I need to ask you this question because I noticed that you are observant like me. I have noticed too many people are seeking validation from Nairaland and its chatters. Why is that?

Do you think it an alarming result of low self esteem or the needs to be validated from others?

Hmm.

LOL!!!!! CHIMA!!!! All this for a thread

Well, I believe many people are seeking validation from Nairaland and its chatters [size=1pt](especially those whom posted their pictures and ask people to judge their pictures)[/size] its because perhaps they could have a low self esteem or they wanted attention or just to have fun. But some people had a bet with their friends in reality so they wanted to ask NL's and see who wins the bet.

Chima, wetin happen?

Just observing and seeing the rise of validation seekers that all.

Hmm.

Low self-esteem? Me don't tink so. 4 sum1 2 upload a pix of him/herself on a public forum lyk diz (knwin hw foul-mouthed, profile-scouters can be) goes much 2 tel u d confident dat person has in him/herself. NB: Sum pple do not upload their pix or upload pix of celebs or other pple, bcoz they're scared of wat NLanders wil say, afta seein their physical appearance in REAL LYF. ~~nw, datz wat i call, LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

Mrs.Chima:

Just observing and seeing the rise of validation seekers that all.

Hmm.

ANyone in particular you always see doing it?

James-dman:

Low self-esteem? Me don't tink so. 4 sum1 2 upload a pix of him/herself on a public forum lyk diz (knwin hw foul-mouthed, profile-scouters can be) goes much 2 tel u d confident dat person has in him/herself. NB: Sum pple do not upload their pix or upload pix of celebs or other pple, bcoz they're scared of wat NLanders wil say, afta seein their physical appearance in REAL LYF. ~~nw, datz wat i call, LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

I dont mean loading the picture in your profile I mean like creating a thread and asking people question like, Please view my picture? Am I handsome enough? That kinda question

~~ okay.

BTW, is that you in your profile picture?

Yeah. Datz mii. Y askin? Watz on ur mind?

Ms. Potato:

ANyone in particular you always see doing it?


I dont mean loading the picture in your profile I[b] mean like creating a thread and asking people question like, Please view my picture? Am I handsome enough[/b]? That kinda question

There you go! That's one of the "actions" and I will share more as time progresses. I swear we twins!

James-dman:

Yeah. Datz mii. Y askin? Watz on your mind?

Why do you guys always wear glasses for picture?

Mrs.Chima:

There you go! That's one of the "actions" and I will share more as time progresses. I swear we twins!

Awww. . . Chima However I wish to inherit one of your traits which is u speak your mind no matter what and dont care what other people think. I am weak in that area

Ms. Potato:

Why do you guys always wear glasses for picture?


Awww. . . Chima However I wish to inherit one of your traits which is u speak your mind no matter what and dont care what other people think. I am weak in that area

its nt jst 4 pics, we d young n trendy wear glasses 2 complement our dressin, n it's nt jst the 'guys'. The ladies 2, especially d young n sexy wear glasses 2. Besides makin u luk cool, it also shades ur eyes frm d African tropical sun!

Ms. Potato:

Why do you guys always wear glasses for picture?


Awww. . . Chima However I wish to inherit one of your traits which is u speak your mind no matter what and dont care what other people think. I am weak in that area

You owe me some thongs! I laughed so hard that I leaked a bit. Well, you are too nice to be a salt talker. I am fearless and can take it raw so It easier for me.

What's funny that many of the men actually thinks that I am a mad black woman which they have no idea that MOST OF THE TIME I am laughing my arse off at them LITERALLY!

I don't take thing serious maybe that why I can digest insults and keep it moving. Now the sunglasses thing, I could never understand why they would wear it in the dark!

Its called MOON SHADES!

Tehehehehehe

James-dman:

its nt jst 4 pics, we d young n trendy wear glasses 2 complement our dressin, n it's nt jst the 'guys'. The ladies 2, especially d young n sexy wear glasses 2. Besides makin u luk cool, it also shades your eyes frm d African tropical sun!

So because I dont wear shades, im considered as old?

I mean like literally on NL, majority of the guys like to wear sun glasses and hats and cover up half of their faces. And most of them even went to a point of bashing up the ladies here calling them fat and ugly but how about them? They are covering half of their faces God knows how they actually look like without disguising like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

Abeg now. Do you have a picture without your shades at least?

Mrs.Chima:

You owe me some thongs! I laughed so hard that I leaked a bit. Well, you are too nice to be a salt talker. I am fearless and can take it raw so It easier for me.

What's funny that many of the men actually thinks that I am a mad black woman which they have no idea that MOST OF THE TIME I am laughing my arse off at them LITERALLY!

I don't take thing serious maybe that why I can digest insults and keep it moving. Now the sunglasses thing, I could never understand why they would wear it in the dark!

Chima! Thongs abi? LOL! Speaking about thongs, I tried wearing a thong yesterday but I got irritated because of the veggie feeling Do u wear thongs? If u do, how did u get use to it?

I wish I can be a salt talker. Even in real life, when if its not my fault, I would take it as my fault because I dont really like fights. On Nairaland at times I tried to be rebellious to make up for my scared of causing trouble time in reality but it never works most of the time Chima, are u a fighter too in reality? What makes u a tough woman?

Men usually would think that a woman like u is a mad woman because they feel intimidated by your courage, wisdom and confidence. Thats just how I see it. When they know they cannot answer you back, they than come to a conclusion that you are mad. We all know how does Men and Ego come along well together.

Lord_Reed:

Its called MOON SHADES!

I thought moon shades is for the 80's?

@Ms. Potato, yeah, i've got pics nt jst a pic, without my shades n i could upload dem on diz thread ~~bt won't dat be exactly wat Mrs. Chima is rantin against on diz thread abt people tryin 2 get noticed by uploadin their pics on threads? ~~ Besides, i don't tink my face was obscured in dat pics, d shades were meant not 2 conceal my face, bt 2 complement d black n red combinations.

How about changing your profile picture than?

Cause what Mrs Chima and I were referring to are people whom created a thread and not people uploading their pics in profiles. They are two seperate things completely.

See example:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-527010.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-345561.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-369420.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-686055.0.html

And so on so forth!

~~Okay. Bt, i've got more dan 1 pix 2 upload n i'm nt comfortable wif frequently changing my profile pix. So, maybe i should upload on ur thread 'Upendo i will like 2 meet u', n take it down when d pix have served their purpose, since u've done sumtin similar by uploadin ur pix on the thread.

Ms. Potato:


Chima! Thongs abi? LOL! Speaking about thongs, I tried wearing a thong yesterday but I got irritated because of the veggie feeling Do u wear thongs? If u do, how did u get use to it?

I wish I can be a salt talker. Even in real life, when if its not my fault, I would take it as my fault because I dont really like fights. On Nairaland at times I tried to be rebellious to make up for my scared of causing trouble time in reality but it never works most of the time Chima, are u a fighter too in reality? What makes u a tough woman?

Men usually would think that a woman like u is a mad woman because they feel intimidated by your courage, wisdom and confidence. Thats just how I see it. When they know they cannot answer you back, they than come to a conclusion that you are mad. We all know how does Men and Ego come along well together.


I thought moon shades is for the 80's?

I only wear thongs when I am trying to be sexy for my baby. Thongs ain't for women with arse that for sure so I prefers boy cut shorts which is sexier to me.

Do not get me wrong I do not go out fighting people in real life but I am very outspoken and will tell you exactly how it is which why I am almost escorted out of people homes because I may say something that will rub somebody off the wrong way not intentionally but hell if it quack like a duck then it is a duck in my opinion.

I may be harsh at times but when people do not want to hear the truth then it angers them that somebody is not sugar coating the truth if you get my gist. I have came a looooooong way though because I would just say the first thing in my mind but now I am letting it marinate for a minute before opening my mouth or typing.

I was raised in a house of HONEST ABES. We believe in keeping it 100% and taking the brunt as well.

Ms. Potato:

How about changing your profile picture than?

Cause what Mrs Chima and I were referring to are people whom created a thread and not people uploading their pics in profiles. They are two seperate things completely.

See example:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-527010.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-345561.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-369420.0.html
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-686055.0.html

And so on so forth!

Not only that Ms. Potato suga too many people are over-modulating themselves as if they are commodities. I am like goodness! What kills me that people advertising without photos.

I do not have a picture of myself nor I am advertising myself that the correct way to do it however I can't say that for the advertisers. This would be the VERY last site that I would even attempt to advertise ANYTHING included my dead dog.

No offense to Dollar Bill whatever that boy's dog name.

James-dman:

~~Okay. Bt, i've got more dan 1 pix 2 upload n i'm nt comfortable wif frequently changing my profile pix. So, maybe i should upload on your thread 'Upendo i will like 2 meet u', n take it down when d pix have served their purpose, since u've done sumtin similar by uploadin your pix on the thread.

Na waa for u oo. I only want to see one picture of u with no shades and there you are posting 3 pictures. Lol! But its all good. thanks my dear. I like your 2nd picture best. You should make that as your profile picture  

Mrs.Chima:

I only wear thongs when I am trying to be sexy for my baby.  Thongs ain't for women with arse that for sure so I prefers boy cut shorts which is sexier to me.  

Do not get me wrong I do not go out fighting people in real life but I am very outspoken and will tell you exactly how it is which why I am almost escorted out of people homes because I may say something that will rub somebody off the wrong way not intentionally but hell if it quack like a duck then it is a duck in my opinion.  

I may be harsh at times but when people do not want to hear the truth then it angers them that somebody is not sugar coating the truth if you get my gist.  I have came a looooooong way though because I would just say the first thing in my mind but now I am letting it marinate for a minute before opening my mouth or typing.  

I was raised in a house of HONEST ABES.  We believe in keeping it 100% and taking the brunt as well.  

Escorted out from people's House? LMAO!!!!! Seriously Chima!!! U sumhow reminded me of my very best friend in College before. She was an African American girl and she speaks her mind without turning back. People hates her especially the ladies. She has big b005s and bun and alot of ladies are jelous of her.   But she is very very funny just like you too. Gosh! I miss her now   She makes alot of trouble but I just love it!  

Although we are the complete opposite but I just love her. You really reminded me of her. I think I wanna go call her now  

Chima, what do you think about Khloe Kardashian's personality?

Mrs.Chima:

Not only that Ms. Potato suga too many people are over-modulating themselves as if they are commodities. I am like goodness! What kills me that people advertising without photos.

I do not have a picture of myself nor I am advertising myself that the correct way to do it however I can't say that for the advertisers. This would be the VERY last site that I would even attempt to advertise ANYTHING included my dead dog.

No offense to Dollar Bill whatever that boy's dog name.

I agree but I have to admit with you on sumthin. I honestly loveeee posting my pictures on my profile. I use to not post it but I got tired when people here kept calling me a scammer so Im like WTH! Here my picture. Call me a scammer all u want but you will find out from my pictures that I aint one.

But also I loveeeeee pictures. Like I have 1000 + pictures on my FB and I have hundreds of photo albums of myself.

Mrs.Chima:

I only wear thongs when I am trying to be sexy for my baby. Thongs ain't for women with arse that for sure so I prefers boy cut shorts which is sexier to me.

Do not get me wrong I do not go out fighting people in real life but I am very outspoken and will tell you exactly how it is which why I am almost escorted out of people homes because I may say something that will rub somebody off the wrong way not intentionally but hell if it quack like a duck then it is a duck in my opinion.

I may be harsh at times but when people do not want to hear the truth then it angers them that somebody is not sugar coating the truth if you get my gist. I have came a looooooong way though because I would just say the first thing in my mind but now I am letting it marinate for a minute before opening my mouth or typing.

I was raised in a house of HONEST ABES. We believe in keeping it 100% and taking the brunt as well.

Mrs. Chima, i'm stil vry much in that business of makin u SOFTER. I don't want u 2 4get dat. Ok? *winks*.

Dear Lord ^^^

James-dman:

Mrs. Chima, i'm stil vry much in that business of makin u SOFTER. I don't want u 2 4get dat. Ok? *winks*.

The last guy that said that ended up on Shutter's Island. If you know the movie you know what I am talking about.

Ms. Potato:




Escorted out from people's House? LMAO!!!!! Seriously Chima!!! U sumhow reminded me of my very best friend in College before. She was an African American girl and she speaks her mind without turning back. People hates her especially the ladies. She has big b005s and bun and alot of ladies are jelous of her.   But she is very very funny just like you too. Gosh! I miss her now   She makes alot of trouble but I just love it!  

Although we are the complete opposite but I just love her. You really reminded me of her. I think I wanna go call her now  

Chima, what do you think about Khloe Kardashian's personality?


I agree but I have to admit with you on sumthin. I honestly loveeee posting my pictures on my profile. I use to not post it but I got tired when people here kept calling me a scammer so Im like WTH! Here my picture. Call me a scammer all u want but you will find out from my pictures that I aint one.

But also I loveeeeee pictures. Like I have 1000 + pictures on my FB and I have hundreds of photo albums of myself.

Oh no! Do not get me wrong you can post pictures on your profile and if people just so happens to view your profile that's fine but to post pictures AND create a billboard? That's a big much don't you think?

Posting pictures and creating billboard isn't the only problem there are other ways people are advertising which I think it excessively retarded. That's just me.

Mrs.Chima:

The last guy that said that ended up on Shutter's Island. If you know the movie you know what I am talking about.

Yeah, i understand wat u mean. However, i'm not n will not get as psychologically paranoid as Teddy Daniels/Andrew Laeddis. I don't tink u can play dat mind game wif me~~LOL. U knw wat, i'm totally enthralled wif ur personality, bt honestly it will be much more appealing if u're a lil' SOFTER. N datz wat i've set off 2 do, to mk d iron-lady called Mrs. Chima, nt soft, bt a lil' softer, so dat she can become a BRONZE-LADY~~ More refined, lustrous, more endearin n less hard. LOL. E-LADY~~ More refined, lustrous, more endearin n less hard. LOL.

Mrs.Chima:

Oh no! Do not get me wrong you can post pictures on your profile and if people just so happens to view your profile that's fine but to post pictures AND create a billboard? That's a big much don't you think?

Posting pictures and creating billboard isn't the only problem there are other ways people are advertising which I think it excessively slow. That's just me.

I agree Chima. And some people would even go to the point of posting their picture and their friend's picture to ask people here who is more handsome / preety? LOL!n

James-dman:

Yeah, i understand wat u mean. However, i'm not n will not get as psychologically paranoid as Teddy Daniels/Andrew Laeddis. I don't tink u can play dat mind game wif me~~LOL. U knw wat, i'm totally enthralled wif your personality, bt honestly it will be much more appealing if u're a lil' SOFTER. N datz wat i've set off 2 do, to mk d iron-lady called Mrs. Chima, nt soft, bt a lil' softer, so dat she can become a BRONZE-LADY~~ More refined, lustrous, more endearin n less hard. LOL. E-LADY~~ More refined, lustrous, more endearin n less hard. LOL.

Strong women aren't considered "soft" to the men and that is understandable. Women are viewed as meek objects with no VOICE however men are viewed as masculine objects.

I do not judge men who are "soft" because I do not fall in that societal definition of what a man and a woman should be however I do believe a GROWN man shouldn't behavior as a TEENAGED boy.

My concern is the high level of laziness in men and wanting to boast about being the "King" which is oxymoronic to me however if a King wants to be crowned then he needs to work as King. I believe in tough love and know the brothers can do better than that.

~~Yeah, i got dat. I'm begining 2 see hw ur mind works.

How are you doing?hope every thing is blooming.

Mrs.Chima:

Strong women aren't considered "soft" to the men and that is understandable. Women are viewed as meek objects with no VOICE however men are viewed as masculine objects.

I do not judge men who are "soft" because I do not fall in that societal definition of what a man and a woman should be however I do believe a GROWN man shouldn't behavior as a TEENAGED boy.

My concern is the high level of laziness in men and wanting to boast about being the "King" which is oxymoronic to me however if a King wants to be crowned then he needs to work as King. I believe in tough love and know the brothers can do better than that.

Annoying really when men behaves like that. I know cause my brother is exactly like that. He is high power oriented but however refuse to work for it He thinks that because he is born as a male, he can get to be the leader without having to work for it. I hated that so much and never did I bother about him cause to me he is just a boy. he doesnt have a job and he still depends on my parents to support him and his wife. He is married and his wife is pregnant and they both are living under my parents roof and he still have the guts to use my father's credit card to buy branded stuffs for him and his wife. Every clothes, every shoes everything they own must be branded but none of them comes from their own hard earn sweat money cause both have never work in their lives. U tell me Chima, can this immature boy be a leader?

davera:

How are you doing?hope every thing is blooming.

If you are referring to me than Ill say Im doing good. If its others, than ignore my post

@Ms Potato, such a kid can't be a leader if he is not even going by plans at all.