In many cultures, there are different adages or wise-sayings that interpret as "any marital conflict is settled on the bed". Many have taken this to means whenever couples who had any conflict have intimacy, that conflict is automatically erased.
What should the order of things be?
A. Seducing your partner into love making and forgetting the conflict or misunderstanding?
B. Talking things over, then rewarding yourself with a good lovemaking?

Why do I ask?
My partner believes that if I am upset about something, we just need to have sex. Once sex is involved then I cannot air my grievance. If I insist about talking things over, she will label me "unforgiving", "wicked" etc. She hardly demand for sex, except when she knows I am angry.

How do I deal with this lifestyle?

curiousmind11:
In many cultures, there are different adages or wise-sayings that interpret as "any marital conflict is settled on the bed". Many have taken this to means whenever couples who had any conflict have intimacy, that conflict is automatically erased.
What should the order of things be?
A. Seducing your partner into love making and forgetting the conflict or misunderstanding?


B. Talking things over, then rewarding yourself with a good lovemaking?

Why do I ask?
My partner believes that if I am upset about something, we just need to have sex. Once sex is involved then I cannot air my grievance. If I insist about talking things over, she will label me "unforgiving", "wicked" etc. She hardly demand for sex, except when she knows I am angry.

How do I deal with this lifestyle?

It is in their nature. Many women find it difficult to communicate with their spouse. Some see sex as a way to apologize; and in any case, it's not as if she doesn't know that she is wrong, but she manipulates you into it to reduce the outcome of a confrontation. If you don't do it and insist on talking before the act, there may never be that lovemaking. So sometimes there guess is right cause it douses the tension. And if you insist on talking about the matter, you may not be as angry as you where before the act. (because your brain has released some feel good hormones into you system) Flushing away the anger in you. Finally she is your wife and you have to forgive her if you intend to spend the rest of your life with her. After all if you love her, you will definitely forgive. Love does not insist on it's own and is not selfish.

U are missing up things and misqouting the Scripture. Sex do not cover multitude of sins, it is Love that covers multitude of Sins.

curiousmind11:

Why do I ask?
My partner believes that if I am upset about something, we just need to have sex. Once sex is involved then I cannot air my grievance. If I insist about talking things over, she will label me "unforgiving", "wicked" etc. She hardly demand for sex, except when she knows I am angry.

How do I deal with this lifestyle?

Your relationship is headed for the rocks fast, I am afraid.

You both need to sit and thoroughly open up to each other so you both realize how foolish it is to assume that satisfying the body has absolutely nothing to do with calming the fire that is the heart of a man/woman. Nothing can take the place of an apology or forgiveness, not food or sex.

As for the cultures you quote, check the level of wisdom left in them today and you will realize that what they boast of is nothing but foolishness of men.

curiousmind11:
In many cultures, there are different adages or wise-sayings that interpret as "any marital conflict is settled on the bed". Many have taken this to means whenever couples who had any conflict have intimacy, that conflict is automatically erased.
What should the order of things be?
A. Seducing your partner into love making and forgetting the conflict or misunderstanding?
B. Talking things over, then rewarding yourself with a good lovemaking?

Why do I ask?
My partner believes that if I am upset about something, we just need to have sex. Once sex is involved then I cannot air my grievance. If I insist about talking things over, she will label me "unforgiving", "wicked" etc. She hardly demand for sex, except when she knows I am angry.

How do I deal with this lifestyle?

No No,that's a very wrong mindset o.
sex doesn't covers all,I used to think like that and it ended my marriage.
Attention and Care means much more to a woman than just lovemaking

curiousmind11:
In many cultures, there are different adages or wise-sayings that interpret as "any marital conflict is settled on the bed". Many have taken this to means whenever couples who had any conflict have intimacy, that conflict is automatically erased.
What should the order of things be?
A. Seducing your partner into love making and forgetting the conflict or misunderstanding?
B. Talking things over, then rewarding yourself with a good lovemaking?

Why do I ask?
My partner believes that if I am upset about something, we just need to have sex. Once sex is involved then I cannot air my grievance. If I insist about talking things over, she will label me "unforgiving", "wicked" etc. She hardly demand for sex, except when she knows I am angry.

How do I deal with this lifestyle?

this is so wrong and awkward.

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Some men will come and tell u that u should be happy your wife still wants sex after a misunderstanding

This kind of topic have been discussed here before, many men complain of their wife locking it and throwing the key to the ocean

If the marriage has gone to a stage where both spouses are considering separation or divorce, is it reasonable to still have sex once a while?