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Oga, tell them to patronize the pastor at this hour.

This is the one of reasons they pay him tithe.

PlayerMeji:
Oga, tell them to patronize the pastor at this hour.

This is the one of reasons they pay him tithe.

You have a point

Well second chance isn't bad. But thorough confessions, prayers and counselling needs to be done on the part of the guy. The girl too needs to open up her mind to accept him back. Both should seek a spiritual help from a spiritual person or any of their father in the Lord for proper directions. Good luck.

Deborah98:
Well second chance isn't bad. But thorough confessions, prayers and counselling needs to be done on the part of the guy. The girl too needs to open up her mind to accept him back. Both should seek a spiritual help from a spiritual person or any of their father in the Lord for proper directions. Good luck.

Thank you sister. At this point, they will need to let their pastor know for wise counsel.

It isn't too late to back off .... If she's not seeing a change in him, she's still within her lifeline to safe herself from eternal hurt....

yanabasee:
It isn't too late to back off .... If she's not seeing a change in him, she's still within her lifeline to safe herself from eternal hurt....

That's true too

HumanoidX:
Intending christian couple in courtship of two years. The brother has been unfaithful countless times while the lady has kept herself. They both heard from God about their relationship but the brother confessed to have gone astray the past year. His word and prayer life has gone down. The sister is deeply hurt because she discovered it, he has not been behaving like himself lately. She doesn't want to proceed with their plans but I have advised her to not make any decisions in the heat of the moment.

I can answer further questions along the line but what would be your advice?

Should she stay or should she go? The brother wants her to stay?

See..... what people fail to understand or grasp the meaning of "God is wisdom". Wisdom is really what we typically refer to as Commonsense, and when you are not sure what to do in any situation - nothing in the almost 100 commandments given us in the New Covenant rings a bell to you- seek out wisdom and follow her.

Wisdom is clearly telling her to leave that ship before it sails. What else do you intend for her to do in this ? @ OP

Deborah98:
Well second chance isn't bad. But thorough confessions, prayers and counselling needs to be done on the part of the guy. The girl too needs to open up her mind to accept him back. Both should seek a spiritual help from a spiritual person or any of their father in the Lord for proper directions. Good luck.

Really? For 2 years, he continually hurts her and you think what a man who is led by his di-ck needs is prayer and counseling?

Kobojunkie:
See..... what people fail to understand or grasp the meaning of "God is wisdom". Wisdom is really what we typically refer to as Commonsense, and when you are not sure what to do in any situation - nothing in the almost 100 commandments given us in the New Covenant rings a bell to you- seek out wisdom and follow her.

Wisdom is clearly telling her to leave that ship before it sails. What else do you intend for her to do in this ? @ OP

I don't intend to dictate to her at all. She came to me. I just told her to not make any serious decisions in anger. She still loves him but whatever she wants to do is completely up to her. If she called tomorrow and said she was ending the relationship, she would have made the right choice for her. I'm a man myself, I would never do this to my wife, and nobody deserves this.

HumanoidX:
I don't intend to dictate to her at all. She came to me. I just told her not make any serious decisions in anger. Whatever she wants to do is completely up to her. If she called tomorrow and said she was ending the relationship, she would have made the right choice for her. I'm a man myself and nobody deserves this.

She already knows the wise thing to do. She is troubled by the situation for good reason. Tell her to let wisdom lead her.

Kobojunkie:
She already knows the wise thing to do. She is troubled by the situation for good reason. Tell her to let wisdom lead her.

You're right, she is really troubled. I spent minutes trying to calm her down on the phone. It's not easy for her to just let go because she invested in the relationship. But it's good that she found out as they are meant to marry this year.

HumanoidX:
You're right, she is really troubled. I spent minutes trying to calm her down on the phone. It's not easy for her to just let go because she invested in the relationship. But it's good that she found out as they are meant to marry this year.

Indeed it is hard, and she has a hard choice to make as to what kind of partner she really wants for herself. Ask her to log on to nairaland to spend time reading through some of the posts of people stuck in marriages with cheaters and maybe that might help her make her decision.

Kobojunkie:
Indeed it is hard, and she has a hard choice to make as to what kind of partner she really wants for herself. Ask her to log on to nairaland to spend time reading through some of the posts of people stuck in marriages with cheaters and maybe that might help her make her decision.

Her peace should be paramount. I don't know if she has an account but I'll advice her to check the forum. I too recently joined the platform by a relative's referral.

HumanoidX:
Her peace should be paramount. I don't know if she has an account but I'll advice her to check the forum. I too recently joined the platform by a relative's referral.

Tell her to join so she can read up on what others who saw the signs and still went ahead are now facing. Also read what is likely to become of the men in such situations.

HumanoidX:

Should she stay or should she go? The brother wants her to stay?

Thank you and God bless.

By your evidence, he is very immoral.
Proverbs 29:27
An unjust man is an abomination to the just: and he that is upright in the way is abomination to the wicked.

Hebrews 13:4

Kobojunkie:
Really? For 2 years, he continually hurts her and you think what a man who is led by his di-ck needs is prayer and counseling?

Nothing is impossible with prayers sir. Who knows God might touch him this time around and for real good.

Update: The lady has called it quits and believes that God will restore her time and compensate her.

HumanoidX:


Should she stay or should she go?

She should run for her life. Better a broken relationship than divorce down the line.

As you make your bed, so you must lie in it.

After 2years she wanna quit? where's the place of forgiveness. Anyway she might be hurt but she needs to seek God Truly.

HumanoidX:
I am posting this in this section for matured minds to weigh in on the matter. I had a difficult case earlier today.

Intending christian couple in courtship of two years. The brother has been unfaithful countless times while the lady has kept herself. They both heard from God about their relationship but the brother confessed to have gone astray the past year. His word and prayer life has gone down. The sister is deeply hurt because she discovered it, he has not been behaving like himself lately. She doesn't want to proceed with their plans but I have advised her to not make any decisions in the heat of the moment.

I can answer further questions along the line but what would be your advice?

Should she stay or should she go? The brother wants her to stay?

Thank you and God bless.

Is This How You Counsel your church member

PastorMIsBack:


She should run for her life. Better a broken relationship than divorce down the line.

Lakeview:
After 2years she wanna quit? where's the place of forgiveness. Anyway she might be hurt but she needs to seek God Truly.

What do you mean by place of forgiveness?

Seek God for what God obviously showed her is wrong to deal with? If she had been married to that man, God says she would have been in her right to outright divorce him. So what are you dragging God into this for?

Deborah98:
Nothing is impossible with prayers sir. Who knows God might touch him this time around and for real good.

Sure, Nothing is impossible with God but God is God is Wisdom, remember, not foolishness and the same God commands that those who will follow Him stop thinking selfishly and instead start thinking of the Kingdom of God.

If this woman had been married to this man, the very same God allows her to outrightly divorce the man for this very same act, so urging her to remain in this filthy situation, even when wisdom screams that she bail is not of God at all.

I mean , don't get me wrong, there are plenty who have done it and eventually learned to live life with all the scars and pains of it, but was it all for God? NO. It was for self and the end result remained selfish aka not of God.

They both heard from God.
I don't doubt that.

But what is God presently saying?

Tell her to go and pray and relate it to the Lord to hear what He is present judgement concerning the matter.

For now, let there be a hold.

Let the God that they heard, also give His judgements.
Let her hear his Judgements.