Life is transient. He is gone.

You are not only having problems with your wife but also your father in-law. How then can your marital issues be resolved?
This one pass my mouth o!!

Life is complicated enough. Living in Nigeria makes it even worse.

If she refuses to align with your ideal pls drop her with her daddy and co parent

She cant opt to live with you and at the same time be living contrary to your ideals

It's very simple start from separation

If she continues making your life miserable proceed to stage 2 which is divorce and co-parenting

And have your peace

xukwaa:
I recently had issues with my wife and her dad has been threatening me ever since. I have not been in good terms with her dad since when we got married. My wife has always made it known to me that I will never have rest of mind when we have issues. She challenges me violently.
In times like this, I always feel worried and lose appetite. PLEASE HELP ME OUT FELLOW NAIRALANDERS!

what do you mean when you say your wife challenges you violently?

As for her father, what are some of the threats he has leveled against you?

Kobojunkie:
what do you mean when you say your wife challenges you violently? She shouts at meet and slaps me. Sometimes, she will intimidate me with a knife.

As for her father, what are some of the threats he has leveled against you?

That he will deal with me.

Kobojunkie:
what do you mean when you say your wife challenges you violently?

As for her father, what are some of the threats he has leveled against you?

What he does is to call my dad to warn me. My dad starts panicking.

xukwaa:
She shouts at meet and slaps me. Sometimes, she will intimidate me with a knife.

That he will deal with me.

OK, please start by filing a police report against your wife next time she threatens you in such a violent manner and copy the report and post it online where it is very visible for all to see and know of.

I would have said to move as far away from her but without first gathering evidence first, I don't know what may transpire next.

If possible, next time your wife attempts to assault you in similar manner, try to record her in the act, and post it where it is visible to your family including her father. You can open a private online viewing of the video to only family and friends to see and maybe get the right discussions happening as far as where you two want the marriage to go.

Make a video secretly of the threats and abuse and put it online, explaining what you go through. Take your time to accumulate this evidence very well. When you walk away they won’t be able to say pim.

Make the public know that if any harm comes to you, they are to blame and please if you can, sue the Nigerian military and the father who is using their resources to harass and threaten a citizen. That is if you have the mind and support of your firm.

baby124:
Make a video secretly of the threats and abuse and put it online, explaining what you go through. Take your time to accumulate this evidence very well. When you walk away they won’t be able to say pim.

I will post updates including videos here if things escalate.

xukwaa:
What he does is to call my dad to warn me. My dad starts panicking.

Why would your dad panic? Does he believe you to be in the wrong as far as your marriage is concerned?

Kobojunkie:
Why would your did panick? Does he believe you to be in the wrong as far as your marriage is concerned?

My dad is afraid of a military personnel

xukwaa:

I will post updates including videos here if things escalate.

Hopefully the mods help you push it to front page. Also send it to instablog and all internet popular news outlets, so you can japa from them with your life intact. Mad daughter and father.

xukwaa:
I am a Chartered Accountant currently working in Audit and Assurance unit of a medium sized firm that is next to the big 4. I have been married for 7 years now and currently have three children. My wife has been violent to me whenever we have issues at home and she reports me to her dad who is a Warrant Officer in the Military and will retire this year. I recently had issues with my wife and her dad has been threatening me ever since. I have not been in good terms with her dad since when we got married. My wife has always made it known to me that I will never have rest of mind when we have issues. She challenges me violently.
In times like this, I always feel worried and lose appetite. PLEASE HELP ME OUT FELLOW NAIRALANDERS!

your wife is using her dad against you. Talk to your wife to stop and your father in law as well. If it continues, just seek for separation. However, I know she would come for the children.

She learnt vawulence from her dad
Didnt u notice this before u married her??

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mmnnn things dey happen sha...
So the father of your wife is threatening you heheheheeee
Where is the mother of your wife in all this ?

This is why we tell men to look well before they tie the knot.
Men please look well, if you marry because of class, beauty, sex etc and put yourself in this kind of situation you will live in fear all your life.

Imagine a father in-law threatening the husband of his daughter, you'd realise that the family itself is hell...

xukwaa:


What he does is to call my dad to warn me. My dad starts panicking.

What kind of marriage is this that they are intimidating even your father? I think Kobojunkie has given you a great suggestion

Kobojunkie:
Why would your dad panic? Does he believe you to be in the wrong as far as your marriage is concerned?

You forget that individuals can use the Nigerian army and police as errand boys to deal with their “enemies”. All the need is some change or have a member of their family belong to the force

His father is afraid of military brutality.

cococandy:
You forget that individuals can use the Nigerian army and police as errand boys to deal with their “enemies”. All the need is some change or have a member of their family belong to the force

His father is afraid of military brutality.

Oh, I know they can but where was this fear and panic when they were dating is what I ask

Gather enough evidence and leave that toxic marriage.

Always playing the victim card with their one sided stories,I don’t always believe when a man put his stories here,they always lie to paint their partner as a demon.Oga What is that thing you always do that has made your wife violent?was she a violent woman before your marriage?

Iyaebe:
Always playing the victim card with their one sided stories,I don’t always believe when a man put his stories here,they always lie to paint their partner as a demon.Oga What is that thing you always do that has made your wife violent?was she a violent woman before your marriage?

Have you ever been in a sincere relationship with someone in the Nigerian military?

jeff1607:


Have you ever been in a sincere relationship with someone in the Nigerian military?

I have no business with military men,never.

Iyaebe:
I have no business with military men,never.

Well this one did and is regretting it.

Have empathy

jeff1607:

Well this one did and is regretting it.

Have empathy

Forget am. Empathy and Nigerians is a looooong thing.
Only distrust and temper blooms freely here.

Iyaebe:
Always playing the victim card with their one sided stories,I don’t always believe when a man put his stories here,they always lie to paint their partner as a demon.Oga What is that thing you always do that has made your wife violent?was she a violent woman before your marriage?

Walahi I lurf u fr dis comment.

xukwaa:
I am a Chartered Accountant currently working in Audit and Assurance unit of a medium sized firm that is next to the big 4. I have been married for 7 years now and currently have three children. My wife has been violent to me whenever we have issues at home and she reports me to her dad who is a Warrant Officer in the Military and will retire this year. I recently had issues with my wife and her dad has been threatening me ever since. I have not been in good terms with her dad since when we got married. My wife has always made it known to me that I will never have rest of mind when we have issues. She challenges me violently.
In times like this, I always feel worried and lose appetite. PLEASE HELP ME OUT FELLOW NAIRALANDERS!

This is nonsense
Who does that,
Just be the dad and husband you have always been

Let her and her father do their worst

If they try anything funny, leave the marriage for her dad to marry her

By the time they don't see you the whole family will look for you

That means u are going to marry her by force by fire.


That woman or wife no get sense...u can't threaten my dad or me and u won't lose everything.

Well,na u like trouble...since her father na govt I would have shown her that he is nothing but a fool.

How u too go marry soldier pikin. .

I am sure the love dey shack u then,shey?

Pray make them no kill u,70 years old man. Them never leave u.

xukwaa:
I am a Chartered Accountant currently working in Audit and Assurance unit of a medium sized firm that is next to the big 4. I have been married for 7 years now and currently have three children. My wife has been violent to me whenever we have issues at home and she reports me to her dad who is a Warrant Officer in the Military and will retire this year. I recently had issues with my wife and her dad has been threatening me ever since. I have not been in good terms with her dad since when we got married. My wife has always made it known to me that I will never have rest of mind when we have issues. She challenges me violently.
In times like this, I always feel worried and lose appetite. PLEASE HELP ME OUT FELLOW NAIRALANDERS!

Tell your mother. She will treat the useless Warrant Officer's fuckup. Just tell your mother, you will be surprised at what she can do. DO not die in silence.