The belief that, when it's comes to sex and attraction, the male brain is like a single toggle light switch(on/off) whereas the female brain is like irons - you plug them in and let them warm up.... That a wrong belief.

Ok, Let’s talk about men first. The idea that men are like switches is based on the fact that when you see an attractive woman, you are immediately attracted to her(and want to sleep with her immediately if given the chance)...But the truth is, this only applies if you are a guy who is young, sexually inexperience, Hot and maybe jobless...

The reality is, if you develope a high self-esteem and get more romantically and sexually experience with women, your brain won't always work like switches; you'd no longer be impressed with just good looks and physical appearance anymore....And that's because, due to experience, you've met quite a number of ladies with good looks but unfortunately are higly deceitful, unfaithful, gold diggers, drama queens, spiritually possessed, mannerless, dirty, STD infected or any other negative traits.

Infact, If you are guy whose brain works like switches and you are into the habit of chasing random girls up and down, offline and online, then all it takes is to actually encounter at least two or three ladies with any of the above mentioned negative traits; and I can assure you that your brain will stop working like switch and you'll naturally become more careful and selective with dealing with the female gender.

Smart Guys with very high self-esteem are only looking for quality Ladies who has a lot of amazing things to offer apart from just good looks and sex.

But the other lonely, naive and Hot guys are always looking for any pussy to enter so they could feel good about themselves.

So I guess it's more correct to say that young, low inexperience, Hot and low value guys are like switches; While Real men with high self-esteem are more like iron that needs to warm up, they always smartly assess a lady before getting too involved with her.


*Clears throat*


Ok, now let's talk about the females and the misconception that women are like iron that needs to gradually warm up

The belief is that women are like iron that have to gradually warm up is based on the observation that when a lady meets a man, she's not immediately attracted to him, her interest in him only gradually grows the more she get to know him better...But in actuality, this wrong belief that's propagated by both women (and maybe naive men).


If you are very handsome or attractive guy, then I guess you're already so used to women a basically throwing themselves at you and the ladies don't even really know you. That's women acting like on/off switches right there.

The truth is, women are like toggle switches when they sights a very physically appealing and handsome guy. If you are guy reading this and this sounds to good to be true, then chances are that you are not handsome or physically appealing.

Infact you don't have to be handsome to experience female brain acting like switches....If you are a guy reading this, handsome or not, chances are that you've met one female(at least one) who just saw and like you for no reason; that's her brain acting like switches right there.

Generally, the reason why it looks like women are like iron that's need to be plugged and gradually warm up is that women are very good at hiding their attraction for a man. Most times, when a woman sees you and is instantly attracted to you, she'd often hide her attraction for and fake disinterest because she doesn't want look cheap and be called a LovePeddler or slut. It's not their fault, many men are immature and higly judgmental.

Ok, let's stop here...

Cool

Pukkalolo:
The belief that, when it's comes to sex and attraction, the male brain is like a single toggle light switch(on/off) whereas the female brain is like irons - you plug them in and let them warm up.... That a wrong belief.

Ok, Let’s talk about men first. The idea that men are like switches is based on the fact that when you see an attractive woman, you are immediately attracted to her(and want to sleep with her immediately if given the chance)...But the truth is, this only applies if you are a guy who is young, sexually inexperience, Hot and maybe jobless...

The reality is, if you develope a high self-esteem and get more romantically and sexually experience with women, your brain won't always work like switches; you'd no longer be impressed with just good looks and physical appearance anymore....And that's because, due to experience, you've met quite a number of ladies with good looks but unfortunately are higly deceitful, unfaithful, gold diggers, drama queens, spiritually possessed, mannerless, dirty, STD infected or any other negative traits.

That's why I stated several times that mental discipline where sexual desire are concerned is itself a sign of maturity.

Any guy most especially 28yrs upward who chases every women for sex, is gradually becoming he-goat.

The journey of sleeping with his relative and end it with his own biological daughters just started.
A word is enough for a wise!

kendrickking:
Experience from my past got me acting like I truly don't need to be in a relationship right now.
Like for the first time in my life I just can't commit to any Lady. It making me turn women down alot. Buh sometimes my brain be like "yo! U need a companion, or else ur ganna turn to a workaholic and be less romantic with women"

Just need some advice

Seek professional counseling for this abeg!

Yeah you re absolutely right about the ladies hiding feelings cause majority of naija guys look down on ladies that expressed themselves openly,they see them as cheap and that has made most guys lost the ideal partner they need. Those ladies that have feelings but cant expressed it out cause they dont want to be seen as cheap slut or whatever. I tell you bro,they understand you better than any other girl out there.

Fiscus105:
Any guy most especially upward who chases every women for sex, is gradually becoming he-goat.

The journey of sleeping with his relative and end it with his own biological daughters just started.
A word is enough for a wise!

Hmmmmmm


Do you mind telling me bout your experience

Emmawhite91:
Yeah you re absolutely right about the ladies hiding feelings cause majority of naija guys look down on ladies that expressed themselves openly,they see them as cheap and that has made most guys lost the ideal partner they need. Those ladies that have feelings but cant expressed it out cause they dont want to be seen as cheap slut or whatever. I tell you bro,they understand you better than any other girl out there.

Why not preserving our culture, it's uncultured for us in africa,most especially yoruba to ask a guy out, we shouldn't follow follow all western culture all in the name of modernisation. All guy that girl like she can express her feelings through green light or through her pastor or elderly one in case of marriage.

To me , going to ask man out directly is cheap ooo

kendrickking:
Experience from my past got me acting like I truly don't need to be in a relationship right now.
Like for the first time in my life I just can't commit to any Lady. It making me turn women down alot. Buh sometimes my brain be like "yo! U need a companion, or else ur ganna turn to a workaholic and be less romantic with women"

Just need some advice

So what experience from past makes you don't wanna go into any relationship right now

Fiscus105:


Why not preserving our culture, it's uncultured for us in africa,most especially yoruba to ask a guy out, we shouldn't follow follow all western culture all in the name of modernisation. All guy that girl like she can express her feelings through green light or through her pastor or elderly one in case of marriage.

To me , going to ask man out directly is cheap ooo

It always advisable for a lady not to first express her feeling for a guy because most guys can't even handle it.

It's a waste of time chasing female...my time is better spent doing other important things.

Let's me buy a land here in case this gets to front page

Fiscus105:


Why not preserving our culture, it's uncultured for us in africa,most especially yoruba to ask a guy out, we shouldn't follow follow all western culture all in the name of modernisation. All guy that girl like she can express her feelings through green light or through her pastor or elderly one in case of marriage.

To me , going to ask man out directly is cheap ooo

and you think that its all guys that understand green light. And in the aspect of the elderly and pastors 95% will take you as someone that is possesed with the spirit of seduction.

Fiscus105:
Why not preserving our culture, it's uncultured for us in africa,most especially yoruba to ask a guy out, we shouldn't follow follow all western culture all in the name of modernisation. All guy that girl like she can express her feelings through green light or through her pastor or elderly one in case of marriage.

To me , going to ask man out directly is cheap ooo

You feel that way because you have been conditioned to reasoning as such.

Try to understand how what the other poster said has absolutely nothing to do with western culture which you seem afraid of.

Emmawhite91:
Yeah you re absolutely right about the ladies hiding feelings cause majority of naija guys look down on ladies that expressed themselves openly,they see them as cheap and that has made most guys lost the ideal partner they need.

Those ladies that have feelings but cant expressed it out cause they dont want to be seen as cheap slut or whatever. I tell you bro,they understand you better than any other girl out there.

Those emotions these women have aren't western... they are of nature itself. And tagging them slots when they express these feelings while it is ok for men to express openly their own feelings is nothing but the same old misogynistic culture that is Nigeria. Are you seriously here to argue that we continue that wickedness even in the year 2022?

Pukkalolo:
It always advisable for a lady not to first express her feeling for a guy because most guys can't even handle it.

Can't handle it or have been trained to look down on such expressions of emotions from the female aspect of society?

Kobojunkie:
Can't handle it or have been trained to look down on such expressions of emotions from the female aspect of society?

That's exactly my point bro.

Kobojunkie:
You feel that way because you have been conditioned to reasoning as such.

Try to understand how what the other poster said has absolutely nothing to do with western culture which you seem afraid of.
Those emotions these women have aren't western... they are of nature itself. And tagging them slots when they express these feelings while it is ok for men to express openly their own feelings is nothing but the same old misogynistic culture that is Nigeria. Are you seriously here to argue that we continue that wickedness even in the year 2022?

Must I "kow tow" what other posters saying or belief? Hope u also read it from other posters that, guys often take such girls for cheap?

Did u ever reason why guys taking such ladies for slut?

They are taking her for cheap because that was and is' our culture. U shouldn't folo folo oyinbo culture jare.

youcanmakeit:
Let's me buy a land here in case this gets to front page

Lols. U too correct, brotherly.

Emmawhite91:
and you think that its all guys that understand green light. And in the aspect of the elderly and pastors 95% will take you as someone that is possesed with the spirit of seduction.

Must ladies date all guys they have feelings for?

Did u always date? Even ask all ur girls u have crush for out?

If she gives greenlight and such guy can't decode ,its enough of red flag that she is crushing on immature or guy that won't return the love she has for him, hence he would take her for cheap.

Fiscus105:
1.Must I "kow tow" what other posters saying or belief? Hope u also read it from other posters that, guys often take such girls for cheap?

2. Did u ever reason why guys taking such ladies for slut?

3. They are taking her for cheap because that was and is our culture. U shouldn't folo folo oyinbo culture jare

1. You outright claimed misogyny as your cultural heritage suggesting that doing away with common practice meant adopting western culture. I wanted to understand why anyone would refuse wisdom simply on grounds that it resembles the way of the western people.

2. Oh, everyone knows exactly why Nigerian men think that way ___ it is no secret at all ___ and it has to be with a culture of insecurity which many find hard to let go of particularly since they are bred to believe themselves gods over women.

3. There is no doubt that it is your culture. However, what I again ask is why abandoning the foolishness of our cultural ways ___ women have the same exact feelings and urge men have in this case, but a wicked culture refuses them the same freedom to express those exact same feelings like it does men ___ is western to you?

Culture has never been written in stone for any people. So, I am again trying to have you explain why you equate abandoning a meaningless culture such as this one to adopting western culture. .

Fiscus105:
1. Must ladies date all guys they have feelings for?

Did u always date? Even ask all ur girls u have crush for out?

2. If she give greenlight and such guy can't decode ,its enough of red flag that she is crushing on immature or guy that won't return the love she has for him, hence he would take her for cheap.

1. Must a guy date all women he has feelings for?

2. So if a guy gives greenlight and such a girl can't decode. It's also enough red flag that he is crushing on immature or girl that won't return the love he has for her, hence she would take him for cheap?

Does the above make sense to you? I ask because neither did your assertion make sense to me.

Kobojunkie:
1. Must a guy date all women he has feelings for?

2. So if a guy gives greenlight and such a girl can't decode. It's also enough red flag that he is crushing on immature or girl that won't return the love he has for her, hence she would take him for cheap?

Does the above make sense to you? I ask because neither did your assertion make sense to me.

Go back and read ur past comment on my post
why won't u confuse?

Fiscus105:
Go back and read ur past comment on my post
why won't u confuse?

Reread my response to you cause the one who is confused here is clearly you.
This is the post I responded to...

Fiscus105:
....2. If she give greenlight and such guy can't decode ,its enough of red flag that she is crushing on immature or guy that won't return the love she has for him, hence he would take her for cheap.

1. Must a guy date all women he has feelings for?

2. So if a guy gives greenlight and such a girl can't decode. It's also enough red flag that he is crushing on immature or girl that won't return the love he has for her, hence she would take him for cheap?

Does the above make sense to you? I ask because neither did your assertion make sense to me.

Kobojunkie:
Reread my response to you cause the one who is confused here is clearly you.
This is the post I responded to...

1. Must a guy date all women he has feelings for?

2. So if a guy gives greenlight and such a girl can't decode. It's also enough red flag that he is crushing on immature or girl that won't return the love he has for her, hence she would take him for cheap?

Does the above make sense to you? I ask because neither did your assertion make sense to me.

Leave it for those who can reason properly and logically OK.

Fiscus105:
Leave it for those who can reason properly and logically OK.

There is nothing proper or logical about what you spewed there I am afraid.

Kendrickking for talk o..