing with—do not offend the wrong person".....I LOVE THIS

Awww willywonder1, you clearly have some growing up to do. This your way no be so oh.

Obviously, your boss feels insecure about your promotion. He probably didn't support it but you were promoted nevertheless and this seems to rile him up.

You need to understand that you should never make your boss feel as though you are trying to outshine him.

As you climb up in the corporate ladder, you are assessed based on your people skills and emotional maturity. Such display of emotions as you did, presents you in a very poor light. Infact any case you may have is dead on arrival and you have given your hater justifiable reasons for his actions.

You should have simply shared your concerns with HR.

Besides, the task you were given, don't you think if you had delegated to the responsible persons meant to carryout the task and supervised the process, you'd have delivered the task without necessarily getting your hands dirty while displaying effective leadership skills, which is expected in this new role?

congrats

R

What?

Gave me which shocker?!

Oh so you even came here to boast about it right? Boy you Know nothing.

You will see my true colours at work tomorrow

Khaki no be leather.

I don't personally feel, that one should be maltreated because he is working under someone, for those of you calling for him to go back and apologize, i will call you Guys SIMPS, because the truth remains that you have to carve respect for yourself, as far his boss is just his immediate boss, there's not too much wrong COMMITED, except his boss is the owner of the firm, that's when you know that you are entering deep waters, i remember when i have to argue with my HR and even went as far as blaming him for not taking our problems seriously , since that day, the Respect that i began receiving from him was top notch

Issokay!!!

Hmmm

Did u noticed that the deadmeatgriller has gone on self imposed exile since Tinubu gave that young hausa boy the media campaign job

the vulturegriller lost his mind!

he couldnt believe he has only been as.slicking people who never knew he existed at all!

Go sit down for house dey feed your family

I feel your pain, the man must have stepped on your toes push you to the wall.


That's why they say face your fear or die silent.

We possess the same character but we always regret it when the result is out but we feel okay when we pour out our mind ..

We should learn to be cool and calm even in the face of oppression or difficulty .

Someone like me will always tell you his mind not minding the repercussion but it is not good especially when we have people lookimg up to us for money and feeding at home.Same thing you just did cost me my job recently .